Too practical?
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a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!0 -
In fact, these days, I rarely give a guy my cell phone number. He gets my home phone number first, and if he actually calls me and has an adult conversation with me, then I know he's serious, and we can take it from there.
wait you still have a home phone? (I know off topic but don't know many people with home phones any more)
Yes, home phones are getting rarer. The landlines most commonly used for a lot of people are in offices.
In some ways, it was easier before texting. When I first got a cell phone, cell phones were primarily used for telephone calls. This was late 2003/2004. I do remember receiving a text message in 2004 though.0 -
In fact, these days, I rarely give a guy my cell phone number. He gets my home phone number first, and if he actually calls me and has an adult conversation with me, then I know he's serious, and we can take it from there.
wait you still have a home phone? (I know off topic but don't know many people with home phones any more)
Yes, home phones are getting rarer. The landlines most commonly used for a lot of people are in offices.
In some ways, it was easier before texting. When I first got a cell phone, cell phones were primarily used for telephone calls. This was late 2003/2004. I do remember receiving a text message in 2004 though.
Must have been one hell of a text!! That was 8 years ago.0 -
Not all men are predators or like/enjoy the chase. Some are shy. Some lack confidence. Some are lazy. Some are intimidated.
Those excuses don't work on me. I have been asked out on dates by incredibly shy guys who were so nervous they could barely speak. I have been pursued by shy guys who had no information about me other than my first name and where I worked. But they manned up and did the hard thing because they were interested.
Saying you don't enjoy the chase, you're intimidated, you lack confidence, etc., is the same as saying "You just weren't worth the trouble."
Your beliefs,convictions,opinions etc are perfectly fine for YOU and would not for a moment suggest you should change them.
On the other hand do not assume that they should be considered universal or the final word that all should follow.
Perhaps I misread it but I get that impression sometimes.
I don't think everyone should follow my beliefs. If a woman is looking for a man who won't pursue her, then by all means, she should pursue him because she's not going to find what she wants any other way.
But what I know is that I'm not interested in a man who doesn't enjoy the chase. I'm not interested in a man who lacks confidence (this is not the same thing as being shy). I am not interested in a man who is intimidated by me. I know I come across as highly opinionated and old-fashioned, but the benefit of that, for me, is that it cuts through the BS right away. I know and respect that other people see things differently, and that's fine. But I don't apologize for knowing what I want.0 -
Not all men are predators or like/enjoy the chase. Some are shy. Some lack confidence. Some are lazy. Some are intimidated.
Those excuses don't work on me. I have been asked out on dates by incredibly shy guys who were so nervous they could barely speak. I have been pursued by shy guys who had no information about me other than my first name and where I worked. But they manned up and did the hard thing because they were interested.
Saying you don't enjoy the chase, you're intimidated, you lack confidence, etc., is the same as saying "You just weren't worth the trouble."
That's cool for you and you can only stick to your own convictions. I dont quite see life as black and white as you do. One size does not fit all. I can only go by my experience and the fact that guys are NOT all wired the way you beleive. Neither are women.
I've seen more that a few relationships work just fine when the guy has not been the pursuer intially. This type of guy is not for you, but some of us won't write him off :flowerforyou:0 -
It should work both ways though. Why must it always be the guy that needs to do the pursuing? There have been plenty of times when I wasn't that interested in a girl at first, yet she pursued me and the more I got to know her the more I started to like her. Just because I'm not totally interested in someone doesn't mean I don't want to take my time to get to know them. It seems to be a risk that guys are expected to take but not girls.
Yes, for the most part if he likes you he will call. But that doesn't mean if you like him you shouldn't call. Gotta put yourself out there once in a while.0 -
Not all men are predators or like/enjoy the chase. Some are shy. Some lack confidence. Some are lazy. Some are intimidated.
Those excuses don't work on me. I have been asked out on dates by incredibly shy guys who were so nervous they could barely speak. I have been pursued by shy guys who had no information about me other than my first name and where I worked. But they manned up and did the hard thing because they were interested.
Saying you don't enjoy the chase, you're intimidated, you lack confidence, etc., is the same as saying "You just weren't worth the trouble."
