I would need someone incredibly independent and not looking to fill a whole in their life,

Funny, I seem to meet these men.
I am incredibly independent and can't give a man 7 days a week.
Hard to find a good balance, hey?

Been seeing the same guy for about 9 months but I'm starting to really miss being single. I want more time for myself and to be more selfish and less giving. Is that terrible? Meh, I don't really care either way. Sometimes I feel like his mother. And that's a terrible feeling.

I don't think that's terrible, sounds like maybe you just don't have the right balance that YOU need.

Finding balance is hard....have one that I see one day a week, and another that wants to see me and haven't met yet and he already doesn't like that I have school 2 nights/week!!! I need someone right in the middle

Been seeing the same guy for about 9 months but I'm starting to really miss being single. I want more time for myself and to be more selfish and less giving. Is that terrible? Meh, I don't really care either way. Sometimes I feel like his mother. And that's a terrible feeling.

I don't think that's terrible, sounds like maybe you just don't have the right balance that YOU need.

Finding balance is hard....have one that I see one day a week, and another that wants to see me and haven't met yet and he already doesn't like that I have school 2 nights/week!!! I need someone right in the middle

It is hard to find that balance - 1 day a week wouldn't be enough for me in the long term. I would probably say about 3 depending on what the plans where. But someone who is upset because you have school 2 nights a week kind of surprises me. I guess at this point in my life - with my interests and my kids - I want someone who needs their time too.

I like on Eharmony they have one of the guided questions that says something like 'how much personal space do you need a week' I ALWAYS used this question because I have created a nice busy schedule for the kids and I, and there is no possible way I can be with someone 24/7.

ETA: I should say as a relationship progresses and possibly moves toward marriage/living together, etc. that my time available would change. I am meaning more so early on in the first year or so.

Currently seeing someone for 4 months, he is a great guy and we have fun together.

Had a first date with a guy from POF on saturday, have a second date set up for wed. Even though I am just kinda MEH about him right now I thought I would give it a second try and see if anything changes.

Single. Not particularly looking. I thought about trying an online dating site but it seems like the overall concession in Single Peeps is stay away. It seems like 90% of my friends are married with 50% of them wanting to intruduce me to friends, co-workers, sisters etc. which keeps my social life intresting.

Single. Not particularly looking. I thought about trying an online dating site but it seems like the overall concession in Single Peeps is stay away. It seems like 90% of my friends are married with 50% of them wanting to intruduce me to friends, co-workers, sisters etc. which keeps my social life intresting.

that is awesome that they are trying to set you up. I wish I had some friends who had single male friends

Yeah, if you have people that can set you up.......that is awesome. Dating sites are not all bad.........

that is awesome that they are trying to set you up. I wish I had some friends who had single male friends

Its got its ups and downs. While I enjoying going out with frends and meeting new people, sometimes (mostly the wives) focus too hard on being the "match maker" turning what should be an enjoyable upbeat evening with everyone into a evening filled with anxiety for the two that don't know each other because the "match maker" is overly focused on matching two friends up.

Umm... my status.. "its complicated" ?

Definitely single. Still living with my ex as roommates ONLY till spring. Talking to a couple individuals from online, but no strong interest on my side yet. Have some meetings set up for this week.

Have two "friends", who I have been "friendly" with before..but neither want relationships...and I am not sure I really have the personality to do a FWB situation. Simply am too sensitive and get attached easily. I always want it to mean something! Not sure FWB is on offer anyway - but they are both very nice, respectful individuals. One I am trying pretty hard not to like, to be honest.

I anticipate taking my profile down from POF pretty quick, simply because I don't think I am ready for this. I find the amount of men around me a little overwhelming, distracting, and I am supposed to be focusing on improving myself right now. But, am a bit of an attention *kitten* and it is so fun! Argh.

that is awesome that they are trying to set you up. I wish I had some friends who had single male friends

Its got its ups and downs. While I enjoying going out with frends and meeting new people, sometimes (mostly the wives) focus too hard on being the "match maker" turning what should be an enjoyable upbeat evening with everyone into a evening filled with anxiety for the two that don't know each other because the "match maker" is overly focused on matching two friends up.

The downside makes sense, but I still wish I had some friends who could fix me up from time to time too.

I don't have any friends that can set me up either........but, hey PJ.........when you move down here, I have some available cousins around your age :noway: