A word about online dating profiles
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I actually just put new profile up and didn't add a photo.
I don't respond to guys who don't have a photo. Wonder if guys do women this way...?.
I don't even look at profiles without photos.0 -
note to self ... do not post pictures of myself with friends hotter than myself0
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If a woman has "I love to laugh", I immediately think " f*** you". It's stupid, trite, and over used. I get it. You want to have fun. But, seriously, f*** you and you stupid laugh *kitten*.
If a woman has pics of her pet, f*** you. I am not dating your goddamn pet.
If you don't have a whole body shot, forget it. It doesnt have to be sexy, which I'll get to in a minute, but just a shot of what you look like.
If you have a va va voom shot, forget it. That's just lame.
And, what's up with people that put nothing but group shots? I have no idea which one I'm supposed to look at.
In your profile, don't just say that if I want to know more, to contact you. Put something in there that is unique to you. And, be honest. With all the people that like walks on the beach at sunset, you'd think it would be jam packed everyday. All I know, is I walk out there, and no one is there. Lol. So, be honest about what you like to do and who you are. If you're a couch potato, say that. There are couch potato people that would love to be lazy with you. If you say you like to be active, and then when I meet you, you really aren't, don't you think that's going to be a problem?
I hate when people sound like life is this huge adventure and everyday is a new learning experience. What a bunch of bullsh*t. Be honest. We're all the same, in many ways. We get up, go to work, deal with life, have weekends off, relax, and go on vacation once a year or so. That's it. It's not complicated. Just be simple and be you.
I was messaging with this woman, and in her profile she said that she missed her calling as a comedian. So, I thought awesome. I messages her and we went back and forth about 4 times and I stopped. Why? Wasn't funny at all. Not one time did she even attempt humor. Just very stoic in her responses and matter of fact. I even tried to break it by being funny and she just came back with some matter of fact stuff. I was like, wow! For someone advertising that you're funny, you're really a bore.
Anyway, the online thing is really strange. People lie like crazy, but up false pics, try to sell themselves, but it's all wrong because you will meet someone for all the wrong reasons.
One girl told me that she wouldn't talk to me because I didn't have a Harely, and that's a requirement. Lol. I mean, really? Wow.
So, just be genuine and honest. A full body shot, some nice face shots. Be honest about what you do and what you are looking for, it's simple. Boy meets girl. It's not a game.0 -
Not sure if this has been mentioned but seeing a woman with her profile body type listed as "Athletic", but clearly seeing she is 20-30+ lbs overweight from being "Athletic".0
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Not sure if this has been mentioned but seeing a woman with her profile body type listed as "Athletic", but clearly seeing she is 20-30+ lbs overweight from being "Athletic".
Yeah, I swear every man on Match says they are athletic and toned. Even when they clearly aren't. I guess it's subjective.0 -
Women with only face pictures are called icebergs. Nothing wrong with being overweight just don't hide it. They're called icebergs. Everything under the water you can't see.
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Women with only face pictures are called icebergs. Nothing wrong with being overweight just don't hide it. They're called icebergs. Everything under the water you can't see.
Ohhhhhhhh burn!! That's hilarious!0 -
Not sure if this has been mentioned but seeing a woman with her profile body type listed as "Athletic", but clearly seeing she is 20-30+ lbs overweight from being "Athletic".
I put my body type as 'used up' so I at least have one pleasant surprise when they meet me.
Oh DAMN THAT BTCH IS TALL! oh wait, at least she has a body.... phew0 -
Guys have hot chick radar. When I see a photo with multiple women in it, my eyes will be automatically drawn toward the best looking woman in the photo. In online dating, you are essentially trying to sell yourself, therefore you want the readers attention to be on you, not your hot friend.Well, yeah, there should be multiple pictures of just the profile owner. I was getting the perception, based on the guy who said a hotter friend is an "eye distraction," that if a girl has a hotter friend, she's not worth dating.
Think of it like car shopping. If you see a '86 Honda sitting right next to a brand new BMW (or any car of your dreams), you will be automatically drawn toward the BMW. Even if you are in the market for an '86 Honda and you can't afford the BMW, you still want it more than you want the Honda.
Actually, I hate BMW's and can't stand the interiors. For that single reason, I'll never buy one.
