Agree with pa about the long term thing. Although people are usually really impressed when I tell them that I've lost 40 pounds,.. I once asked my current SO what he liked about me, and he told me that one of the things was how motivated I am, especially in that area.
I've had guys on dates tell me they've lost a good amount of weight before and I think it's a huge turn on to respect yourself enough to want to turn your life around like that. And if this is a really big part of your life, and you're proud of your accomplishments, why not share? And who knows, maybe she could relate.

In my opinion, if a girl is going to be turned off by the fact that you USED TO be out of shape, then she probably isn't worth your time. The past is the past... You're good now? You're good now.

I dont see it as a 1st date discussion, more of a 6th date getting to you know you better and better...........

I dont get too personal or serious on 1st dates.........

I don't want to..but it usually comes up.
My goal this year is to not mention it. I think it ends up being TMI and a turn off. But I feel it explains alot about my past lack of dating.

Also to note: Sam the camera is too high on your new profile pic. Please try again.

Cute, Zach.

Do you have any idea how hard it is to do selfies? I might need your help.

There was another thread on this (I can't find, and alas I am away from home and don't have my record of fave topics) but while there were many varying opinions, I noticed the guys generally felt like a woman shouldn't say anything. That if she did, they might not want to date her anymore for fear that she'd go back to the unhealthy ways (and thus end up unattractive or unable to perform sexually or just plain sickly). And then there’s the women who simply lose weight to catch a man, and then let themselves go after they’ve caught him because “now he has to lvoe me as I am.”

I honestly don’t remember the women caring as much as the men, but I don’t have the link to the thread to check my memory. Since OP is a guy, I'll throw in my 2 cents that if a man told me he lost 150 lbs last year, I'd be very impressed with his progress, but at the same time I'd probably be wary of committing too soon because I want to see if these changes are permanent. So I wouldn’t say anything up front, but let it come out naturally as you get to know each other, share pictures and such.

Now, if I’ve been dating someone for awhile and always seen them enjoying a fit life, it wouldn’t bother me as much once I find out, but too many people (myself included) lose weight and look great and then something happens and boom that weight packs on and they return to old habits.

We don’t often like to admit it, but physical appearance has a LOT to do with romantic attraction.

I think the fact that you used to be overweight is far less important than the fact you lead an active and health conscious life style.

In my profiles I mention that I have changed my lifestyle and kind of note what I am seeking due to that, etc.
I am pretty vague that I have lost 85lbs, but I state that health and fitness are super important to me, but I am not looking for a gym mate just someone who is active and likes to get out.

When I feel I know the person good enough, I open up and talk about it.
For me it is important becuase I am anal about my calories and such, also I workout alot and I WONT unless a special event/circumstance change my workout schedule. (of course this isn't how I say it to them, I am just saying I am very strict on these things and they probably become apparent as we learn eachothers schedules, etc.)

Once I really open up and it is going somewhere, I show them my pics.

ETA: I was reading some of the other posts, and I agree it should come up - not on date one, not as cocky, but I think if you are confident in yourself now and it's not for an ego boost, go for it. Mine is more a casual, I've come along way, wanna know why I am so strict on a few things...

Hi,

I go on internet and blind dates a bit and I was wondering whether you would tell your date about MFP and weight loss etc or just pretend you've always been this smokin?

I'd pretend all the way baby! :laugh: Unless is was brought up in a topic and it was at least a few dates, then no, I would not mention it at all.

I haven't braved going out on a date yet. But outside of MFP I really don't talk about it. I tend to keep it quiet, but if exercise comes up I do mention I workout. If/ when I brave it, I would tell someone I am dating the amount of weight I have lost after a while. It isn't something I would hide because it is a part of who I am and it has shaped the person I am becoming.

I think most would be impressed and respectful of the weight loss in general. Plus I would think most of are looking for someone who takes care of themselves and would be encouraging in a our continued fitness.

If it comes out in the naturally in the converstation I will talk about it but I don't force or bring up the subject on its own.

Pretty much the same for me. It's not something I'm in a big rush to talk about, but I won't hide it either. It does tend to come up fairly quickly, though, because I have what most people (not on MFP, but in general) would consider extreme views about diet and exercise, and that naturally leads to "why?" or "have you always been this way?"

If I had "only" lost 20 lbs or so, or if I had only been overweight for a very short period of time, I might never mention it at all. But I was chubby for most of my life and then a full-blown fatty for about 5 years. There is plenty of photographic evidence of it, so there is no use in pretending I've always looked like I do now.

I have to agree with the people saying that losing a lot of weight shows character. I'm not sure what this next part says about me, but here we go...

California tends to breed or attract a lot of people (both sexes) that are very self-centered, egotistic, and a bit disillusion about their place in the world. The Internet has made this a million times worse. Anyone can put a picture of themselves online and have strangers tell them they are special and sexy and important. (says the guy with shirtless photos of himself posted on here, I know...)

In my experience, those that spend a portion of their life overweight or otherwise outside of the circle of "beautiful people" tend to grow up with a personality more to my own liking. An ex-"fat chick" who is now responsible with fitness and nutrition turns out pretty damn awesome.

All generalizations clouded by my own experiences, and of course there are always exceptions.

I have to agree with the people saying that losing a lot of weight shows character. I'm not sure what this next part says about me, but here we go...

California tends to breed or attract a lot of people (both sexes) that are very self-centered, egotistic, and a bit disillusion about their place in the world. The Internet has made this a million times worse. Anyone can put a picture of themselves online and have strangers tell them they are special and sexy and important. (says the guy with shirtless photos of himself posted on here, I know...)

In my experience, those that spend a portion of their life overweight or otherwise outside of the circle of "beautiful people" tend to grow up with a personality more to my own liking. An ex-"fat chick" who is now responsible with fitness and nutrition turns out pretty damn awesome.

All generalizations clouded by my own experiences, and of course there are always exceptions.

So, going by this, I should be pretty damn awesome. Ladies, if you could please just form a nice, orderly line to my left please.

An ex-"fat chick" who is now responsible with fitness and nutrition turns out pretty damn awesome.

You know.. I totally agree. Everyone here (and Vancouver is California superficial, believe me) I know who has ever not been "typically" pretty or had some weight to lose has developed a wicked sense of humour and an amazing personality..self included.. :drinker:

Hey!...oh wait that was a compliment... I think? Lol

Haha. I like how my speal on a certain personality type is reinforced by a later poster.

former fat guy? yeah no

ull be fat again in 2 yrs mad at me cuz ur not hot anymore

WTF is your problem? Are you kidding right now?