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there's no point man, all the guys have me on ignore cause their close minded sht doesnt apply to me and it grosses/weirds them out that there is this old chick running around acting like she is still something hot when obviously she is 8 years past her expiration date.0
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there's no point man, all the guys have me on ignore cause their close minded sht doesnt apply to me and it grosses/weirds them out that there is this old chick running around acting like she is still something hot when obviously she is 8 years past her expiration date.
You must sleep in a tub of dry ice.0 -
DM - I can promise you that turning 30 isn't bad. It really isn't. When I was about to turn 30, I had my own reservations about it so I decided to make it an unforgettable experience. I made arrangements to travel to Taiwan and had my Taiwanese friend who lived there show me around (who also worked as a tour guide - how convenient, eh?).
When the day came that I went from 29 to 30, it felt very natural and relaxing. It was like stepping over an invisible threshold that I had not expected to be before me. I moved into that next chapter of my life seamlessly and it wasn't long before I stopped feeling like a giant "3-0." I felt this unexpected peace and realiized that life was far from over, and began feeling excited like it was just beginning.
I sincerely look back at my 20s as something I don't exactly miss, but learned greatly from. The woman I was at 23 - 28 was a depressed, demoralized, frustrated, financially distraught version of the woman I am today. We are all on our own unique timetables, and frankly I can't blame anyone who came my way back then and was perhaps turned off by my negativity or other undesirable traits.
I guess I am telling you this to give you a little bit of hope that turning 30 will not be as frightening as you have implied it is for you. I hope you cross the threshold like I did and have the same peaceful, liberating experience with a renewed hope for your future in regard to finding a mate.
Understand, too, that your soulmate might still be a "work in process" at the moment (as I was in my 20s.... and still am in some ways), and when the time is right, the two of you will meet and it will be right. You may be ready for her right now, but she isn't quite ready for you yet. Be patient with her
. When you finally meet her, I think you will be glad that things worked out the way they did, even though it is impossible to foresee that at the moment. 0 -
HOWEVER - there is an entire other demographic out there. A good portion of that demographic has no desire for children (though some do and are not worried about not having them at exactly age 27) so they are not encumbered by ANY timeline other than... when is hurricane season and is it going to endanger my wreck-diving adventure in the Carribbean?
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:flowerforyou: Love this!! Seriously. I'm still a baby in my work, and I'm just approaching my prime in, er, other areas. I'd have been a ghastly girlfriend/wife in my mid-twenties, or rather, I'd probably have settled for someone who wasn't really right for me, just for the perceived 'validation' of having that title. No matter how much I sometimes loathe being single, I'm eternally grateful not to be lumbered with a bad partner/ex to add to the luggage on the trip.
Please don't go - I'd miss you too! And by the way, serious kudos on your loss - I just read your ticker properly, and am majorly impressed. I'm a little over halfway on not-too-dissimilar statistics, and getting frustrated with being 'stuck', so my respect for someone who made it all the way to what sometimes seems like an impossible goal is huge. If I had the option of a cheer-section in smiley's, you'd be getting one! :drinker:0 -
Perhaps if I still lived in a regular smallish American town, I would feel differently about where I am in regards to my prime. But here in NYC im just a baby about to reach her peak.
Ditto London - here the 'masters of the universe' and their female equivalents - the so-called 'great catches' - are 30-plus, at the very least. Unless what's really meant is 24-27 year old nubile, mold-able Stepfords. I wonder...?
Ditto Boston.
i think they MUST be talking about the best moldable age for women. I have no desire to be a stepford wife or trained to be something just right for him. Maybe what they mean is that you should get married by 24-27 if you aren't awesome and youre bad at dating and you just want to settle and make babies.
HOWEVER - there is an entire other demographic out there. A good portion of that demographic has no desire for children (though some do and are not worried about not having them at exactly age 27) so they are not encumbered by ANY timeline other than... when is hurricane season and is it going to endanger my wreck-diving adventure in the Carribbean?
