Stuff no one tells you...
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The morning sickness....all day and night.
And no strong cravings, besides fruit. Mostly food aversion.
Now insomnia....
And pain in the night, slight a sharp stretching pain in my stomach......what's that? Stretching ligaments? It's actually wakes me up in the night it hurts that bad.
The pain sounds like round ligament pain. I've had it all through my second trimester and even a few times in week 28 and 29
It sucks, but it's normal.
Thanks Prego! I googled it, and that sounds like it.
The best way to avoid it is to stand up slowly and stretch your groin muscles regularly (runner's stretch is what I do). It'll help that whole area stay loose.
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I agree- this whole thread is beyond helpful! I've been trying to avoid the 'freak myself out by researching everything' trap, but it is nice to know in advance that you'll be wearing industrial pads after delivery, that you have to rinse with a water bottle, or that you won't feel an episiotomy due to the anesthetic.
Actually - I think I feel more calm (grossed out, but calm) after reading this. So, thanks again veteran mothers.
I also watched and loved the 'Business of Being Born' - great documentary. And I just finished 'The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy' - definitely recommend if you want some humor/snark.
Here's a random question for you guys: do you use prescription prenatal vitamins or over the counter? Is there really any difference (besides the price tag)?0 -
Here's a random question for you guys: do you use prescription prenatal vitamins or over the counter? Is there really any difference (besides the price tag)?
I use over the counter (Centrum) plus extra EFAs and flaxseed oil. My friend had some prescribed to her with extra B6 and iron, but she ended up not liking them. I wouldn't think any expecting mama would "need" prescription prenatals absent specific health conditions, but that's just my two cents.0 -
I use over the counter (Centrum) plus extra EFAs and flaxseed oil. My friend had some prescribed to her with extra B6 and iron, but she ended up not liking them. I wouldn't think any expecting mama would "need" prescription prenatals absent specific health conditions, but that's just my two cents.
Thanks - that's what I figured. I got used to one prescription brand that my doctor gave me a ridiculous supply of samples from - but now that my supply is depleting, I'm ready to go over the counter.
Appreciate your help!0 -
I also watched and loved the 'Business of Being Born' - great documentary. And I just finished 'The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy' - definitely recommend if you want some humor/snark.
That documentary is fantastic. I usually hate documentaries, but "Business of Being Born" was very informative to me.Here's a random question for you guys: do you use prescription prenatal vitamins or over the counter? Is there really any difference (besides the price tag)?
I take an OTC one. It works just fine and is nutritionally similar to the prescription ones.0 -
But I imagine if you roll in with some serious jungle action - they might tame it back ... Like for stretching,tearing,stitching purposes. But I think it would have to be a really epic bush for that to happen.
LMAO @ epic jungle bush....
I just saw this and sprayed green tea out of my nose!
I love you ladies! :-)0 -
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Here's a random question for you guys: do you use prescription prenatal vitamins or over the counter? Is there really any difference (besides the price tag)?
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My baby conceived via in vitro fertilization, and fertility clinc routinely prescribe you pregvit5 for start prior your treatment and through the 1st trimester. Usually the prescription prenatals have some extraordinary amount from something. Pregvit5 have 5 times the folic acid content of OTC prenatals, hence it is not recommended to use for extended period of time. I took it in the first tri, and I was incredibly hungry all the time and gained 25 lb in that trimester alone! I also had to use progesterone , so I am not entirely sure which one caused the extreme weight gain, but it was brutal. Once the fertility clinic got me off the prescription prenatals and progesterone my weight gain got under control. I ended up gaining 70 lb with my first baby, and I am will be around 60 lb with this baby. I think without those extreme prenatals and progesterone, would have gained 20 lb less in each time.
Right now in the 3rd trimester, I no longer take prenatals only iron supplement. I also drink one bottle of similac mom drinks day, which is a vitamin/ mineral fortified shake for pg or breastfeeding mom. I am logging very accurately, and Instead of macros, I following my vitamins/ minerals on MFP. Most of the day I get 500% vitamin c , 300% on vitamin A, and 200% of calcium, so I am fairly confident that my diet do not lack the nutrition my baby needs.0 -
About the bleeding...
With my first 4 babies, I was told by my OBs just to "take it easy for a couple days."
