My spouse is 125 pounds. He can eat anything he wants and not gain any weight. He is a very picky eater, he doesn't eat fruit and the only veggies he eats is potatoes and corn on the cob. He also eats a lot of processed meals and he doesn't like seafood. I have been cooking separate meals mostly for about 10 years. Our daughter picks what she wants to eat. Daddy's dinner or my dinner or a little of both. I find it hard to cook for 1 but I usually cook enough for leftovers for lunch the next day or even dinner. I make chili or soup and freeze the leftovers as he doesn't like beans either. Once in a while I will eat what he is eating but not very often. He also does bring home the junk food sometimes and teases me with it but mostly there is no junk food (chips, etc) in house. I guess you cannot have everything in life.

Actually my husband encouraged us to change our eating. We're middle age and even though we thought we were eating healthy, the SAD diet (The Standard American Diet) his numbers would come back high from his labs and they'd put him on more and more medications. He finally said enough! He asked me to research and we changed to whole plant eating. All of his numbers dropped, got off his meds and we lost weight. The problem for us is maintaining that eating style and not falling back into our old habits. When that happens I read natural health articles, books etc out loud to us to motivate, that and the fact that we both start feeling sick and horrible. Even his eczema comes back when we fall off the wagon.I guess what I'm saying is we had to educate ourselves. Having said that, you can't make anyone change that doesn't want to. Maybe you can say there's a documentary you want to watch and casually ask him if he wants to watch it with you. Forks over Knives, Fat Sick and nearly Dead. There's a ton of them, on Netflix as well. Also, I'm the type that won't cook two meals and he knows it, so he eats what I cook. Otherwise he'd have to cook himself something. Fortunately I've learned to cook plant based pretty well and we never feel deprived.

wow many of you seem to have very unsupportive partners and that is realy sad. after several bad relationships like this with people who didnt take care of themselves I said never again. if they dont care about themselves how can they care about me? my BF now struggles with it because of his medical problems, he gets bad sweets cravings and sesitivities to texures and I have too cook a lot of special foods. but I have been coming up with way to take conventional dishes that he likes and converting the ingredients to make them healthier. things like spagetti better grains for the pasta, grinding up lots of vegtable incorporating that in the sauses, using chicken and tofu. there are lots of great recipies out there, find some healthy versions of their favorite foods and ease them into it slowly.change a little bit at a time, not tell them it is a 'healthy' version and see how they like it. serve it for a while and see if they notice much, and if they realy like it then tell them. it might make them realise healthy eating can be delicious and motivate them to want more!

after reading though this i am sad for some of the people who posted . It is a lot harder to do this on your own BUT YOU CAN!!!
My story to add:
My DH and 2 teens, can eat anything (but are all picky eaters). I can't . I am lactose intolerant - extremely so- and I just can't eat greasy food , it messes with my insides ( without being gross , im sure y'all can figure it out).
My dh has alot of stomach problems ( acid reflux and bloating) but refuses to eat better. Our daughter (17) also has Acid reflux (since she was born) and can't eat greasy food (still eats junk food). Our son just is very picky (no sauces, no foods touching - he's 15)

Overweight , yep . Tired all the time, i work 3 jobs -2 online , 1 physical so yep and double yep.
I give up getting them to eat healthier. I am one who buys and cooks food . So i am switching to healthier versions, or not at all in some cases. If they are hungry or don't like whats made, they are all old enough to go find the kitchen.
Willpower isn't needed with junk foods ( i can't eat 99% of it anyway or i throw up) but pepsi or soda has been a issue. I stopped buying it, but DH used to buy it by the case(or 2 each week)

Lately meals are much more veggie filled and green, adding in fruit and protein and my vega one shakes for the busy days( which no1 else will even try) . i am hopeful it will help me and eventually they will learn to enjoy the meals.
Good luck everyone

It's certainly easier when you're doing it together. Hubby and I made a deal (actually he did and I agreed with him - sucker!). I cook, he does the dishes. Which is great because he doesn't like cooking and I don't like doing dishes so win win. Now I just have to convince him to help do prep for bulk freezer meals lol

I'm with the poster above, whose husband jumped on the bandwagon. My S/O is not big on cooking, so we fall into the habit of eating out more, especially now that I'm not on any diet restrictions anymore.