Hurricane season starts in June and runs through Nov 16th:bigsmile:
You have to stay though. I for one enjoy everyones view point on here even if it makes me shake my head and rub my eye. It just reminds me that every single person is different and unique. I personally am having waaaaayyy more fun in my 30's then I did in my 20's and I have 2 kids. Its alot about mindset. The most importnat thing at any age is to love YOURSELF and be happy with who you are. Then you portray confidence and others want to be around you. Nothing against 20's somethings in here but the confidence you have in your 20's is way different from the confidence you build in your 30's0 -
Yes you also have the right to not be interested in someone (!), but I was just saying that >often< there is this childish attitude from people of all ages:
Or perhaps we genuinely aren't interested, and it has nothing to do with being hurt -ever thought of that? The little interest I do get tends to be from men much younger than I am - early twenties on average.We often say "I wouldn't be interested in a xyz type person anyway" whereas in reality we are just hurt because the other person wasn't really interested in us first, so we make as if it is our choice to not be interested (example: "I wouldn't be interested in dating a 29 y.o. man").
- I don't like you!
- Well, I >>didn't<< like you either anyway...
The lie is on "didn't", because it is reassuring to think we are in control and we chose - actively - to not like the other person (whereas we didn't really have the choice).
Of course there a lot of people still desirable after 27 - I'm not sure anyone said the contrary to be honest (or I didn't read it the same as you).THE POINT is that there are a LOT of people that are desirable singles after the age of 27, the dating pool is smaller, yes. But there are plenty of men and women who reach their prime in their thirties, and that's when they are looking to settle down.
Apart from that, yes we are obviously talking about moldable 24-27 nubile women, who aren't awesome and who are bad at dating. Obviously. :noway:
I'm not sure "who" is getting hurt about "what" in this thread to be honest... Sure some words that have been used are ambiguous (but nobody was rude or attacked someone else as far as I can tell), but these words are just one posters' opinion and - I repeat - do not reflect MFP view on the matter (if we care about their view at all :laugh: ).
Do people really feel that they need to convince others that they are still awesome at their age? You are either strong in the knowledge that you are awesome and can laugh and debate about what is being said here, or you are still not totally convinced yourself that you are awesome and need the external validation from people here (which would surprise me!).
I for one will turn 30 soon too, go out mainly with single people in the 30-35 years old range, we do nonsensical things and I have had more fun in the last year than in the previous 5. 30 y.o. is 26 y.o in base 12. My second youth! :laugh:
(this thread has turned into quite the debate, it's funny! :laugh: )0 -
I miss our old cat that died two years ago more than I miss any of my exes.
Guess that tells me what my future holds.
More pu$$y?
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Flam - The reason so many sexy 30 somethings are up in arms is because of THIS QUOTE.
" The best singles are off the market after that. "
I'm not sure if there is another way to interpret, which is why I took the time to explain and was completely blown off.
I've got to say, I fuggin' adore the amount of ladies who are coming on here and past the "expiration date" to prove that they are still awesome and will continue to be awesome for some time. As I said before, I might still be in the "desirable" range, but it's likely I won't settle down until after I've expired and I assure you it will be with something that's worth my while and doesn't judge me like a b*tch based on AKC standards.0 -
The best singles are off the market after that.
translation- every btch in this group older than 27 is leftovers no one wanted. good luck.0 -
doesn't judge me like a b*tch based on AKC standards.
Okay that made me spit out my drink. :drinker:0 -
Age is but a ****ing number. It's how you decide to live that life. In my 20's I wasnt living life. I was in a 500 lb shell. I'm 32 now and feel more alive than ever before and as I keep dropping weight, getting more fit, the confidence just grows. Screw the market mentality. This goes to both the men and women on here.0
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I ABSOLUTELY admit a huge part of me not liking a 29 year old guy is the knowledge that he probably isn't interested in me! But it isn't brought on by a "childish" response of " I don't like you.. well I don't like you either". I actually PREFER men older than me(Note to self: google "daddy issues" later).