With baby #5, when I switched to a midwife, she was adamant on BEDREST for at least a week. To the bathroom, maybe a quick shower, back to bed. And then for the second week, she only wanted me to be on my feet long enough to fix a snack or something. Bed to couch/recliner, etc. She said that the first time I leave the house should be when I come in for a checkup and to have the baby weighed at around 2 weeks post-partum. And she instructed my husband and the teenaged girls (niece was living with us at the time) that they were to do all the cooking, take care of the housework, etc. I really thought that was overkill.
But she explained that if I would stay off my feet, that my bleeding would be lighter and that it should disappear by two weeks. She got my hubby on board at keeping me off my feet by telling him that there was really no reason why we couldn't resume marital relations a couple days after the bleeding had completely stopped, providing I was up to such a thing (as opposed to the six weeks he was used to hearing from the OBs). She also told him that after two weeks of rest, I would probably have more energy and less blues.
So yeah, she was right on all counts. And we were "back in business" by about 3 weeks.
I really look forward to those two weeks of laying around and being waited on hand and foot like a queen!0 -
Oh, yeah...after-birth pains. It's like being in labor all over again. Except that it lasts a week. Breastfeeding makes them worse, and it seems like the more children you have, the worse it is afterward. I go without pain medication during childbirth, but I'm always tempted to ask for some Percocets afterward!0
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About the bleeding...
With my first 4 babies, I was told by my OBs just to "take it easy for a couple days."
With baby #5, when I switched to a midwife, she was adamant on BEDREST for at least a week. To the bathroom, maybe a quick shower, back to bed. And then for the second week, she only wanted me to be on my feet long enough to fix a snack or something. Bed to couch/recliner, etc. She said that the first time I leave the house should be when I come in for a checkup and to have the baby weighed at around 2 weeks post-partum. And she instructed my husband and the teenaged girls (niece was living with us at the time) that they were to do all the cooking, take care of the housework, etc. I really thought that was overkill.
But she explained that if I would stay off my feet, that my bleeding would be lighter and that it should disappear by two weeks. She got my hubby on board at keeping me off my feet by telling him that there was really no reason why we couldn't resume marital relations a couple days after the bleeding had completely stopped, providing I was up to such a thing (as opposed to the six weeks he was used to hearing from the OBs). She also told him that after two weeks of rest, I would probably have more energy and less blues.
So yeah, she was right on all counts. And we were "back in business" by about 3 weeks.
I really look forward to those two weeks of laying around and being waited on hand and foot like a queen!
Thanks for that!! I've never heard that but it totally makes sense!! We could all use the rest, that's for sure!0 -
I think that the main difference between prescription and OTC prenatals are the amount of iron they contain. (Someone correct me if that is wrong.)Here's a random question for you guys: do you use prescription prenatal vitamins or over the counter? Is there really any difference (besides the price tag)?
I take an OTC one. It works just fine and is nutritionally similar to the prescription ones.
I prefer food-based vitamins over synthetic vitamins. The more pregnancies you have, the more your nutrient stores become depleted. Good food-based vitamins, as opposed to cheap synthetic vitamins, can make a difference. Food-based vitamins are better able to be absorbed and used by your body. I personally can tell a difference in my energy levels between one and the other, so I go to the HFS and shell out the $$. Same with iron--after pregnancy #3, I became anemic with each pregnancy, and NORA infusions (nettle/oatstraw/red raspberry leaf/alfalfa) are much easier on my body than the iron pills I used to get from the pharmacy. Floradix, Hemaplex, or chlorophyll also have less harsh side effects than iron pills.0 -
I think that the main difference between prescription and OTC prenatals are the amount of iron they contain. (Someone correct me if that is wrong.)Here's a random question for you guys: do you use prescription prenatal vitamins or over the counter? Is there really any difference (besides the price tag)?
I take an OTC one. It works just fine and is nutritionally similar to the prescription ones.
I prefer food-based vitamins over synthetic vitamins. The more pregnancies you have, the more your nutrient stores become depleted. Good food-based vitamins, as opposed to cheap synthetic vitamins, can make a difference. Food-based vitamins are better able to be absorbed and used by your body. I personally can tell a difference in my energy levels between one and the other, so I go to the HFS and shell out the $$. Same with iron--after pregnancy #3, I became anemic with each pregnancy, and NORA infusions (nettle/oatstraw/red raspberry leaf/alfalfa) are much easier on my body than the iron pills I used to get from the pharmacy. Floradix, Hemaplex, or chlorophyll also have less harsh side effects than iron pills.
