Haters...

How do you respond to people who constantly put you down when you are trying to better yourself. I have several family members and friends who discourage me on a daily basis. I hear " it'll never work", "you'll just gain it all back in a month", "stop being stupid and just eat whatever you want".

And sometimes I'm actually embarrassed when I eat in front of other people because they make comments and I when I tell them I'm trying to eat better they proceed to make fun of me. They say things like "keto diet is just a fad" "keto people just eat bacon all day and think they will lose weight". It pisses me off because I dont eat bacon all day and if I eat a piece of bread here and there I dont need them telling me I've already failed and should just give up.

Sorry for the long rant, but this is the stuff I hear all the time and it does get to me. Do any of you have people in your lives like this?

I can handle eating differently than my husband and kids because they support me and if they make fun it's all just light-hearted. But some people are just flat out mean and it DOES get me down. It's not easy when you're an emotional eater like me too. I'm sad, I know. Can anyone relate?
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  • scody311
    scody311 Posts: 12 Member
    This thing aint a fad anymore... It's widely accepted. Just know what's right for you and stay strong.
  • qweck3
    qweck3 Posts: 346 Member
    Ignore the noise and keep going. You are doing great and those that do not understand are bound to make ignorant comments to drag you down in a desperate attempt to align you with their point of view. I simply tell them: I respect your opinion but the method you describe has resulted in me not being where I need to be up to this point in my life and as such I have selected another path. I am doing this for me, not you and I hope you can respect that.

    I guarantee you that in 6 months when you have improved your health they will be asking how you did it.
  • gimmekimchee_x
    gimmekimchee_x Posts: 24 Member
    scody311 wrote: »
    This thing aint a fad anymore... It's widely accepted. Just know what's right for you and stay strong.

    Easier said then done. Some people actually laugh in my face when I tell them about keto and that's just if they aren't rolling their eyes.
  • bametels
    bametels Posts: 950 Member
    I agree with the advice not to talk about it. Just do it and soon the naysayers will be jealous of your success!
  • knorris84
    knorris84 Posts: 141 Member
    Yeah I agree with not talking about it. When they ask why you are eating what you are just tell them it's what you're body or you or whatever is craving at the time. Surely they won't try to tell YOU what YOUR body wants?
  • KetoZandra
    KetoZandra Posts: 132 Member
    There is a saying I've heard. "You can't win an argument with a stupid person." I understand why you are mad, they are being bullies. Define your personal boundaries and if they bring it up, silence is power. Or loose it and tell them to go to H..., that might be what they need to back off.
  • gimmekimchee_x
    gimmekimchee_x Posts: 24 Member
    bametels wrote: »
    I agree with the advice not to talk about it. Just do it and soon the naysayers will be jealous of your success!

    So it's not like I'm going around with a sign that says " I'M ON KETO LETS TALK ABOUT IT" lol

    The negativity comes from people looking at my plate and a lot of it is people being offended when I wont eat their food.
  • zanyterp
    zanyterp Posts: 291 Member
    unfortunately, i don't have anybody that cares enough to say anything (for better or worse). my wife knows and doesn't care as long as i don't try to feed our kids the same; my co-workers know i am doing keto and figure whatever works, is great. all of us, small team of 7, need to lose weight and manage various health things that keto would help.
  • gimmekimchee_x
    gimmekimchee_x Posts: 24 Member
    KetoZandra wrote: »
    There is a saying I've heard. "You can't win an argument with a stupid person." I understand why you are mad, they are being bullies. Define your personal boundaries and if they bring it up, silence is power. Or loose it and tell them to go to H..., that might be what they need to back off.

    LOL I usually end up getting mad and telling them to mind their own business but it still happens.

    I will try to just not say anything, even when they ask I'll just shrug or something lol. Wish my family was more supportive. 😔
  • maddog1769
    maddog1769 Posts: 34 Member
    Be Keto and Be Proud.... If different is wrong i don't want to be right.... Let them Laugh and let them suffer..... Stay on YOUR path and nothing less.
  • ironmaidenchick
    ironmaidenchick Posts: 213 Member
    I get a bit of grief at work about it, usually if we are having a work shout and it is something I can't eat like pizza. They say dumb things like she can't eat it she doesn't eat sugar or shes on a stupid diet blah blah blah. They know nothing at all about keto and I have given up explaining things. I simply don't care what other people think. So just don't react as that is what they want. Do this for you and nobody else, you will be the winner in the end :smiley:
  • ccrdragon
    ccrdragon Posts: 3,374 Member
    Haters gonna hate, not much you can do about that. I know for me at work, I have turned down treats and crap so much that most of the time people don't even ask me any more if I want some, so there is some hope that you will wear them down and they will move on to the next thing they feel the need to butt into.
  • cgcrutch
    cgcrutch Posts: 223 Member
    I would do the same thing to them, pick on them for their bad eating habits, all sugar and processed grain, middle isle foods, preservatives. And all the health risks that come from those. Luckily most of my family and friends are not bullies, but my older sister was. She's not so much now, but I've learned that reflecting their behavior back to them shows them how irritating it is >:)
  • gimmekimchee_x
    gimmekimchee_x Posts: 24 Member
    cgcrutch wrote: »
    I would do the same thing to them, pick on them for their bad eating habits, all sugar and processed grain, middle isle foods, preservatives. And all the health risks that come from those. Luckily most of my family and friends are not bullies, but my older sister was. She's not so much now, but I've learned that reflecting their behavior back to them shows them how irritating it is >:)

