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La_Amazona
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So this fella wrote me "I meet all the criteria, you should message me". He had written me before, which I had ignored. So I decided to speak my mind and be honest. I wrote him back, "no offense, but you're much shorter than me."
He responds "thanks for pointing that out."
Oops... Right? Nope.
Turns out, he's 5'10.... Not 5'0 as his profile read!! Lol He thanked me and said he was wondering why nobody was writing him back. He kept his sense of humor and was thankful I was honest. He said he kept asking himself "what the hell is wrong with me??" lol.
I told him he probably missed out on many women because of that mistake.
He responds "thanks for pointing that out."
Oops... Right? Nope.
Turns out, he's 5'10.... Not 5'0 as his profile read!! Lol He thanked me and said he was wondering why nobody was writing him back. He kept his sense of humor and was thankful I was honest. He said he kept asking himself "what the hell is wrong with me??" lol.
I told him he probably missed out on many women because of that mistake.
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Yes, proofreading copy is a big deal. You have to be like Prince to get ladies if you're 5'0" (BTW, Prince is 5'2').
You're right that he missed a lot of women with 5'10" vs. 5'0". 5'10" is often considered a disqualifier as 6'0" is the magic desirable height. But at least 5'10" gives a far wider range of options.0 -
Hahaha!!! Too cute!! And, very nice of you to point it out to him.
5'6" is my cutoff. I have to be able to wear heels with a guy.0 -
Oh! :laugh: I must have done the same thing, that's why I don't get replies from women!!! :drinker:
* checks profile *
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I think I'm going to make a new dating profile and only change my height. I've given up on that nonsense because its just a waste of time when the same girls would chat you up at a bar but you're not good enough online. Might as well lie my *kitten* off ans have some fun with it0
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I think I'm going to make a new dating profile and only change my height. I've given up on that nonsense because its just a waste of time when the same girls would chat you up at a bar but you're not good enough online. Might as well lie my *kitten* off ans have some fun with it
Do you use your motorcycle pictures? Cause I would respond just for them.0 -
It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
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It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
J
It is. I am grateful I don't have the height issue. Instead for me it's the width issue. :laugh:0 -
Haha that is hysterical!0
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It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
J
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?0 -
So this fella wrote me "I meet all the criteria, you should message me". He had written me before, which I had ignored. So I decided to speak my mind and be honest. I wrote him back, "no offense, but you're much shorter than me."
He responds "thanks for pointing that out."
Oops... Right? Nope.
Turns out, he's 5'10.... Not 5'0 as his profile read!! Lol He thanked me and said he was wondering why nobody was writing him back. He kept his sense of humor and was thankful I was honest. He said he kept asking himself "what the hell is wrong with me??" lol.
I told him he probably missed out on many women because of that mistake.
I'm glad this turned out well and you helped the guy in the end, but I don't really understand writing him just to point out what you perceived as a "flaw". If the tables were turned and a guy wrote to tell you something unflattering, you'd probably be really offended, even if you don't want to admit it.0 -
It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
J
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?
I nearly clicked on 'report post' then!!! :noway:
Anyway David, I'm reporting you for being breastest!!! :smokin:
Actually, perhaps there should be penis size data too!!!! :laugh:
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It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
J
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?
I nearly clicked on 'report post' then!!! :noway:
Anyway David, I'm reporting you for being breastest!!! :smokin:
Actually, perhaps there should be penis size data too!!!! :laugh:
I dunno about b( Y )bies but I believe there is a penis size study released by condom making companies out there. I'd Google it but I'm at work at the moment >.>
*edit gah sooo many spelling and grammatical errors. I'm fading fast. glad my shift is almost over zzzzzz0 -
And this ladies is why we send pics of our beautiful penis to you! So that you know the size of the beast beforehand.
I nearly clicked on 'report post' then!!! :noway:
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
Anyway David, I'm reporting you for being breastest!!! :smokin:
Actually, perhaps there should be penis size data too!!!! :laugh:
(You won't see me call it junk!)0 -
Oh height. It is my one big hypocritical dealbreaker.
At just over 5'7 and not a little petite thing..I simply long to feel feminine and cute. I simply don't ever get that with anyone under 5'9. So...I could be attracted to someone shorter..but I automatically think we are not going to be a good match based on size and height...and I assume the male in question generally feels the same... no hurt feelings about it.
Most of the men I have dated have been 5'11-6'4... and generally the taller and heavier/more built ones like me best as they "can't break me".
So tell me boys...does breast size somehow correlate to your own personal sense of masculinity or is it just a nice to have item..?0 -
And this ladies is why we send pics of our beautiful penis to you! So that you know the size of the beast beforehand.
I nearly clicked on 'report post' then!!! :noway:
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
Anyway David, I'm reporting you for being breastest!!! :smokin:
Actually, perhaps there should be penis size data too!!!! :laugh:
(You won't see me call it junk!)
Junk...I use it here because it makes me laugh. But beautiful? Hmmm... useful, sexy, delicious perhaps...but beautiful might be overshooting it a bit... 0 -
This thread makes my head hurt.
