I need translation

oddyogi

So, randomly texted me this today, and I was going to respond with something along the lines of well we should wait till I get back to discuss things like this in person, so I said fvck it. Now wtf does this all mean?

SL: Question, so what would make what we have going on better for you? Lol
Me: Huh? Why do you ask? Lol
SL: I was just curious
SL: Or you might be content too lol
Me: Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes.
Me: But if you don't see that for us then you should probably let me down easy
SL: Lol, roger that
SL: Nah, I think we're good! Same page right now. You can go back to having fun fun fun cause it's Friday!

And that was it.. W? T? F?

will010574

WTF? I dont get it? Did he just want the ego boost of hearing you say you did in fact want to be bf/gf? A guy needs to have his mind made up before intitiating that convo. You dont start it just to see whats up, that is one where you put your money on the table and play the hand all the way out!

I dont know what to tell you...sorry

oddyogi

I guess I will wait and see what our in-person conversations lead to next week.

I'm almost getting kind of bored of this whole thing. I'm a very impatient person.

And there are other men around that want my attention!

La_Amazona

I'm confuzzled!!!!! He seems passive.. or waiting on you to take the lead but then keeps saying he wants to take it slow.

bruintamer

I guess I will wait and see what our in-person conversations lead to next week.

I'm almost getting kind of bored of this whole thing. I'm a very impatient person.

And there are other men around that want my attention!

Does he know this? Maybe it'll light a fire under his *kitten*!

poncho33

Honestly just think this guy wants to make sure it's right before he commits... not everyone mores at the speed of light!!

dbrightwell1270

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

poncho33

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

Agree! I think he was basically asking if you need the title of a couple now or is taking it slow working for you?

oddyogi

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

Agree! I think he was basically asking if you need the title of a couple now or is taking it slow working for you?

Hmm.. that's what I figured, but then what does the "Nah, I think we're good!" bit mean?

meshashesha2012

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

this.. sounds like you're both waiting for the other to be more active.

"i'm content if you're content, but...." is saying 2 different things all in the same text.

what do YOU want? maybe you should figure that out and not leave it up to him to decide what you want

oddyogi

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

this.. sounds like you're both waiting for the other to be more active.

"i'm content if you're content, but...." is saying 2 different things all in the same text.

what do YOU want? maybe you should figure that out and not leave it up to him to decide what you want

That was pretty much me saying, "Yes I want you to be my boyfriend, but if you're not ready for that yet then I guess that's okay too for now"

meshashesha2012

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

Agree! I think he was basically asking if you need the title of a couple now or is taking it slow working for you?

Hmm.. that's what I figured, but then what does the "Nah, I think we're good!" bit mean?

ask him.
i dont know the complete situation but from what i've seen so far it's like you're both communicating at 50% and somehow trying to make that into a complete conversation.

Tropical_Turtle

Yeah I would so need a translation too -

I am content if you are .... wha??? Just as long as he doesnt leave you feeling like his dirty little secret!!

But I would for sure talk to him next time you see him .... communication!!!

oddyogi

Yeah I would so need a translation too -

I am content if you are .... wha??? Just as long as he doesnt leave you feeling like his dirty little secret!!

But I would for sure talk to him next time you see him .... communication!!!

True, true.. that's why I hesitated even responding to that question since I'm out of town right now. But I figured, what the hay, he asked. His birthday is Monday. Not sure if I'm going to see him Sunday evening when I return to town or not, or even Monday since he works and has softball right after work.

dbrightwell1270

The big problem with the "I'm content if you are" is that you've said in this thread it isn't true. You getting bored and becoming impatient.

I also read the nah I think we're good bit to be a response to your concern he was going to end it with you or didn't see you becoming bf/gf.

r1ghtpath

yeah, i agree. you basically said, " i want whatever you want." not "well, since you asked i'm gonna call you and tell you that i want to be your girlfriend. your steady. your one and only.' :-) smooch smooch smooch!!!

it sounds like he's ok with this middle ground, where things are not defined.... and since you are ok with them too, he isn't gonna rock the boat. you said EVENTUALLY, that could mean MONTHS in guy time!!

