Things you never knew about being in your 30's
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What do you mean it's only 9pm. So tired.
Not being able to function on 6hrs of sleep anymore.
Not being able to function on 6hrs of sleep anymore.
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lol....I was almost delirious last night at 10pm...so sad.6
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Funny you should say that, my "girls night out" started at 2 pm and was over by 7:30 pm.17
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I honestly have more fun in my 30s than I did in my 20s. I guess because I now have a regular schedule with vacation days, higher income, and a place of my own. It's kind of why I started my weight loss journey - being in my 30s isn't nearly as boring as I thought it would be when I was younger, and I want to be fit to enjoy them even more. :-)16
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@rubyweapon8503 Same here. I have more fun than I did in my 20's because I have more financial freedom. At one point in my 20's, I was a FT student, I had a FT job, 2 PT jobs, and did some contract work on the side. I just didn't have time to enjoy life. I also earned less with all of those jobs than I do today with just 1 job. I went back to being a FT student to get a graduate degree, so for now I'm still very busy. I will be so happy when I finish that (planned for Oct.) and have more time and still have the financial freedom to do things (you know, after paying off all those student loans).
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lol not as boring, a bit more financial freedom (if I'd stay away from Amazon, dangit!) so I've definitely done a lot more, absolutely.rubyweapon8503 wrote: »I honestly have more fun in my 30s than I did in my 20s. I guess because I now have a regular schedule with vacation days, higher income, and a place of my own. It's kind of why I started my weight loss journey - being in my 30s isn't nearly as boring as I thought it would be when I was younger, and I want to be fit to enjoy them even more. :-)
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I love being in my 30s and listening to the 20 something's talk. Did I say crap like that? I just finished my bachelors degree last year at 34 so there was a lot of exposure to kids that really had no clue what was coming. It made me feel old at first but grateful for life lessons, such as, 9 pm is a good sound bed time.17
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How excited I would be to be in my 30s! OMG I love it! I love my life and the few Ppl I allow into it. In my 20s I spent so much time trying to prove myself to anyone and everyone and be loved by everyone that I hated myself. I finally did what was best for me 2 months from my 30th birthday and I have experienced my life on my terms ever since.7
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I'm in my mid 30's and I'm surrounded by 20 something year olds, so I often feel younger than my age. I can honestly say I'm probably much more content and confident at this age than when I was in my 20's. I'm also an introvert, so during my 20's I really cringed on having to go to clubs and bars. Now that I'm older, I can say that I'm too old for that and can enjoy staying in for the night. Also, I dont know about anyone else, but in my 30's, I drink much less because the recovery time is much longer than those ol' days.4
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I guess i've embraced the stereotype 30 somethings having a glass of red wine in the evenings and at every evening meal - I wouldn't even touch wine when in my 20's! lol3
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How simple yet wonderful my life would be. I could never have seen it coming! In my teens and twenties I was desperate to live the city life. Fast forward to 37 living in an old farm house in the country with an acreage. My life is so simple and yet complete, I couldn't be happier. My 20 year old self wouldn't recognize 37 year old self, and for that I am very thankful!
I have also learned the benefits of the afternoon nap and a 9:00 pm bed time.3 -
I've been able to travel more is really fun but something else happened that's exciting. I bought my first house and paid off all of my student loans.2
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How simple yet wonderful my life would be. I could never have seen it coming! In my teens and twenties I was desperate to live the city life. Fast forward to 37 living in an old farm house in the country with an acreage. My life is so simple and yet complete, I couldn't be happier. My 20 year old self wouldn't recognize 37 year old self, and for that I am very thankful!
I have also learned the benefits of the afternoon nap and a 9:00 pm bed time.
That sounds wonderful to me.. I want to have that kind of life and i'm only 32.. I second the afternoon naps
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I am 32 and have two children - 6 and nearly 9. My later 20s were spent taking care of two little kids and working FT... now I feel like my kids are so much more independent that I can really enjoy doing things with them... bike-riding with my daughter, walks with my son... I'm also at the heaviest I've been in years so I'm getting motivated to lose the weight so I have the energy to do all these fun things with my kiddos. As I get older, I also have less tolerance for drama in my life so I've found that the friendships I have now are more solid than those from my 20s... I have fewer "friends," but they are golden and I really love that. I feel more confident in my job, better able to speak out as an advocate for my students and coworkers, and more open to new experiences. 30s are rocking so far.5
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Turned 30 in January...I dont know why, but now I feel content. Never thought I would love to drive a van.LMAO4
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I'm turning 32 in August. There's a lot different between 20s and 30s.
