results of my first date!!!
Replies
-
Is it just me or is two weeks too soon for the bf/gf terminology?im actually okay with it... I just wanna know where we stand even though ive like known him for like 2 weeks
I've been dating this guy for two months and I still resist being called his girlfriend.
Good luck with everything!0 -
Is it just me or is two weeks too soon for the bf/gf terminology?
I've been dating this guy for two months and I still resist being called his girlfriend.
Good luck with everything!
It's not just you... but as we discovered earlier this week, I'm way too cautious for most of the folks on this board.
I wouldn't feel comfortable with this situation.
But if it were me, I'd follow Helovesme's suggestion of asking him what his parents think you are to him. Maybe throwing in some joke about it only being 2 weeks (wish I were witty so I could give you one).0 -
Things seem to be a lot different in America, but here it would be a forgone conclusion that you're his g/f if you're meeting his parents.
But in any case, it all seems to be going really well. Him staying over and inviting you to his parents seems like a g/f to me........ :bigsmile:
Sorry, I can't be of help :flowerforyou:0 -
Yeah pretty sure you are his girlfriend if you are going to meet the parents
It's pretty soon to meet the olds I would be happy to meet them I guess but I wouldn't want to stay there. I would wait and see how he introduces you to the parents, that will give a tell tale sign!0 -
Is it just me or is two weeks too soon for the bf/gf terminology?
I've been dating this guy for two months and I still resist being called his girlfriend.
Good luck with everything!
It's not just you... but as we discovered earlier this week, I'm way too cautious for most of the folks on this board.
I wouldn't feel comfortable with this situation.
I wouldn't be comfortable with it at all, meeting the family or being called his girlfriend after 2 weeks. Different strokes for different folks I guess.0 -
Three simple words "Talk to him".
Not being snarky to you but this has moved (assuming with your consent) to an intimate relationship.
You owe it to him and yourself to get it clear with both parties where you stand and what you are comfortable with.0 -
Hahahah maybe I will stalk out the mall tomorrow and actually look cute. There was a cute guy at B&N last time I went
I have a friend who does this... at least once a day she goes soemwhere (mall, bookstore, etc) just to walk around, be cute, and be seen. I think she got the idea from one of those "Rules" books. She certainly gets a lot of dates. Maybe she was on to something after all.
To OP: so happy for you!
Totally doing this! haha0 -
If things are going well don't make it all awkward by bringing up the bf/gf thing after only 2 weeks. Sheesh!
Just have fun together, you don't need to be putting labels on anything yet, it's way too soon anyway. Honestly, if a girl did this to me it would be a HUGE turn off.0 -
Things seem to be a lot different in America, but here it would be a forgone conclusion that you're his g/f if you're meeting his parents.
It used to be a forgone conclusion that you were his g/f if you slept together. Unfortunately, many women haven't got the memo that to the typical red-blooded American male this is no longer true.0 -
I'd ask...
This is what makes me weary about seriously dating somebody and why I need to take my time and talk before these types of situations arise such as sleeping together and especially meeting friends/ family.
I'm not blasting the OP at all, but now you sound confused which is no fun, I know.
Since you slept with him, and he's still going to see you after to meet parents then I would assume he's into you so you should feel comfortable enough to ask him. I know it's scary but for your peace of mind, it's only fair.0 -
Things seem to be a lot different in America, but here it would be a forgone conclusion that you're his g/f if you're meeting his parents.
It used to be a forgone conclusion that you were his g/f if you slept together. Unfortunately, many women haven't got the memo that to the typical red-blooded American male this is no longer true.
Same here Janie. Having sex now is a bit like having a cup of tea!! :laugh: But you wouldnt introduce a ONS or your FWB or even someone you're just seeing/dating, to your parents, that would be your partner. Or just a friend :flowerforyou:0 -
I'd ask...
This is what makes me weary about seriously dating somebody and why I need to take my time and talk before these types of situations arise such as sleeping together and especially meeting friends/ family.
I'm not blasting the OP at all, but now you sound confused which is no fun, I know.
Since you slept with him, and he's still going to see you after to meet parents then I would assume he's into you so you should feel comfortable enough to ask him. I know it's scary but for your peace of mind, it's only fair.
See, I dont really get why being a g/f is scary?? I think this is where we differ too, we do a lot less 'dating' and a lot more 'relationship'. If you like someone, you just naturally progress into a relationship. I can't even remember a time I formally discussed it. It just 'happens' and it happens pretty quick. That's not to say that people dont have FWB's or casual sex or double/treble date. But generally, if you meet someone and you both like each other, and you both want a relationship, then you have one.
America seems to have more of a protocol?0 -
Things seem to be a lot different in America, but here it would be a forgone conclusion that you're his g/f if you're meeting his parents.
It used to be a forgone conclusion that you were his g/f if you slept together. Unfortunately, many women haven't got the memo that to the typical red-blooded American male this is no longer true.
In reading the thread I would say it is not just men,the thing most of the ladies here were looking at was meeting his family as being the deciding factor.0 -
Things seem to be a lot different in America, but here it would be a forgone conclusion that you're his g/f if you're meeting his parents.
It used to be a forgone conclusion that you were his g/f if you slept together. Unfortunately, many women haven't got the memo that to the typical red-blooded American male this is no longer true.
Same here Janie. Having sex now is a bit like having a cup of tea!! :laugh: But you wouldnt introduce a ONS or your FWB or even someone you're just seeing/dating, to your parents, that would be your partner. Or just a friend :flowerforyou:
It's way better than tea.0 -
I'd ask...
This is what makes me weary about seriously dating somebody and why I need to take my time and talk before these types of situations arise such as sleeping together and especially meeting friends/ family.