My OTC prenatals have a little iron in them but not enough. I try to supplement with food to reach my limits on a daily basis, but it's difficult.
I've heard about iron levels dropping with subsequent pregnancies too.
Where do you get your iron supplements?0 -
I order dried herbs online that I make into infusions to drink over a day. Or, if I find it difficult to drink herbal infusions (like right now, I have such a problem with nausea and lack of appetite), I'll get vitamins and iron supplements from a health food store. Rainbow Light food-based prenatals are what I've used for the past couple pregnancies. Along with Floradix or Hemaplex.0
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I order dried herbs online that I make into infusions to drink over a day. Or, if I find it difficult to drink herbal infusions (like right now, I have such a problem with nausea and lack of appetite), I'll get vitamins and iron supplements from a health food store. Rainbow Light food-based prenatals are what I've used for the past couple pregnancies. Along with Floradix or Hemaplex.
Thanks! I'll look into them. I'm worried that I don't get enough iron anyway. I don't have anemia, but I just have a hard time hitting my iron goals every day.0 -
She got my hubby on board at keeping me off my feet by telling him that there was really no reason why we couldn't resume marital relations a couple days after the bleeding had completely stopped, providing I was up to such a thing (as opposed to the six weeks he was used to hearing from the OBs). She also told him that after two weeks of rest, I would probably have more energy and less blues.
So yeah, she was right on all counts. And we were "back in business" by about 3 weeks.
Oh dear, I couldn't imagine being back in business that early! I have my 6 week PP appointment next week and while things don't hurt anymore, I'm not exactly eager to get back into the swing of things! I can tell DH is getting anxious, but I told him even if the doctor says it's okay to get busy, he's not to expect any action until I feel ready!0 -
She got my hubby on board at keeping me off my feet by telling him that there was really no reason why we couldn't resume marital relations a couple days after the bleeding had completely stopped, providing I was up to such a thing (as opposed to the six weeks he was used to hearing from the OBs). She also told him that after two weeks of rest, I would probably have more energy and less blues.
So yeah, she was right on all counts. And we were "back in business" by about 3 weeks.
Oh dear, I couldn't imagine being back in business that early! I have my 6 week PP appointment next week and while things don't hurt anymore, I'm not exactly eager to get back into the swing of things! I can tell DH is getting anxious, but I told him even if the doctor says it's okay to get busy, he's not to expect any action until I feel ready!
Lol. Let him know. :-)0 -
She got my hubby on board at keeping me off my feet by telling him that there was really no reason why we couldn't resume marital relations a couple days after the bleeding had completely stopped, providing I was up to such a thing (as opposed to the six weeks he was used to hearing from the OBs). She also told him that after two weeks of rest, I would probably have more energy and less blues.
So yeah, she was right on all counts. And we were "back in business" by about 3 weeks.
Oh dear, I couldn't imagine being back in business that early! I have my 6 week PP appointment next week and while things don't hurt anymore, I'm not exactly eager to get back into the swing of things! I can tell DH is getting anxious, but I told him even if the doctor says it's okay to get busy, he's not to expect any action until I feel ready!
Lol. Let him know. :-)
Seriously, do that! I wasn't ready for at least a couple of months afterwards with my first, although I was cleared 5 weeks postpartum. I simply told him I wasn't there yet, and he was ok with it. Once we were back, though, it was normal and just like before, so pretty regularly.0 -
Since it came up on another thread...
Babies cluster-feed from time to time, which is especially hard if you are breastfeeding. They will literally want to nurse all day long with very few, very short breaks. The lactation consultant I worked with told me that she tells moms that on those days they just have to cancel whatever they have going on and plan to be on the couch or in bed all day with their baby. Cluster-feeding is matched with growth spurts, but no one told me about them. Day 2 (in the hospital) and Day 3 (at home) were cluster-feeding days for my son, and since I didn't know about it, I found it incredibly frustrating and thought I couldn't give him enough milk (or I guess colostrum at that point) because I had been nursing him for literally hours on end. In tears, I broke down and gave him formula (not the end of the world, especially since he ended up on it anyway, but I had horrible guilt), but had I known that this is just what they do sometimes, I'd have stuck it out.
