Am I just that bad or what?
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I am holding a small infant in one of my pics, and I clearly label that it is not my own kid. I would guess that picture is positively perceived.
Hmmm, you might want to reconsider that only because if someone doesn't read the caption or the rest of the profile they may assume you already have a kid. Especially since you won't date anyone with kids either, you don't want to be turning anyone off who otherwise might be interested.
I disagree with that, but maybe I am one of the few that read the profile as well as look at the photos. I like the photos of men with kids since it shows them as a potential father which is what I am looking for out of a partner since I want kids. But I also prefer to date men with no kids, so if I see a photo with a kid, I will try to figure out if it is theirs or not.
Oh yeah Dave, I thought you disagreed with online dating....
In the picture, I am standing with the father of the child (my cousin). So there's a total of 3 people in the picture. I clearly label the picture "Standing With My Cousin, Holding His Newborn".
Yes, I do not think highly of online dating. But my profiles are out there. I think the best ways to meet people for the most meaningful relationships are through the friend of friend network and your day to day activities.0 -
seems like your all overthinking this... basically shoot for the best pics and keep the thing simple and interesting. You could have the best profile and pics in the world and at best your going to go 1 for 15 in replies.0
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seems like your all overthinking this... basically shoot for the best pics and keep the thing simple and interesting. You could have the best profile and pics in the world and at best your going to go 1 for 15 in replies.
I thought you were 1 for 33... does that mean you don't have the best profile or pics in the WORLD?! You better fix that
I'm 4 for 30 myself in the first month...I clearly need work too, heehee...though at least it's better than the 0 for 100 I did the last time. What the heck did I change? Oh yeah, I lowered my standards, HAHA! Man, online dating is such a train wreck....0 -
I am holding a small infant in one of my pics, and I clearly label that it is not my own kid. I would guess that picture is positively perceived.
Hmmm, you might want to reconsider that only because if someone doesn't read the caption or the rest of the profile they may assume you already have a kid. Especially since you won't date anyone with kids either, you don't want to be turning anyone off who otherwise might be interested.
I disagree with that, but maybe I am one of the few that read the profile as well as look at the photos. I like the photos of men with kids since it shows them as a potential father which is what I am looking for out of a partner since I want kids. But I also prefer to date men with no kids, so if I see a photo with a kid, I will try to figure out if it is theirs or not.
Oh yeah Dave, I thought you disagreed with online dating....
In the picture, I am standing with the father of the child (my cousin). So there's a total of 3 people in the picture. I clearly label the picture "Standing With My Cousin, Holding His Newborn".
Yes, I do not think highly of online dating. But my profiles are out there. I think the best ways to meet people for the most meaningful relationships are through the friend of friend network and your day to day activities.
I always read the labels on the pictures. Some times it gives a more clues then the picture does about the person. I can usually also get a good sense on when the picture was taken. My current profile is hidden but I have dated my pictures as well so people will not think they are old. I need some new ones though as a couple are about to hit the one year mark.0 -
seems like your all overthinking this... basically shoot for the best pics and keep the thing simple and interesting. You could have the best profile and pics in the world and at best your going to go 1 for 15 in replies.
I thought you were 1 for 33... does that mean you don't have the best profile or pics in the WORLD?! You better fix that
I'm 4 for 30 myself in the first month...I clearly need work too, heehee...though at least it's better than the 0 for 100 I did the last time. What the heck did I change? Oh yeah, I lowered my standards, HAHA! Man, online dating is such a train wreck....
I've been told by many I have a very good or best profile they have seen. Pics who knows... I can only look like what I look like, take it or leave it. I said at "best" 1 for 15. Personally I'm about 1 for 38 now. It's a huge joke in my eyes, but at the same time I find it entertaining.0 -
I like pics of guys with a kid (that's not theirs). If I'm interested, these pics make my ovaries quiver. :blushing:
But make sure it's not your main profile pic (because I don't read.. I just look and decide... Yeah, I'm shallow) and make sure it's labeled.0 -
I like pics of guys with a kid (that's not theirs). If I'm interested, these pics make my ovaries quiver. :blushing:
But make sure it's not your main profile pic (because I don't read.. I just look and decide... Yeah, I'm shallow) and make sure it's labeled.
Yes, the pic I was referring to is not a main pic and it is labeled.0 -
I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.0
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I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.
I don't think men really have that many options when describing their body type. He can't put Curvy or BBW down. Most men are either average, athletic and ton, slender, or heavyset.0 -
I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.
I don't think men really have that many options when describing their body type. He can't put Curvy or BBW down. Most men are either average, athletic and ton, slender, or heavyset.
Right, and at worst he should put down "average". He looks good to me but I'm just saying maybe a girl sees "heavyset" and passes him by before even going any further.0 -
I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.
I don't think men really have that many options when describing their body type. He can't put Curvy or BBW down. Most men are either average, athletic and ton, slender, or heavyset.
Right, and at worst he should put down "average". He looks good to me but I'm just saying maybe a girl sees "heavyset" and passes him by before even going any further.
You're both right. In the US, "heavyset" is "average."
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That's what I would say too. The OP should be picking "average". He might be getting overlooked by many unnecessarily for the "heavyset" selection.I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.
I don't think men really have that many options when describing their body type. He can't put Curvy or BBW down. Most men are either average, athletic and ton, slender, or heavyset.
Right, and at worst he should put down "average". He looks good to me but I'm just saying maybe a girl sees "heavyset" and passes him by before even going any further.
