Men and sexual comments or innuendos
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I think sexual innuendo is a good way to screen women. If they are turned off, it is a good indication that you're going to spend a whole lot of time trying to remove the stick from their *kitten* and you should move on. If they go with the flow, you can see how imaginitive they are and get a sense of their intelligence and creativity - not just sexually but in general terms.
WOW this could not be further from the truth! I am faaaaar from a prude and pretty sexually adventurous, but a guy being sexual before we have even met is way overstepping - just because a woman doesn't want to be sexual with every guy she comes across before they even know each other doesn't mean she has a stick up her *kitten*, come on! Super juvenile thing to say.
So is accusing every woman who doesn't have your "standards" of being desperate.
To be clear I don't have sex with everyone, I thought it was obvious but I guess I should be less subtle. Innuendo and sexual conversations are a handy screening process that actually filter out a lot of incompatibilities early on. :yawn:
I think you misunderstood...the title of this thread is talking about MEN and sexual innuendoes, so that is what I was talking about...MEN who make these kinds of comments without knowing a woman. Call it a double standard if you wish, but I assume men are always ok with it so a woman initiating it is fine. So no, I didn't accuse you of being desperate.
Really? Sorry for the misunderstanding. But to be fair you were responding directly to my comment when you said it.
Yes, really. Since the thread is talking about MEN talking like this, thats what I was talking about, and thats what i assumed you were talking about.0 -
Call it a double standard if you wish, but I assume men are always ok with it so a woman initiating it is fine.
It's ok if you're hot, otherwise it's not.
Wanna help me with these leftover pork chops? :laugh:0 -
Call it a double standard if you wish, but I assume men are always ok with it so a woman initiating it is fine.
It's ok if you're hot, otherwise it's not.
Well if a dude is talking to you, he thinks you're hot lol0 -
So, here's the deal.... Men are men. In general (not always)....they are going to test their boundaries. This is all about personal preference in regards to the inuendos and to be honest, I would bet a lot of guys don't even realize they are being pigs about it. I've called out guys on things I thought crossed the line. They apologized, we continued talking. No harm, no foul.
Now, I will say, I've said inuendos by mistake as well. You're flirting back and forth. Talking about this and that. Things can be taken a few different ways sometimes. You laugh it off and continue on.
The problem I have is if you ask a man to tone it down and he doesn't. Then it's on to the next guy.0 -
Run, I agree but to call someone "sex kitten" requires some train of dirty thoughts, whereas I can see "what are you wearing?" could be a mistake or misconstrued.0
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a lot of guys don't even realize they are being pigs about it. .......... Then it's on to the next guy.
You can't just bounce around between guys and call them pigs......0 -
Piggybacking off of the "sex kitten" comment on another thread...
Why do men of EVERY age bring up sexual comments or innuendos in the beginning stages of "dating?" I am talking with a 57 yo and he even brought up an innuendo while we texted last night....He was like, "what do you wear to bed?" I responded, "Good night." We haven't even met yet. It's a huge turnoff for me! I thought an older man would be more respectable...WTH??? Guys....educate us on this and on how we should respond!!!
innuendos are funny.....If I couldn't make them around you I wouldn't have dated you. What the guy asked you was not an innuendo.....it was a question. I would have responded with something along the lines of "a suit made of the skins of my previous lovers"
"The term sexual innuendo has acquired a specific meaning, namely that of a "risque" double entendre by playing on a possibly sexual interpretation of an otherwise innocent uttering. For example: "We need to go deeper" can be seen as both a request for further inquiry on any given issue or a request to go deeper into an orifice. Alternatively the simple changing of the pronunciation of a word can be used to make it sound vulgar e.g. innuendo to "in-your-endo"."0 -
Run, I agree but to call someone "sex kitten" requires some train of dirty thoughts, whereas I can see "what are you wearing?" could be a mistake or misconstrued.
Agreed, if a man called me a "sex kitten" or said anything overtly sexual before a first date, we wouldn't meet. It's just not my style. What are you wearing doesn't bother me.0 -
a lot of guys don't even realize they are being pigs about it. .......... Then it's on to the next guy.
You can't just bounce around between guys and call them pigs......
Smart *kitten*....I'm not even going to comment.0 -
Run, I agree but to call someone "sex kitten" requires some train of dirty thoughts, whereas I can see "what are you wearing?" could be a mistake or misconstrued.
Agreed, if a man called me a "sex kitten" or said anything overtly sexual before a first date, we wouldn't meet. It's just not my style. What are you wearing doesn't bother me.
so....um.......what are you wearing?0 -
Call it a double standard if you wish, but I assume men are always ok with it so a woman initiating it is fine.
It's ok if you're hot, otherwise it's not.
