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rejection, the whys?
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Well, you wouldn't ask anyone to change themselves to be a perfect match for you, so you can't expect anyone else to do the same in return. As hard as it is, try not to question why because you will never know. It could have been one small thing you said or did or someone you reminded her of. It could have been that her mindset really isn't into dating right now. There are a million guesses to this. Just be yourself and hope that you meet someone who is being themselves and something clicks.0
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After talking with someone online and on the phone for a month we finally met for lunch and hit it off. He even texted me later saying "I wish you could have come home with me" since I had to go back to work. The next morning I noticed he didn't e-mail me like he normally does so I just sent a simple "good morning" and a fun antidote from my evening. Less than 15 minutes later I got an e-mail saying that during the evening he had a mental breakdown and he was not stable enough to be in a relationship. I'm assuming it's because he did not feel any sparks with me at lunch and just didn't want to see me again, but damn, what a lame excuse.0
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After talking with someone online and on the phone for a month we finally met for lunch and hit it off. He even texted me later saying "I wish you could have come home with me" since I had to go back to work. The next morning I noticed he didn't e-mail me like he normally does so I just sent a simple "good morning" and a fun antidote from my evening. Less than 15 minutes later I got an e-mail saying that during the evening he had a mental breakdown and he was not stable enough to be in a relationship. I'm assuming it's because he did not feel any sparks with me at lunch and just didn't want to see me again, but damn, what a lame excuse.
Good riddance!0 -
After talking with someone online and on the phone for a month we finally met for lunch and hit it off. He even texted me later saying "I wish you could have come home with me" since I had to go back to work. The next morning I noticed he didn't e-mail me like he normally does so I just sent a simple "good morning" and a fun antidote from my evening. Less than 15 minutes later I got an e-mail saying that during the evening he had a mental breakdown and he was not stable enough to be in a relationship. I'm assuming it's because he did not feel any sparks with me at lunch and just didn't want to see me again, but damn, what a lame excuse.
Did you go out with the same guy I did? I had a guy tell me he was "going through an emotional breakdown and not ready to date". His emotional breakdown was due to his dog dying. Sad, yes. But I think just an excuse to get out of seeing me again rather than just say there was no interest.0 -
Maybe you could politely just ask her what it was? I know I'd gladly tell a guy why I didn't want to go out with him again.
It could simply because there wasn't that *spark* that other people are takling about.
Women are complicated.0 -
Interesting point Carl, never thought of that before. But in an odd way that makes sense.. I sometimes get the women that are enamored by tall guys and then others who just aren't into it. Quite a lack of consistency which is frustrating at times.
Tall guys are super sexy.. Just sayin
Yesssssss!0 -
Tall guys are super sexy.. Just sayin
Agree completely! Love tall men.
I totally agree- I love tall men!0 -
CHEMISTRY.0
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Tall guys are super sexy.. Just sayin
Agree completely! Love tall men.
I totally agree- I love tall men!
Another vote for loving tall men!!0 -
She has clearly read "Fifty Shades of Grey" and wants someone with a playroom....
Sorry
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Yes, because a 7' man with facial scruff and a shoulder-breadth wider than most doorways does not seem at all aggressive to me..."you look like your photos, for my personality - I need someone slightly more aggressive. I tend to be domineering"
hahaha my thought exactly.......0 -
"you look like your photos, for my personality - I need someone slightly more aggressive. I tend to be domineering"
:noway:
NEXT!
I think it's actually great that she knows that about herself and knows that it wouldn't work out. Much better than finding that out later on.
P.S. What's wrong with coffee first dates?0 -
So, I was asked out by a gent on match.com. He initiated, he asked, he asked me to drive to him an hour away for our date... Lunch at Cheesecake Factory.
We meet. He looks like his pictures, he showed up. Two huge reliefs right there. We sit and I comment on how big the menu is... we don't have a Cheesecake Factory where I'm from. He launches into something about how he eats very healthy... which very quickly ends up in him talking about how horrible slaughter houses are and animal rights. I find it an awkward argumentative topic for having met not 5 minutes earlier, but assume he's a bit nervous and just talking too much.
Then, he orders chicken. *shrug* OK. I'm not a meat hater, so I certainly don't care, but given his prior rant I found it particularly funny.
We talk, we eat, etc. It wasn't "bad" but we also weren't clicking. He has a female roommate, has nothing nice to say about his ex-wife, and so on. Topics better saved for another time perhaps?
Alas, the check comes. I grab my wallet and throw in a $20 for my $10 salad and water. The entire bill is $22. He says awkwardly to me after seeing my $20, "Well, I only have a $20 too." I am not about to pay the entire bill for a guy that asked me out and I drove an hour to him. So, I say, "It's OK, they'll bring you change" with a smirk. He hands her the $40 in the billfold. After not even two minutes says, "I hope she doesn't think she's getting an $18 tip!!"
She comes back with change. He puts $3 in for tip and keeps the remainder.
I'm sorry... That may be FINE for some. I found it awkward and frankly just ungentlemanly of him. *shrug*
He continued to write wanting to see him again, and I simply said I'm sorry, but I don't think we're a good fit. The end.
I like this guy!!! He makes me seem like a Rock Star!!! What a dbag, next!0 -
I once had a lovely date with a girl I met on Match whom I had a ton in common with. We both texted each other after the date to say what a good time we had, but then neither of us made an effort to contact each other and that was that.
My point is, you can go out with someone and have a great time but just not feel a spark. I'm not sure what it was about this girl, maybe her ears were too big or I didn't like here hair, I couldn't really put my finger on it, but she just didn't do it for me for some reason.
There isn't always a why, best just to move on.
This has happened exactly to me too!! I know what you mean.0 -
So the moral of the story is that coffee is bad and no one should ever pay for anyone elses coffee nor offer to do so at the risk of being coffee douche.
Well done team :laugh:
Coffee is evil, especially Vanilla French Roast :laugh:0 -
She has clearly read "Fifty Shades of Grey" and wants someone with a playroom....
Sorry
but i have one of those!
i'm still curious as to the inner workings of perceived aggression on a coffee date0 -
Add my vote in, too, although I don't think I've ever actually been close to one that made me feel small.
Tall guys are super sexy.. Just sayin
Agree completely! Love tall men.
I totally agree- I love tall men!
Another vote for loving tall men!!0
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