A word about online dating profiles
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Okay, but you're probably not on the market for an '86 Honda anyway. If you can't afford the car of your dreams, aren't you going to be more realistic at some point?
If an Aston Martin is parked next to a BMW, I'm not going to pass over the BMW just because I'd rather have the car I know I can't get.0 -
Guys have hot chick radar. When I see a photo with multiple women in it, my eyes will be automatically drawn toward the best looking woman in the photo. In online dating, you are essentially trying to sell yourself, therefore you want the readers attention to be on you, not your hot friend.Well, yeah, there should be multiple pictures of just the profile owner. I was getting the perception, based on the guy who said a hotter friend is an "eye distraction," that if a girl has a hotter friend, she's not worth dating.
Think of it like car shopping. If you see a '86 Honda sitting right next to a brand new BMW (or any car of your dreams), you will be automatically drawn toward the BMW. Even if you are in the market for an '86 Honda and you can't afford the BMW, you still want it more than you want the Honda.
Actually, I hate BMW's and can't stand the interiors. For that single reason, I'll never buy one.
But I get what you're saying. But I think it's a bad analogy because no girl is out of any guys league. And no guy is out of any girls league. You can get anyone with a little planning, confidence and respect.
But a car, is. Because you have to pay for it. But I still don't have an issue with multiple girls in the photo(s).0 -
I think it's worst when they have all those pictures the OP mentioned and nothing written on their profile and expect you to reply back to a message they send... Oh but I seriously don't like mirror pictures and I have come across guys who do a male version of the "duck face" or some kind of weird face, so when I check to see their age, unfortunately they are around my age (22). Lol yea that's probably one of the most annoying things to see for me.0
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Well, what I mean is you will always feel like you are settling for the Honda when you really wanted the BMW. You start telling yourself maybe you can get the BMW if you save for longer and work harder. You think maybe your goals should be a little higher even if the Honda was perfect for you. Shiny paint jobs can distract us from what's inside.Okay, but you're probably not on the market for an '86 Honda anyway. If you can't afford the car of your dreams, aren't you going to be more realistic at some point?
If an Aston Martin is parked next to a BMW, I'm not going to pass over the BMW just because I'd rather have the car I know I can't get.
But if you see the same car surrounded by a bunch of older, more broken down cars, you'll feel better about buying it because it's the nicest car on the lot.0 -
I think it's worst when they have all those pictures the OP mentioned and nothing written on their profile and expect you to reply back to a message they send... Oh but I seriously don't like mirror pictures and I have come across guys who do a male version of the "duck face" or some kind of weird face, so when I check to see their age, unfortunately they are around my age (22). Lol yea that's probably one of the most annoying things to see for me.
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<<<<<<<<< Like so? LOL. What if the girl thinks that SHE'S the hotter friend? :-(I would add 3 more:
* Every pic contains the same 2 girls, 1 the girl who is looking to date, the other the hottest friend she has.
* They hold the camera up as high as you can and take a picture of yourself, they do this to look slimmer than they really are.
* only one pic and it's by far and away the greatest photo ever taken of them, usually taken anywhere from 1-6 years ago.0 -
Equal hotness is doesn't count
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<<<<<<<<< Like so? LOL. What if the girl thinks that SHE'S the hotter friend? :-(I would add 3 more:
* Every pic contains the same 2 girls, 1 the girl who is looking to date, the other the hottest friend she has.
* They hold the camera up as high as you can and take a picture of yourself, they do this to look slimmer than they really are.
* only one pic and it's by far and away the greatest photo ever taken of them, usually taken anywhere from 1-6 years ago.
She'd be wrong in this case :bigsmile: I'm guess by she (the other girl) is the one that thinks she's hotter... otherwise I'm going to look like an *kitten*0 -
<<<<<<<<< Like so? LOL. What if the girl thinks that SHE'S the hotter friend? :-(I would add 3 more:
* Every pic contains the same 2 girls, 1 the girl who is looking to date, the other the hottest friend she has.
* They hold the camera up as high as you can and take a picture of yourself, they do this to look slimmer than they really are.
* only one pic and it's by far and away the greatest photo ever taken of them, usually taken anywhere from 1-6 years ago.
She'd be wrong in this case :bigsmile: I'm guess by she (the other girl) is the one that thinks she's hotter... otherwise I'm going to look like an *kitten*
LOL! I was gonna say! I meant that what if the girl with the dating profile posts a photo thinking she's the hotter friend...and in actuality, the majority of guys think her friend is the hotter one. You're forgiven.
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Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Does not compute.
ROTFLMFAO0 -
Equal hotness is doesn't count
Hahah! Nice safe answer. 0 -
Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Does not compute.