I know who I attract.. and this fact that they are attracted to me is kind of how that whole reciprocal love/attraction thing starts for me. Well that and I'd feel like a cougar with someone under 30. And honestly he probably wouldn't be emotionally mature enough. But I digress. Back to ME.
Imagine if I only lusted after mid-20's Adonises who are looking to be with perky 21 year olds.. um.. I'd be crying my 34 year old self to sleep every night with my tattered copy of Romeo and Juliet and a pint of Haagen Dazs beside me surrounded by dozens of yowling cats.
No.. I may be an equal opportunity lust-er...but I have the sense enough to know who would and would not be a good fit for me at this point..and it isn't likely going to be a younger guy. For many reasons. So while part of that decision is certainly their choice, an equal part is mine. I don't feel I'm settling or missing out in any way. Or at least that's what I tell myself at 2 am while I'm cleaning out the litterboxes, sobbing and rocking myself to sleep! Oh, Romeo....
I am 34, currently overweight, in some debt, haven't figured out my passion/perfect career in life yet and may or may not ever want to get married or have kids. I am a little narcissistic, get hurt easily, might come across needy and/or dramatic on any given day and can be incredibly impatient. Total package, right?
But here's the thing. I honestly and truly don't give a crap about fitting into the right category, being marriage material, a "prime" catch or the ultimate single woman...because I am TOTALLY AWESOME. And I firmly believe that someone also TOTALLY AWESOME will appreciate that.. hell enough of the partially awesome already do.. so clearly I'm only a step away from bliss!
I am flawed, clearly. CLEARLY. But still awesome. Maybe not on the internet. But in real life. Sometimes. Thursday to Sunday. 10-2. If I'm not sick.. or hungover. And probably only if I'm not bloated too. Damn sodium. And not so good in November. It rains a lot here. But back to me and my awesomeness. And just because you said I shouldn't.. I agree.. I don't even need to tell you all the reasons why I am so awesome here. I'm simply that confident that on any given Friday at 1:43 pm (aforementioned conditions not withstanding) you could walk into my office and fall completely head over heels in love with me.
And I just might fall completely head over heels in love with you too! But only if you're mid-thirties..and probably divorced..with some baggage.. and you can spell.. and you're super funny and you're over 6".. and you shave your head.. and you don't mind all the sobbing and the cats.0 -
doesn't judge me like a b*tch based on AKC standards.
Okay that made me spit out my drink. :drinker:
I'm glad someone caught it, haha!And I just might fall completely head over heels in love with you too! But only if you're mid-thirties..and probably divorced..with some baggage.. and you can spell.. and you're super funny and you're over 6".. and you shave your head.. and you don't mind all the sobbing and the cats.
Where is your office? I need to walk in and fall in love with you. You won't love me back but I can pine in private with my own cats (there's less yowling now that they're all spayed haha).0 -
Y'know I've mentioned before that I use my dad as a measure to what I expect out of a man (Intelligent, hard working, loyal, good looking and funny).
My dad was 32 when he met my mother and 37 when I was born. I believe that's why I've always been into older guys. They've got their **** together and I think it's ultra sexy when a guy is into his life and career, not just planning it out.
The reason I say "older man" is because I am more into where a person is at in their life, and that tends to be older gents (one of the guys I have a crush on here at work is 38 and he won't date me cause I'm too young, sad face!), which is fine. But you don't catch me running around saying how anyone between certain ages should just be written off. If I met a dude a couple years my junior and he had all of these qualities I wouldn't give a second thought.
Sure if I was looking to settle down I could find someone tomorrow to be exclusive with, get married and pop a baby or three out (I assume, this guy seems quite smitten with me no matter how many times I've told him it's a no go), but I'd rather wait until I'm not longer desirable and find a guy that is, I guess, equally undesirable.0 -
Maybe living on an island full of 25-40 year old singles kicking *kitten* 24/7, not sleeping, having no kids (nor plans to) and everyone killing themselves reaching for the stars to kick *kitten* together as a collective statement about survival of the fittest being part of our daily mindset... takes me out of the normal dating world and its traditional patterns, standards and time lines.