Well if a dude is talking to you, he thinks you're hot lol
Ever heard of slump busters?0 -
Run, I agree but to call someone "sex kitten" requires some train of dirty thoughts, whereas I can see "what are you wearing?" could be a mistake or misconstrued.
Agreed, if a man called me a "sex kitten" or said anything overtly sexual before a first date, we wouldn't meet. It's just not my style. What are you wearing doesn't bother me.
so....um.......what are you wearing?
That's what she said?0 -
I think sexual innuendo is a good way to screen women. If they are turned off, it is a good indication that you're going to spend a whole lot of time trying to remove the stick from their *kitten* and you should move on. If they go with the flow, you can see how imaginitive they are and get a sense of their intelligence and creativity - not just sexually but in general terms.
WOW this could not be further from the truth! I am faaaaar from a prude and pretty sexually adventurous, but a guy being sexual before we have even met is way overstepping - just because a woman doesn't want to be sexual with every guy she comes across before they even know each other doesn't mean she has a stick up her *kitten*, come on! Super juvenile thing to say.
No one thinks they are a prude and everyone considers themselves sexually adventurous. A think the definition of a prude is someone who is willing to do as much sexually as you are. Similarly, the definition of pervert is someone who is willing to do more sexually than ou are. If I've talked to you enough that I am comfortable throwing out a sexual innuendo and you are turned off by it, I'll be nice and send you a coupon for KY jelly so you can remove the stick with a little less pain if you so choose. However, I'm on to the next.0 -
Call it a double standard if you wish, but I assume men are always ok with it so a woman initiating it is fine.
It's ok if you're hot, otherwise it's not.
Well if a dude is talking to you, he thinks you're hot lol
Ever heard of slump busters?
I was gonna say that I don't ever assume a guy is talking to be because he thinks I'm hot. That would probably be my last thought lol0 -
I think sexual innuendo is a good way to screen women. If they are turned off, it is a good indication that you're going to spend a whole lot of time trying to remove the stick from their *kitten* and you should move on. If they go with the flow, you can see how imaginitive they are and get a sense of their intelligence and creativity - not just sexually but in general terms.
WOW this could not be further from the truth! I am faaaaar from a prude and pretty sexually adventurous, but a guy being sexual before we have even met is way overstepping - just because a woman doesn't want to be sexual with every guy she comes across before they even know each other doesn't mean she has a stick up her *kitten*, come on! Super juvenile thing to say.
No one thinks they are a prude and everyone considers themselves sexually adventurous. A think the definition of a prude is someone who is willing to do as much sexually as you are. Similarly, the definition of pervert is someone who is willing to do more sexually than ou are. If I've talked to you enough that I am comfortable throwing out a sexual innuendo and you are turned off by it, I'll be nice and send you a coupon for KY jelly so you can remove the stick with a little less pain if you so choose. However, I'm on to the next.
This made about as much sense as your first comment, but if you want to think I'm a prude because I'm not receptive to sexual comments when I haven't even met a person, be my guest, I'll continue thinking you're a dirty old man.0 -
I always assumed it was just how they feel out a situation to see if there is any possible chemistry or playfullness on a sexy level so they can know whether or not to put us in the friend zone or whether they should take a risk and put in a little more effort to see where this goes.
If we cant playfully flirt back, then they know not to waste either of our time.0 -
The problem I have is if you ask a man to tone it down and he doesn't. Then it's on to the next guy.
Sorry, I'll stop.0 -
I always assumed it was just how they feel out a situation to see if there is any possible chemistry or playfullness on a sexy level so they can know whether or not to put us in the friend zone or whether they should take a risk and put in a little more effort to see where this goes.
If we cant playfully flirt back, then they know not to waste either of our time.
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To be clear I don't have sex with everyone, I thought it was obvious but I guess I should be less subtle. Innuendo and sexual conversations are a handy screening process that actually filter out a lot of incompatibilities early on. :yawn:
Confirmed.
I have not had sex with Kits. I may not be alone.
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To be clear I don't have sex with everyone, I thought it was obvious but I guess I should be less subtle. Innuendo and sexual conversations are a handy screening process that actually filter out a lot of incompatibilities early on. :yawn:
Confirmed.
I have not had sex with Kits. I may not be alone.
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I keep trying to fix that, to no avail. Is it because of the dirty talk? Did you "next" me? :sad:0 -
No one thinks they are a prude and everyone considers themselves sexually adventurous. A think the definition of a prude is someone who is willing to do as much sexually as you are. Similarly, the definition of pervert is someone who is willing to do more sexually than ou [sic] are.
You are quite sagacious. I'll be stealing this and attributing it to myself, thank you very much. ;-)
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To be clear I don't have sex with everyone, I thought it was obvious but I guess I should be less subtle. Innuendo and sexual conversations are a handy screening process that actually filter out a lot of incompatibilities early on. :yawn:
Confirmed.
