A word about online dating profiles
DrewMaxwell
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I don't know about you, but I find it a little exhausting at times wading through online dating profiles and especially when the user has profile photos that are deceptive, non-descriptive and/or totally random. Some of my pet peeves are:
1 - A photo containing a really attractive younger woman and an older woman - The ubiquitous mother/daughter photo where after seeing the daughter you have no interest in the mother.
2 - Photos taken at a distance and you can't see what the person looks like
3 - Photos taken in a dark environment that don't give a clear view of the person's face
4 - Photos of the person's pet / car / house / children
5 - Photos of the person hanging all over a member of the opposite sex with no explanation that it's their brother/father/cousin/married friend
6 - Photo where an ex-significant other has obviously been cropped out
7 - Photo in a group setting where the person isn't clearly identified (I don't like guessing)
8 - Photo in amongst a few woman, all of whom are more attractive
Any others that I missed?
1 - A photo containing a really attractive younger woman and an older woman - The ubiquitous mother/daughter photo where after seeing the daughter you have no interest in the mother.
2 - Photos taken at a distance and you can't see what the person looks like
3 - Photos taken in a dark environment that don't give a clear view of the person's face
4 - Photos of the person's pet / car / house / children
5 - Photos of the person hanging all over a member of the opposite sex with no explanation that it's their brother/father/cousin/married friend
6 - Photo where an ex-significant other has obviously been cropped out
7 - Photo in a group setting where the person isn't clearly identified (I don't like guessing)
8 - Photo in amongst a few woman, all of whom are more attractive
Any others that I missed?
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People who arent attracted to me..... Sheesh.
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I loathe the mirror/cell phone shot. I mean, seriously, you don't know any other human being on the planet that can take a picture of you?!0
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I loathe the mirror/cell phone shot. I mean, seriously, you don't know any other human being on the planet that can take a picture of you?!
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I loathe the mirror/cell phone shot. I mean, seriously, you don't know any other human being on the planet that can take a picture of you?!
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People who arent attracted to me..... Sheesh.
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Maybe I should give you the contact info for my nephew in Brisbane for help with that. He seem's to be doing pretty well with the ladies. :laugh:0 -
People who arent attracted to me..... Sheesh.
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Maybe I should give you the contact info for my nephew in Brisbane for help with that. He seem's to be doing pretty well with the ladies. :laugh:
Haha... Nah im good dude.. I dried up the local resources last year.. I think there is a site somewhere about me and my serial dating.0 -
I loathe the mirror/cell phone shot. I mean, seriously, you don't know any other human being on the planet that can take a picture of you?!
This has been said before and I'm guilty of it. Last weekend I tried to get my friends to take pictures of us while we out having fun. Later I looked at them and realized my friends are completely awful at taking pictures. So screw it, i give up.0 -
I for some reason find this funny. It's a thread about online dating profiles, yet all anyone is talking about is photos.
Cause no one cares about the actual content of your profile?
Because it's shallow, get it?
Just me?
Okay.
EDIT: NOT THAT YOU ARE SHALLOW! It's just a bit funny.0 -
How is anyone supposed to guess what is more attractive to any individual person? My best friend and I have the same reaction to a tall German (her) and a short Puerto Rican (me). I wouldn't skip a pic of my friends and me just because someone might find one of them more attractive. if you like and they're single, message me and I'll hook it up.I don't know about you, but I find it a little exhausting at times wading through online dating profiles and especially when the user has profile photos that are deceptive, non-descriptive and/or totally random. Some of my pet peeves are:
8 - Photo in amongst a few woman, all of whom are more attractive
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Ok, time for my input.
Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
If you're with a male, put a caption so we know what's up.
Don't try to hide ugly with trick camera angles, lighting, or BLACK AND WHITE (biggest pet peeve). Everyone looks good in black and white, get some real photos.
Post. more. than. one. effing. photo. Especially if your one photo is from the neck up.
I get it: Stupid faces/expressions are cute. It's not cute if that is all you post in your profile. Grow up.
If you are serious about finding someone worthwhile, WRITE MORE THAN 2 SENTENCES, and say something worth reading.
If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Don't put "Any questions, feel free to contact me!" in your profile if you don't intend to take the time to reply.
I'm sure I can think of a lot more, but this is what I've got for the moment.0 -
Don't put "Any questions, feel free to contact me!" in your profile if you don't intend to take the time to reply.
Hahaha so many do this.
I get that the girls here will but most guys are d.bags and send stupid messages, short messages or a picture of their junk bit I don't and I'd like to think I have something to offer and lately I'm getting nothing back lol0 -
I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo. If you get interested in my profile and ask for it, I will email it to you.
