Do you know you are being "hit on"?
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I am oblivious. Not as bad as I used to be but still clueless. I once had a girl undoing my pants with her teeth. I wasn't like oh hell yeah this is awesome. I was thinking, how the hell did we get here without me having a clue that she was interested.0
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I can usually tell, it's pretty easy. When they say "That shirt is very becoming on you, and if I was on you I'd be coming too," that means they're hitting on you.
If they say "Good morning" and then mention something about the weather they are likely just being friendly. But if it's something in between it's generally all about body language. If he's staring at your cleavage he wants you, if he's staring off into space he probably doesn't.0 -
I am oblivious. Not as bad as I used to be but still clueless. I once had a girl undoing my pants with her teeth. I wasn't like oh hell yeah this is awesome. I was thinking, how the hell did we get here without me having a clue that she was interested.
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That' s pretty oblivious!!!0 -
It's in the eyes. I also look at body language.
There is a big difference between a man being "friendly" and "hitting on you." But there is also that inbetween... that flirty friendly... which is harder to read than the straight up hit. In that case, I just smile brightly and do the friendly flirt thing right back. It's like I have this button that just gets pushed when I realize a man is flirting with me... lol... and I turn into smiles and eyes...and my voice changes, too... LOL
Some people are the complete opposite, though. I have a friend who seems to think every man she talks to wants her body! LOL0 -
I'm working on not staring at my beer bottle or the floor when I'm out so I'm paying more attention to my surroundings.
Oooh me too! It's sometimes like information overload when I try to look around, but I'm getting darn sick of staring at people's feet! Plus if you stare down like that all the time, they probably just think you're crotch-gazing anyway! I really have to stop being so shy, it isn't helping my cause at all!0 -
Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!
What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:0 -
I never have a clue. And when I like someone on a date I am never convinced they feel the same unless they spell it out for me. I am inept when it comes to "signs" I guess.0
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Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!
What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HqY9Ie74v8 0 -
I struggle too. For instance I read in a magazine that if a guy says like "oh it would be fun to do
" it means he wants f
to do that with you. One time a guy mentioned rock climbing to me and I said back "that would be fun!
If you ever wanna do it let me know." I thought he was hitting on me. Needless to say he never asked me out.0 -
Unless a guy actually says "would you like to go for a drink? or 'here's my number, call me" etc, then I just think men are as friendly as I am :bigsmile:
Me to a T. I'm really shy around guys so being hit on is over my head.0 -
lol not even close0
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Totally clueless...Unless its a very obvious double take or" hey would you like to get a coffee/drink"
I think my clueless-ness leads me to feel I'm invisible..I search for some sign..OR I am invisible and no one is interested. I prefer to think I'm clueless...that means someone out there is interested and I just need them to be less subtle.0 -
Totally clueless...Unless its a very obvious double take or" hey would you like to get a coffee/drink"
I think my clueless-ness leads me to feel I'm invisible..I search for some sign..OR I am invisible and no one is interested. I prefer to think I'm clueless...that means someone out there is interested and I just need them to be less subtle.0 -
Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!
What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:
Maybe it's called "something else" in England.... :laugh: here ya go...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture)0 -
Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!
What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HqY9Ie74v8
Thanks Nerps :flowerforyou:
What came first, the hand gesture or the song?? I can't imagine people singing that seriously?0 -
Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!
What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:
Maybe it's called "something else" in England.... :laugh: here ya go...
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture)
Nope, the only gesture I've seen like that was shown to me by a couple of lesbian friends I know. But they made use of the thumb too!!!
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Totally clueless...Unless its a very obvious double take or" hey would you like to get a coffee/drink"
I think my clueless-ness leads me to feel I'm invisible..I search for some sign..OR I am invisible and no one is interested. I prefer to think I'm clueless...that means someone out there is interested and I just need them to be less subtle.
Definitely clueless! You're beautiful!0 -
I have to be honest,if it was something obvious my first thought would still be that it was maybe a practical joke or she was really making fun of me. :ohwell:0
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Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!
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I used to think everyone who was nice to me was actually hitting on me (I know, I know, lol!). Then I overheard some coworkers making fun of me behind my back and realized that most were either just being nice/friendly guys, or just trying to win a dare from their buddies. That was a couple years ago.
So then I flipped sides and believed that no one could possibly be interested romantically. Maybe my ex was right- I was fat and ugly and no one wanted me. So when guys were making chit-chat I didn't realize they were trying to gauge interest and, with my silence unknowingly shut them down.
I'm getting better at learning the signals now (smiling at you a lot, open stance, touching your arm if he's close by, doing stuff he normally doesn't do for others, behaving differently when you come around, stuff like that), but I still have to the fight the feeling that that they aren't serious about liking me (I’m so thankful for the ones who come straight out and ask for my number). That it's just a joke to laugh with their buddies later. Or just a way to pass the time. Or just a "lonely moment."
I was thinking about this thread today when the guy sitting next to me in our conference kept trying to talk to me about dumb stuff. I'm not very smiley at work. Or chit-chatty. I'm glad I realized what was going on eventually and actually smiled at him. His whole demeanor opened up and he got my chair, drink, etc during lunch. I probably won't see him again, but the rest of the day was much more fun once I realized that he was, indeed, flirting.0