I am 6'1 so I win when it comes to height.
I find it very ironic though, that women seem to be very emotional about men
having preferences and being "judgmental" yet they can automatically
disregard another male due to something he cannot control, height.0 -
So tell me boys...does breast size somehow correlate to your own personal sense of masculinity or is it just a nice to have item..?
A's or DD's, it doesn't matter to me. I like all sizes. However I do love shapely legs on a woman. It's my preference but not deal breaker if she isn't that particular body type.0 -
And this ladies is why we send pics of our beautiful penis to you! So that you know the size of the beast beforehand.
I nearly clicked on 'report post' then!!! :noway:
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
Anyway David, I'm reporting you for being breastest!!! :smokin:
Actually, perhaps there should be penis size data too!!!! :laugh:
(You won't see me call it junk!)
The 'beast' always makes me laugh! :laugh:
And yeah, 'junk' isnt a word we use here (we got plenty of other words tho, eh!! lol) Bit like *kitten* and Jerk. They just sound much better/suitable with an American accent.0 -
This thread makes my head hurt.
I am 6'1 so I win when it comes to height.
I find it very ironic though, that women seem to be very emotional about men
having preferences and being "judgmental" yet they can automatically
disregard another male due to something he cannot control, height.
It's quite simple Zach, women feel overly large/unfeminine/unprotected when they're with a guy shorter or punier than themselves.
It's genetics - the male is usually taller/stronger?
A bit like men liking boobs............we dont have control over those either......
Not quite sure why you're starting a gender war over that one??? But anyhow....... :flowerforyou:0 -
Trust me, it's no laughing matter.The 'beast' always makes me laugh! :laugh: :laugh: 0 -
It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
J
That is why I stopped the on line stuff for a bit (that and I don't think I was really ready to date)
This great guy or gal could be on the other side reading your profile. A misspelled word, or wrong angle on the picture, makes you or him click............next. That same person at a party with a huge smile and great sense of humor would give me chills down my spine.0 -
And this ladies is why we send pics of our beautiful penis to you! So that you know the size of the beast beforehand.
I nearly clicked on 'report post' then!!! :noway:
I was thinking that height is as big a factor for women as breast size is for men. Why don't they have that data on the basic info?It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
Anyway David, I'm reporting you for being breastest!!! :smokin:
Actually, perhaps there should be penis size data too!!!! :laugh:
(You won't see me call it junk!)
I must be really weird. I would DIE if some guy sent me a picture of his penis. Die I tell you!!
Size is no issue for me. Then again I have only been with one man for 30 years, and was very satisfied in this department. So I guess I could have some surprises in store for me in the future :laugh:0 -
It's so weird how height is such a deal breaker for women. I'm 5'11" but still.. it's interesting.
J
That is why I stopped the on line stuff for a bit (that and I don't think I was really ready to date)
This great guy or gal could be on the other side reading your profile. A misspelled word, or wrong angle on the picture, makes you or him click............next. That same person at a party with a huge smile and great sense of humor would give me chills down my spine.
I'm not online for a number of reasons, but this definitely describes one. This sucks, but I ignored a message from a guy who was 5'5 (my height) for no reason other than height and I really don't have a height criteria in real life (currently crush on a guy who is shorter than I am).
I got sucked into the simulacrum. Trying to weed through the inbox made me dismiss people I would have followed down the aisle at the grocery.0 -
This thread makes my head hurt.
I am 6'1 so I win when it comes to height.
I find it very ironic though, that women seem to be very emotional about men
having preferences and being "judgmental" yet they can automatically
disregard another male due to something he cannot control, height.
It's quite simple Zach, women feel overly large/unfeminine/unprotected when they're with a guy shorter or punier than themselves.
It's genetics - the male is usually taller/stronger?
A bit like men liking boobs............we dont have control over those either......
Not quite sure why you're starting a gender war over that one??? But anyhow....... :flowerforyou:
Anna, I understand that women want to be with a taller man. It makes the woman feel more protected, small, etc etc. Women can openly say that and most men will accept it, keep their mouths shut, and move on. And as a man of medium height (5'10"), I'm sure I've been descriminated against and I'm OK with it. I don't feel entitled that every woman should want a man my height. If they will only date someone 6'2" and taller, then so be it.
However, what happens when the tables are turned? Men who say that they don't want to be with an overweight woman and would rather be with a petite one. Men can have the argument that they want to feel more masculine and more of a "protector" with a woman who's 5'2" 105lbs. And it's a very legit argument at that.
Are women suppose to just roll with it and accept it?0 -
This is not to start an argument but just something that needles me and makes me curious
It is 2012 and reasonable people can make sensible decisions about the areas they frequent so my question is...protected from what???0 -
However, what happens when the tables are turned? Men who say that they don't want to be with an overweight woman and would rather be with a petite one. Men can have the argument that they want to feel more masculine and more of a "protector" with a woman who's 5'2" 105lbs. And it's a very legit argument at that.
Are women suppose to just roll with it and accept it?
If it's true for many men (and I believe it is, though many in this forum disagree with me) then I absolutely think women should accept it.
