High Maintenance Women
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I only been a couple of times to the Dave and Busters down in the San Diego, CA area and it was AWESOME!! Alcohol and the zombie shooting game, House of the Dead. :laugh: My friend and I blew through 40$ to beat that game. I think my aim got better as I got more drinks in me.I would rather play quarter arcade games at Chuck E. Cheese than go to Dave and Busters.
Chuck E. Cheese is great too but they frown upon a 30 yr old man playing in the ball pit. :grumble: 0 -
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To me a high maintenance woman is the "princess" attitude. Thankfully I haven't dated a girl like this but, some of my guy friends have dated women that refused to shop or even been seen in certain stores because it was "beneath them". All these women cared about was the latest designer clothes/handbags/etc etc. I can understand the wanting to look good and dressing nice. As I've lost weight I am starting to gravitate towards nicer looking clothes that, unlike in the past, I didn't care what it looked like or brand names, as long as the shirt fit me. One of these girls dumped a friend over a gift bought from store she didn't care for. Yeah...that's too much for me.0
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Yeah man, that's crazy. Stores are "Beneath them?" It is really funny to see how woman treat clothes, for me it's a few pairs of jeans if mine are ripped, a few shirts if mine are old, and new shoes if there is literally a hole in the ones I'm wearing.To me a high maintenance woman is the "princess" attitude. Thankfully I haven't dated a girl like this but, some of my guy friends have dated women that refused to shop or even been seen in certain stores because it was "beneath them". All these women cared about was the latest designer clothes/handbags/etc etc. I can understand the wanting to look good and dressing nice. As I've lost weight I am starting to gravitate towards nicer looking clothes that, unlike in the past, I didn't care what it looked like or brand names, as long as the shirt fit me. One of these girls dumped a friend over a gift bought from store she didn't care for. Yeah...that's too much for me.0 -
i always thought of high maintenance women as the ones that need to special order food at a restaurant. you know, they want the dish on the menu but then need to make a million changes to it.....
they take FORever to get ready. and have no problem keeping you waiting to do so......
they live in a land of entitlement.
That's always been my take on high-maintenance as well - someone who considers his or her own needs and desires to be of significantly more importance than those of anyone else around them, though I've known some very high-maintenance older women (and men) whose self-importance/high-maintenance manifests in other ways - the high-maintenance mother-in-law, for example, who 'needs' her child and his/her family to spend every holiday and every weekend - forget about the other family of in-laws - and be on-call and ready to jump at her whim 24/7 (no medical or physical need - just an emotional one that is used manipulatively!).
Thinking about it, I guess 'high-maintenance' can often be relative to the perception of the other party, though, particularly when it comes to emotional things. One person might view a partner wanting to be in touch at least once a day as high-maintenance, while for another person, this would be absolutely normal and expected. My family was always physically-affectionate, so for someone who finds that distasteful or unnecessary, my tendency to bestow hugs, kisses, affectionate touches liberally with those I care for, with the expectation of returned affection, might make me, in their eyes, high-maintenance.
Am I high-maintenance? Not particularly, I think, in the princess-definition. I make an effort with my appearance, 98% of the time, and am rarely seen without mascara(pale-blonde, fair-skinned, look like a ghost without it!) but that's just as likely to mean something casual as it is heels and a dress, and either way, it's unlikely to take me more than 20-30 minutes, tops, from getting in the shower to going out the door, unless it's a very big event.
I like to buy good quality, which sometimes means a known name, but I'm not fussy about brands, just quality and a style I like - better economy anyway, in my view, to buy something that will last well, still look good a few years down the track, and that I'm likely to still want to wear/use. I try always to be polite and considerate to all around me, especially those who are serving me in any capacity, and I seldom ask for any changes in restaurants, unless one of my two major allergies is in the picture. I will, however, move away from cigarette smoke if I possibly can - I react badly to it, and it poses a potential threat to my livelihood. Ditto people who have a streaming cold, laryngitis or sound like they're about to cough up a lung - in my line of work, that's sensible rather than prissy or precious.