Perhaps if I still lived in a regular smallish American town, I would feel differently about where I am in regards to my prime. But here in NYC im just a baby about to reach her peak.
Im sure through conversations with various individuals in their thirties, one could sympathize. But I honestly dont think that a 29 year old man can truly know what it is like to be a single 33 year old woman. Just as I would never effing presume to say I know what it feels like to be a 29 year old man. Never. I could only imagine its awesome though. Id stand in the shower and play with my muscles all day.
perhaps I should stay out these dating conversations since i dont come from a traditional environment and no one in here can relate to the world I date in and how different it is here.
Is there an NYC Single peeps groups? Cause if it is, I'll leave and let losers convinced that they are losers stay losers without me constantly trying to convince them they arent.
Just wondering, besides New York City, where else have you lived in the U.S.? And how was dating so different there than in NYC?0 -
I ABSOLUTELY admit a huge part of me not liking a 29 year old guy is the knowledge that he probably isn't interested in me! But it isn't brought on by a "childish" response of " I don't like you.. well I don't like you either". I actually PREFER men older than me(Note to self: google "daddy issues" later).
I know who I attract.. and this fact that they are attracted to me is kind of how that whole reciprocal love/attraction thing starts for me. Well that and I'd feel like a cougar with someone under 30. And honestly he probably wouldn't be emotionally mature enough. But I digress. Back to ME.
Imagine if I only lusted after mid-20's Adonises who are looking to be with perky 21 year olds.. um.. I'd be crying my 34 year old self to sleep every night with my tattered copy of Romeo and Juliet and a pint of Haagen Dazs beside me surrounded by dozens of yowling cats.
No.. I may be an equal opportunity lust-er...but I have the sense enough to know who would and would not be a good fit for me at this point..and it isn't likely going to be a younger guy. For many reasons. So while part of that decision is certainly their choice, an equal part is mine. I don't feel I'm settling or missing out in any way. Or at least that's what I tell myself at 2 am while I'm cleaning out the litterboxes, sobbing and rocking myself to sleep! Oh, Romeo....
I am 34, currently overweight, in some debt, haven't figured out my passion/perfect career in life yet and may or may not ever want to get married or have kids. I am a little narcissistic, get hurt easily, might come across needy and/or dramatic on any given day and can be incredibly impatient. Total package, right?
But here's the thing. I honestly and truly don't give a crap about fitting into the right category, being marriage material, a "prime" catch or the ultimate single woman...because I am TOTALLY AWESOME. And I firmly believe that someone also TOTALLY AWESOME will appreciate that.. hell enough of the partially awesome already do.. so clearly I'm only a step away from bliss!
I am flawed, clearly. CLEARLY. But still awesome. Maybe not on the internet. But in real life. Sometimes. Thursday to Sunday. 10-2. If I'm not sick.. or hungover. And probably only if I'm not bloated too. Damn sodium. And not so good in November. It rains a lot here. But back to me and my awesomeness. And just because you said I shouldn't.. I agree.. I don't even need to tell you all the reasons why I am so awesome here. I'm simply that confident that on any given Friday at 1:43 pm (aforementioned conditions not withstanding) you could walk into my office and fall completely head over heels in love with me.
And I just might fall completely head over heels in love with you too! But only if you're mid-thirties..and probably divorced..with some baggage.. and you can spell.. and you're super funny and you're over 6".. and you shave your head.. and you don't mind all the sobbing and the cats.
Tour de force.
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Maybe living on an island full of 25-40 year old singles kicking *kitten* 24/7, not sleeping, having no kids (nor plans to) and everyone killing themselves reaching for the stars to kick *kitten* together as a collective statement about survival of the fittest being part of our daily mindset... takes me out of the normal dating world and its traditional patterns, standards and time lines.
