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I always want to say the snarky thing back to someone like that but whenever I do I inevitably feel like the most horrible person in the world.
Maybe you could try "Are you purposely trying to hurt my feelings?"
I used that one a while back and received an immediate apology along with an acknowledgement that while they didn't mean for their comment to sound the way that it did that they could totally understand why I took it that way.3 -
Sunny_Bunny_ wrote: »Think about older actors/actresses that just seem young. Like Betty White for example, she's 80 or something and I have no idea if she ever had any work done, but even if she did, she has plenty of wrinkles but overall she just seems youthful.
Betty White is 95. Just saying. Love that old lady to pieces, I've always been a fan of her work. Almost cried when they stopped doing "Hot in Cleveland".4 -
retirehappy wrote: »Sunny_Bunny_ wrote: »Think about older actors/actresses that just seem young. Like Betty White for example, she's 80 or something and I have no idea if she ever had any work done, but even if she did, she has plenty of wrinkles but overall she just seems youthful.
Betty White is 95. Just saying. Love that old lady to pieces, I've always been a fan of her work. Almost cried when they stopped doing "Hot in Cleveland".
See! That's what I mean! She's so youthful!3 -
Y'all are just flat out awesome. I think this just became my favorite thread today.0
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I was making a pastoral call on my doctor's mother at the hospital when he came in today to see her. I mentioned I was getting close to the goals he had set for me before I left. He said it was unusual for patients to actually listen to their doctors, and he was really impressed at my progress. I did not have the heart to tell him in front of his mother that I had made that progress by ignoring his advice.
Sometimes you have to nod and smile pleasantly. You say, "Thanks!" and go back to the office to have a coffee with HWC to celebrate a NSV.
I was thinking perhaps you could have told your doctor that you were getting close to the goals he set for you NOT by following his advice but by finding a healthier way to do it. The longer he keeps believing he's right, the more patients he misleads and ultimately kills.
There's a nice blunt statement for ya'.
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Human pride is a funny thing; challenging what someone thinks is "right" can either encourage them to view things differently, or it can drive their beliefs into them like a tick. I've found more people dig in deeper when challenged, even if you have science, numbers, and facts on your side. It's unfortunate, but true.2
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canadjineh wrote: »
I was thinking perhaps you could have told your doctor that you were getting close to the goals he set for you NOT by following his advice but by finding a healthier way to do it. The longer he keeps believing he's right, the more patients he misleads and ultimately kills.
There's a nice blunt statement for ya'.
My doctor is a total grouch, and he has the worst bedside manner. It is almost like a SNL skit, and there is an amusing quality to it. He is blunt to a fault. His opinion is that new meds need some field trials on the patients of another doctor. I like the guy, but you are going to get ultra traditional advice from him.
I may ask for the blood work to be done before the next appointment and talk to him about what I have been doing. I talked to his nurse about it at the last appointment. She said they never see people with an A1C come down like mine has, and she wanted to know what I was doing to lose weight.
I wanted to respect the fact that we were both in the hospital room because his mother (in her 90's) was having problems. I did not want to be doing much personal business. You stay on task, etc.3 -
canadjineh wrote: »
I was thinking perhaps you could have told your doctor that you were getting close to the goals he set for you NOT by following his advice but by finding a healthier way to do it. The longer he keeps believing he's right, the more patients he misleads and ultimately kills.
There's a nice blunt statement for ya'.
My doctor is a total grouch, and he has the worst bedside manner. It is almost like a SNL skit, and there is an amusing quality to it. He is blunt to a fault. His opinion is that new meds need some field trials on the patients of another doctor. I like the guy, but you are going to get ultra traditional advice from him.
I may ask for the blood work to be done before the next appointment and talk to him about what I have been doing. I talked to his nurse about it at the last appointment. She said they never see people with an A1C come down like mine has, and she wanted to know what I was doing to lose weight.
I wanted to respect the fact that we were both in the hospital room because his mother (in her 90's) was having problems. I did not want to be doing much personal business. You stay on task, etc.
Sounds like the best plan. Put the DARNED proof in his hands, then ask him to dispute it...
And agree 1000% about not starting a discussion/disagreement while at the hospital because of his mother.0 -
Thank you all for your insight on what to say to rude people. Have some fun ideas now.0
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Or better yet, carry a custard-and-whipped cream in your bag, surreptitiously, like...then, when they come out with the banal, brainless and tactless remark.....whup!0
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Sometimes I wish I had one of those to carry with me. Unfortunately, I'd pollute the environment with that thing wayyy too often.
This might be a little more environmentally friendly.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRG-RBZBTZI3 -
"I have a whole bag of 'shhhh!' with your name on it..." What a great line to steal!0
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baconslave wrote: »
Sometimes I wish I had one of those to carry with me. Unfortunately, I'd pollute the environment with that thing wayyy too often.
This might be a little more environmentally friendly.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRG-RBZBTZI
HAHAHA - I think I just peed my pants!1 -
baconslave wrote: »
Sometimes I wish I had one of those to carry with me. Unfortunately, I'd pollute the environment with that thing wayyy too often.
This might be a little more environmentally friendly.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRG-RBZBTZI
HAHAHA - I think I just peed my pants!
You lost weight !0 -
baconslave wrote: »
Sometimes I wish I had one of those to carry with me. Unfortunately, I'd pollute the environment with that thing wayyy too often.
This might be a little more environmentally friendly.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FRG-RBZBTZI
I used to LOVE doing that to my students when I was teaching! I do it to my kids now and they have no idea where I got it from... I guess I should let them watch that soon.1