Chubby Girls
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I'm actually wondering the same thing. I've seen JJ post this opinion before, and I'm never really sure what it means -- I always took it to mean that guys only try to sleep with chubby girls because they think they're easy, but that could just be my head telling me this is yet another reason why I am singleOK - just quick clarification. I'm just trying to wrap my head around this -- are you saying guys are only attracted to heavier women because they think they're easy? and if they're looking for a more relationship-oriented girl they go for the slim but average looking because pretty girls don't treat them well? I've probably misunderstood what you meant.
Hi. There's two parts to this:
1. My opinion about guys who go after chubby girls because they think (hope) they're easier comes from the guys I work with. I've had a few people in this forum say that must be particular to the military demographic I work with, and I've seen a few guys on this forum who say that rule doesn't apply to them... but... I've noticed that most guys don't touch the comment. Since people are generally quick to say I'm wrong about this and that... I take their silence to mean that (while it may not be true for them, personally) it's generally true for men who are looking for women online, in bars, or any other "popular dating method."
2. The comment about guys looking for average girls to settle down with is absolutely anecdotal and stems from a couple of conversations I had with some guys last week about why I get hit on way less since my promotion, but seem to get a LOT of male attention online. Their perspective was that in person I am too intimidating- too pretty (huh?) and have my act too much together. I'm either gonna use them and then throw them away (like the pretty girls do) or have way too high standards they can never live up to (like they say strong independent women do). But apparently online, I look like a beautiful, fun, and sweet normal girl. I'm hoping that's a compliment, lol.0 -
I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.0
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I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
This as well...
One of my jaded uncles once said to me
"No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her sh%t".
Not sure if that really applies to this here, but I just wanted to share it. He cracks me up!0 -
Just a quick THANK YOU to all the great guys on this site that responded positively to this post. You all made my day!0
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Just a quick THANK YOU to all the great guys on this site that responded positively to this post. You all made my day!
For sure... I'm hoping to someday soon qualify as JUST a chubby girl so this sounds good to me... 25 more lbs to go to just being overweight, haha...who would have guessed there would be such an incentive :bigsmile:0 -
I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
This as well...
One of my jaded uncles once said to me
"No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her sh%t".
Not sure if that really applies to this here, but I just wanted to share it. He cracks me up!
I like that. Im so going to remember that saying.0 -
I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
What?! I feel like this is a really rude, narrow-minded statement. Chances are that it has nothing to do with appearance/size. If someone is rude, they are RUDE, regardless of how much they weigh. Generalizing it by saying that way too many "hot skinny" girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please is just ignorant. It's just as bad as what I've been reading on here lately about how "heavier girls" are "easier targets".0 -
I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
What?! I feel like this is a really rude, narrow-minded statement. Chances are that it has nothing to do with appearance/size. If someone is rude, they are RUDE, regardless of how much they weigh. Generalizing it by saying that way too many "hot skinny" girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please is just ignorant. It's just as bad as what I've been reading on here lately about how "heavier girls" are "easier targets".
I'm sorry you find it rude but it's been my experience too. You won't find that many high maintenance girls who are over weight. It makes sense if you think about it. The hot skinny thing is glamorized in all the magazines and guys are attracted to them en masse. They can be that way because guys will put up with it. The average looking girl is just that - average looking. If she is just as snooty and uppity guys won't put up with it because she is one of many.0 -
I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
What?! I feel like this is a really rude, narrow-minded statement. Chances are that it has nothing to do with appearance/size. If someone is rude, they are RUDE, regardless of how much they weigh. Generalizing it by saying that way too many "hot skinny" girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please is just ignorant. It's just as bad as what I've been reading on here lately about how "heavier girls" are "easier targets".
I'm sorry you find it rude but it's been my experience too. You won't find that many high maintenance girls who are over weight. It makes sense if you think about it. The hot skinny thing is glamorized in all the magazines and guys are attracted to them en masse. They can be that way because guys will put up with it. The average looking girl is just that - average looking. If she is just as snooty and uppity guys won't put up with it because she is one of many.
It's unfair either way. 1. Because there is now this assumption that thinner girls are going to be high maintenance. 2. The women that ARE this way are getting away with treating other people the way that they do.