Here's what works for us:

1.) I don't make a big deal out of food. I quietly do the shopping and most of the cooking, and choose healthier, vegetarian meals that I know he will eat. I cook dinner some nights and when I do, I make lunch so we don't have to eat out. (He cleans when I cook, so it's a win/win).

2.) I don't push healthy eating at all in my house. I don't talk about it, I don't tell him I want a change, none of that. It's like Fight Club.

3.) He sees me weigh my food and my portions are noticeably smaller on my plate. Like, half of what I used to eat. He notices and comments, but I'm eating so there's no cause for concern. He just notices.

4.) I stopped my habit of snacking mindlessly after work while we chat about our day. We still chat, but I'm not stuffing my face anymore. I'll have a bite of this or that, but I start cooking instead of eating junk. He's noticed.

As a result of these things, he sometimes comments on how I won't eat this or that, but I don't push him, and I don't ask him to change anything, so he's supportive. (He also knows how upset I am about my body changing and just wants to be supportive on principle, because he's a naturally supportive person).

And you know what? He follows my lead! He doesn't weigh his food, but I have noticed him portioning out certain things, not eating as much, and not snacking as much after work.

You can't change your BF. You can only set a good example and live your own life/make your own choices. Whether or not he follows is up to him.

Also... it feels good to be on this journey, regardless of whether the ones I love are, or are not. It's my life, my choice.

My Significant Other knows that I am suffering from something, celiac, wheat-related, and I have a LOT of intestinal woes. The last couple of weeks I have really got a handle on everything and yet he is the biggest Sabateur I have known. We shop together, and when his kids are there - he wants to buy packaged cookies, cakes, ice cream cones, chips, etc. I have been so diligent in avoiding these - but it is hard! but what is hard - I'm not drinking right now - and he is constantly pushing that. He wants company when he has a drink. He is in terrific shape but that doesn't mean his insides are healthy - I can relate to all of the posters here. You just have to be true to yourself! I know it is not supportive, but when I have spoken to him about it - he always says yes he will and he then he never does. I just have to keep on saying no thank-you! Tough - especially with gluten or wheat allergies coming up - I'm being tested soon - there are so many things out there that you want to eat. I'm trying to eat as cleanly as possible too. He will have potato chips and beer for dinner sometimes - Sigh

Yes!!!!! OMG he is all in with the exercise. We walk 5ks and we are doing our first 10k together in 3 weeks, but he is a junk food junky. Drives me nuts. There are just some things that I can't stay away from if they are in the house...doritos come to mind. Not a thought of if they are OK for me. Loves to eat out bww being his fave. Doesn't often puruse a menu to see if there is anything even remotely edible for someone trying to not be fat sick and nearly dead! I love the man to death but you would think a diabetic would think more about this stuff!!!

I have a similar issue, only it has more to do with my willpower than my hubby. He's always super supportive but I feel guilty when I go grocery shopping and don't bring in something that I know he enjoys. I don't want to force any changes on him and I don't try but I feel that I'm still depriving him of something if I don't bring in all the snacks and goodies. Also, if he suggests fast food and I'm really not in the mood to cook I don't even think twice about agreeing. I do notice, though, that if I cook a meal that doesn't look like rabbit food then he'll eat it without any issues. He does get upset if I don't want to eat something he made because it isn't very healthy, but I guess I can understand that. I'd be upset if I made us a meal and then he said "sorry, that's too healthy for me."

Just a follow up from my last post.
Well it was harder for me to keep up with my side of the deal I think, so I had to get clever.
We now do freezer meals on weekends and we have a monthly meal schedule. He liked that he had input into our meals and that there is always 'junk food' in the house lol, - homemade baking, apple chips, fruit leathers etc so he wouldn't feel deprived. I think observing his relationship with food was key to me easing him into adapting to change. So now to convince him to pack a picnic and go bike riding with me.