As far as my relationships go, I'm pretty easy-going, and (almost always!) willing to compromise. The one time I probably could be called high-maintenance is in the run-up to a performance, when I tend to draw into myself, and feel a need for things to be a certain way. I have a routine that helps me prepare, mentally and physically, to perform, and I find I do need people around me on the day of a show to just give me space, let me get on with my thing, and take care of themselves for the day. Unless it's an emergency or a crisis, or I ask you to do something (unlikely - I become something of a control-freak on show days and would almost certainly rather do it myself), it's probably best to leave me alone!
Spoilsports!! How about 30 year old women? I love ball pits!Chuck E. Cheese is great too but they frown upon a 30 yr old man playing in the ball pit. grumble0 -
Honestly, it depends on the day. Some days I'm happy with my sweats, blanket and a book on the couch. Other days want to be entertained. I like nice things, and I've always been able to provide them for myself, but I've never felt that a man had to wine and dine me for me to keep him around. Some days I want left alone, some days I want loved on.0
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I require zero maintenance. That's the problem with me and relationships, I think a lot of men require women who are needy! Men like to be needed!!! It's just to varying degrees..........
Just throwing that out there.............0 -
Why does this topic have to only be about women? Can't men be high maintenance too? Isn't that part of how the word 'metrosexual' came into being?
Yes, men can be high maint. Doesn't happen as frequently from my point of view.
I don't think a lot of the ladies here have expressed high maintenance 'tudes.
I would say that there's probably a fairly strong correlation between looks and high maintenance. Quite simply, the better looking a woman is, the more likely that she is high maintenance.
From the typical guy's perspective, the worst combination is the woman is a slightly above average (like a 6-7) who thinks she's a 9-10 and acts like a diva.0 -
Why does this topic have to only be about women? Can't men be high maintenance too? Isn't that part of how the word 'metrosexual' came into being?
Yes, men can be high maint. Doesn't happen as frequently from my point of view.
I don't think a lot of the ladies here have expressed high maintenance 'tudes.
I would say that there's probably a fairly strong correlation between looks and high maintenance. Quite simply, the better looking a woman is, the more likely that she is high maintenance.
From the typical guy's perspective, the worst combination is the woman is a slightly above average (like a 6-7) who thinks she's a 9-10 and acts like a diva.
Or perhaps extremes of self-esteem, rather than looks? I know several women, and more than a few men, whose opinion of their own physical appeal and 'worth' is very, very high. Regardless of the accuracy or otherwise of their perception of their own visual appeal, they do seem to be more inclined to behave in the manner you describe. Some of them have genuinely very high self-esteem, some behave like that because they feel the need to put up a front of "I'm beyond fabulous and the world should cater to me!" to hide their insecurities.
Most of the women here (apologies if this doesn't apply to you!) are working on improving their bodies, and have almost certainly been told, or made to feel, at some point, that we are 'not good enough' because our bodies don't match up to the current ideal. Maybe that makes us less likely to behave in a high-maintenance way? We're also mostly pretty sane, competent people, whose self-worth has probably come from things other than our looks, for the most part. Our self-esteem's adequate - good, even - but not extreme enough to prompt us into this sort of behaviour. We also have something solid to fall back on when age, as it inevitably does, takes its' toll, so we're probably not as desperate to leverage our looks while we still have them to get what we want (Thinking of several ageing beauties I know whose looks were the only thing that mattered to them in their youth, and are now scrabbling to try to hold on to both their looks and the lifestyles they acquired by being beautiful...)0 -
I require zero maintenance. That's the problem with me and relationships, I think a lot of men require women who are needy! Men like to be needed!!! It's just to varying degrees..........
Just throwing that out there.............
Again....thinking we're twins. I'm not needy at all. I think sometimes that drives a man away. In fact, most of my relationships the man is needier....i0 -
No - probally to a lot of y'alls standards I'm very low low maintenance....borderline weird.
Seriously though depends on what you call high maintenance....
I do require you to pick up after yourself, bathe, and have manners.....to some guys that's high maintenance.
I don't need you to do anything for me that I can do for myself.