- I have zero tolerance for BS anymore. I mean, I thought I had none back then but now.. yeah, I have none.
- I have more empathy for other human beings.
- I am extremely thrilled I've never had children, and do not want them. I like my peace.
- Staying up past my scheduled bedtime (which can change from 10pm to 4am depending on school, work, etc.) is tantamount to having someone drill under my fingernails. It's terrible.
- I don't know how to make adult friends.
- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
- Staying home and watching a movie is more satisfying than going out to the movies.
- I have a confidence of self that I did not have as a 20 something.
- I'm getting tired of having to travel to visit family that don't travel to visit me.
- I LOVE CITY LIFE. I am the opposite of some of you. I used to want a little farm in the country, but I've turned into such a city dweller. I LOVE easy access to public transportation, grocery stores (and grocery options), restaurants, dog parks, meetup groups, good doctors and hospitals and yes, even apartment living. I love not having a yard, and if something breaks? Someone else comes to fix it. And if I get tired of the place I'm in? I move into a new place with new appliances and new surroundings. It's fantastic. I think I will always live in some apartment-type dwelling, or a duplex. After all - what's the point in owning when we're going to die anyway? Can't take it with you! I love travel and new scenery. So this is great.
I am happier in my 30s than I was in my 20s, for sure.12 -
LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »I'm turning 32 in August. There's a lot different between 20s and 30s.
- I have zero tolerance for BS anymore. I mean, I thought I had none back then but now.. yeah, I have none.
- I have more empathy for other human beings.
- I am extremely thrilled I've never had children, and do not want them. I like my peace.
- Staying up past my scheduled bedtime (which can change from 10pm to 4am depending on school, work, etc.) is tantamount to having someone drill under my fingernails. It's terrible.
- I don't know how to make adult friends.
- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
- Staying home and watching a movie is more satisfying than going out to the movies.
- I have a confidence of self that I did not have as a 20 something.
- I'm getting tired of having to travel to visit family that don't travel to visit me.
- I LOVE CITY LIFE. I am the opposite of some of you. I used to want a little farm in the country, but I've turned into such a city dweller. I LOVE easy access to public transportation, grocery stores (and grocery options), restaurants, dog parks, meetup groups, good doctors and hospitals and yes, even apartment living. I love not having a yard, and if something breaks? Someone else comes to fix it. And if I get tired of the place I'm in? I move into a new place with new appliances and new surroundings. It's fantastic. I think I will always live in some apartment-type dwelling, or a duplex. After all - what's the point in owning when we're going to die anyway? Can't take it with you! I love travel and new scenery. So this is great.
I am happier in my 30s than I was in my 20s, for sure.
I'm 31 and have no kids. I'm also childfree (meaning I don't have and don't want kids, whereas childless means one doesn't have and might or definitely wants kids) and I've had a vasectomy. The trouble where I live is finding a single woman at least 25 (so mature enough to be date-able) who doesn't already have kids or wants them yesterday.2 -
midwesterner85 wrote: »LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »I'm turning 32 in August. There's a lot different between 20s and 30s.
- I have zero tolerance for BS anymore. I mean, I thought I had none back then but now.. yeah, I have none.
- I have more empathy for other human beings.
- I am extremely thrilled I've never had children, and do not want them. I like my peace.
- Staying up past my scheduled bedtime (which can change from 10pm to 4am depending on school, work, etc.) is tantamount to having someone drill under my fingernails. It's terrible.
- I don't know how to make adult friends.
- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
- Staying home and watching a movie is more satisfying than going out to the movies.
- I have a confidence of self that I did not have as a 20 something.
- I'm getting tired of having to travel to visit family that don't travel to visit me.