Now I know, and I can expect to have to muster up some patience. Remember that it's ok to let the baby cry for a minute so you can go pee (and change your pad) or go get some water/something to eat. Food that you can eat one-handed is really helpful during these days.0 -
She got my hubby on board at keeping me off my feet by telling him that there was really no reason why we couldn't resume marital relations a couple days after the bleeding had completely stopped, providing I was up to such a thing (as opposed to the six weeks he was used to hearing from the OBs). She also told him that after two weeks of rest, I would probably have more energy and less blues.
So yeah, she was right on all counts. And we were "back in business" by about 3 weeks.
Oh dear, I couldn't imagine being back in business that early! I have my 6 week PP appointment next week and while things don't hurt anymore, I'm not exactly eager to get back into the swing of things! I can tell DH is getting anxious, but I told him even if the doctor says it's okay to get busy, he's not to expect any action until I feel ready!
Lol. Let him know. :-)
Seriously, do that! I wasn't ready for at least a couple of months afterwards with my first, although I was cleared 5 weeks postpartum. I simply told him I wasn't there yet, and he was ok with it. Once we were back, though, it was normal and just like before, so pretty regularly.
Oh, he knows! :laugh:0 -
* No one told me that complete STRANGERS will consider it their place to comment on your birth plans. "Oh you're not having him circumcised? You're having him at home? Cloth diapers? Yeah, my sister said she was doing all of that too. She gave up, you will too."0
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* No one told me that complete STRANGERS will consider it their place to comment on your birth plans. "Oh you're not having him circumcised? You're having him at home? Cloth diapers? Yeah, my sister said she was doing all of that too. She gave up, you will too."
yes THIS. soooooo annoying! Being in the military I get wide eyes followed by "well you're in the military you probably can take natural birth, but WOW"0 -
Since it came up on another thread...
Babies cluster-feed from time to time, which is especially hard if you are breastfeeding. They will literally want to nurse all day long with very few, very short breaks. The lactation consultant I worked with told me that she tells moms that on those days they just have to cancel whatever they have going on and plan to be on the couch or in bed all day with their baby. Cluster-feeding is matched with growth spurts, but no one told me about them. Day 2 (in the hospital) and Day 3 (at home) were cluster-feeding days for my son, and since I didn't know about it, I found it incredibly frustrating and thought I couldn't give him enough milk (or I guess colostrum at that point) because I had been nursing him for literally hours on end. In tears, I broke down and gave him formula (not the end of the world, especially since he ended up on it anyway, but I had horrible guilt), but had I known that this is just what they do sometimes, I'd have stuck it out.
Now I know, and I can expect to have to muster up some patience. Remember that it's ok to let the baby cry for a minute so you can go pee (and change your pad) or go get some water/something to eat. Food that you can eat one-handed is really helpful during these days.
Before my husband went to work in the mornings, he would make peanut butter sandwiches, cut in half and in little bags and put them in the places I would tend to be around the house and in the stroller along with a piece of fruit, graham crackers and water. That way, no matter how long I was stuck in one spot, there was some food I could easily grab when the baby wouldn't stop nursing. I don't think I would have had any food during the day if we didn't do that.0 -
* No one told me that complete STRANGERS will consider it their place to comment on your birth plans. "Oh you're not having him circumcised? You're having him at home? Cloth diapers? Yeah, my sister said she was doing all of that too. She gave up, you will too."
yes THIS. soooooo annoying! Being in the military I get wide eyes followed by "well you're in the military you probably can take natural birth, but WOW"
Lol. "Well, you're in the military..." That's a hilarious response.0 -
Since it came up on another thread...
Babies cluster-feed from time to time, which is especially hard if you are breastfeeding. They will literally want to nurse all day long with very few, very short breaks. The lactation consultant I worked with told me that she tells moms that on those days they just have to cancel whatever they have going on and plan to be on the couch or in bed all day with their baby. Cluster-feeding is matched with growth spurts, but no one told me about them. Day 2 (in the hospital) and Day 3 (at home) were cluster-feeding days for my son, and since I didn't know about it, I found it incredibly frustrating and thought I couldn't give him enough milk (or I guess colostrum at that point) because I had been nursing him for literally hours on end. In tears, I broke down and gave him formula (not the end of the world, especially since he ended up on it anyway, but I had horrible guilt), but had I known that this is just what they do sometimes, I'd have stuck it out.