You're both right. In the US, "heavyset" is "average."
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Yeah, the whole heavy set thing is merely because it's the closest thing to "Few Pounds Over." I am pretty much average now, at least for an American. Ha. Also, toots I weighed 300 lbs 3 months ago, I still am very much in the heavyset mindset.(<- putting those two words together made me giggle.)
I updated my POF quite a bit. Actually have a date tomorrow night. I took a lot of the advice from here. Including updating the profile, pushing very quickly for a first date, and focusing on dating more compatible(less attractive) woman.
I will keep you updated on my progress but I think this should go well. I haven't went on a blind date in a very long time so I hope I don't f it up by being awkward. I am very good at being awkward so we shall see.
Friday is my birthday, so I think I am due some birthday luck.
I appreciate all the awesome advice and brutal honesty is what I prefer. There is a time to be nice and time to just put it where it goes.0 -
Yay! A date! Good luck with it, and if you eff it up.... don't worry about it! You will have successfully launched yourself back into dating and she wasn't the one for you.
If you have good chemistry with someone, she will put up with all kinds of awkward on the first date. If you don't have good chemistry, nothing is likely to come of things anyway, so no need to pressure yourself into making sure you don't make any blunders. Just be yourself. I can't wait to hear how it goes. 0 -
time to just put it where it goes.
That's what she said.0 -
Also, toots I weighed 300 lbs 3 months ago, I still am very much in the heavyset mindset.(<- putting those two words together made me giggle.)
I know the feeling! I struggled a bit with what to put on there myself. You look great, you should be proud. 0 -
The date went very well. She seemed to really like me. We clicked. I can't think of a negative thing to say.
Was it an oh my god passionate date? Nope, we just walked and rode rides at the fair.
I had a great time and tonight is my birthday get together at Oaklawn Racetrace(casino portion). Let's hope that people show up. 0 -
Woo hoo! You don't need OMG passionate for the first time you meet someone. That you really clicked is a very good first date! I hope you'll have a second soon.
Happy birthday! Have a great time!0 -
The date went very well. She seemed to really like me. We clicked. I can't think of a negative thing to say.
Was it an oh my god passionate date? Nope, we just walked and rode rides at the fair.
I had a great time and tonight is my birthday get together at Oaklawn Racetrace(casino portion). Let's hope that people show up.
What?! No hands up her shirt on the ferris wheel? I'm disappointed.
Just kidding. Great job man.0 -
So.. is this picture one you guys were referring to? Like of me going out with friends?0
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Yes it shows you are social.0
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Hey Bro,
Nothing is wrong with you. Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails and probably will not get to your email.. if they do, it's a 50 - 50 chance when it comes to them responding. I'm just like Poncho. I'll send out 30 emails within a month and probably will get 1 or 2 emails back. You have to have thick skin for online dating. I agree with others. Make your profile fun but also point out the things that you want.
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Hey Bro,
Nothing is wrong with you. Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails and probably will not get to your email.. if they do, it's a 50 - 50 chance when it comes to them responding. I'm just like Poncho. I'll send out 30 emails within a month and probably will get 1 or 2 emails back. You have to have thick skin for online dating. I agree with others. Make your profile fun but also point out the things that you want.
Jarnard
Yeah and having some success has really helped with my thick skin. I have trouble dating multiple people at the same time, so I am not the best fisher.0 -
I was a little late to the party...0
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Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails
Jarnard
I wish that was true! :laugh:0 -
Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails
Jarnard
I wish that was true! :laugh:
Haha, I'll let you know when I hit a hundred. It may be 2014 at this rate :laugh: Then again, I'm on the free sites...those will be an entertaining 100 emails so at least I have that going, haha...0 -
Date Number 2 tonight:
I invited her out to Outback. She really seems interested in going. The old me would immediately assume it's for a free meal and night out. The new me knows that a single mom isn't going to just spend her time away from her kiddo with just anyone.
Any advice for me? I am still getting used to this whole dating thing.
I also have a lunch date with a friend tomorrow but she has expressed interest in dating just lunch is the only time that she is available.
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Date Number 2 tonight:
I invited her out to Outback. She really seems interested in going. The old me would immediately assume it's for a free meal and night out. The new me knows that a single mom isn't going to just spend her time away from her kiddo with just anyone.
Any advice for me? I am still getting used to this whole dating thing.
I also have a lunch date with a friend tomorrow but she has expressed interest in dating just lunch is the only time that she is available.
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Awesome!! Just be yourself and if that isn't good enough then F her and on to the next.
Oh and don't just settle because she is the first date in awhile...0 -
I'm glad you aren't suspicious that your date is just out for a free meal. Most of us ladies aren't that poor and hungry that we would endure a second date with someone who we didn't enjoy spending time with. :laugh: Obviously, both women think you are worth spending their time on.Date Number 2 tonight:
I invited her out to Outback. She really seems interested in going. The old me would immediately assume it's for a free meal and night out. The new me knows that a single mom isn't going to just spend her time away from her kiddo with just anyone.
Any advice for me? I am still getting used to this whole dating thing.
I also have a lunch date with a friend tomorrow but she has expressed interest in dating just lunch is the only time that she is available.
Opinions?
No advice but have fun at both dates! Just be yourself and enjoy the time out. And above all, come back and report to us how the dates go! :flowerforyou:0 -
Before the date, take a few stiff shots and clean the pipes one good time.
During the date, don't bring up video games, PC specs or things such as theories of quantum relativity.0