Your beliefs,convictions,opinions etc are perfectly fine for YOU and would not for a moment suggest you should change them.
On the other hand do not assume that they should be considered universal or the final word that all should follow.
Perhaps I misread it but I get that impression sometimes.
I don't think everyone should follow my beliefs. If a woman is looking for a man who won't pursue her, then by all means, she should pursue him because she's not going to find what she wants any other way.
But what I know is that I'm not interested in a man who doesn't enjoy the chase. I'm not interested in a man who lacks confidence (this is not the same thing as being shy). I am not interested in a man who is intimidated by me. I know I come across as highly opinionated and old-fashioned, but the benefit of that, for me, is that it cuts through the BS right away. I know and respect that other people see things differently, and that's fine. But I don't apologize for knowing what I want.
You 100 percent should do as you want to do and am happy with which seems to be the case but you basically just said that a guy who didn`t do it the way you want or a lady that didn`t have the same convictions was engaged in bs.
That isn`t fair.0 -
In fact, these days, I rarely give a guy my cell phone number. He gets my home phone number first, and if he actually calls me and has an adult conversation with me, then I know he's serious, and we can take it from there.
wait you still have a home phone? (I know off topic but don't know many people with home phones any more)
Yes, home phones are getting rarer. The landlines most commonly used for a lot of people are in offices.
In some ways, it was easier before texting. When I first got a cell phone, cell phones were primarily used for telephone calls. This was late 2003/2004. I do remember receiving a text message in 2004 though.
Must have been one hell of a text!! That was 8 years ago.
It was a text from my 2nd cousin saying that she got my number from her father's phone. Her father = my mom's cousin. That is the first text I remember receiving. I did not get many texts after that until about 2007, when I noticed texting becoming more popular. Even in 2007, I coordinated more communication on email than text. Because so many people have adopted texting today, I text to an extent, but I like to keep my texts to the simplest of message exchanges.0 -
So you have never and will never be interested in any man that hasn't actively pursued you?I don't think everyone should follow my beliefs. If a woman is looking for a man who won't pursue her, then by all means, she should pursue him because she's not going to find what she wants any other way.
But what I know is that I'm not interested in a man who doesn't enjoy the chase. I'm not interested in a man who lacks confidence (this is not the same thing as being shy). I am not interested in a man who is intimidated by me. I know I come across as highly opinionated and old-fashioned, but the benefit of that, for me, is that it cuts through the BS right away. I know and respect that other people see things differently, and that's fine. But I don't apologize for knowing what I want.0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.
Good point. What your excuse?0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.
Good point. What your excuse?
My excuse as to why I'm single?
First week I've been single since November. I'll date now, but nothing serious or long term until I move to Colorado. It's not fair to start dating someone here in a serious relationship knowing I want to move. I'm not staying here for anyone else.0 -
I will absolutely pursue a man that I like - but he has to at least show interest and reciprocate in some form or another.0
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a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.
Not technically. He did, you never responded to his "yeah" although we don't know the conversation to make assumptions. There's nothing saying you can't text him. It's 2012. Not 1948. Get w/ the times. Women pay for meals/dates and have their own jobs and independence. Why do you have to rely on him to text first?0 -
In fact, these days, I rarely give a guy my cell phone number. He gets my home phone number first, and if he actually calls me and has an adult conversation with me, then I know he's serious, and we can take it from there.
wait you still have a home phone? (I know off topic but don't know many people with home phones any more)
Yes, home phones are getting rarer. The landlines most commonly used for a lot of people are in offices.
In some ways, it was easier before texting. When I first got a cell phone, cell phones were primarily used for telephone calls. This was late 2003/2004. I do remember receiving a text message in 2004 though.
Must have been one hell of a text!! That was 8 years ago.
It was a text from my 2nd cousin saying that she got my number from her father's phone. Her father = my mom's cousin. That is the first text I remember receiving. I did not get many texts after that until about 2007, when I noticed texting becoming more popular. Even in 2007, I coordinated more communication on email than text. Because so many people have adopted texting today, I text to an extent, but I like to keep my texts to the simplest of message exchanges.