Now I know, and I can expect to have to muster up some patience. Remember that it's ok to let the baby cry for a minute so you can go pee (and change your pad) or go get some water/something to eat. Food that you can eat one-handed is really helpful during these days.
Before my husband went to work in the mornings, he would make peanut butter sandwiches, cut in half and in little bags and put them in the places I would tend to be around the house and in the stroller along with a piece of fruit, graham crackers and water. That way, no matter how long I was stuck in one spot, there was some food I could easily grab when the baby wouldn't stop nursing. I don't think I would have had any food during the day if we didn't do that.
Great tip, thanks! I already cannot deal with hunger. I can't imagine the hunger that comes on with nursing.0 -
Oh, great tip, thanks for sharing!! This could definitely come in handy for me when hubby has to go back to work after our girl is born.Since it came up on another thread...
Babies cluster-feed from time to time, which is especially hard if you are breastfeeding. They will literally want to nurse all day long with very few, very short breaks. The lactation consultant I worked with told me that she tells moms that on those days they just have to cancel whatever they have going on and plan to be on the couch or in bed all day with their baby. Cluster-feeding is matched with growth spurts, but no one told me about them. Day 2 (in the hospital) and Day 3 (at home) were cluster-feeding days for my son, and since I didn't know about it, I found it incredibly frustrating and thought I couldn't give him enough milk (or I guess colostrum at that point) because I had been nursing him for literally hours on end. In tears, I broke down and gave him formula (not the end of the world, especially since he ended up on it anyway, but I had horrible guilt), but had I known that this is just what they do sometimes, I'd have stuck it out.
Now I know, and I can expect to have to muster up some patience. Remember that it's ok to let the baby cry for a minute so you can go pee (and change your pad) or go get some water/something to eat. Food that you can eat one-handed is really helpful during these days.
Before my husband went to work in the mornings, he would make peanut butter sandwiches, cut in half and in little bags and put them in the places I would tend to be around the house and in the stroller along with a piece of fruit, graham crackers and water. That way, no matter how long I was stuck in one spot, there was some food I could easily grab when the baby wouldn't stop nursing. I don't think I would have had any food during the day if we didn't do that.0 -
Oh dear, I couldn't imagine being back in business that early! I have my 6 week PP appointment next week and while things don't hurt anymore, I'm not exactly eager to get back into the swing of things! I can tell DH is getting anxious, but I told him even if the doctor says it's okay to get busy, he's not to expect any action until I feel ready!
No stitches and laying around being waited on hand and foot for two weeks makes a huge difference. 0 -
Oh dear, I couldn't imagine being back in business that early! I have my 6 week PP appointment next week and while things don't hurt anymore, I'm not exactly eager to get back into the swing of things! I can tell DH is getting anxious, but I told him even if the doctor says it's okay to get busy, he's not to expect any action until I feel ready!
No stitches and laying around being waited on hand and foot for two weeks makes a huge difference.
The no stitches is the key. I had some tearing with my first, and we waited about four weeks, but after my second and third, it was just over two weeks.0 -
Reading all your comments has only left me terrified of ever getting pregnant0
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Reading all your comments has only left me terrified of ever getting pregnant
Haha! This is why I never attempted to educate myself on these things BEFORE I got pregnant. I actually feel like this is stuff you have to find out AFTER in order for the human race to go on. :-)
In all seriousness, it's not that bad (she says at 39 weeks pregnant). I've had a fairly comfortable pregnancy so far. Even if all these things that were discussed on this thread were to happen to one person (and don't get me wrong, that would suck). It's still pretty temporary compared to the joy of having that little baby in your arms...0 -
Reading all your comments has only left me terrified of ever getting pregnant
Haha! This is why I never attempted to educate myself on these things BEFORE I got pregnant. I actually feel like this is stuff you have to find out AFTER in order for the human race to go on. :-)
In all seriousness, it's not that bad (she says at 39 weeks pregnant). I've had a fairly comfortable pregnancy so far. Even if all these things that were discussed on this thread were to happen to one person (and don't get me wrong, that would suck). It's still pretty temporary compared to the joy of having that little baby in your arms...
I'm guessing its worth going through all the pain when so many women go on to have more children after the first despite all the pregnancy woes. I can only pray that when I get pregnant, it will be a smooth and happy experience .....famous last words! lol0
