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I am a birthmother who has been in reunification for almost 4 1/2 years. My son is 22. I had 2 other kids (girls) with my current husband. They are 13 and 11. As most all adoption stories my is complicated on a good day. I also work in an agency dealing with delinquent youth who are in birth parent homes, kinship homes, adoptive homes,foster care, residential treatment centers, or group homes. I am an adoption assessor in addittion to all that. My son's adoptive sister is now in my situation more than 20 years ago - this is effecting him greatly.
On another note, my son leaves for a war zone in two weeks.
I seem to be a stress eater so I am watching my intake a little more these days - no promises.
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I am a birthmother who has been in reunification for almost 4 1/2 years. My son is 22. I had 2 other kids (girls) with my current husband. They are 13 and 11. As most all adoption stories my is complicated on a good day. I also work in an agency dealing with delinquent youth who are in birth parent homes, kinship homes, adoptive homes,foster care, residential treatment centers, or group homes. I am an adoption assessor in addittion to all that. My son's adoptive sister is now in my situation more than 20 years ago - this is effecting him greatly.
On another note, my son leaves for a war zone in two weeks.
I seem to be a stress eater so I am watching my intake a little more these days - no promises.
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Welcome to the group!
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Hi everyone. My name is Michelle. I have a wonderful son (almost 7) who is bio through ivf. I also have a beautiful daughter (who is 2) through domestic adoption. We met her birthmom about 3 weeks before she was born and we took her home from the hospital. Our adoption is very open and I consider both of my daughter's birthparents part of our family. They feel the same way about us. Both of the birthparents were at our daughter's birthday party and we usually see them at least every few months. It's a little tougher because they live about an hour away and neither one of them have a driver's license (they are in their 20's, but both have special needs, though our daughter does not). We are connected on FB though and talk on the phone about once a month or so.0
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Hi everyone. My name is Michelle. I have a wonderful son (almost 7) who is bio through ivf. I also have a beautiful daughter (who is 2) through domestic adoption. We met her birthmom about 3 weeks before she was born and we took her home from the hospital. Our adoption is very open and I consider both of my daughter's birthparents part of our family. They feel the same way about us. Both of the birthparents were at our daughter's birthday party and we usually see them at least every few months. It's a little tougher because they live about an hour away and neither one of them have a driver's license (they are in their 20's, but both have special needs, though our daughter does not). We are connected on FB though and talk on the phone about once a month or so.
Hi Chelle, welcome to the group. 0 -
Hey All..my name is Marlene. I have 2 beautiful daughters who came to us vial the Foster System. In 1998 I was diagnosed with having PCOS...after 2 attempts at getting pregnant..I decided to stop...and was in the midst of a divorce. I am East Indian..so my first marriage was arranged. He was not into the whole adoption thing..and I was..cause my mothers dad was raised in an orphanage..and was taken very good care of..so I felt it was my way of giving back to those who helped him...
Anyways..fast forward...hubby and I after several turkey baster sessions..found out we were pregnant..told everyone over Christmas..came back to the devastating news that it was molar.. As soon as the DNC was done..I pretty much put my foot down and said we were adopting.
Our girls moved in December 2006 and were officially adopted November 2007. There have been many many difficulties...but so many more positive things. My girls were 7 and 10 when they moved in..and now they are 12 and 16. Its funny how God works...they look just like my husband and I. (he is polish/irish)...and my oldest is just like my husband in temperament..and my youngest is just like me...Adoption is glorious...0 -
I have been slacking as moderator, I am sorry. Welcome to the newbies who have found our group. I love to hear new stories, and hopefully we can rekindle the interaction here!0
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Hi everyone,
My name is Mara, and my husband and I are waiting to adopt through domestic adoption. It's great to see the diversity of stories and to hear from people who have been touched by adoption in so many different ways! I love connecting with all members of the adoption triad.
I am trying to use our waiting period to really focus on my health, taking care of myself, increasing my fitness, and hoping to lose weight.
Great to meet all of you! Thanks for sharing your stories.0 -
Hi Everyone,
My husband and I are just starting the adoption process, gathering all our homestudy paperwork
. We have been TTC for 4 years now and after 1.5yrs of infertility treatments I just needed to feel like myself again and take a good long break. I don't know how long it will be before we try that route again but we are definitely pursuing adoption. If you have been through this process already, add me. I would love to discuss the process and what we are in for. We met with an attorney last week and left feeling pretty hopeful about the process. After all the failed infertility treatments I have learned not to count on anything and to try not to get too hopeful. Would love to hear about the positive and negative aspects. 0 -
Hi Everyone
I see the group has been quiet for a while but I thought I would join. My husband and I have been on the adoption wait list for 16 months and have yet to been placed. I have taken the last 16 months to get myself fit and ready for motherhood. I am excited to start the journey to parenthood and I am praying that we are placed soon 0 -
Hi Everyone
I see the group has been quiet for a while but I thought I would join. My husband and I have been on the adoption wait list for 16 months and have yet to been placed. I have taken the last 16 months to get myself fit and ready for motherhood. I am excited to start the journey to parenthood and I am praying that we are placed soon
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Yes we are adopting domestically. We live in Canada and are adopting in the province of alberta. There are only about 55 babies put up for adoption a year here (Alberta) and about 150 waiting parents.0
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Hi friends,
I didn't realize that I haven't posted an introduction. I am 30 years old and a proud Papa to 2 beautiful girls, 2 years old and 4.5 months old.
