Well I have been single for 2 years. Sometimes I get upset about it and sometimes I am happy. My mom says I am too picky about guys but I get to be picky! I have a daughter and I am not going to bring just anyone around her I think Mr. Right will come into my life one day.... I hope..haha

Dating in your 30s is a lot more difficult. Generally, people have experienced quite a bit -- been married, had children, etc. so there can be some baggage or more selectiveness with the folks you do go out with. Some people also think that because they're in their 30s, they're running out of time to live the cookie cutter married, children, picket fence life that is idealized in our society so they're in a rush to get that done or are stressed out because they haven't done that. I've come to terms with the fact that that I'll never have any of that prepackaged life but in the dating world I've found that a lot more patience and compromise comes in to play.

Dating in my 30's has been terrible for me. Seems like married men are the only ones who come after me. I dont want that. And if they are single all they seem to want is to fool around. Nothing serious. I have been single for 3 years and just dated guys occasionally here and there. Nothing good haha

I find that my hardest hurdle when it comes to dating is finding someone that understands the demands of my time. They just don't get that I'm not going to just invite them over for a quickie after my son goes to bed, especially when I don't even know them. I try to explain that I want to get to know them and after a few dates, maybe I can introduce them to my son. But, they get so tied up in the fact that I have such little time between work and having him full time as a single mom, that they run before we even get started.

Not to mention, it's near impossible to meet good men my age these days. I've tried the online thing many many times, and it just doesn't seem to work out for me. They always turn out to be huge perverts and total creepers, and neither of which I want in my life. I work 12 hour shifts, and I have my son the majority of the time. I offer my time when he is with his dad one night a week and every other weekend, but most guys don't think that's enough time to offer them. When I try to explain that once they have met my son and I trust them around him, then my time opens up exponentially... They just don't have the patience to wait for all that.

On top of those issues, being overweight doesn't help. I have tried to be comfortable and confident in my own skin, but being rejected so many times can really dampen your confidence. I try to take the first step and make the first contact online, but none of them ever answer. I know there are men out there that appreciate large women, but they usually turn out to only be looking for one thing, and I'm looking for the complete opposite.

If there are still great men left out there for me, then I would love to know how and where to find them!!!!

i've been single for about a year and a half now, after being in two back to back relationships which total about six and a half years.
i was kind of enjoying getting back to being me and enjoying doing all those single girl things, but i am reaching that point where i'd like to reconnect with someone at that intimate level again. I find internet dating really shallow and impersonal, and i am not meeting people who i connect with at all so i'm not even sure how it's going to happen haha. i am still going to keep most of my focus on working on getting myself together first though.

Where in the world to people in their thirties go to find someone?

I wonder the same!

me too

Me too!

I'm not single, and haven't been since age 20. I honestly don't know how I would even approach it. I think I would have to be friends with someone first, then go from there. Dating someone who's virtually a stranger gives me the creeps.

Also, I feel more objectified as a chubby woman than I ever did as a thin woman. Seems like the only men who are interested now are the chubby chasers. Every time a guy says "I like em thick" it makes me feel like a pork chop on a plate. I swear next time a guy calls me "thick" like it's a compliment I'm going to punch him in the face. I just can't wait to be thin again so I can feel like a human being again.

I find my mind gets in the way, because I want someone who will really care for me and want to be with me at my current size as well as if I am smaller. It's okay if he has a preference one way or another, but there needs to be some flexibility there. I don't want to be wtih a guy who hates my body, and I don't want to be with someone who fetishizes size and would want me to stay overweight.

So it's tricky! But I think I make it trickier than it needs to be by trying to figure out what a guy wants without giving things a change without trusting that if he is showing he is into me then he is probably actually into me :P