Leashes for Kids
Krizzle4Rizzle
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What do you think of something like this?
Cruel and inhumane
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Smart parenting?
Cruel and inhumane
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Smart parenting?
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I have always found it utterly degrading to the child. I never used them on my kids. I was always afraid that they would develop some mental complex because of it.0
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I don't think it's cruel or inhumane. I think they're kind of lame, but I also can think of a few kids that need one.
A parent must keep control of their children as much as possible. If they need a leash so be it. I'll take that over kids screaming and running all over the place.0 -
I am a single mom and I used something like that for my son when he was two or three and we were rushing through the busy airports during the holidays. That is the only time I ever used it I have never had so many dirty looks in my life. I just didn't want to lose my kid in the madness with my hands full of luggage and tickets, etc. But dayuuuum, you would have thought I was dragging him by his feet with the looks I got.0
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I could see using them for places like airports or places that are high traffic and busy, and you aren't able to put them in a stroller. (State fairs, sporting events, etc). I can't imagine doing it just to go to the market or out to eat.
I don't care for them personally, but I can see the advantage in some situations.0 -
I hate leashes on kids.
Learn to control your children.0 -
Which would people prefer: Their kids on a leash with the possibility of being 'degraded' or having a 'mental complex' or their kid to be kidnapped or lost or smooshed by a car?? I think 'degraded' or a complex is much better! I am an in home child care providor and also have 2 kids of my own. I have seen how different kids are. Some kids are just runners. No matter how much you teach them or train them, it's in their nature to run and laugh as you're chasing them. that is DANGEROUS in some situations. Especially in busy places like the air port or zoo or theme park. Some kids are too old and big to be strapped into strollers, but they still need to be confined because they might run off. I've see kids darting across parking lots of grocery stores while the mom is trying to carry another child and push the cart to the car. - they don't have the third arm required to catch the running child. Perfect place to use the 'leash'. And if I were to get any bad looks for using a leash on my child I would tell that person to BE MY GUEST and try to do it better and still keep the child safe. Safety is key!! when your child is attatched to you, no one will be grabbing them and they won't be running off or running in front of cars. I used a leash when I took my young children to the barn where we kept our horses... that way they could still explore a little, but I didn't have to worry about them getting under the foot of a horse! My goodness - people are much too judgemental. Safety people safety!!1
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I hate leashes on kids.
Learn to control your children.
Some children are more independant than others. That's just the way it is. If you don't like leashes fine - dont' use them on your children. Don't judge other motehrs for wanting to keep their children safe!1 -
alrighty...
i have three little kids. two of them a year apart. i get the whole wanting to keep track of them thing, but really? a fu@king LEASH? try better parenting skills.
at least that was what my opinion WAS ... and then i saw something at a grocery store..
mom was standing at checkout, toddler was on a leash. he looked so sad just standing there. i of course thought all kinds of bad things about the woman
and then
the kid breaks out in a full on SPRINT
for like 4 steps until the leash kicked in
and it pulled his *kitten* DOWN
a minute or so later, he did it again.
so yeah, MAYBE some parents need it.0 -
Which would people prefer: Their kids on a leash with the possibility of being 'degraded' or having a 'mental complex' or their kid to be kidnapped or lost or smooshed by a car?? I think 'degraded' or a complex is much better! I am an in home child care providor and also have 2 kids of my own. I have seen how different kids are. Some kids are just runners. No matter how much you teach them or train them, it's in their nature to run and laugh as you're chasing them. that is DANGEROUS in some situations. Especially in busy places like the air port or zoo or theme park. Some kids are too old and big to be strapped into strollers, but they still need to be confined because they might run off. I've see kids darting across parking lots of grocery stores while the mom is trying to carry another child and push the cart to the car. - they don't have the third arm required to catch the running child. Perfect place to use the 'leash'. And if I were to get any bad looks for using a leash on my child I would tell that person to BE MY GUEST and try to do it better and still keep the child safe. Safety is key!! when your child is attatched to you, no one will be grabbing them and they won't be running off or running in front of cars. I used a leash when I took my young children to the barn where we kept our horses... that way they could still explore a little, but I didn't have to worry about them getting under the foot of a horse! My goodness - people are much too judgemental. Safety people safety!!
First off, wasn't looking down anyone for their choices... just sharing my own! Secondly, never had a problem keeping track of my kids at any busy public place so therefore, it wasn't needed in the first place. Thirdly, mental well-being is extremely important for the life long health of a child so please, don't dismiss me because you think I passed judgement!0 -
alrighty...
i have three little kids. two of them a year apart. i get the whole wanting to keep track of them thing, but really? a fu@king LEASH? try better parenting skills.
at least that was what my opinion WAS ... and then i saw something at a grocery store..
mom was standing at checkout, toddler was on a leash. he looked so sad just standing there. i of course thought all kinds of bad things about the woman
and then
the kid breaks out in a full on SPRINT
for like 4 steps until the leash kicked in
and it pulled his *kitten* DOWN
a minute or so later, he did it again.
so yeah, MAYBE some parents need it.