Perhaps if I still lived in a regular smallish American town, I would feel differently about where I am in regards to my prime. But here in NYC im just a baby about to reach her peak.
Just wondering, besides New York City, where else have you lived in the U.S.? And how was dating so different there than in NYC?
Phoenix - was 17/18 and busy learning how to have a budget and run my house and keep it clean - didnt date
Jackson - was 19 and thought you had to get married ASAP so you could have babies without birth defects and threw myself into dating and looking for a husband. Searching lasted about 3 months til I realised that I wanted to do aLOT more living before I knew what on earth kind of guy i wanted and what I wanted from him. Decided to spend my time in Jackson learning how to jump in and make friends when youre a total stranger.
Austin - was 20 and busy learning how to break into a social music scene where I didnt know anyone - didnt date.
Tampa, FL - 21 - got engaged. ran from the altar.
didnt date for 3 years.
Louisiana coast - 24th bday - got engaged, called off wedding in 2005 when I was 25. Tired of the pressure to conform and settle and get married and stfu and make babies before you turn 30 or else be shunned by society. That pressure made me stop dating completely and run. If I was going to be the single third wheel forever in that little country town simply because I didnt feel the need to get married ASAP - then I'd wait until I moved to a city that wasnt so painfully stuck in the 50s.
December 2005 - February 2012 - didnt date- too busy traveling the world and making my life awesome and losing 100 pounds and getting my dream job in my dream city in my awesome apartment while changing my life and becoming the person i always wanted to be.
JUST started dating this past spring. Its terrifying and painful but at least Im a full blown adult that got strong enough to be able to do it, know what she wants now and what kind of man I need it from.
I dont think I can have kids. I have no family. I have a lot of drawbacks and deal breakers about me... but I cant believe that just because I waited til my thirties to be open to meeting someone (because before that - I was actually told by my family and the church that I was indeed not lovable and that God would NOT allow me to find happiness with a man until I gave up my life and returned to the flock) for reasons other than rushed pressured procreation... that im a leftover that no one wants, even if I have my flaws.
Im lovable and I know why I am.0 -
Maybe living on an island full of 25-40 year old singles kicking *kitten* 24/7, not sleeping, having no kids (nor plans to) and everyone killing themselves reaching for the stars to kick *kitten* together as a collective statement about survival of the fittest being part of our daily mindset... takes me out of the normal dating world and its traditional patterns, standards and time lines.
Perhaps if I still lived in a regular smallish American town, I would feel differently about where I am in regards to my prime. But here in NYC im just a baby about to reach her peak.
Just wondering, besides New York City, where else have you lived in the U.S.? And how was dating so different there than in NYC?
Phoenix - was 17/18 and busy learning how to have a budget and run my house and keep it clean - didnt date
Jackson - was 19 and thought you had to get married ASAP so you could have babies without birth defects and threw myself into dating and looking for a husband. Searching lasted about 3 months til I realised that I wanted to do aLOT more living before I knew what on earth kind of guy i wanted and what I wanted from him. Decided to spend my time in Jackson learning how to jump in and make friends when youre a total stranger.
Austin - was 20 and busy learning how to break into a social music scene where I didnt know anyone - didnt date.
Tampa, FL - 21 - got engaged. ran from the altar.
didnt date for 3 years.
Louisiana coast - 24th bday - got engaged, called off wedding in 2005 when I was 25. Tired of the pressure to conform and settle and get married and stfu and make babies before you turn 30 or else be shunned by society. That pressure made me stop dating completely and run. If I was going to be the single third wheel forever in that little country town simply because I didnt feel the need to get married ASAP - then I'd wait until I moved to a city that wasnt so painfully stuck in the 50s.
December 2005 - February 2012 - didnt date- too busy traveling the world and making my life awesome and losing 100 pounds and getting my dream job in my dream city in my awesome apartment while changing my life and becoming the person i always wanted to be.
JUST started dating this past spring. Its terrifying and painful but at least Im a full blown adult that got strong enough to be able to do it, know what she wants now and what kind of man I need it from.
