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Most women would like to be valued for those same things. Instead, we are told, repeatedly, that our only value lies in how we look - something that is not as 'controllable' as this chap would have us believe, unless one is willing and able to get into the extremes of plastic surgery and/or has endless financial resources and spare time.
I could not disagree more. Controlling looks is more easily done than controlling your income stream. Job security is a thing of the past. It is possible a person could be performing to the best of their abilities and still get laid off due to a variety of issues. Controlling looks is easier than being subjected to individual corporate and macroeconomic machinations.0 -
In college, I knew these two really pretty girls, but they had not so good personalities. One of the girls dated the nicest guy ever, and all of my friends would have loved to date him, but instead he dated this girl who didnt have the best personality. Meanwhile, my friends and I mostly remained single. Explain that to me...
Here is your explanation.
Learn it. Know it. Live it.
http://www.therulesrevisited.com/
The thing is Mike, is that I have: gotten contacts, learned to dress well (I stated a page back that I always dress nice, don't wear sweats in public, have makeup on 99% of the time), lost nearly 50 pounds, etc.
I basically followed those rules.
And it hasn't made a damn difference. Those girls still won. I know I'm just average, but those improvements did not help at all. I still believe in putting your best foot forward but for me, it's made no difference.0 -
In college, I knew these two really pretty girls, but they had not so good personalities. One of the girls dated the nicest guy ever, and all of my friends would have loved to date him, but instead he dated this girl who didnt have the best personality. Meanwhile, my friends and I mostly remained single. Explain that to me...
Here is your explanation.
Learn it. Know it. Live it.
http://www.therulesrevisited.com/
The thing is Mike, is that I have: gotten contacts, learned to dress well (I stated a page back that I always dress nice, don't wear sweats in public, have makeup on 99% of the time), lost nearly 50 pounds, etc.
I basically followed those rules.
And it hasn't made a damn difference. Those girls still won. I know I'm just average, but those improvements did not help at all. I still believe in putting your best foot forward but for me, it's made no difference.
Well, then forget the guy (or guys).
You can go to bed knowing you did everything within your power to try to win him over. You had your cheat sheet, did your research, and followed all the rules.. but the ball just didn't bounce your way.
Sometimes, even with all the loaded dice and extra cards up your sleeve, you still can't win the game.
But knowing you gave this a very strong effort, you won my respect. :flowerforyou:0 -
In college, I knew these two really pretty girls, but they had not so good personalities. One of the girls dated the nicest guy ever, and all of my friends would have loved to date him, but instead he dated this girl who didnt have the best personality. Meanwhile, my friends and I mostly remained single. Explain that to me...
Here is your explanation.
Learn it. Know it. Live it.
http://www.therulesrevisited.com/
The thing is Mike, is that I have: gotten contacts, learned to dress well (I stated a page back that I always dress nice, don't wear sweats in public, have makeup on 99% of the time), lost nearly 50 pounds, etc.
I basically followed those rules.
And it hasn't made a damn difference. Those girls still won. I know I'm just average, but those improvements did not help at all. I still believe in putting your best foot forward but for me, it's made no difference.
It is what is known as the difference between theory and applied reality.
I can`t tell you how many ladies have told me "what a catch" I am.
However they are always unavailable for a variety of reasons.
In reality for things I spoke of in the other thread as to why I am single and no doubt dozens more that I am not even aware of it has not been the case.
Frustrating at times?
You bet.
End of my world or without hope.
Not any more but have to deal with those circumstances (which I am in the process of).
Keep living,learning and applying those things to life.0 -
oh i'm not angry at this blogger, not in the least. that's why i said i'm glad i am ok being alone. if i don't fit someone else's idea of "ok, " then oh well :-)
i'm casual. that's just who i am. i don't wear dresses unless i absolutely have to. i don't like skirts either. i own heels, but rarely wear them. as a nurse, you wear scrubs and tennis shoes or clogs. as a mom, i live in my work out attire most of the time. yoga pants, under armour tshirt and running shoes. i don't and won't apologize for how i dress. do i expect to pick up guys that way? no, of course not. but, i'm usually out with all of my kids so i don't expect to be approached anyway. the gym is the only place i go where there are guys anyway.
my point is that this guy and other guys can say whatever they want, about whatever they like or dislike in a woman. it doesn't bother me or phase me. i am who i am. i like who i am. i'm not changing for someone else. if *I* want to change then i will change.Am I really the only lady on here not upset with the blogger?:noway:
Its his opinion and he said more than once that each of his guy friends finds different things about woemen attractive. He is not saying we all have to be "blond barbie's" He is just saying maximizing your potential will help you in the dating world. Well no ****!
Well all Know men value apperance. Getting angry wont change that.0 -
OK so I'm still reading through this guys blogs and found this one interesting
http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/11/what-it-is-like-to-be-rejected.html
For all the ladies that really want to see what a guy goes through read it.. It was an interesting perspective0 -
I keep reading.. and I can't stop. I WANT to hate it..but..but... it is too good. Feels like all the secrets are being unlocked... lol0
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OK so I'm still reading through this guys blogs and found this one interesting
http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2012/11/what-it-is-like-to-be-rejected.html
For all the ladies that really want to see what a guy goes through read it.. It was an interesting perspective
Flat out, rejection sucks!
Guys are naturally competitive. We want to win. We don't feel good when we don't win.0 -
i still prefer evan marc katz. :-)0