Just like short men accept that they will sometimes need to compensate for their height by developing a winning, charming personality. And just like women of color often accept that, depending on your ethnicity, a large portion of the population you desire (even within your own culture) is not as interested in you as they would be a white, asian, or latina woman of similar personality and stature.
Accepting these two facts as being true for many of the type of guys I wanted helped me be more content with being single. This increased my confidence because I finally learned it wasn't "me" as much as it was "them," and also motivated me to lose weight.
I think both of these (increased confidence and lower weight) helped me attract better men. I can't change my race, so yeah I still get sad sometimes when the guys lose interest when they find out I'm not latina after all, but I accept it and move on without letting it get me down for too long.
FWIW, I’ve seen men in Match write in their profile they want someone smaller than them. I don’t hate; rather I am glad they kept me from wasting my time.0 -
This is not to start an argument but just something that needles me and makes me curious
It is 2012 and reasonable people can make sensible decisions about the areas they frequent so my question is...protected from what???
Protected from a lot! Protected from thugs walking to your car from downtown Shreveport entertainment venues. Yes, the cops told all us ladies during our in-processing brief not to go downtown alone- nevermind the fact that there's only a little bit of downtown where you can hang out on the weekends.
Protected from jerk waiters who make snide comments about me not drinking (this never happens when I have a big, tall man at my side).
And, of course, there's just that innate craving for that feeling of "big strong man will protect and provide for me" a woman loves to get from a man- just like men, crave that nurturing warmth and coddling that we ladies provide. Just cause neither sex needs that anymore per se, doesn't mean we don't still crave it in our subconscious.0 -
This is not to start an argument but just something that needles me and makes me curious
It is 2012 and reasonable people can make sensible decisions about the areas they frequent so my question is...protected from what???
Protected from a lot! Protected from thugs walking to your car from downtown Shreveport entertainment venues. Yes, the cops told all us ladies during our in-processing brief not to go downtown alone- nevermind the fact that there's only a little bit of downtown where you can hang out on the weekends.
Protected from jerk waiters who make snide comments about me not drinking (this never happens when I have a big, tall man at my side).
And, of course, there's just that innate craving for that feeling of "big strong man will protect and provide for me" a woman loves to get from a man- just like men, crave that nurturing warmth and coddling that we ladies provide. Just cause neither sex needs that anymore per se, doesn't mean we don't still crave it in our subconscious.
Guess it is a cultural/regional difference because where I am there is neither A or B.
The first is obvious being out in the middle of nothing and the second,given that,I can`t imagine a waiter maligning a female customer or one taking it quietly.:laugh:0 -
This thread makes my head hurt.
I am 6'1 so I win when it comes to height.
I find it very ironic though, that women seem to be very emotional about men
having preferences and being "judgmental" yet they can automatically
disregard another male due to something he cannot control, height.
It's quite simple Zach, women feel overly large/unfeminine/unprotected when they're with a guy shorter or punier than themselves.
It's genetics - the male is usually taller/stronger?
A bit like men liking boobs............we dont have control over those either......
Not quite sure why you're starting a gender war over that one??? But anyhow....... :flowerforyou:
Anna, I understand that women want to be with a taller man. It makes the woman feel more protected, small, etc etc. Women can openly say that and most men will accept it, keep their mouths shut, and move on. And as a man of medium height (5'10"), I'm sure I've been descriminated against and I'm OK with it. I don't feel entitled that every woman should want a man my height. If they will only date someone 6'2" and taller, then so be it.
However, what happens when the tables are turned? Men who say that they don't want to be with an overweight woman and would rather be with a petite one. Men can have the argument that they want to feel more masculine and more of a "protector" with a woman who's 5'2" 105lbs. And it's a very legit argument at that.
Are women suppose to just roll with it and accept it?
Yeah. We accept our lot in life :laugh: I'm under 5ft tall !!! And Florian hates short women.....I'm gutted and never been so offended in all my life!! :laugh: j/k I really dont care!!
I never have issue with the height of men either - I feel small and feminine and protected all the time - lucky me! It's usually taller ladies that have a height preference in men.
And as we've said before, if you prefer stick thin women, then good for you. Your choice. :flowerforyou:0 -
Guess it is a cultural/regional difference because where I am there is neither A or B.
The first is obvious being out in the middle of nothing and the second,given that,I can`t imagine a waiter maligning a female customer or one taking it quietly.:laugh:
Yeah, but you're also the guy who pays for a girl's friend when the 3 of you go out...lol... I've never seen anyone else do that. Must be something in your water. Whatever it is, keep drinking it.
I've had waiters be snotty to me quite often. Two most recent ones were "why are you ordering cranberry juice? You got a UTI or something?" or, "Soda? What's wrong with you? Why don't you go somewhere else. This is a brewery." I'm usually on travel visiting a new place with coworkers who are drinking when these things happen. Only once has anyone ever stood up for me “She’s the driver, get off her case.” Usually they all turn their heads like they're uncomfortable while I just say that I'm the DD. Apparently here in the south, people don't respect DDs the way they do back east.0
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