I dont think I can have kids. I have no family. I have a lot of drawbacks and deal breakers about me... but I cant believe that just because I waited til my thirties to be open to meeting someone (because before that - I was actually told by my family and the church that I was indeed not lovable and that God would NOT allow me to find happiness with a man until I gave up my life and returned to the flock) for reasons other than rushed pressured procreation... that im a leftover that no one wants, even if I have my flaws.
Im lovable and I know why I am.
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Look, it's like me saying "The best dish in the world is lasagna". Clearly, whatever I state (especially when not backed up with hard facts and numbers) is my opinion - even though there are probably better ways to express things.Flam - The reason so many sexy 30 somethings are up in arms is because of THIS QUOTE.
" The best singles are off the market after that. "
I'm not sure if there is another way to interpret, which is why I took the time to explain and was completely blown off.
That said, I personally find it annoying to have to ask an attorney to proof read the things I write as they might not be expressed in perfect unambiguous, non sue-able English - so I give people some leeway to express themselves.
Also, if you're still not convinced that this is JUST an opinion he expressed, what he said purely relies on his definition of what constitutes the "best" single.
Now, if I am personally only interested in single over 30 years old, then logically his sentence doesn't apply to me. Thus implicitly, he was saying "The best singles (according to what constitutes my definition of best) are off the market after that".
It stands. For a guy his age, in his situation, it stands.
Now, the only sad thing is it might be too late for all the women who already jumped off a cliff after reading his opinion, maybe not too late for those who came on here to prove they are still awesome.
I just wish more people would start answering by: "Thanks for expressing your opinion. I disagree however..." or even a simple "Care to elaborate?" rather than just jumping on each other throat on the slightest disagreement.I've got to say, I fuggin' adore the amount of ladies who are coming on here and past the "expiration date" to prove that they are still awesome and will continue to be awesome for some time.
@smallerbrides: love your post. Well. I'm only 29 right now, but if I'm still alive in 6 years, I should be 35, I might not be as funny as I am now (yeah, I'm supposed to be funny, yeah!) after my divorce, and might be a bit depressed after shaving my head. If I wear thick soles, I should be above 6'' (I'm 5''11'). So, it seems the "me from the future" is your dream guy!0 -
Look, it's like me saying "The best dish in the world is lasagna".Flam - The reason so many sexy 30 somethings are up in arms is because of THIS QUOTE.
" The best singles are off the market after that. "
I'm not sure if there is another way to interpret, which is why I took the time to explain and was completely blown off.
false - you didnt say that TO COGNIZANT STEAK.
You cant compare having a negative opinion about a certain group of people and stating it to their faces - to having a positive opinion about a dish of food.
Try this:
The best singles are off the market by the time they are 27. <~ said to a bunch of 30 somethings plus.
is just like saying:
The best humans weren't born in Asia <~~ said to China.0 -
Your dating life is not over in your 20's. I know SEVERAL smart, attractive, driven, successful, single 35 year olds that could date a 25 year old woman under the table. Just because one 29 year old guy says that after 27 your dating pool hits rock bottom doesn't mean that we need to settle for the next guy that whistles at us. My message is not to settle. You can be in your 30's and be fabulous!
We (the awesome 30-something ladies on Single Peeps) realize it's only one mans opinion, but we are also allowed to prove that his opinion may need thought on a bit. Not everyone fits in a nice little box. Good lord, I'm surprised I can fit into a compact car...LOL0 -
Im just pissed because he has everyone that disagrees with him on ignore so he doesn't ever have to face the fact that he might be incorrect and it's just adolescent behavior.
Cover your ears, squint your eyes shut really tight and hum as loudly as possible. Thats how you greet your thirties.0 -
Who cares... My only point was that this is his opinion, point with which you agree.You cant compare having a negative opinion about a certain group of people and stating it to their faces - to having a positive opinion about a dish of food.
Try this:
The best singles are off the market by the time they are 27. <~ said to a bunch of 30 somethings plus.
is just like saying:
The best humans weren't born in Asia <~~ said to China.