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

r1ghtpath

i say, if you're into him, take the leap, take the fall, see where it goes...... if you're not, then move on. find someone that you WANT to jump and fall for! :-)

Roadie2000

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

Agree! I think he was basically asking if you need the title of a couple now or is taking it slow working for you?

Hmm.. that's what I figured, but then what does the "Nah, I think we're good!" bit mean?

I think he was saying no to the letting you down easy part, which means he would like to go steady eventually.

poncho33

It seems from previous post that he has a hard time reading you. Here he asks you what you want, even if it is out of the blue, and you tell him "Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes." He gave you the opportunity to say what you wanted and you passed.

Agree! I think he was basically asking if you need the title of a couple now or is taking it slow working for you?

Hmm.. that's what I figured, but then what does the "Nah, I think we're good!" bit mean?

It means he would rather take it slow... but I think if you would have said "I need you to be my boyfriend" he would have bit

BelMckenzie

I guess I will wait and see what our in-person conversations lead to next week.

I'm almost getting kind of bored of this whole thing. I'm a very impatient person.

And there are other men around that want my attention!

We are totally in the same situation-except we have not had the talk! I'm putting a time limit on my guy since there are plenty of fish in the sea and I don't like waiting around even though I like him so much!

Good luck with SL

catherine4211

I'm not seeing anything bad from what he wrote. But I can't figure out if you want there to be something bad or not. If you are bored with him then move on.

Carl01

SL: Question, so what would make what we have going on better for you? Lol I like you and want more
Me: Huh? Why do you ask? Lol Oh really? :bigsmile:
SL: I was just curious Not sure you did so am a bit nervous
SL: Or you might be content too lol Maybe you don`t want more and I am wrong about that
Me: Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes. Well.I guess I like ya but maybe we could be a couple :blushing:
Me: But if you don't see that for us then you should probably let me down easy Are you sure you want me:
SL: Lol, roger that Uhmm...okay
SL: Nah, I think we're good! Same page right now. You can go back to having fun fun fun cause it's Friday!Sounds like you are not really sure you want more but guess this is good right now so have a great afternoon

LauraMacNCheese

SL: Question, so what would make what we have going on better for you? Lol I like you and want more
Me: Huh? Why do you ask? Lol Oh really? :bigsmile:
SL: I was just curious Not sure you did so am a bit nervous
SL: Or you might be content too lol Maybe you don`t want more and I am wrong about that
Me: Well I'm content if you're content, because I know you don't want to go too fast. But if you're asking if I want you to be my boyfriend eventually or "go steady" (lol) then the answer is yes. Well.I guess I like ya but maybe we could be a couple :blushing:
Me: But if you don't see that for us then you should probably let me down easy Are you sure you want me:
SL: Lol, roger that Uhmm...okay
SL: Nah, I think we're good! Same page right now. You can go back to having fun fun fun cause it's Friday!Sounds like you are not really sure you want more but guess this is good right now so have a great afternoon

I you :flowerforyou:

eduardo_d

He's not getting a good read on you so he's checking in. Moment of paranoia. NBD.

JanieJack

And there are other men around that want my attention!

Does he know this?

Men, I'm curious... what's the "right" way to communicate this to a guy w/o making him think you aren't interested? I lost a guy I was kinda starting to like because he said my casual dating was a sign that I was not interested in him. I thought maybe it was just an excuse since, from what I know, at only 3 weeks in, most guys are seeing others as well. I told him he was welcome to fill up my calender before anyone else could. Wrong answer.

2stepz

Honestly just think this guy wants to make sure it's right before he commits... not everyone mores at the speed of light!!

Reminds me of a "geek" comment related to dating:

While speed of light and speed of sound are constants, the speed of like, speed of lust, and speed of love differ from person to person, and don't even stay in the same order.

dbrightwell1270

And there are other men around that want my attention!

Does he know this?

Men, I'm curious... what's the "right" way to communicate this to a guy w/o making him think you aren't interested? I lost a guy I was kinda starting to like because he said my casual dating was a sign that I was not interested in him. I thought maybe it was just an excuse since, from what I know, at only 3 weeks in, most guys are seeing others as well. I told him he was welcome to fill up my calender before anyone else could. Wrong answer.