My point exactly. Some kids just need it - no matter how great the parents are!! Grrr... I hate when people are jugmental of other's parenting techniques!!0 -
I ONLY used the "leash" at super crowded places like the zoo or the airport.... dont really care what anyone thought at least i knew she was safe at all times.
most people that think its inhuman probably dont have kids...cause theres TONS of opinions that change when you become a parent.1 -
I hate leashes on kids.
Learn to control your children.
Some children are more independant than others. That's just the way it is. If you don't like leashes fine - dont' use them on your children. Don't judge other motehrs for wanting to keep their children safe!
That was a judgmental post... mine was not!0 -
Which would people prefer: Their kids on a leash with the possibility of being 'degraded' or having a 'mental complex' or their kid to be kidnapped or lost or smooshed by a car?? I think 'degraded' or a complex is much better! I am an in home child care providor and also have 2 kids of my own. I have seen how different kids are. Some kids are just runners. No matter how much you teach them or train them, it's in their nature to run and laugh as you're chasing them. that is DANGEROUS in some situations. Especially in busy places like the air port or zoo or theme park. Some kids are too old and big to be strapped into strollers, but they still need to be confined because they might run off. I've see kids darting across parking lots of grocery stores while the mom is trying to carry another child and push the cart to the car. - they don't have the third arm required to catch the running child. Perfect place to use the 'leash'. And if I were to get any bad looks for using a leash on my child I would tell that person to BE MY GUEST and try to do it better and still keep the child safe. Safety is key!! when your child is attatched to you, no one will be grabbing them and they won't be running off or running in front of cars. I used a leash when I took my young children to the barn where we kept our horses... that way they could still explore a little, but I didn't have to worry about them getting under the foot of a horse! My goodness - people are much too judgemental. Safety people safety!!
First off, wasn't looking down anyone for their choices... just sharing my own! Secondly, never had a problem keeping track of my kids at any busy public place so therefore, it wasn't needed in the first place. Thirdly, mental well-being is extremely important for the life long health of a child so please, don't dismiss me because you think I passed judgement!
Good for you for never having needed one and never having a child that would run off. That is awesome. Neither of my children are or were like that either. But some of the children that I watch are like that. One little girl will specifically run off wanting to be chased. It's dangerous. And it's not bad for her mental well being to put a leash on her to teach her she must stay close. It would be much worse for her mental well being to be hit by a car or to be kid napped.1 -
I hate leashes on kids.
Learn to control your children.
Some children are more independant than others. That's just the way it is. If you don't like leashes fine - dont' use them on your children. Don't judge other motehrs for wanting to keep their children safe!
That was a judgmental post... mine was not!
Um... 'learn to control your children' is pretty jugemental. You have no idea what a mother with her kid on a leash deals with. She's chosing to keep her child safe despite what *others* may think of her decision. YOu obviously are judging the mother for using a leash by saying that she can't control her child. She IS controlling her child by having a hold on it!0 -
I ONLY used the "leash" at super crowded places like the zoo or the airport.... dont really care what anyone thought at least i knew she was safe at all times.
most people that think its inhuman probably dont have kids...cause theres TONS of opinions that change when you become a parent.
This! I used the "leash" (cue the dramatic music) with both of my kids in high traffic places (airports, disneyland, zoo, etc..) Yea I got some dirty looks and had only lady come up to me and chew me out.
I can appreciate that some folks don't like using this tool. This is what worked for me.1 -
I hate leashes on kids.
Learn to control your children.
Some children are more independant than others. That's just the way it is. If you don't like leashes fine - dont' use them on your children. Don't judge other motehrs for wanting to keep their children safe!
That was a judgmental post... mine was not!
Um... 'learn to control your children' is pretty jugemental. You have no idea what a mother with her kid on a leash deals with. She's chosing to keep her child safe despite what *others* may think of her decision. YOu obviously are judging the mother for using a leash by saying that she can't control her child. She IS controlling her child by having a hold on it!
Okay, honey. You need to review the posts.
I said "I don't like them and chose not to use them"
You said "You're judging mothers who use leashes"
I said "No I'm not"
Someone else said "Leashes suck. Learn to control your kids."
I said "That was a judgmental post... mine post where I said that I chose not to use them was not"
You just seem ready to wag your fingers at anybody who doesn't share your viewpoint. I never said anything about mothers who chose to use them. All I said was I chose not to and why.0 -
If someone could tell me how to control a 2 year old with little impulse control that would be great!
Kids run off. They see something they like and sometimes it only take a second.
As a mom that feeling where you look away and suddenly your kid is gone is the worst thing in the world.
I hate the fact that the judgement of others will keep parents from doing what they feel is best for their child. Crowded busy places like malls and airports - kids can be gone in a matter of seconds. This isn't for tethering a child in the back yard.1 -
Yea I got some dirty looks and had only lady come up to me and chew me out.