- I LOVE CITY LIFE. I am the opposite of some of you. I used to want a little farm in the country, but I've turned into such a city dweller. I LOVE easy access to public transportation, grocery stores (and grocery options), restaurants, dog parks, meetup groups, good doctors and hospitals and yes, even apartment living. I love not having a yard, and if something breaks? Someone else comes to fix it. And if I get tired of the place I'm in? I move into a new place with new appliances and new surroundings. It's fantastic. I think I will always live in some apartment-type dwelling, or a duplex. After all - what's the point in owning when we're going to die anyway? Can't take it with you! I love travel and new scenery. So this is great.
I am happier in my 30s than I was in my 20s, for sure.
I'm 31 and have no kids. I'm also childfree (meaning I don't have and don't want kids, whereas childless means one doesn't have and might or definitely wants kids) and I've had a vasectomy. The trouble where I live is finding a single woman at least 25 (so mature enough to be date-able) who doesn't already have kids or wants them yesterday.
Join some Childfree facebook groups. There's one called Childfree Chics Confidential that allows men in. I don't suggest you use it as a dating site but there are a lot of people there looking for like-minded friends for sure!0 -
LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »midwesterner85 wrote: »LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »I'm turning 32 in August. There's a lot different between 20s and 30s.
- I have zero tolerance for BS anymore. I mean, I thought I had none back then but now.. yeah, I have none.
- I have more empathy for other human beings.
- I am extremely thrilled I've never had children, and do not want them. I like my peace.
- Staying up past my scheduled bedtime (which can change from 10pm to 4am depending on school, work, etc.) is tantamount to having someone drill under my fingernails. It's terrible.
- I don't know how to make adult friends.
- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
- Staying home and watching a movie is more satisfying than going out to the movies.
- I have a confidence of self that I did not have as a 20 something.
- I'm getting tired of having to travel to visit family that don't travel to visit me.
- I LOVE CITY LIFE. I am the opposite of some of you. I used to want a little farm in the country, but I've turned into such a city dweller. I LOVE easy access to public transportation, grocery stores (and grocery options), restaurants, dog parks, meetup groups, good doctors and hospitals and yes, even apartment living. I love not having a yard, and if something breaks? Someone else comes to fix it. And if I get tired of the place I'm in? I move into a new place with new appliances and new surroundings. It's fantastic. I think I will always live in some apartment-type dwelling, or a duplex. After all - what's the point in owning when we're going to die anyway? Can't take it with you! I love travel and new scenery. So this is great.
I am happier in my 30s than I was in my 20s, for sure.
I'm 31 and have no kids. I'm also childfree (meaning I don't have and don't want kids, whereas childless means one doesn't have and might or definitely wants kids) and I've had a vasectomy. The trouble where I live is finding a single woman at least 25 (so mature enough to be date-able) who doesn't already have kids or wants them yesterday.
Join some Childfree facebook groups. There's one called Childfree Chics Confidential that allows men in. I don't suggest you use it as a dating site but there are a lot of people there looking for like-minded friends for sure!
I'm on several groups already, just not that group. I didn't realize they allowed men. There are are also a couple of childfree single groups that I'm a part of, but not everyone in those groups is actually single and looking. Additionally, I live in a rural area and find that, despite visiting the nearest city almost weekly, women in that city won't date outside of their neighborhoods (so about 10-12 block radius of where they live).0 -
Once upon a time (from about 18 to 24), I was young and "care free," meaning I didn't care, and didn't want to care. I worked jobs that were going nowhere, because they were easy to get a day off from. I could make enough money for the next party or road trip and I could get the time off to enjoy it. I drank too much, danced like I was being scouted for a movie, sang at karaoke, my anger went from zero to 90 in 4.2 seconds, my humor was off color, and my music was "deep" and loud. I would abandon my errands, stop by Wal-Mart for toiletries and undies, and hit the road for the beach (three hours away) in the middle of my day. I went to parties uninvited (as in, I heard about the party, showed up, drank too much, then woke up in a stranger's house the next morning... aaand they wondered how I'd gotten there). I broke hearts, and got my heart broken more than a few times. I was always in a hurry--there was always some place to be. I swore I didn't want kids, "because life sucks." I hated myself and wouldn't let anyone try to love me.