Wow! You have a great memory DM. I'd need to think long and hard who from and when my first text was................hmmm!
I have 2000 sitting in my phone now from the last time I cleared them!!! :laugh:0 -
In fact, these days, I rarely give a guy my cell phone number. He gets my home phone number first, and if he actually calls me and has an adult conversation with me, then I know he's serious, and we can take it from there.
wait you still have a home phone? (I know off topic but don't know many people with home phones any more)
Yes, home phones are getting rarer. The landlines most commonly used for a lot of people are in offices.
In some ways, it was easier before texting. When I first got a cell phone, cell phones were primarily used for telephone calls. This was late 2003/2004. I do remember receiving a text message in 2004 though.
Must have been one hell of a text!! That was 8 years ago.
It was a text from my 2nd cousin saying that she got my number from her father's phone. Her father = my mom's cousin. That is the first text I remember receiving. I did not get many texts after that until about 2007, when I noticed texting becoming more popular. Even in 2007, I coordinated more communication on email than text. Because so many people have adopted texting today, I text to an extent, but I like to keep my texts to the simplest of message exchanges.
Wow! You have a great memory DM. I'd need to think long and hard who from and when my first text was................hmmm!
I have 2000 sitting in my phone now from the last time I cleared them!!! :laugh:
I delete often. Some will/would/could get me in trouble
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a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.
Not technically. He did, you never responded to his "yeah" although we don't know the conversation to make assumptions. There's nothing saying you can't text him. It's 2012. Not 1948. Get w/ the times. Women pay for meals/dates and have their own jobs and independence. Why do you have to rely on him to text first?
I did text him first...? The conversation was pretty plain, I asked a few questions and got one worded until I lost interest and stopped trying.0 -
In fact, these days, I rarely give a guy my cell phone number. He gets my home phone number first, and if he actually calls me and has an adult conversation with me, then I know he's serious, and we can take it from there.
wait you still have a home phone? (I know off topic but don't know many people with home phones any more)
Yes, home phones are getting rarer. The landlines most commonly used for a lot of people are in offices.
In some ways, it was easier before texting. When I first got a cell phone, cell phones were primarily used for telephone calls. This was late 2003/2004. I do remember receiving a text message in 2004 though.
Must have been one hell of a text!! That was 8 years ago.
It was a text from my 2nd cousin saying that she got my number from her father's phone. Her father = my mom's cousin. That is the first text I remember receiving. I did not get many texts after that until about 2007, when I noticed texting becoming more popular. Even in 2007, I coordinated more communication on email than text. Because so many people have adopted texting today, I text to an extent, but I like to keep my texts to the simplest of message exchanges.
Wow! You have a great memory DM. I'd need to think long and hard who from and when my first text was................hmmm!
I have 2000 sitting in my phone now from the last time I cleared them!!! :laugh:
I delete often. Some will/would/could get me in trouble
ohhhhh yeaahhhhhhhhhhh!!! How? and with whom?? :bigsmile:0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.
Good point. What your excuse?
My excuse as to why I'm single?
First week I've been single since November. I'll date now, but nothing serious or long term until I move to Colorado. It's not fair to start dating someone here in a serious relationship knowing I want to move. I'm not staying here for anyone else.
I don't actually care, I was more pointing out that you were being rude. I don't have to explain my single status to anyone0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.
Good point. What your excuse?
My excuse as to why I'm single?
First week I've been single since November. I'll date now, but nothing serious or long term until I move to Colorado. It's not fair to start dating someone here in a serious relationship knowing I want to move. I'm not staying here for anyone else.
I don't actually care, I was more pointing out that you were being rude. I don't have to explain my single status to anyone
Eh, rude? I was telling the truth. Sometimes it's not what you want to hear, but I'm not going to sugarcoat it and tell you that you're right even if you're wrong.0 -
I don't think everyone should follow my beliefs. If a woman is looking for a man who won't pursue her, then by all means, she should pursue him because she's not going to find what she wants any other way.
