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I agree with "I'm sorry you feel that way" !
Although, I really don't talk to people about it unless they ask and seem open. And even then I don't mention 'keto' because although it's common now, there are so many misconceptions and so many strong (& often misguided) opinions.
When people ask how I've lost weight I usually just tell people I have cut out sugar reduced my carb intake. You don't owe people explanations about your personal choices - especially the ones that work for you since you know yourself best! If prople are seriously searching for something that works, I give them more details, but stop if they are just looking to be critical.3 -
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KristinLeeD wrote: »
HAHAHAHAHA! 🤣3 -
Talk is cheap! What haters say and frankly what you say to them matters little. What matters is results. We are all experiments of ONE. Is it working for you? For me; I've lost about 30 pounds, gained mental clarity, my joints feel and work better, my mood and attitude are much improved and more...…. In short, I don't have to verbally defend keto. It works for me! I know it and I show it.3
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So many good attitudes and advice! I’m pumped from just reading all this!1
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Someone at the book group was starting a diet and was talking about her exercise program and the dietician, blah, blah blah. She had gained a few pounds after starting this complicated plan supervised by a personal trainer and the dietician, etc. One of the women there said she should talk to me because I had seemed to be successful in losing some weight and keeping it off.
She asked what I had done. I describe keto typically as a "low carb diet" so that people don't go crazy sending me links to articles saying I will drop dead if I don't get X% of my calories from fruit or something. "Low carb" is nebulous enough that they don't really know if I all I have done is stop eating white bread.
The response was classic. She said, "If you lose anything, it will just be water weight." I said, "I guess I have lost 130 lbs of water weight then." She said, "You will never keep it off."
FWIW, I have been in maintenance for 6 months now, and I seem to be holding steady. She does not come to book group any more, but I hope things are going well with the personal trainer and the dietician. I have found something that has worked for me.9 -
tcunbeliever wrote: »The best response I have found is "I'm sorry you feel that way."
You don't have to educate anyone, particularly if they aren't going to listen anyway. You don't owe anyone any explanation. You are the only person who gets to decide what you do with your body because you are the only person who lives in it. That is 100% all you. No one else gets a vote.
Absolutely the perfect response and I use it all the time...I don't owe anyone any excuses, reasons, explanations, or arguments. Unless they've made the Unbreakable Vow that they will take care of me for the rest of my life when I am morbidly overweight and unhealthy, then they can just carry on with themselves, and leave me be.
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Larkspur94 wrote: »
So comes second strike, our GP's. None of the doctors at our surgery support the keto diet. I've also faced the fire. 'You need more carbs in your diet. Body needs carbs to function. High fat is unhealthy, blah blah'. I don't believe her doctor knows she's off the statins and it's simply because she's afraid to tell him and get the backlash. Her blood work hasn't given her away.
I told my doctor I wanted to lose some weight, and he gave me some xeroxed sheets. I tried it, and I was eating in a healthier way before the xeroxed sheet "plate" version of SAD. I tried low carb and then lowered carbs to be keto.
I lost about a pound a week between appointments, and the doctor commented that it was so rare to have a patient actually take a doctor's advice with diet. He was pleased with my progress. I told him, I had been successful really because I had ignored his advice. I asked if he wanted to know what I was doing. He laughed and said I should just keep doing it. After he left the examining room, the nurse said, "You can tell me."
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I had more comments at first. It's easier now - possibly because they are used to me eating this way or possibly because keto is now more know. But even 4 years ago I did not get too many comments. Meat with a side veggie, passing on the bread, is not that unusual.... plus I am a celiac so I need to skip the gluten foods anyways.
A simple no thanks, or I'm not hungry, often works fine too. Although some people in your life need to be told to butt out. Sheesh. Rude. (Hugs)Larkspur94 wrote: »
So comes second strike, our GP's. None of the doctors at our surgery support the keto diet. I've also faced the fire. 'You need more carbs in your diet. Body needs carbs to function. High fat is unhealthy, blah blah'. I don't believe her doctor knows she's off the statins and it's simply because she's afraid to tell him and get the backlash. Her blood work hasn't given her away.
I told my doctor I wanted to lose some weight, and he gave me some xeroxed sheets. I tried it, and I was eating in a healthier way before the xeroxed sheet "plate" version of SAD. I tried low carb and then lowered carbs to be keto.
I lost about a pound a week between appointments, and the doctor commented that it was so rare to have a patient actually take a doctor's advice with diet. He was pleased with my progress. I told him, I had been successful really because I had ignored his advice. I asked if he wanted to know what I was doing. He laughed and said I should just keep doing it. After he left the examining room, the nurse said, "You can tell me."
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The only way some can rise above the crowd is to try to mash down everyone around them. I talk freely about keto to those who ask and seem open-minded about it. The rest I ignore, for the most part.1
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gimmekimchee_x wrote: »How do you respond to people who constantly put you down when you are trying to better yourself. I have several family members and friends who discourage me on a daily basis. I hear " it'll never work", "you'll just gain it all back in a month", "stop being stupid and just eat whatever you want".
And sometimes I'm actually embarrassed when I eat in front of other people because they make comments and I when I tell them I'm trying to eat better they proceed to make fun of me. They say things like "keto diet is just a fad" "keto people just eat bacon all day and think they will lose weight". It pisses me off because I dont eat bacon all day and if I eat a piece of bread here and there I dont need them telling me I've already failed and should just give up.
Sorry for the long rant, but this is the stuff I hear all the time and it does get to me. Do any of you have people in your lives like this?
I can handle eating differently than my husband and kids because they support me and if they make fun it's all just light-hearted. But some people are just flat out mean and it DOES get me down. It's not easy when you're an emotional eater like me too. I'm sad, I know. Can anyone relate?
Too late now but I've found it better to not tell extended family and friends what I'm doing diet-wise. Often they feel self conscious about what they are eating in front of you. They don't want to feel bad about the choices they are making, so they attack your attempt to eat healthy. If someone asks why I'm not eating something, I just make general comments like "I'm trying not to eat so much sugar."4 -
Misery loves company.
Like people offering you a cigarette when you're trying to quit.
They will criticize your diet, while they know they should be dieting too.5 -
I ask people why they didn't tell me my diet was bad when I was 25lb heavier and stuffing cake, bread, beer and potatoes into my face as fast and as often as I could.
When people say the weight will go back on when I stop the Keto WOE, (I may or may not long term - not sure yet) I tell them when I stopped working out, my muscles shrunk. When I stopped showering, I got smelly. When I stopped running, my fitness faded away. When I stopped eating at a calorie deficit, I put on weight. Funny that.
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It's odd isn't it...no one asks a vegetarian when they are going to start eating animals, but everyone assumes that any other kind of dietary health change is just temporary.4
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tcunbeliever wrote: »It's odd isn't it...no one asks a vegetarian when they are going to start eating animals, but everyone assumes that any other kind of dietary health change is just temporary.
It takes time. Vegetarians and vegans were seen as Weird hippy freaks just a few decades ago.
...in my house, my boys still view them with suspicion. : D3 -
@nvmomketo smart boys
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I still look at my plate suspiciously when I eat keto so imagine what others think . Yikes, just realized I've turned into one of those proper food choice yoga people lmao. 3
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Tell them "What I put in my mouth is my business, maybe you should pay more attention to what is going into your mouth" MYOB It's snarky, but nothing is more personal than the decisions you make about your body. I also have a problem with anyone making remarks about how you baby is or looks(unless it's the doctor)1
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Sorry....body, the baby is fine1