ROTFLMFAO
Hahahaha forreals, that line cracked me up too. Hysterical. I have friends that are 4'10" and 5'0" that require men above 5'10"0 -
<<<<<<<<< Like so? LOL. What if the girl thinks that SHE'S the hotter friend? :-(I would add 3 more:
* Every pic contains the same 2 girls, 1 the girl who is looking to date, the other the hottest friend she has.
* They hold the camera up as high as you can and take a picture of yourself, they do this to look slimmer than they really are.
* only one pic and it's by far and away the greatest photo ever taken of them, usually taken anywhere from 1-6 years ago.
She'd be wrong in this case :bigsmile: I'm guess by she (the other girl) is the one that thinks she's hotter... otherwise I'm going to look like an *kitten*
LOL! I was gonna say! I meant that what if the girl with the dating profile posts a photo thinking she's the hotter friend...and in actuality, the majority of guys think her friend is the hotter one. You're forgiven.
Okay but who is hotter is in the eye of the beholder some times. Think if there is one girl who is a tall leggy blonde and the other girl is a shorter curvy Latina, both equal on the face. One guy is going to find the blonde hot and another guy is going to find the Latina hot. I have a friend that I don't find attractive, I think she has a weak chin and looks like Rachel from BB/Amazing Race, but guys love her and are always hitting on her.0 -
<<<<<<<<< Like so? LOL. What if the girl thinks that SHE'S the hotter friend? :-(I would add 3 more:
* Every pic contains the same 2 girls, 1 the girl who is looking to date, the other the hottest friend she has.
* They hold the camera up as high as you can and take a picture of yourself, they do this to look slimmer than they really are.
* only one pic and it's by far and away the greatest photo ever taken of them, usually taken anywhere from 1-6 years ago.
She'd be wrong in this case :bigsmile: I'm guess by she (the other girl) is the one that thinks she's hotter... otherwise I'm going to look like an *kitten*
LOL! I was gonna say! I meant that what if the girl with the dating profile posts a photo thinking she's the hotter friend...and in actuality, the majority of guys think her friend is the hotter one. You're forgiven.
Okay but who is hotter is in the eye of the beholder some times. Think if there is one girl who is a tall leggy blonde and the other girl is a shorter curvy Latina, both equal on the face. One guy is going to find the blonde hot and another guy is going to find the Latina hot. I have a friend that I don't find attractive, I think she has a weak chin and looks like Rachel from BB/Amazing Race, but guys love her and are always hitting on her.
haha a weak chin... are you talking about dating or boxing??0 -
haha a weak chin... are you talking about dating or boxing??
you know when the chin goes into the neck without any real definition, not a double chin as she is skinny.0 -
Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Does not compute.
ROTFLMFAO
Hahahaha forreals, that line cracked me up too. Hysterical. I have friends that are 4'10" and 5'0" that require men above 5'10"
No, I like that he caught the hypocrisy! "I won't date you cause you're friend is hotter" followed shortly by "*****es are so shallow!"
I'll be honest, I'm only 5'6" and I absolutely prefer guys 6'2" and up. It's just what I'm attracted to and no one can make me feel guilty about that. Sure, if I meet someone and they're awesome but shorter than that it doesn't disqualify them, but on the internet I don't really have that to base it off of.0 -
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Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Does not compute.
ROTFLMFAO
Hahahaha forreals, that line cracked me up too. Hysterical. I have friends that are 4'10" and 5'0" that require men above 5'10"
No, I like that he caught the hypocrisy! "I won't date you cause you're friend is hotter" followed shortly by "*****es are so shallow!"
I'll be honest, I'm only 5'6" and I absolutely prefer guys 6'2" and up. It's just what I'm attracted to and no one can make me feel guilty about that. Sure, if I meet someone and they're awesome but shorter than that it doesn't disqualify them, but on the internet I don't really have that to base it off of.
Bahahah! Ok, I see! True that too. Lil slow this morning...waiting for happy hour...:drinker:0 -
I've given up on Internet dating for a while, and this doesn't encourage me to go back *deletes all profiles* I know I am going to be judged, but those things are a pain in the *kitten* to write, and I struggle to not sound like a total geek :blushing: I am guilty of going for generic0
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Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
...
If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Does not compute.
ROTFLMFAO
Hahahaha forreals, that line cracked me up too. Hysterical. I have friends that are 4'10" and 5'0" that require men above 5'10"
No, I like that he caught the hypocrisy! "I won't date you cause you're friend is hotter" followed shortly by "*****es are so shallow!"
I'll be honest, I'm only 5'6" and I absolutely prefer guys 6'2" and up. It's just what I'm attracted to and no one can make me feel guilty about that. Sure, if I meet someone and they're awesome but shorter than that it doesn't disqualify them, but on the internet I don't really have that to base it off of.
jq is a she, fyi.0 -
Ladies, don't post a pic of you next to someone hotter than you. I immediately think to myself "yeah she may be a good girl, but her friend is a serious eye distraction"
...