Not all of us want to post our faces online. I do have on pic up at okcupid, it's from few years back but I still look like that :laugh: And yeah, it's pretty much a face shot. I'm sorry if that irritates some people, but too bad
I actually don't have that many full body pics, since I usually like to stay behind the camera.0 -
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
I liked all your comments Silver, but this one totally cracked me up.
Now - My pet peeves:
Don't create a huge profile filled with soulful information pouring your heart out about the lady you want to meet, and send a message along the lines of "wanna *kitten*?"
Don't post photos of yourself passed out, drinking, smoking, etc. and then write about how you will only date a girl who takes pride in herself and works out regularly. ESPECIALLY if you are significantly out of shape.
Don't post photos of your car, your money, your jewelry, your ____insert expensive item here____ and then b!tch about gold digging women.
Don't get pissed when a girl doesn't respond. Sometimes, she's overwhelmed with messages. Sometimes, she's a diva and you should be glad you didn't get her attention. Sometimes SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. (If i responded to every message, I'd never log on. I'm a solid 6 on a good day and even I get way too many messages to field)
Don't get defensive when a girl assumes the worst about you at first. We have to these days. Blame your predecessors and your peers.
Don't think negatively of a girl who makes her attraction clear within the first few dates. If you've been chatting online, via text, phone, etc, she probably knows A LOT about you by this point -- as much or more than she would learn if she waited until the 8th date to show you her boobs.
Don't get pissed if she doesn't want to sleep with you on the first date. Or the fourth. Maybe she's still trying to decide whether or not you're worth it.
If you clearly live with your parents, DO NOT brag about your "swag" or go on and on about how you want to buy her anything she wants.
If you think she's out of your league, send a message. Be cool. Don't grovel. Don't be a douche. If she messages you back, lucky you. If she doesn't? DO NOT send 5 more messages professing your love and devotion or cursing and debasing her for being such a "b!tch" and ignoring you. Just don't.0 -
Bathroom pictures. Me and my sisters have half-joked that if a guy posts a picture of himself that was taken in the bathroom mirror, he's not worth contacting. ...butseriously. It reminds me of MySpace.0
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I mostly have bathroom shots..........:sad:0
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I made a joke once to a girl I deemed worthy of my attention who had some bathroom shots:
"That's a nice bathroom you have here."
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Hmmm. Sorry. I thought that was funny.0 -
And this is why I stopped online dating!! Everyone seems to have got so judgmental about trivial crap and forgotten that there are genuine human beings behind the picture just trying to find love.
ERmmm.......Don't post mother/daughter pics cos you fancy the daughter more???? WTF?? :laugh: What you gonna do when you go out with a woman your age IRL?? She can't lock up her daughter cos you fancy younger women!!! Perhaps just best for you to not bother with women your own age?
Most people are in a no-win situation here!!0 -
If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
I guess you're a short bloke then?? :laugh:0 -
:laugh:I don't know about you, but I find it a little exhausting at times wading through online dating profiles and especially when the user has profile photos that are deceptive, non-descriptive and/or totally random. Some of my pet peeves are:
1 - A photo containing a really attractive younger woman and an older woman - The ubiquitous mother/daughter photo where after seeing the daughter you have no interest in the mother.
2 - Photos taken at a distance and you can't see what the person looks like
3 - Photos taken in a dark environment that don't give a clear view of the person's face
4 - Photos of the person's pet / car / house / children
5 - Photos of the person hanging all over a member of the opposite sex with no explanation that it's their brother/father/cousin/married friend
6 - Photo where an ex-significant other has obviously been cropped out
7 - Photo in a group setting where the person isn't clearly identified (I don't like guessing)
8 - Photo in amongst a few woman, all of whom are more attractive
Any others that I missed?
Dude, do you even read the profiles?
I can sum up about 90% of most profiles in a few sentences.
"I'm a down to earth girl" - Everybody says that and I'll believe it when I see it
"I love to laugh" - Um.....okay
"I like to stay in or go out" - Lol! Really?
"I have the best friends and family" - No you don't, I do.
Zzzzzzzzz......:yawn: Try to be just a little bit original.
Profiles that are too long...geez get to the point already, I don't have all day and I probably won't make it half way through. And I assume on our first date I will spend the entire time listening to them ramble on about nothing and trying to pretend like I'm interested.
Any photos without themselves actually in them. A lot of people put up multiple pictures of just their dog, sorry I love dogs but I'm here to meet women.
Only photos from the neck up, I will assume you are hiding something.