But I get what you're saying. But I think it's a bad analogy because no girl is out of any guys league. And no guy is out of any girls league. You can get anyone with a little planning, confidence and respect.
But a car, is. Because you have to pay for it. But I still don't have an issue with multiple girls in the photo(s).
That reply was hilarious to me.
I always write different/interesting profiles, and I'm pretty sure no one actually reads them. I only ever post 1 photo, because I get bajiggity about slapping my likeness all over the internet. And it's kind of a goofy one at that, but I got a message from one (attractive) guy that just said "it looks like we'd be a terrible match, but that photo is awesome." So I'll probably keep it. Probably would have anyway.
Worse: don't send girls messages that might as well say "I'm desperate and you're just the first profile I saw!" No, I don't want to go over to a complete stranger's house to watch a movie tonight, weirdo. And don't be stupid. The other day I got the message: "You have an amazing smile." Which is true, but I'm not smiling in my profile pic. So how would he know? *facepalm*0 -
Guys have hot chick radar. When I see a photo with multiple women in it, my eyes will be automatically drawn toward the best looking woman in the photo. In online dating, you are essentially trying to sell yourself, therefore you want the readers attention to be on you, not your hot friend.Well, yeah, there should be multiple pictures of just the profile owner. I was getting the perception, based on the guy who said a hotter friend is an "eye distraction," that if a girl has a hotter friend, she's not worth dating.
Think of it like car shopping. If you see a '86 Honda sitting right next to a brand new BMW (or any car of your dreams), you will be automatically drawn toward the BMW. Even if you are in the market for an '86 Honda and you can't afford the BMW, you still want it more than you want the Honda.
Actually, I hate BMW's and can't stand the interiors. For that single reason, I'll never buy one.
But I get what you're saying. But I think it's a bad analogy because no girl is out of any guys league. And no guy is out of any girls league. You can get anyone with a little planning, confidence and respect.
But a car, is. Because you have to pay for it. But I still don't have an issue with multiple girls in the photo(s).
That reply was hilarious to me.
I always write different/interesting profiles, and I'm pretty sure no one actually reads them. I only ever post 1 photo, because I get bajiggity about slapping my likeness all over the internet. And it's kind of a goofy one at that, but I got a message from one (attractive) guy that just said "it looks like we'd be a terrible match, but that photo is awesome." So I'll probably keep it. Probably would have anyway.
Worse: don't send girls messages that might as well say "I'm desperate and you're just the first profile I saw!" No, I don't want to go over to a complete stranger's house to watch a movie tonight, weirdo. And don't be stupid. The other day I got the message: "You have an amazing smile." Which is true, but I'm not smiling in my profile pic. So how would he know? *facepalm*
Because he found you O__________O
LOL, bajiggity.0 -
Don't put "Any questions, feel free to contact me!" in your profile if you don't intend to take the time to reply.
Hahaha so many do this.
I get that the girls here will but most guys are d.bags and send stupid messages, short messages or a picture of their junk bit I don't and I'd like to think I have something to offer and lately I'm getting nothing back lol
Im right there with you.. I get no responses.. you just have really good photos or be there type. Online dating is a hit or miss.0 -
Wow! This thread is even shallow by my standards! Personally, I don't care if it's a bathroom mirror picture or if it's with all of her hot friends. As long as the picture accurate represents who they are, that's all that matters.
My only pet peeve when it comes to dating profiles is the lack of information written in the self summary. How is a guy suppose to send a decent email if you have nothing in your profile?0 -
I need to reiterate something. 95% OF THE PROFILES I SEE ALL SAY THE EXACT SAME THING! "Down to earth", "enjoys spending time with friends and family", "looking for a nice guy", etc. blah blah blah zzzz.....snore. What am I supposed to say to that? "Wow, you seem really...um...boring...I mean neat."
If you're not getting enough emails, try to sound a little interesting or say something random. Put in something that creates a little mystery and gives a guy an obvious question for someone to ask you. Example: some people say they just moved into town, the obvious question is where did they move from. Sometimes people even put too much detail in their profiles, I can't think of anything to ask because they already covered everything.
If you don't want cut and paste messages, then don't have a cut and paste profile.0
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