Men aren't always direct with women. Women tend to be more verbal and emotional and it is often difficult to talk about feelings with women. You're likely to lose argumentative conversations and you most definitely lose if the tears start coming out. If I said something like I don't know how serious you are since you seem to date a lot. That would mean something like Please tell me where we stand and if you are wasting my time. If you're response was You can have a date if you book before someone else does. I'd most likely be telling the waitress to make my meal to go.

AnnaPixie

And there are other men around that want my attention!

Does he know this?

Men, I'm curious... what's the "right" way to communicate this to a guy w/o making him think you aren't interested? I lost a guy I was kinda starting to like because he said my casual dating was a sign that I was not interested in him. I thought maybe it was just an excuse since, from what I know, at only 3 weeks in, most guys are seeing others as well. I told him he was welcome to fill up my calender before anyone else could. Wrong answer.

Men aren't always direct with women. Women tend to be more verbal and emotional and it is often difficult to talk about feelings with women. You're likely to lose argumentative conversations and you most definitely lose if the tears start coming out. If I said something like I don't know how serious you are since you seem to date a lot. That would mean something like Please tell me where we stand and if you are wasting my time. If you're response was You can have a date if you book before someone else does. I'd most likely be telling the waitress to make my meal to go.

I'm thinking what reaction I would have if a guy said that to me. And I think it would be the same as his!! As in, he's not that bothered and is seeing other people. It definitely sounds casual, almost threatening! If I liked the guy I would just say "I only have time for you ....."..........Isn't that what YOU would want to hear?? (even if it isnt wholly true!) :flowerforyou:

AnnaPixie

As for SL I think he's saying that as long as YOU'RE content, then he is too!!

And I agree with Poncho, if you'd have answered his question in a less casual way, as in - well, I'd like us to move into a steady relationship to make it better - then he would have bit!!

Be assertive Ashleeeeeeeeey, tell him what YOU want not what you think HE wants!! :flowerforyou:

Carl01

And there are other men around that want my attention!

Does he know this?

Men, I'm curious... what's the "right" way to communicate this to a guy w/o making him think you aren't interested? I lost a guy I was kinda starting to like because he said my casual dating was a sign that I was not interested in him. I thought maybe it was just an excuse since, from what I know, at only 3 weeks in, most guys are seeing others as well. I told him he was welcome to fill up my calender before anyone else could. Wrong answer.

It is hard to answer this because so much changes interpretation by the way it is said.
If it was said as read,direct,no emotion then it sounds like you were telling him to either live with things or get lost.
If it was said with a smile,kind of shy and coy sound to your voice,looking him in the eye and touching his shoulder then he would melt.

poncho33

And there are other men around that want my attention!

Does he know this?

Men, I'm curious... what's the "right" way to communicate this to a guy w/o making him think you aren't interested? I lost a guy I was kinda starting to like because he said my casual dating was a sign that I was not interested in him. I thought maybe it was just an excuse since, from what I know, at only 3 weeks in, most guys are seeing others as well. I told him he was welcome to fill up my calender before anyone else could. Wrong answer.

At 3 weeks in most people in single peeps are in a committed relationship as far as I can tell!! I wouldn't call anyone my girlfriend until at least 2 months of dating... Hell at that point I would hardly know them. I don't get why woman would rather hop around looking for (what appears to me) the guy that will claim them as a gf the fastest instead of seeing if it's right before committing to that title. And yes I know you don't want to put all your eggs in one basket, but give me a break, that is just an excuse to not get hurt. Just yesterday someone posted how do you ladies end up with these fuctards... well there is your answer, stop rushing for the title and start getting to know the guy!!

To answer your question, there is no good way to communicate this. The last thing I want to hear from a girl I'm interested in is there are other guys... my response would be good luck with them you have one less to worry about. However I do understand especially early in dating that there are other guys... I just don't want to hear anything about them. You can assume for every 6 dates you go on the guy has probably gone on 1 or 2... so if your worried about other girls stealing your guy, you can ease up a little bit.