Only photos with multiple people, I can never tell which one they are and I might email you to hook me up with your hotter friends.
Bathroom duck face photos - ugh. Make some friends, do something interesting for once that might be worthy of taking a picture. If you look like you are taking a picture of yourself blowing kisses to yourself I'll think you are a little conceited and narcissistic. And just weird.
Bikini/revealing photos - slut. Then you wonder why guys only send you pictures of their junk
I actually don't mind if the ex is cropped out. Everyone has ex's, at least make the effort to crop them out.0 -
Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
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Bathroom pictures. Me and my sisters have half-joked that if a guy posts a picture of himself that was taken in the bathroom mirror, he's not worth contacting. ...butseriously. It reminds me of MySpace.
RIP Myspace.0 -
Ok, time for my input.
Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
If you're with a male, put a caption so we know what's up.
Don't try to hide ugly with trick camera angles, lighting, or BLACK AND WHITE (biggest pet peeve). Everyone looks good in black and white, get some real photos.
Post. more. than. one. effing. photo. Especially if your one photo is from the neck up.
I get it: Stupid faces/expressions are cute. It's not cute if that is all you post in your profile. Grow up.
If you are serious about finding someone worthwhile, WRITE MORE THAN 2 SENTENCES, and say something worth reading.
If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Don't put "Any questions, feel free to contact me!" in your profile if you don't intend to take the time to reply.
I'm sure I can think of a lot more, but this is what I've got for the moment.
I always wondered if short dudes were angry when taller guys get the girl. Answer confirmed. Nothing shallow about a short girl wanting to date a taller guy. We provide more comfort and security
I know you're generalizing, but my girl is short. I'm 6', and you wouldn't call her a shallow ***** to her face. Or you'd only do it once.0 -
I would add 3 more:
* Every pic contains the same 2 girls, 1 the girl who is looking to date, the other the hottest friend she has.
* They hold the camera up as high as you can and take a picture of yourself, they do this to look slimmer than they really are.
* only one pic and it's by far and away the greatest photo ever taken of them, usually taken anywhere from 1-6 years ago.0 -
I personally think every photo ever taken should be black and white. They're much better photos.0
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What is this business about "Don't take a picture with a girl who is hotter than you?" Doesn't everyone have at least one friend who is better-looking? In any pair of best friends, one is going to be more attractive than the other. Are you really not going to date someone because her friend is hotter (in your opinion)?0
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What is this business about "Don't take a picture with a girl who is hotter than you?" Doesn't everyone have at least one friend who is better-looking? In any pair of best friends, one is going to be more attractive than the other. Are you really not going to date someone because her friend is hotter (in your opinion)?
I'm fine with one or two... but if all of your pictures have just the profile owner and the hot chick... how do I know who owns the profile?0 -
What is this business about "Don't take a picture with a girl who is hotter than you?" Doesn't everyone have at least one friend who is better-looking? In any pair of best friends, one is going to be more attractive than the other. Are you really not going to date someone because her friend is hotter (in your opinion)?
I'm fine with one or two... but if all of your pictures have just the profile owner and the hot chick... how do I know who owns the profile?
They all shouldn't be of the same two, but if they're all of two girls, you should be able to figure out which ones. It takes 10 seconds to recognize the similar face. But I agree there should be at least one of just the girl.0 -
Well, yeah, there should be multiple pictures of just the profile owner. I was getting the perception, based on the guy who said a hotter friend is an "eye distraction," that if a girl has a hotter friend, she's not worth dating.0
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Sometimes the photos bother me but usually it's when the profile is so vague to be useless.
Things like:
I like to hangout and have fun.
I'm looking for a guy who gets me and I feel comfortable around.
Pictures annoy me when they don't correspond with the profiles too. The profile says something like I am looking for a guy who respects me for my mind and isn't out to get laid. There are 10 pics and the classiest has the girl straddling the hood of a car showing a lot of leg and cleavage.0 -
Guys have hot chick radar. When I see a photo with multiple women in it, my eyes will be automatically drawn toward the best looking woman in the photo. In online dating, you are essentially trying to sell yourself, therefore you want the readers attention to be on you, not your hot friend.Well, yeah, there should be multiple pictures of just the profile owner. I was getting the perception, based on the guy who said a hotter friend is an "eye distraction," that if a girl has a hotter friend, she's not worth dating.
Think of it like car shopping. If you see a '86 Honda sitting right next to a brand new BMW (or any car of your dreams), you will be automatically drawn toward the BMW. Even if you are in the market for an '86 Honda and you can't afford the BMW, you still want it more than you want the Honda.0
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