But what I know is that I'm not interested in a man who doesn't enjoy the chase. I'm not interested in a man who lacks confidence (this is not the same thing as being shy). I am not interested in a man who is intimidated by me. I know I come across as highly opinionated and old-fashioned, but the benefit of that, for me, is that it cuts through the BS right away. I know and respect that other people see things differently, and that's fine. But I don't apologize for knowing what I want.
One thought to consider: My EX husband ONLY enjoyed the chase... after a few years together we had nothing... all of his interest was IN THE CHASE. So for me, I'm careful what I ask for these days!0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.
Not technically. He did, you never responded to his "yeah" although we don't know the conversation to make assumptions. There's nothing saying you can't text him. It's 2012. Not 1948. Get w/ the times. Women pay for meals/dates and have their own jobs and independence. Why do you have to rely on him to text first?
I did text him first...? The conversation was pretty plain, I asked a few questions and got one worded until I lost interest and stopped trying.
Yeah, I must admit, I kinda get bored with one word texters!! I love a man that can text!! :bigsmile: I still dont think he's not necessarily uninterested though, only that he's not interested in texting!! Perhaps, like a lot of the guys on here, he's more of a phone or f2f guy?
But yeah, its getting to be like hard work if he doesnt like texting and doesnt like to pursue.....:yawn:
What kind of 'ooomph' attracted you to him in person?0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.
Good point. What your excuse?
My excuse as to why I'm single?
First week I've been single since November. I'll date now, but nothing serious or long term until I move to Colorado. It's not fair to start dating someone here in a serious relationship knowing I want to move. I'm not staying here for anyone else.
I don't actually care, I was more pointing out that you were being rude. I don't have to explain my single status to anyone
Eh, rude? I was telling the truth. Sometimes it's not what you want to hear, but I'm not going to sugarcoat it and tell you that you're right even if you're wrong.
You were making a judgement call based on little to no information - which is especially rich given that you obviously didn't bother to read the situation properly (The part where you mentioned it should be okay for me to text first? When I did? That gave you away).0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.
Not technically. He did, you never responded to his "yeah" although we don't know the conversation to make assumptions. There's nothing saying you can't text him. It's 2012. Not 1948. Get w/ the times. Women pay for meals/dates and have their own jobs and independence. Why do you have to rely on him to text first?
I did text him first...? The conversation was pretty plain, I asked a few questions and got one worded until I lost interest and stopped trying.
Yeah, I must admit, I kinda get bored with one word texters!! I love a man that can text!! :bigsmile: I still dont think he's not necessarily uninterested though, only that he's not interested in texting!! Perhaps, like a lot of the guys on here, he's more of a phone or f2f guy?
But yeah, its getting to be like hard work if he doesnt like texting and doesnt like to pursue.....:yawn:
What kind of 'ooomph' attracted you to him in person?
I'm okay if he's more of a phone or face to face, but he made absolutely no effort to achieve either.
We initially started talking because we both speak a bit of German and Japanese (he overheard me correcting someone else' german) and then we discovered we have the same favorite video game franchise (Suikoden) and then nerded out over some Walking Dead and book to movie adaptions before eventually arguing about LOTR (but in a nerd argument, it's cool). That's when we exchanged numbers.0 -
I don't think everyone should follow my beliefs. If a woman is looking for a man who won't pursue her, then by all means, she should pursue him because she's not going to find what she wants any other way.
But what I know is that I'm not interested in a man who doesn't enjoy the chase. I'm not interested in a man who lacks confidence (this is not the same thing as being shy). I am not interested in a man who is intimidated by me. I know I come across as highly opinionated and old-fashioned, but the benefit of that, for me, is that it cuts through the BS right away. I know and respect that other people see things differently, and that's fine. But I don't apologize for knowing what I want.
One thought to consider: My EX husband ONLY enjoyed the chase... after a few years together we had nothing... all of his interest was IN THE CHASE. So for me, I'm careful what I ask for these days!
That is a very valid point :flowerforyou: Beware the guy that gets easily bored once he's got you :noway:0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.