So I take you disagree with his opinion then. Which is probably fine by everyone's standards. See!
No need to argue the thing to death and no need saying that nobody wants you... :laugh: I'm sure there are men who are of a different opinion from him. There, there!0 -
I just wish more people would start answering by: "Thanks for expressing your opinion. I disagree however..." or even a simple "Care to elaborate?" rather than just jumping on each other throat on the slightest disagreement.
All the women on Single Peeps have listened for weeks, if not months, in ELABORATE DETAIL, to the opinions of certain men. I think it's fair to say that clearly a majority of us disagree with them and are tired of hearing a broken record continue playing...one that is clearly a slap in the face to many of us here.0 -
seriously??? after six months you get tired of just disagreeing with someone who's favorite topic is his opinion that youre worthless because HE is scared.0
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flim if i didnt love you so much Id tell you to go frak off as well. There is putting up with opinions and then there is constantly having to deal with that one person in a group who loves telling everyone how much he thinks they are losers when so many of us work so hard to build each other up in here.
its not about him having an opinion that alot of us disagree with, its about being put down and insulted by someone every day.0 -
So what? Are people supposed to state only opinions that are pleasant to you (and others) then?
All the women on Single Peeps have listened for weeks, if not months, in ELABORATE DETAIL, to the opinions of certain men. I think it's fair to say that clearly a majority of us disagree with them and are tired of hearing a broken record continue playing...one that is clearly a slap in the face to many of us here.I just wish more people would start answering by: "Thanks for expressing your opinion. I disagree however..." or even a simple "Care to elaborate?" rather than just jumping on each other throat on the slightest disagreement.
I must say I haven't always been particularly pleased at the opinions I've read on these forums, as some girls can be quite aggressive against men too, but really I think it's better to just move on in this case and keep the tempting "no wonder why you're single then" to myself.
I personally like the wide variety of opinions we have here, and trust me on this, it is a harder stance to maintain being a few "certain men" against a horde of people having a different opinion from yours (rather than being part of the main crowd).
I like that some people here still take this stance, as counter-intuitive a stance it may be to the majority.0 -
seriously??? after six months you get tired of just disagreeing with someone who's favorite topic is his opinion that youre worthless because HE is scared.
I really feel that you've spent more time bashing me than is warranted. I feel as though it borders on bullying. Also appreciate Flam and Mike for coming to my defense as my overall perspective is not as abhorrent as it may seem to certain people on here.0 -
Fair enough. I love you too! :laugh:flim if i didnt love you so much Id tell you to go frak off as well. There is putting up with opinions and then there is constantly having to deal with that one person in a group who loves telling everyone how much he thinks they are losers when so many of us work so hard to build each other up in here.
its not about him having an opinion that alot of us disagree with, its about being put down and insulted by someone every day.
I don't know, I haven't been following these topics as much lately, so I haven't noticed this "surge of offending post" to be honest.
As far as someone (who isn't that dear to you) telling you you're a loser, it will only grow in you if you allow it to. I personally shrug it off, as I've got the intimate conviction I'm not a loser. So should you... (and it seems to be the case).
EDIT: yes, I'm still having fun here! :laugh: I will debate everything until my last breath. Ahaha! :laugh:0 -
It's so great to see how well you know and accept yourself, flaws and all! I thought this whole post was full awesome, but especially this part. :flowerforyou:I am 34, currently overweight, in some debt, haven't figured out my passion/perfect career in life yet and may or may not ever want to get married or have kids. I am a little narcissistic, get hurt easily, might come across needy and/or dramatic on any given day and can be incredibly impatient. Total package, right?
But here's the thing. I honestly and truly don't give a crap about fitting into the right category, being marriage material, a "prime" catch or the ultimate single woman...because I am TOTALLY AWESOME. And I firmly believe that someone also TOTALLY AWESOME will appreciate that.. hell enough of the partially awesome already do.. so clearly I'm only a step away from bliss!0
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