    Hahahaha I love this approach
  • gimmekimchee_x
    gimmekimchee_x Posts: 24 Member
    The best response I have found is "I'm sorry you feel that way."

    You don't have to educate anyone, particularly if they aren't going to listen anyway. You don't owe anyone any explanation. You are the only person who gets to decide what you do with your body because you are the only person who lives in it. That is 100% all you. No one else gets a vote.

    Yesss! Good advice, thank you!
  • KristinLeeD
    KristinLeeD Posts: 218 Member
    I agree with "I'm sorry you feel that way" !

    Although, I really don't talk to people about it unless they ask and seem open. And even then I don't mention 'keto' because although it's common now, there are so many misconceptions and so many strong (& often misguided) opinions.
    When people ask how I've lost weight I usually just tell people I have cut out sugar reduced my carb intake. You don't owe people explanations about your personal choices - especially the ones that work for you since you know yourself best! If prople are seriously searching for something that works, I give them more details, but stop if they are just looking to be critical.
  • gimmekimchee_x
    gimmekimchee_x Posts: 24 Member
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    HAHAHAHAHA! 🤣
  • stormywxs288
    stormywxs288 Posts: 813 Member
    Talk is cheap! What haters say and frankly what you say to them matters little. What matters is results. We are all experiments of ONE. Is it working for you? For me; I've lost about 30 pounds, gained mental clarity, my joints feel and work better, my mood and attitude are much improved and more...…. In short, I don't have to verbally defend keto. It works for me! I know it and I show it.
  • GinetteHaz
    GinetteHaz Posts: 6 Member
    So many good attitudes and advice! I’m pumped from just reading all this!
  • teresamwhite
    teresamwhite Posts: 947 Member
    The best response I have found is "I'm sorry you feel that way."

    You don't have to educate anyone, particularly if they aren't going to listen anyway. You don't owe anyone any explanation. You are the only person who gets to decide what you do with your body because you are the only person who lives in it. That is 100% all you. No one else gets a vote.

    Absolutely the perfect response and I use it all the time...I don't owe anyone any excuses, reasons, explanations, or arguments. Unless they've made the Unbreakable Vow that they will take care of me for the rest of my life when I am morbidly overweight and unhealthy, then they can just carry on with themselves, and leave me be.

  • nvmomketo
    nvmomketo Posts: 12,019 Member
    I had more comments at first. It's easier now - possibly because they are used to me eating this way or possibly because keto is now more know. But even 4 years ago I did not get too many comments. Meat with a side veggie, passing on the bread, is not that unusual.... plus I am a celiac so I need to skip the gluten foods anyways. ;)

    A simple no thanks, or I'm not hungry, often works fine too. ;) Although some people in your life need to be told to butt out. Sheesh. Rude. (Hugs)
    2t9nty wrote: »
    Larkspur94 wrote: »

    So comes second strike, our GP's. None of the doctors at our surgery support the keto diet. I've also faced the fire. 'You need more carbs in your diet. Body needs carbs to function. High fat is unhealthy, blah blah'. I don't believe her doctor knows she's off the statins and it's simply because she's afraid to tell him and get the backlash. Her blood work hasn't given her away.

    I told my doctor I wanted to lose some weight, and he gave me some xeroxed sheets. I tried it, and I was eating in a healthier way before the xeroxed sheet "plate" version of SAD. I tried low carb and then lowered carbs to be keto.

    I lost about a pound a week between appointments, and the doctor commented that it was so rare to have a patient actually take a doctor's advice with diet. He was pleased with my progress. I told him, I had been successful really because I had ignored his advice. I asked if he wanted to know what I was doing. He laughed and said I should just keep doing it. After he left the examining room, the nurse said, "You can tell me."

    :D LOL
  • markdvsmo
    markdvsmo Posts: 16 Member
    The only way some can rise above the crowd is to try to mash down everyone around them. I talk freely about keto to those who ask and seem open-minded about it. The rest I ignore, for the most part.