If you'd like to save me a few bucks by fixing the kitchen sink rather than me calling the handyman....great (you would be rewarded)
but I can still pickup the phone and call.
I love this!! That is SOOO me!0 -
I require zero maintenance. That's the problem with me and relationships, I think a lot of men require women who are needy! Men like to be needed!!! It's just to varying degrees..........
Just throwing that out there.............
I think you're right Anna... My last date was a completely maintenance free girl and when I reported back to my sister in-law (who set the date up) I said: I think I would be bored to death by her lack of need!! I think there is a balance that is needed like with anything. If it's all about her I will completely be turned off and purposely make it all about me. But if a girl has a little bit of neediness mixed with some strengths I think that would make our team stronger!!0 -
start a high maintenance men thread... oh the stories i could tell :laugh:Two questions to kick off this thread.
1. Guys-what are your thoughts on high maintenance women? Do you want them around?
2. Ladies-Do you consider yourself high maintenance? Why or why not?
Why does this topic have to only be about women? Can't men be high maintenance too? Isn't that part of how the word 'metrosexual' came into being?
I think if you read back through all the past threads, we have established that us MEN are perfect in everyway and have set the standard for excellence... No room for improvement!! 0 -
I think that would make our team stronger!!
I just fell in love with you.0 -
i don't think of needy and high maintenance being the same....... at least not in my opinion.
i know a guy that is needy. we dated for a little while earlier this year, and are still friends. he is NOT high maintenance at all in any way shape or form, but man is he NEEDY!!!!!! geesh! lol!!!!0 -
I require zero maintenance. That's the problem with me and relationships, I think a lot of men require women who are needy! Men like to be needed!!! It's just to varying degrees..........
Just throwing that out there.............
Men do like to be needed. And although I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself and handling things on my own, I am totally willing to flip the switch when I get into a relationship to let him take care of me. It's actually a relief sometimes to not have to deal with everything on my own, and to have someone to change the lightbulb, call the furnace guy, or take my car to get the oil changed. Oddly enough, men seem to like doing these things.0 -
From an appearance standpoint, I look fussier (high maintenance?) than I actually am. Feel confident when I look good. But not one of those chicks who goes to the gym dolled up or refuses to get dirt under my salon-polished finger nails. Sweaty and dirty can be fun...
From a personality standpoint, not needy or high maintenance at all....have been called too independent AND too nice. Kiss of death! lol Always treat people the way I wish to be treated and wouldn't know the first thing about acting like a princess. Maybe I should take classes?0 -
I require zero maintenance. That's the problem with me and relationships, I think a lot of men require women who are needy! Men like to be needed!!! It's just to varying degrees..........
Just throwing that out there.............
Men do like to be needed. And although I am perfectly capable of taking care of myself and handling things on my own, I am totally willing to flip the switch when I get into a relationship to let him take care of me. It's actually a relief sometimes to not have to deal with everything on my own, and to have someone to change the lightbulb, call the furnace guy, or take my car to get the oil changed. Oddly enough, men seem to like doing these things.
Agreed. I'm perfectly capable of doing these things if I must, but I'm more than willing to hand over some of the jobs to a man, if he's willing/wants to do them.0 -
I only been a couple of times to the Dave and Busters down in the San Diego, CA area and it was AWESOME!! Alcohol and the zombie shooting game, House of the Dead. :laugh: My friend and I blew through 40$ to beat that game. I think my aim got better as I got more drinks in me.I would rather play quarter arcade games at Chuck E. Cheese than go to Dave and Busters. Chuck E. Cheese is great too but they frown upon a 30 yr old man playing in the ball pit. :grumble:
I'm not saying it's not fun! If someone else foots the bill I will have a blast - but I would have just as much fun with the skee ball game that costs a quarter
They are more forgiving about adult women in ball pits, hahaha!0 -
I would say that there's probably a fairly strong correlation between looks and high maintenance. Quite simply, the better looking a woman is, the more likely that she is high maintenance.
This made me laugh, because I'm one of the ladies that claimed ultra low-maintenance!
I'm not offended, I know I'm cute :laugh: 0