I have not had sex with Kits. I may not be alone.
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I keep trying to fix that, to no avail. Is it because of the dirty talk? Did you "next" me? :sad:
I do find your wit and intellect sexy, but I'd probably find your naked, sweaty body, bound and gagged, even more enticing.
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The problem I have is if you ask a man to tone it down and he doesn't. Then it's on to the next guy.
Sorry, I'll stop.
YOU WILL NOT! :smooched:0 -
I do find your wit and intellect sexy, but I'd probably find your naked, sweaty body, bound and gagged, even more enticing.
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Umm..hello..0 -
Ok so I'm with kits.. I'm flirty and have frank sexual conversations with guys I've never met... I want to know among our other compatibilities if we are going to be sexually compatible... And being called a sex kitten is not a big deal in my book lol...But every person flirts differently and I'm pretty much an open book..0
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To be clear I don't have sex with everyone, I thought it was obvious but I guess I should be less subtle. Innuendo and sexual conversations are a handy screening process that actually filter out a lot of incompatibilities early on. :yawn:
Confirmed.
I have not had sex with Kits. I may not be alone.
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I keep trying to fix that, to no avail. Is it because of the dirty talk? Did you "next" me? :sad:
I do find your wit and intellect sexy, but I'd probably find your naked, sweaty body, bound and gagged, even more enticing.
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You comin' into San Diego soon?0 -
No one thinks they are a prude and everyone considers themselves sexually adventurous. A I think the definition of a prude is someone who is not willing to do as much sexually as you are. Similarly, the definition of pervert is someone who is willing to do more sexually than you [sic] are.
You are quite sagacious. I'll be stealing this and attributing it to myself, thank you very much. ;-)
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Glad I could help. I cleaned up a few sloppy typos, etc. I wouldn't want you to look foolish in your profound thoughts.0 -
I think sexual innuendo is a good way to screen women. If they are turned off, it is a good indication that you're going to spend a whole lot of time trying to remove the stick from their *kitten* and you should move on. If they go with the flow, you can see how imaginitive they are and get a sense of their intelligence and creativity - not just sexually but in general terms.
WOW this could not be further from the truth! I am faaaaar from a prude and pretty sexually adventurous, but a guy being sexual before we have even met is way overstepping - just because a woman doesn't want to be sexual with every guy she comes across before they even know each other doesn't mean she has a stick up her *kitten*, come on! Super juvenile thing to say.
No one thinks they are a prude and everyone considers themselves sexually adventurous. A think the definition of a prude is someone who is willing to do as much sexually as you are. Similarly, the definition of pervert is someone who is willing to do more sexually than ou are. If I've talked to you enough that I am comfortable throwing out a sexual innuendo and you are turned off by it, I'll be nice and send you a coupon for KY jelly so you can remove the stick with a little less pain if you so choose. However, I'm on to the next.
This made about as much sense as your first comment, but if you want to think I'm a prude because I'm not receptive to sexual comments when I haven't even met a person, be my guest, I'll continue thinking you're a dirty old man.
Twenty years ago, I thought the difference between me and a dirty old man was about 40 birthdays. At this point, I am certain that it is at least 30 more birthdays.
I never made reference to the fact that I never met the person in question. I specifically said that I talked to someone enough that I figured she wouldn't be turned off. I think that's the difference in our mindsets. Perhaps that stick is making you wince too much to see what I actually wrote. :laugh: :flowerforyou:0 -
I'm in an odd mood today, so I'm actually going to ask the question that just popped into my head. Be forewarned, it's going into X-rated territory.
In my observations, men tend to be turned on by women who take objects up their *kitten*. Why is a 'stick' a bad thing?
For that matter, why does 'suck' have such a negative connotation?
... these are the unanswered questions that sit in the back of my mind for weeks at a time.0 -
I'm in an odd mood today, so I'm actually going to ask the question that just popped into my head. Be forewarned, it's going into X-rated territory.
In my observations, men tend to be turned on by women who take objects up their *kitten*. Why is a 'stick' a bad thing?
For that matter, why does 'suck' have such a negative connotation?
... these are the unanswered questions that sit in the back of my mind for weeks at a time.
For the first part - generally when there is a long rigid object up ones rear it becomes difficult and even uncomfortable to function in normal everyday behaviors. So saying that someone has a stick up their *kitten* is basically saying they are unable to handle perfectly normal things because of a level of discomfort that is generally seen as over the top.
When someone says "suck" I think of the term "sucking pondwater", I don't know if they're connected but the guess is as good as anyones.
No one has ever been able to tell me why it's called "*kitten*" been asking that since I was 13
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