Am I just that bad or what?
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I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.
I don't think men really have that many options when describing their body type. He can't put Curvy or BBW down. Most men are either average, athletic and ton, slender, or heavyset.
Right, and at worst he should put down "average". He looks good to me but I'm just saying maybe a girl sees "heavyset" and passes him by before even going any further.
You're both right. In the US, "heavyset" is "average."
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That's what I would say too. The OP should be picking "average". He might be getting overlooked by many unnecessarily for the "heavyset" selection.I'm still curious as to why he's listed himself as "heavyset", when he isn't.
I don't think men really have that many options when describing their body type. He can't put Curvy or BBW down. Most men are either average, athletic and ton, slender, or heavyset.
Right, and at worst he should put down "average". He looks good to me but I'm just saying maybe a girl sees "heavyset" and passes him by before even going any further.
You're both right. In the US, "heavyset" is "average."
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Yeah, the whole heavy set thing is merely because it's the closest thing to "Few Pounds Over." I am pretty much average now, at least for an American. Ha. Also, toots I weighed 300 lbs 3 months ago, I still am very much in the heavyset mindset.(<- putting those two words together made me giggle.)
I updated my POF quite a bit. Actually have a date tomorrow night. I took a lot of the advice from here. Including updating the profile, pushing very quickly for a first date, and focusing on dating more compatible(less attractive) woman.
I will keep you updated on my progress but I think this should go well. I haven't went on a blind date in a very long time so I hope I don't f it up by being awkward. I am very good at being awkward so we shall see.
Friday is my birthday, so I think I am due some birthday luck.
I appreciate all the awesome advice and brutal honesty is what I prefer. There is a time to be nice and time to just put it where it goes.0 -
Yay! A date! Good luck with it, and if you eff it up.... don't worry about it! You will have successfully launched yourself back into dating and she wasn't the one for you.
If you have good chemistry with someone, she will put up with all kinds of awkward on the first date. If you don't have good chemistry, nothing is likely to come of things anyway, so no need to pressure yourself into making sure you don't make any blunders. Just be yourself. I can't wait to hear how it goes.
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time to just put it where it goes.
That's what she said.0 -
Also, toots I weighed 300 lbs 3 months ago, I still am very much in the heavyset mindset.(<- putting those two words together made me giggle.)
I know the feeling! I struggled a bit with what to put on there myself. You look great, you should be proud.
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The date went very well. She seemed to really like me. We clicked. I can't think of a negative thing to say.
Was it an oh my god passionate date? Nope, we just walked and rode rides at the fair.
I had a great time and tonight is my birthday get together at Oaklawn Racetrace(casino portion). Let's hope that people show up. 0 -
Woo hoo! You don't need OMG passionate for the first time you meet someone. That you really clicked is a very good first date! I hope you'll have a second soon.
Happy birthday! Have a great time!0 -
The date went very well. She seemed to really like me. We clicked. I can't think of a negative thing to say.
Was it an oh my god passionate date? Nope, we just walked and rode rides at the fair.
I had a great time and tonight is my birthday get together at Oaklawn Racetrace(casino portion). Let's hope that people show up.
What?! No hands up her shirt on the ferris wheel? I'm disappointed.
Just kidding. Great job man.0 -
So.. is this picture one you guys were referring to? Like of me going out with friends?0
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Yes it shows you are social.0
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Hey Bro,
Nothing is wrong with you. Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails and probably will not get to your email.. if they do, it's a 50 - 50 chance when it comes to them responding. I'm just like Poncho. I'll send out 30 emails within a month and probably will get 1 or 2 emails back. You have to have thick skin for online dating. I agree with others. Make your profile fun but also point out the things that you want.
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Hey Bro,
Nothing is wrong with you. Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails and probably will not get to your email.. if they do, it's a 50 - 50 chance when it comes to them responding. I'm just like Poncho. I'll send out 30 emails within a month and probably will get 1 or 2 emails back. You have to have thick skin for online dating. I agree with others. Make your profile fun but also point out the things that you want.
Jarnard
Yeah and having some success has really helped with my thick skin. I have trouble dating multiple people at the same time, so I am not the best fisher.0 -
I was a little late to the party...0
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Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails
Jarnard
I wish that was true! :laugh:0 -
Just remember that women are going through hundreds of emails
Jarnard
I wish that was true! :laugh:
Haha, I'll let you know when I hit a hundred. It may be 2014 at this rate :laugh: Then again, I'm on the free sites...those will be an entertaining 100 emails so at least I have that going, haha...0 -
Date Number 2 tonight:
I invited her out to Outback. She really seems interested in going. The old me would immediately assume it's for a free meal and night out. The new me knows that a single mom isn't going to just spend her time away from her kiddo with just anyone.
Any advice for me? I am still getting used to this whole dating thing.
I also have a lunch date with a friend tomorrow but she has expressed interest in dating just lunch is the only time that she is available.
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Date Number 2 tonight:
I invited her out to Outback. She really seems interested in going. The old me would immediately assume it's for a free meal and night out. The new me knows that a single mom isn't going to just spend her time away from her kiddo with just anyone.
Any advice for me? I am still getting used to this whole dating thing.
I also have a lunch date with a friend tomorrow but she has expressed interest in dating just lunch is the only time that she is available.
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Awesome!! Just be yourself and if that isn't good enough then F her and on to the next.
Oh and don't just settle because she is the first date in awhile...0 -
I'm glad you aren't suspicious that your date is just out for a free meal. Most of us ladies aren't that poor and hungry that we would endure a second date with someone who we didn't enjoy spending time with. :laugh: Obviously, both women think you are worth spending their time on.Date Number 2 tonight:
I invited her out to Outback. She really seems interested in going. The old me would immediately assume it's for a free meal and night out. The new me knows that a single mom isn't going to just spend her time away from her kiddo with just anyone.
Any advice for me? I am still getting used to this whole dating thing.
I also have a lunch date with a friend tomorrow but she has expressed interest in dating just lunch is the only time that she is available.
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No advice but have fun at both dates! Just be yourself and enjoy the time out. And above all, come back and report to us how the dates go! :flowerforyou:0 -
Before the date, take a few stiff shots and clean the pipes one good time.
During the date, don't bring up video games, PC specs or things such as theories of quantum relativity.0
