I believe in marriage that God comes first, your spouse, then your children, because in that order, your children get the best support and direction possible.

Wow, just wow.

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^^

I'm in a bit of a mood so I was planning a smark remark, but quite frankly I'm not willing to fight a pointless battle so I'll wish you both nothing but the best in whatever your priorities. Our opinions don't have the be the same but being respectful of others is just good form.

6. Ask them on a date sooner rather than later... these online gals are touchy and just looking for a reason to reject you. Plus another guy might come along.

Oh.. so this is why when I am trying to get to know someone on there, sometimes they just stop replying? Even though we were actually having a good conversation?

I don't think that is the only reason... but I get that too, where you're getting to know them and then you start getting the dead end replies or nothing at all. It's a rare bread women, I try not to take much of it personally.

Not sure if you saw my list above but the best thing I ever did was put a funny question at the end of my profile... all of the messages I get are in reply to the question. I guess it makes it easier for them to send the first message, like they have a reason to message me.

You're so wise... Btw, I'm told by the guys that I have the best profile ever. We so smart!!

I believe in marriage that God comes first, your spouse, then your children, because in that order, your children get the best support and direction possible.

Wow, just wow.

--P

^^

I'm in a bit of a mood so I was planning a smark remark, but quite frankly I'm not willing to fight a pointless battle so I'll wish you both nothing but the best in whatever your priorities. Our opinions don't have the be the same but being respectful of others is just good form.

How is that disrespectful?

Saying you put God in front of your future spouse and children seems like a legitimate subject of debate here on a singles board.

Is it wise to do that? Is it radical? Is it normal for Christians to do this? Is it harder/easier to maintain a relationship with a man/woman when God comes first? What, exactly, does putting God first actually mean?

And in the Bible there is a perfect example of this, when God asked Abraham to sacrifice his son to prove his obedience to God. And Abraham was about to do it, had the knife ready to butcher his son in God's name, when God intervened and told him it was no longer necessary. It was a classic case of putting God before a child, and taking that vow seriously.

Then there is probably the less controversial idea (relatively speaking) of putting your spouse before your kids. Again, what does that mean? Does it apply to single parents who remarry?

It could be a very interesting discussion, indeed!

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How is that disrespectful?

An explanation of why "Wow, just wow." would be received as an insult:




(Coincidentally, my brother posted this on his FB page yesterday.)

Not sure of your point, Mellie. That I'm implying putting God before your spouse, who is then before the children, is "stupid"? No, not at all. It's not stupid. It's incredibly radical, however, at least in my opinion. I would even say shockingly radical. Hence, the "wow."

But I'd love to better understand why it's actually not radical at all, and even preferable, at least for Christians. I would suppose, based on the Biblical story of Abraham and Isaac, that a good Christian must put God in front of his family. And, following through on that logic, should God ask a Christian to kill his/her child or spouse, a good Christian must obey. This is not a hypothetical, as it actually happened. At least that's what it says in the Bible.

I didn't even agree with putting the spouse before the kids, although perhaps that depends on our definitions of "putting before...."

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I would suppose, based on the Biblical story of Abraham and Isaac, that a good Christian must put God in front of his family. And, following through on that logic, should God ask a Christian to kill his/her child or spouse, a good Christian must obey. This is not a hypothetical, as it actually happened. At least that's what it says in the Bible.

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Man, I love comedy.

I am going back to the original post. I can't see your match.com posting but for your POF one.

- Post a picture without the sunglasses. Women (and most men) like to see someone’s eyes as the eyes tell more of a story.

- The whole profile, to me, is filled with poor grammar and I would have stopped reading after the first sentence.

I enjoy spending time with my family and friends, going for walks, mountain climbing, riding bikes, four-wheeling, working out at the gym, watching movies and reading all different kinds of books and poetry. I appreciate art but cannot draw to save my life.