If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
Does not compute.
ROTFLMFAO
Hahahaha forreals, that line cracked me up too. Hysterical. I have friends that are 4'10" and 5'0" that require men above 5'10"
No, I like that he caught the hypocrisy! "I won't date you cause you're friend is hotter" followed shortly by "*****es are so shallow!"
I'll be honest, I'm only 5'6" and I absolutely prefer guys 6'2" and up. It's just what I'm attracted to and no one can make me feel guilty about that. Sure, if I meet someone and they're awesome but shorter than that it doesn't disqualify them, but on the internet I don't really have that to base it off of.
jq is a she, fyi.
Oh no! I missed an "s"! Quickly, publicly humiliate me so that I may learn my lesson! Shall I bring my own cat-o-nine-tails or will one be provided? /Dramatic LOL
Sorry JQ, I didn't proofread. I know you're not a man, you're one of my favorites
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I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo.
I don't respond to guys who don't have a photo. Wonder if guys do women this way...?.0 -
I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo.
I don't respond to guys who don't have a photo. Wonder if guys do women this way...?.
Usually I wouldn't, but I did one time and she was really cute! Kind of cool too0 -
I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo.
I don't respond to guys who don't have a photo. Wonder if guys do women this way...?.
Yep! Would you buy a car without knowing what it looked like?0 -
This is the reason I don't use online dating.Come on, don't ask if I like sex as an opening line.
Don't create a huge profile filled with soulful information pouring your heart out about the lady you want to meet, and send a message along the lines of "wanna *kitten*?"0 -
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If you are 5'2 and are only looking for 5'10+, burn in H3LL you shallow b1tch.
I liked all your comments Silver, but this one totally cracked me up.
Now - My pet peeves:
Don't create a huge profile filled with soulful information pouring your heart out about the lady you want to meet, and send a message along the lines of "wanna *kitten*?"
Don't post photos of yourself passed out, drinking, smoking, etc. and then write about how you will only date a girl who takes pride in herself and works out regularly. ESPECIALLY if you are significantly out of shape.
Don't post photos of your car, your money, your jewelry, your ____insert expensive item here____ and then b!tch about gold digging women.
Don't get pissed when a girl doesn't respond. Sometimes, she's overwhelmed with messages. Sometimes, she's a diva and you should be glad you didn't get her attention. Sometimes SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU. (If i responded to every message, I'd never log on. I'm a solid 6 on a good day and even I get way too many messages to field)
Don't get defensive when a girl assumes the worst about you at first. We have to these days. Blame your predecessors and your peers.
Don't think negatively of a girl who makes her attraction clear within the first few dates. If you've been chatting online, via text, phone, etc, she probably knows A LOT about you by this point -- as much or more than she would learn if she waited until the 8th date to show you her boobs.
Don't get pissed if she doesn't want to sleep with you on the first date. Or the fourth. Maybe she's still trying to decide whether or not you're worth it.
If you clearly live with your parents, DO NOT brag about your "swag" or go on and on about how you want to buy her anything she wants.
If you think she's out of your league, send a message. Be cool. Don't grovel. Don't be a douche. If she messages you back, lucky you. If she doesn't? DO NOT send 5 more messages professing your love and devotion or cursing and debasing her for being such a "b!tch" and ignoring you. Just don't.
AGREED! Especially the last one... had a guy recently send me message after message after message about how he had waited his whole life to meet someone like me... REALLY? We've never met.0 -
OMG - this thread is hilarious! I really, really wish I had more time to hang out on MFP!0
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I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo.
I don't respond to guys who don't have a photo. Wonder if guys do women this way...?.
The one time I did respond to a guy with no photo.........we emailed/ IM'd for a few days and then I asked for a photo........he refused and said he thought we had a great connection and his photo should not matter to me (though he had seen the ones in my profile). I wouldn't agree to meet him with out first seeing a photo and he freaked.........BLOCK!!!0 -
I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo.
I don't respond to guys who don't have a photo. Wonder if guys do women this way...?.
Yep! Would you buy a car without knowing what it looked like?
Nope, I would go test drive it before buying
I actually got few messages from guys and exchanged pictures with one. I don't see the problem Not everyone wants to have their pics posted online. 0 -
Funny thread.
I agree about the photos. Bathroom shots and a guy on his Harley is just a turnoff for me.
If there are no photos, I won't respond at all. In my defense, I do state that right in my profile! My personal feeling (note I said MY feeling!) is that if a guy won't post a photo, he probably shouldn't be on a dating site. (ie has a wife or SO).
As for height, I also prefer taller men. It's MY preference. I wouldn't call someone a *kitten* because he has a height requirement listed that is taller than me-and YES I have definitely seen it!0
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