Then one day, I swept into the life of the most patient man I know. He was content to sit back and wait for my crazy to die down. He was always ready with his guitar for a song, or the keys for a road trip. Then, we found out that 1+1 really equals 3, the day a little plastic stick changed color. Marriage, two kids, and a lot of changes later, I'm 33. I'm a homeschooling wife and mother. I have responsibilities in our church, and I'm involved in a Christian Homeschool Association. It takes me two days to pack for a road trip we've been planning for months. I need a two hour notice before I can leave my house to run errands. I sometimes have to cancel "girls' night" (a.k.a.-dinner and a movie) because of a sick kid. We still sing karaoke, but it's at home or the home of a relative (way less expensive). My music is more mellow and chill. Oh, and I don't drink (not even on NYE). I have learned to curb my anger, and understand where others are coming from. I still dance like I'm being scouted for a movie, some things never change. People now show up at my place uninvited, and we have a cold drink and catch up. I mend the broken hearts of my two sons, and kiss their boo-boos, and try to slow the clock just a little bit when I see how tall they are getting. There is nothing more enjoyable than a hug from my kids or my husband. Our favorite anniversary date was bike riding at the beach from noon until dark. Our regular dates now involve netflix or youtube, and falling asleep on the couch.
My 30's are something my early 20's weren't... I'm actually happy. No, I'm filled with joy and peace. I never-ever-ever want to go back.5 -
I hit 36 and now my age is going backwoods...very strange. 2
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Totally can related.
I miss the way you could just call up on the day or the evening before and then have a great evening out with friends (and not paying for it the next day like nowadays because i aint used to alcohol anymore). I like that we now go out to diner instead of trying to create a meal for a lot of people with drinks and no money. I sometimes forget we are the sad old people who have a girls night out like they are still 20 something (which i use to think when i saw 35+ at the bar/cafe.
I like it that i can afford to do more but i cant find the time or energy because of my work.
It sucks that i still don't know what i want to do when i grow up and i keep changing jobs every few years. I miss my weight from when i was 18-22. Nothing changed in that part.
And i don't like the pressure of my mortgage, but i love having my own place where i can do what i want when i want (like turning up the heat in stead of taking another sweater when i am cold). I love that i go home after a family or childs party and it is quiet and i can chill out on my sofa.
I hate that the number 40 is creeping really close and i have to call myself a middle aged women.
I like that i am old enough now that i do not have to defend not having and wanting any children (or getting the pitty look or stupid remarks about it).
I am asthonised what younger women (30-) sometimes say and the pink glasses view of the world (look at the unicorn) they still have. I wish i still looked at the world we live in like that.
But all in all, i can't make a choice between my 20's and 30's. I like different parts of each period and hopefully when i turn 40 i will think that.0 -
Just like me. I agree. I love getting my freedom back.ashes2ashes83 wrote: »I am 32 and have two children - 6 and nearly 9. My later 20s were spent taking care of two little kids and working FT... now I feel like my kids are so much more independent that I can really enjoy doing things with them... bike-riding with my daughter, walks with my son... I'm also at the heaviest I've been in years so I'm getting motivated to lose the weight so I have the energy to do all these fun things with my kiddos. As I get older, I also have less tolerance for drama in my life so I've found that the friendships I have now are more solid than those from my 20s... I have fewer "friends," but they are golden and I really love that. I feel more confident in my job, better able to speak out as an advocate for my students and coworkers, and more open to new experiences. 30s are rocking so far.
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I would be dreaming about bed at 6PM and be in bed by 9PM. And that I would hate noise. And I love being by myself and go for walks. And social life wouldn't matter as much anymore LOL. Like I'm happy on a couch with a glass of wine even by myself but usually I'm surrounded by kids and a husband. I freaking love being by myself in my 30s.2
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I also enjoy being by myself, and just relaxing at home on the couch; just lounging watching a good movie. Being in bed early is something that happens in your 30's, going out on Friday night sounds great on Wednesday when plans are made, but come Friday I want to be in ky pajamas by 6pm. Plus no matter how busy your week was come Saturday morning my kids are always up by 7am, so sleeping in is a rare occasion. Life is great in your 30's, I am able to appreciate all the little joys in my life, as opposed to just waiting for the big joys.2
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One thing about my 30s I've realized is that I just can't hang anymore. On the off chance I find a babysitter and am able to go out and meet my friends, if I have more than 3 drinks (max) I will be insanely hungover the next day. I still have a large number of single or childless friends and love to get the (rare) chance to see them, but man, not drinking often has killed my ability to really socially drink.0
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KetoLady86 wrote: »Turned 30 in January...I dont know why, but now I feel content. Never thought I would love to drive a van.LMAO
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I kept waiting to feel 'grown up'
Never happened, even though I'm 37, with a husband and two kids and a mortgage and an IRA and all that other grown up stuff. Nope, I still feel maaaybe 26! My 15 yo just rolls his eyes when a Green Day song comes on the radio and I'm all 'Hey, I loved this song in high school!' He says, 'Mom, I know. You say that every time!' Mouthy kid, don't know where he gets it 
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LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
OMG, this is so me! Of all my friends, I am the only one not married with no kids. It's tough too to hang out with my friends with really little kids because either 1) my friend will come with the child (and depending on the child, that's a nightmare) or 2) my friend will need a sitter/spouse to watch little one.