I'm not blasting the OP at all, but now you sound confused which is no fun, I know.
Since you slept with him, and he's still going to see you after to meet parents then I would assume he's into you so you should feel comfortable enough to ask him. I know it's scary but for your peace of mind, it's only fair.
See, I dont really get why being a g/f is scary?? I think this is where we differ too, we do a lot less 'dating' and a lot more 'relationship'. If you like someone, you just naturally progress into a relationship. I can't even remember a time I formally discussed it. It just 'happens' and it happens pretty quick. That's not to say that people dont have FWB's or casual sex or double/treble date. But generally, if you meet someone and you both like each other, and you both want a relationship, then you have one.
America seems to have more of a protocol?
If there's a protocol someone send the manual cause I seem to have lost my copy
It was always a very natural thing for me too, and never that big of a deal. My last BF came home to meet my family for Thanksgiving, three weeks into "dating". Then again, if I know I'm not super into a guy I would feel strange meeting his folks. 0 -
so after all of this I'm not staying over his parents house afterall because where we are going on saturday is closer to my apartment than his parents' house afterall. Though I still wanna know where we stand because even though we enjoy each other's company we dont have much to say to each other but I think its because we are both shy people at first until you get to know them.0
-
so after all of this I'm not staying over his parents house afterall because where we are going on saturday is closer to my apartment than his parents' house afterall. Though I still wanna know where we stand because even though we enjoy each other's company we dont have much to say to each other but I think its because we are both shy people at first until you get to know them.
So you're going to ask??? :bigsmile:0 -
though we enjoy each other's company we dont have much to say to each other but I think its because we are both shy people at first until you get to know them.
What are you expecting him to say? I'm still kinda thinking it's a little too soon to talk about where you stand. Especially if you don't have much to say yet. You could always keep getting to know him and when that shyness wears off you'll be able to see if you really are compatible.0 -
though we enjoy each other's company we dont have much to say to each other but I think its because we are both shy people at first until you get to know them.
What are you expecting him to say? I'm still kinda thinking it's a little too soon to talk about where you stand. Especially if you don't have much to say yet. You could always keep getting to know him and when that shyness wears off you'll be able to see if you really are compatible.
That's true...
Do you think it's shyness or that ya'll don't have much in common? After the excitement of 1st dates wears off, then it's your same interests that keeps you going.0 -
I just wanted to say good luck with meeting the parents.0
-
so after all of this I'm not staying over his parents house afterall because where we are going on saturday is closer to my apartment than his parents' house afterall. Though I still wanna know where we stand because even though we enjoy each other's company we dont have much to say to each other but I think its because we are both shy people at first until you get to know them.
I definitely wouldn't ask just yet. The way I would do it is to casually ask him if he's been seeing anyone else...don't make a big deal out of it, don't ask it in a pressure-filled way. Just casually throw it out there. Then you'll be closer to having an answer. If he said no, and didn't elaborate (meaning he didn't say "no, you're my girlfriend, I wouldn't go out with anyone else"), I'd wait a bit longer and then bring it up again. If he says yes, that doesn't mean you write him off, just keep things where they are for now. Then, if in a few weeks you're still going out, I'd bring it up again.
Two weeks is way too soon.0 -
so he came over last night and stayed the night and we've done everything but "sleep together" dont know why he hasnt initated it nor how i would ask to...today's hike was pretty good forgot my HRM
And I gusted up the courage and I asked him and he doesnt know what we are either...he just knows we are more than just friends but from there doesnt know what else...he did say that he wants to take it one day at a time...he said we could hang out on wednesday but since I asked him where we stand and whatnot I just dont know. Plus we are getting bored of cooking dinner, hanging out and watching movies together. 0 -
If you're getting bored already, that's not a good sign. :frown:0
-
so he came over last night and stayed the night and we've done everything but "sleep together" dont know why he hasnt initated it nor how i would ask to...today's hike was pretty good forgot my HRM And I gusted up the courage and I asked him and he doesnt know what we are either...he just knows we are more than just friends but from there doesnt know what else...he did say that he wants to take it one day at a time...he said we could hang out on wednesday but since I asked him where we stand and whatnot I just dont know. Plus we are getting bored of cooking dinner, hanging out and watching movies together.
I hate to say it, but if you're going to be long-term with someone, cooking dinner, hanging out and watching movies together will probably be a big part of your relationship. It's not like when you date someone you go out every night and have fun together. Even think about it in terms of friendship - with my friends, we can sit for hours and talk and it's good. But people that I'm just acquaintances with, we don't know what to say. That is how I can tell a true friend.0 -
so he came over last night and stayed the night and we've done everything but "sleep together" dont know why he hasnt initated it nor how i would ask to...today's hike was pretty good forgot my HRM And I gusted up the courage and I asked him and he doesnt know what we are either...he just knows we are more than just friends but from there doesnt know what else...he did say that he wants to take it one day at a time...he said we could hang out on wednesday but since I asked him where we stand and whatnot I just dont know. Plus we are getting bored of cooking dinner, hanging out and watching movies together.
I hate to say it, but if you're going to be long-term with someone, cooking dinner, hanging out and watching movies together will probably be a big part of your relationship. It's not like when you date someone you go out every night and have fun together. Even think about it in terms of friendship - with my friends, we can sit for hours and talk and it's good. But people that I'm just acquaintances with, we don't know what to say. That is how I can tell a true friend.
let me rephrase it...we wanna try other stuff but dont know what else to do...we still wanna hang out with each other and he doesnt get out at work til like 530 so he's over my place at 6...so most places on the weekday has closed....as long as Im still having fun with him Im still gonna see him and as soon as its not fun anymore then ill stop0