I guess it's just the world that we live in, but making assumptions about people in general is ridiculous.0 -
It's unfair either way. 1. Because there is now this assumption that thinner girls are going to be high maintenance. 2. The women that ARE this way are getting away with treating other people the way that they do.
I guess it's just the world that we live in, but making assumptions about people in general is ridiculous.
Yeah, I agree. There are a LOT of generalisations on this forum. I guess people just have to go by experience and statistics and come out with an average.
I wouldnt take it personally. Anyone can be a diva, look at Oprah! And her weight is hardly stable! :flowerforyou:
Neither is mine, come to think of it.... :bigsmile:0 -
An unfair but true generalisation...
Yeah, I agree. There are a LOT of generalisations on this forum. I guess people just have to go by experience and statistics and come out with an average.It's unfair either way. 1. Because there is now this assumption that thinner girls are going to be high maintenance. 2. The women that ARE this way are getting away with treating other people the way that they do.
I guess it's just the world that we live in, but making assumptions about people in general is ridiculous.
The good thing about generalisation is that each individual can convince themselves it doesn't apply to them!0 -
Eh...I've known plenty of average or over weight girls who are high maintenance. They are usually the ones who gained a lot of weight after high school or college but still think they're hot ****. I've also known plenty of very attractive girls who are low maintenance and cool (unfortunately they're all married).I'm sorry you find it rude but it's been my experience too. You won't find that many high maintenance girls who are over weight. It makes sense if you think about it. The hot skinny thing is glamorized in all the magazines and guys are attracted to them en masse. They can be that way because guys will put up with it. The average looking girl is just that - average looking. If she is just as snooty and uppity guys won't put up with it because she is one of many.
I suppose generalizations and stereotypes exist for a reason, but I refer not to think like that. In reality everyone is different and I'd rather just get to know someone before I judge them.0 -
Eh...I've known plenty of average or over weight girls who are high maintenance. They are usually the ones who gained a lot of weight after high school or college but still think they're hot ****. I've also known plenty of very attractive girls who are low maintenance and cool (unfortunately they're all married).I'm sorry you find it rude but it's been my experience too. You won't find that many high maintenance girls who are over weight. It makes sense if you think about it. The hot skinny thing is glamorized in all the magazines and guys are attracted to them en masse. They can be that way because guys will put up with it. The average looking girl is just that - average looking. If she is just as snooty and uppity guys won't put up with it because she is one of many.
I suppose generalizations and stereotypes exist for a reason, but I refer not to think like that. In reality everyone is different and I'd rather just get to know someone before I judge them.
I think you are doing the wrong conditional probabilities in your mind. The probability of being high maintenance given that girl is skinny is less than the probability of not being high maintenance given that the girl is skinny. What I was refering to was the probaility of being skinny given that girl is high maintennace is greater than the probability of being average or overweight given that the girl is high maintanence.0 -
I'm a fool for a pretty face!0
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I suppose generalizations and stereotypes exist for a reason, but I refer not to think like that. In reality everyone is different and I'd rather just get to know someone before I judge them.
^^ This exactly!0 -
I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
This as well...
One of my jaded uncles once said to me
"No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her sh%t".
Not sure if that really applies to this here, but I just wanted to share it. He cracks me up!
I like that. Im so going to remember that saying.
I can't believe you never heard that one before. I've known about that saying for a while.0 -
I suspect that the majority of the hot skinny chicks probably do NOT think of themselves as that way and have insecurities just like the rest of us. And those insecurities are probably just perceived as stuck up, high maintenance, etc. I have friends IRL of varying sizes and every single one of them has some sort of insecurity about her body. Not a stuck up one in the bunch.
Therefore, I believe perception leads to stereotypes which may have some shade of truth but more than likely involves assumptions and the stereotypers own insecurity.0 -
I understand what you're saying, and based on all the people I've known I still don't necessarily agree. The odds of a high maintenance Girl being hot may be higher than the odds of a high maintenance girl being not hot, but probably not much greater than some people would think. I'd say it has more to do with how they were raised, how much money they had, and if their parents were still together.I think you are doing the wrong conditional probabilities in your mind. The probability of being high maintenance given that girl is skinny is less than the probability of not being high maintenance given that the girl is skinny. What I was refering to was the probaility of being skinny given that girl is high maintennace is greater than the probability of being average or overweight given that the girl is high maintanence.0 -
The way I've heard it was:I find they are alot nicer and down to earth. Way too many hot skinny girls are difficult to get along with and hard to please.