We adopted domestically (Canada) as most countries have closed the door to same sex parent adoption. Our first came to us as a voluntary placement through the public system. We waited about 9 months from the time our home study and training were completed (in Ontario, training is mandatory). We were eligible for a second at 18 months, and were matched within 2 months, and flew to the birth in Calgary. We met this birth mum online. Although we are very busy, and, in retrospect view the process positively, we're done with two - we don't want to be greedy.
Happy to chat to those in waiting and anyone else. My best advice is to keep an open mind to the process, and only start when you're ready.0 -
What is a home study? Sounds like something they should do in the US...!0
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Lol...the home study entails multiple questionnaires and home visits by the social workers. I think that's a relatively universal practice. In Ontario, we also take a mandatory pre placement class called PRIDE training, and I think that varies from place to place. It's not a parenting class, but it is meant to help prepare parents for some potential issues for adopted kids. Thankfully, you don't need to do it all over again for number 2!0
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Lol...the home study entails multiple questionnaires and home visits by the social workers. I think that's a relatively universal practice. In Ontario, we also take a mandatory pre placement class called PRIDE training, and I think that varies from place to place. It's not a parenting class, but it is meant to help prepare parents for some potential issues for adopted kids. Thankfully, you don't need to do it all over again for number 2!
I think the Pride training sounds like a great idea as well. I'm not so sure they had these sort of things in the earlier years of adoption or even when I was adopted in the 80's.0 -
I am new to this website and this group. I am the proud mom of two kids adopted internationally. My son, now 11, came home from Guatemala when he was 7 1/2 months old (we just celebrated our family day yesterday) and my daughter came home, now 7, came home from Colombia at age 19 months.
Glad to "meet" all of you!0 -
Glad to meet all of you! Thought I'd introduce myself after joining the group a few months ago. Feel free to add me as a friend. I know all about long waits and all about instant placements!
I'm Michelle and my husband and I have two children via adoption. We live in Edmonton,Alberta. Before adoption, we tried IVF (5 times) but were unsuccessful. Sometimes I can't believe we tried for so long before examining this route. Our oldest is 9, and came to join us after a 3 month wait. We had two days notice with him. Our youngest is 31/2 (going on 13), and joined us after a 41/2 year wait. We had her at home three hours after being called. Both are open adoptions. Our first birthmother doesn't come to visit anymore, but did visit infrequently for the first 3 years. Our second birthmother/birthfather visit about every 6 - 8 weeks. More people to love!
Glad to be part of this group and hear everyone's stories!
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Hi all. My name is Addi and my husband and I are in the process of adopting a 14 year old through foster care. We began our home study process in 2011 and began inquiring on children online. We were interviewed for several children, but nothing ever seemed to work out. We came so close to giving up so many times. And then on December 11th, 2012 we got our call! We had been matched. We have spent several weekends with our little lady....and she comes home for good May 17th! 0
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Hi all.. I am new to the group... I have been having fertility issues for about 10 yrs now and adoption seems like the next thing to do. My husband and daughter (11) wants to do this. We are at the point of the family saying yes ... but really don't know where to start. I want a baby......... my husband doesn't care as long as the new addition is younger than my daughter. I want to make sure all of our t's are crossed and the I's are dotted.
I do know we need a home study ... making sure there is no house issues so ....many projects to come. I also have making sure we ok on paper.
Other than this I don't know what to expect.
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HI all. I recently adopted my foster child last year. The day my husband and I found out we could adopt him (it was quite a battle) we found out we were pregnant. After 10 years of marriage we received two on the same day! Feel free to add me. Anyone here tell their adopted child that they are adopted? If so, how? He's 4 and I want him to grasp the concept as young as possible. 0
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I see this group hasn't been active, but here I go anyway.
My adoptive parents took me home from Riverside Hospital in Newport News, VA in 1960. They were great parents. They are both deceased and I am searching for birth family and/or medical information. I was listed as Baby Girl Stewart on the Final Order in Adoption.0
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