I would have smacked that b!t@h :flowerforyou:0 -
I owned one but never used it. My son was a pretty chill child and and he either stayed by my side, I held him, or I used a stroller. The most use it ended up getting was when my son decided to tie it around his stuffed animals and drag them around the house for a few weeks.0
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I hate leashes on kids.
Learn to control your children.
Some children are more independant than others. That's just the way it is. If you don't like leashes fine - dont' use them on your children. Don't judge other motehrs for wanting to keep their children safe!
Independance...that's great. Not listening and unruly behavior....that's not great.
I could give two s*hits if you decide to leash your child. I don't like it. That's my opinion. This is a public forum...opinions/thoughts/feelings will be different. You say safety...I say something completely different...0 -
Yea I got some dirty looks and had only lady come up to me and chew me out.
I would have smacked that b!t@h :flowerforyou:
LOL I told her to where she could stuff her opinion.
I was @ Sky Harbor Airport (Phoenix) and it was a madhouse.1 -
Usually I don't see any reason to use them. Most places are not that crazy. You would think the short period of time it takes to teach them that they need to stay near you when walking wouldn't be worth the cost or the looks.
Having said that, we went to disneyland last month and there were so many people. A kid could easily get lost there, even if they are right next to you. I can see why someone might choose to use one at a place like that if their kid was in the "run and laugh about it" stage. One of my kids left the door slightly open and my youngest, then two years old, RAN away down the street as fast as he could laughing the entire time. Luckily I was a good runner at the time. He also RAN as fast as he could away from me towards the little pond at my parents house and I caught him just as he was jumping in. So having had a runner, I don't always judge them in a negative way. (I did not use them though)0 -
I wish I could *like* this comment.Yea I got some dirty looks and had only lady come up to me and chew me out.
I would have smacked that b!t@h :flowerforyou:
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Just curious how many of the people that "dont like leashes" actually have children.1
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I'm told I went through a running phase when I was toddler. Sometimes I'd get the leash when my mom had to take me shopping with her. I didn't mind a bit. She said I was slightly confused when I hit the end of it and promptly attempted to test the invisible parameter.0
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Yea I got some dirty looks and had only lady come up to me and chew me out.
I would have smacked that b!t@h :flowerforyou:
LOL I told her to where she could stuff her opinion.
I was @ Sky Harbor Airport (Phoenix) and it was a madhouse.
LOL...I feel you completely. That is the only time I used one with my son (at the airport). People are always going to judge. You know what they say about opinions lol. I get real defensive when ppl try to tell me what I am doing wrong with my kid. It just strikes a nerve. And I am actually a very non-confrontational person. But you say something about my kid and a whole different person pops out. haha!0 -
When I was a young child, I was sometimes on a leash. Which was a very good thing! I was (and still am) a wanderer. Oh, and I used to hide in clothes racks and behind mirrors while my parents weren't looking, feeling rather proud of myself. I think it's a great took for some kids when they're not old enough to realize that wandering isn't ok, but too old for a stroller.
I will definitely consider using one on a child, depending on their personality.
Naturally, I think they're ok, provided that they're used properly, as a tool to help the child safe, etc. etc.0 -
I don't have a problem at all with a parent who uses that type of leash for a child. I don't believe it's inhumane in the least. When my son was little, he used to take off or dart out in traffic without looking. A leash like that would have come in very handy and this mom could have saved herself a lot of near heart attacks. There were times when I couldn't always hold my son's hand such as having arms full of groceries while walking home from the grocery store for examble. And I just want to say to all you young parents that decide to use a leash, YOU ARE NOT A BAD PARENT and don't ever let anyone make you feel like you are.1
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It's not really even about controlling your kids or having strong discipline. I mean I lay down the law with my little girl. I'm way more authoritative than I ever thought I would be in my life. I just worry, you know?
She's an amazing kid and always listens and has never been a discipline problem. She knows to stay by my side and I've never had to worry about her.
Except one day. For some reason she darted out into the middle of a parking lot in front of an SUV barrelling down on her. I had a heart attack and had to lunge to grab her. One of the biggest scares of my life.
Why? There was a straw in the road and she wanted to grab it. Lesson? Kids are stupid and unpredictable. Even the best ones. At that moment I would have loved to have had a leash on my "perfect, obedient" daughter.1 -
Yea I got some dirty looks and had only lady come up to me and chew me out.
I would have smacked that b!t@h :flowerforyou:
LOL I told her to where she could stuff her opinion.
I was @ Sky Harbor Airport (Phoenix) and it was a madhouse.
LOL...I feel you completely. That is the only time I used one with my son (at the airport). People are always going to judge. You know what they say about opinions lol. I get real defensive when ppl try to tell me what I am doing wrong with my kid. It just strikes a nerve. And I am actually a very non-confrontational person. But you say something about my kid and a whole different person pops out. haha!
I was already sleep deprived and this lady had been eye-balling me. Unfortunately for her, I released my inner-demon on her.
My son doesn't remember when we used the leash and is a great kid. I'm seriously the luckiest parent on the planet, my 17 y/o is just awesome!
Like others have said, as long as folks are using it as a "tool" and not to "tether them in the back yard".....0
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