What really sets me out from other people is probably my sense of humor. I have a unique sense of humor and great enjoy being around others to play off of. I enjoy comedians like Daniel Tosh, Louis C.K. and Richard Pryor.

I eat healthy, workout, and watch my intake. I am really trying to build myself new so that I can live to have grandchildren some day and maybe even great grand children.

My ultimate goal is to be a healthy individual and strive to seek new adventures in life. I am very family oriented so I would like find someone who is similar. I think when you are with someone and dating them that it is important to be around your family after sometime.

Here is a rough draft of how I would edit it.

"I enjoy spending time with my family and friends. I am a very family oriented person and would like to connect with someone that also enjoys their family. I think that when two people are in a committed relationship that it is important to include both families as they are a part of who we are. (Make sure to mention your daughter in this part somehow)

In my spare time I enjoy doing outdoor actives like mountain climbing, hiking, riding bikes, and four wheeling. I enjoy seeking new adventures in life; I would like to do (something you haven't tried yet) in the next couple years. When I am not outdoors I like to read a good biography/non-fiction book or poetry. I also appreciate art and like to go to art museums.

What really sets me apart from other guys is my sense of humor. I have a {different adjective} sense of humor and like being around others that I can bounce it off of. I am entertained by sarcastic comedians like Daniel Tosh, Louis C.K. and Richard Pryor.

I live a healthily lifestyle and work out several days a week and try to eat healthy and would like to find someone that also lives a similar lifestyle.

(Finish with a question) Are you the one that I can explore the great outdoors with?

Saying , "Wow, just wow" was completely disrespectful and closed-minded... you may not have said that my beliefs were stupid, but you might as well have. I didn't ask anyone to believe them....

I did not mean to be disrespectful. If you took it that way, I do apologize.

Having said that, let me repeat: I don't think your one sentence, putting God before your children, was "stupid." I do think it is extremely radical, and leads to some incredibly uncomfortable, perhaps even immoral, conclusions (no, I'm not calling you immoral).

I'm sure lots of Christians believe it. But like so many other things Christians say or believe, they are rarely challenged. And by challenged I mean in a respectful way. I do think that most believers have been given a free pass with religion. I debate religion with my Christian, Islamic, and Jewish friends all the time. Usually over beer or wine (not with my Islamic friends, obviously - or at least I'm the only one drinking).

Although my Jewish friends are all atheists (and all Israeli), btw. Those conversations are more along the lines of, "Did Jesus invent Christianity or did Paul?" etc., etc. More secular religious topics. While my discussions with my Christian and Islamic friends are usually me challenging tenets of their religion, and they trying to defend or enlighten me.

My Islamic friends (and btw, they are mostly engineers, executives, etc.) are either atheists or "fundamentalists," as in the Koran is the written word of God, infallible, 100%. My Christian friends, however, display a wide spectrum of beliefs. Which is why I always start out trying to understand how they view the Bible: as inspired by God, 100% correct? Or, rather, more historical, with some Godly utterances among the many mistakes, etc., etc. I always prefer the fundamentalist discussions, since the more liberal Christians have watered down their religion to such a point that it's no longer recognizable. Although, in their defense, I suppose that's what you have to do to live in the modern world if you truly think about religion, especially as an educated person.

Of course, few minds are changed, but a good time is had by all. I always remind them that they will no doubt "win" the debate in the end, as they will be eating figs in heaven, and I will be suffering the most horrible kinds of torture, endlessly, mercilessly, forever and ever, put in place by their kind and loving God.

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When it comes to taking a current self shot, don't use your cell phone and a mirror!

Buy a tri-pod for $40 and a cheap digital camera with a timer. Your pictures will come out 100x better.

Oh have a friend take a picture!

When it comes to taking a current self shot, don't use your cell phone and a mirror!

Buy a tri-pod for $40 and a cheap digital camera with a timer. Your pictures will come out 100x better.

Oh have a friend take a picture!

Well you can take on with an Iphone 4 or above as it has the turn around feature so you can see the picture you are taking.