Not technically. He did, you never responded to his "yeah" although we don't know the conversation to make assumptions. There's nothing saying you can't text him. It's 2012. Not 1948. Get w/ the times. Women pay for meals/dates and have their own jobs and independence. Why do you have to rely on him to text first?
I did text him first...? The conversation was pretty plain, I asked a few questions and got one worded until I lost interest and stopped trying.
Yeah, I must admit, I kinda get bored with one word texters!! I love a man that can text!! :bigsmile: I still dont think he's not necessarily uninterested though, only that he's not interested in texting!! Perhaps, like a lot of the guys on here, he's more of a phone or f2f guy?
But yeah, its getting to be like hard work if he doesnt like texting and doesnt like to pursue.....:yawn:
What kind of 'ooomph' attracted you to him in person?
I'm okay if he's more of a phone or face to face, but he made absolutely no effort to achieve either.
We initially started talking because we both speak a bit of German and Japanese (he overheard me correcting someone else' german) and then we discovered we have the same favorite video game franchise (Suikoden) and then nerded out over some Walking Dead and book to movie adaptions before eventually arguing about LOTR (but in a nerd argument, it's cool). That's when we exchanged numbers.
Wow!! You have a lot in common!! Perhaps he's just too busy nerding to think about dates atm. I think you need to get him out more!!! :laugh:0 -
If you're over it then just let it be. But if you have any interest in seeing him again it won't hurt anything by asking him to get a drink. Maybe just your ego.I did text him first...? The conversation was pretty plain, I asked a few questions and got one worded until I lost interest and stopped trying.0 -
a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
^^ I have to agree with this... it's a two way street!
And like I said... "Exactly" It is a two-way street. I initiated, I tried talking, he never followed up.
Not technically. He did, you never responded to his "yeah" although we don't know the conversation to make assumptions. There's nothing saying you can't text him. It's 2012. Not 1948. Get w/ the times. Women pay for meals/dates and have their own jobs and independence. Why do you have to rely on him to text first?
I did text him first...? The conversation was pretty plain, I asked a few questions and got one worded until I lost interest and stopped trying.
Yeah, I must admit, I kinda get bored with one word texters!! I love a man that can text!! :bigsmile: I still dont think he's not necessarily uninterested though, only that he's not interested in texting!! Perhaps, like a lot of the guys on here, he's more of a phone or f2f guy?
But yeah, its getting to be like hard work if he doesnt like texting and doesnt like to pursue.....:yawn:
What kind of 'ooomph' attracted you to him in person?
I'm okay if he's more of a phone or face to face, but he made absolutely no effort to achieve either.
We initially started talking because we both speak a bit of German and Japanese (he overheard me correcting someone else' german) and then we discovered we have the same favorite video game franchise (Suikoden) and then nerded out over some Walking Dead and book to movie adaptions before eventually arguing about LOTR (but in a nerd argument, it's cool). That's when we exchanged numbers.
Wow!! You have a lot in common!! Perhaps he's just too busy nerding to think about dates atm. I think you need to get him out more!!! :laugh:
I know! That's why I was into it at first! To be fair though, we met in a bar, so I think he does get out
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a guy ending a conversation with Yeah is not being blown off
and you didnt try and contact him again either
and you havent exactly wooed him
or pursued him
so he probably gave up cause he was the last one to text.
it goes both ways.
Ding.
You quit, this might be why you're single. You're too quick to write someone off.
Good point. What your excuse?
My excuse as to why I'm single?
First week I've been single since November. I'll date now, but nothing serious or long term until I move to Colorado. It's not fair to start dating someone here in a serious relationship knowing I want to move. I'm not staying here for anyone else.
I don't actually care, I was more pointing out that you were being rude. I don't have to explain my single status to anyone
Eh, rude? I was telling the truth. Sometimes it's not what you want to hear, but I'm not going to sugarcoat it and tell you that you're right even if you're wrong.
You were making a judgement call based on little to no information - which is especially rich given that you obviously didn't bother to read the situation properly (The part where you mentioned it should be okay for me to text first? When I did? That gave you away).
I think you two should hook up!!!! Seriously! I feel passion and chemistry :bigsmile:0
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