I never realized that at 33, I would still be single with no kids. I don't exactly mind being single - but I would like to go on fun dates with guys. As for the kids, I've learned that I am not a mothering type. So glad I dodged that bullet - I would be a terrible mother.
I feel a lot more confident in myself, a lot more content as well. I didn't realize how quickly a person would suddenly develop aches and pains, nor how slow the body heals when you hurt yourself. I've also learned what I like and don't like and am slowly getting more comfortable embracing my likes.
I also really appreciate time with my friends. It's not easy building friends in your 30's, so I find myself really cultivating the friendships I have.
I love how in your 30's you can experiment with so many different things - going to plays, musicals, the ballet, attending a Paint Nite, or going wine tasting. The sky really is the limit!3 -
carolynsutton6 wrote: »LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
OMG, this is so me! Of all my friends, I am the only one not married with no kids. It's tough too to hang out with my friends with really little kids because either 1) my friend will come with the child (and depending on the child, that's a nightmare) or 2) my friend will need a sitter/spouse to watch little one.
I never realized that at 33, I would still be single with no kids. I don't exactly mind being single - but I would like to go on fun dates with guys. As for the kids, I've learned that I am not a mothering type. So glad I dodged that bullet - I would be a terrible mother.
I feel a lot more confident in myself, a lot more content as well. I didn't realize how quickly a person would suddenly develop aches and pains, nor how slow the body heals when you hurt yourself. I've also learned what I like and don't like and am slowly getting more comfortable embracing my likes.
I also really appreciate time with my friends. It's not easy building friends in your 30's, so I find myself really cultivating the friendships I have.
I love how in your 30's you can experiment with so many different things - going to plays, musicals, the ballet, attending a Paint Nite, or going wine tasting. The sky really is the limit!
I'm in the same boat. Not married, no kids. I have friends that are single, but they have kids. I didn't think I'd be here either. I have 19 nephews and 4 nieces... and a Godson. I have enough kids in my life to be ok never being a mother. I think I have major fears of being like my mother was so I don't want to become one to avoid being like her.0 -
carolynsutton6 wrote: »LilithGetsHealthy wrote: »- Good luck finding adult friends in their 30s with no kids.
OMG, this is so me! Of all my friends, I am the only one not married with no kids. It's tough too to hang out with my friends with really little kids because either 1) my friend will come with the child (and depending on the child, that's a nightmare) or 2) my friend will need a sitter/spouse to watch little one.
I never realized that at 33, I would still be single with no kids. I don't exactly mind being single - but I would like to go on fun dates with guys. As for the kids, I've learned that I am not a mothering type. So glad I dodged that bullet - I would be a terrible mother.
I feel a lot more confident in myself, a lot more content as well. I didn't realize how quickly a person would suddenly develop aches and pains, nor how slow the body heals when you hurt yourself. I've also learned what I like and don't like and am slowly getting more comfortable embracing my likes.
I also really appreciate time with my friends. It's not easy building friends in your 30's, so I find myself really cultivating the friendships I have.
I love how in your 30's you can experiment with so many different things - going to plays, musicals, the ballet, attending a Paint Nite, or going wine tasting. The sky really is the limit!
Some of us childfree single men in our 30's really struggle to find dates with childfree women. You all exist on the internet in some far off place like Narnia or something, but never where I live.2
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