This as well...
One of my jaded uncles once said to me
"No matter how hot she is, someone, somewhere, is sick of her sh%t".
Not sure if that really applies to this here, but I just wanted to share it. He cracks me up!
I like that. Im so going to remember that saying.
I can't believe you never heard that one before. I've known about that saying for a while.
"Behind every hot chick is a guy that tired of fu**ing her"0 -
I'm very attractive to chubbier women.0
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I'm 21, and a size 14, dating is definitely hard because it's mostly older men who don't mind my size and not that I'm opposed, but I haven't had great experiences with older men. Looks like I won't be dating till I'm 30. :frown:0
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Health and confidence are key. I think looks are a lot less important once you reach that point.0
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they just think we're chubby.0
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I actually want to know what constitutes "chubby". I'm thinking it varies with everyone.... For women does it go by size? At a 10 are you chubby?, 12? 14?0
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I actually want to know what constitutes "chubby". I'm thinking it varies with everyone.... For women does it go by size? At a 10 are you chubby?, 12? 14?
An article that hit me hard when I lost weight the first time was from “Fitness” about this one workout instructor who knew she had to change her life when she became so fat that she was wearing size 12. I personally don’t think size 12 is fat, but it made me cry to think that people would still consider me fat when I’d gone through such extreme effort to get down to 10/12.0 -
I actually want to know what constitutes "chubby". I'm thinking it varies with everyone.... For women does it go by size? At a 10 are you chubby?, 12? 14?
An article that hit me hard when I lost weight the first time was from “Fitness” about this one workout instructor who knew she had to change her life when she became so fat that she was wearing size 12. I personally don’t think size 12 is fat, but it made me cry to think that people would still consider me fat when I’d gone through such extreme effort to get down to 10/12.
Clothes size doesn't determine if you are fat/chubby or not. On me, I am 5'5 with a small frame, a size 12 does look BIG. As a size 8 I still feel chubby as I still have a lot of extra fat around my stomach, upper thighs and arms. But if you have someone that is 5'9 with a large frame and a size 12 would look awesome and fit and probably even look smaller then me.0 -
I actually want to know what constitutes "chubby". I'm thinking it varies with everyone.... For women does it go by size? At a 10 are you chubby?, 12? 14?
An article that hit me hard when I lost weight the first time was from “Fitness” about this one workout instructor who knew she had to change her life when she became so fat that she was wearing size 12. I personally don’t think size 12 is fat, but it made me cry to think that people would still consider me fat when I’d gone through such extreme effort to get down to 10/12.
Clothes size doesn't determine if you are fat/chubby or not. On me, I am 5'5 with a small frame, a size 12 does look BIG. As a size 8 I still feel chubby as I still have a lot of extra fat around my stomach, upper thighs and arms. But if you have someone that is 5'9 with a large frame and a size 12 would look awesome and fit and probably even look smaller then me.
Obviously, clothing size is not the determining factor. I think all the ladies should just send nude pics of themselves to all the guys on Single Peeps. We'll get together (eventually) and provide a list of who is chubby and who is not.0 -
Obviously, clothing size is not the determining factor. I think all the ladies should just send nude pics of themselves to all the guys on Single Peeps. We'll get together (eventually) and provide a list of who is chubby and who is not.
:laugh: yeah right! Dream on David :laugh:
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Clothes size doesn't determine if you are fat/chubby or not.
Oh definitely!
I am chubby for sure, and I wear a size 12 and I'm 5'8. Looking at mybodygallery.com, girls that are 5'8 and a size 12 do not look like me! I am much bigger than most of them.0 -
Obviously, clothing size is not the determining factor. I think all the ladies should just send nude pics of themselves to all the guys on Single Peeps. We'll get together (eventually) and provide a list of who is chubby and who is not.
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I know I'm chubby. But I'm working on it. I'm already more confident in how I look, even though I'm not fit yet. I'll get there. But if a guy doesn't want to get to know me, then it's his loss. I'm awesome.
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