Oh my gosh, do I ever! He used to be my best friend. We aren't very close anymore, but I still love him to pieces. We have an incredible history. We went to college together, then he helped me find a job after college at the same place he worked. We were an hour and a half from home so we became each others only friend. He even moved in with me for a month when his a/c went out. He got hired at a new place and asked me to come with him, so I did. We taught side by side for two years. We became close and when I left that school (we didn't leave together that time), we became even closer. We became best friends, and I'm talking incredibly close. We were together all the time, pretty much inseparable. When I entered into my most recent relationship, we grew apart. I wasn't able to balance the intensity of our friendship with the relationship. That relationship has been over for a while, but our friendship has never really bounced back.

You would think with as incredibly close as we were, that at some point it would've turned into the dream I very much wanted. It never did. He just never saw me that way. For several reasons really. For one, I think he just knows me better than anyone else - flaws and all. And for another, I haven't been the confident, thin girl I am now. Perhaps that shouldn't matter, but it does.

Sometimes I think I couldn't actually date him either. I mean, I know all of his flaws too :laugh: . I also know he'll always have a piece of my heart.

Oh my gosh, do I ever! He used to be my best friend. We aren't very close anymore, but I still love him to pieces. We have an incredible history. We went to college together, then he helped me find a job after college at the same place he worked. We were an hour and a half from home so we became each others only friend. He even moved in with me for a month when his a/c went out. He got hired at a new place and asked me to come with him, so I did. We taught side by side for two years. We became close and when I left that school (we didn't leave together that time), we became even closer. We became best friends, and I'm talking incredibly close. We were together all the time, pretty much inseparable. When I entered into my most recent relationship, we grew apart. I wasn't able to balance the intensity of our friendship with the relationship. That relationship has been over for a while, but our friendship has never really bounced back.

You would think with as incredibly close as we were, that at some point it would've turned into the dream I very much wanted. It never did. He just never saw me that way. For several reasons really. For one, I think he just knows me better than anyone else - flaws and all. And for another, I haven't been the confident, thin girl I am now. Perhaps that shouldn't matter, but it does.

Sometimes I think I couldn't actually date him either. I mean, I know all of his flaws too :laugh: . I also know he'll always have a piece of my heart.

I just got back from the movies with the guy I'm falling for.. my friend. Ahhhh. :brokenheart: I just love being by him, laughing and talking.

I know how you feel. I have a guy friend who used to be very very close, but has never been interested in me. We were friends back when I was married, and I thought his increased hanging out after I became single was him liking me. It wasn't. I was the safe, fun, girl he could hang out with and ask about girls he really liked. No intimacy (not even hand holding), so I finally got it through my thick head that I will never be the kind of girl he actually wants. And now I don't want to be.

Even though I knew it wouldn't work out (he's yet to date someone who is similar in personality to me) it still hurt to see him with girls that don't appreciate how awesome he is, who just take advantage of him and hurt him whereas I liked him for *him* not what he could do for me materially.

I seriously had to stop hanging out with him. Only that distance gave me the perspective to see that he wasn't right for me.

Yeah, but sometimes you don't even realize how deeply you care about someone... til they show up with someone else on their arm.

It has been a a few years. Last time it happened it was someone who already had a bf at the time.

Yeah about 14,000 Kms away impossible

Yeah, I have one but it's just hormones. He's an A-hole. I'm trying to get over it.

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I can't believe how many of you have crushes on other peoples husbands!

I was thinking that same thing!!

YES! Mine lives about a 10 hr drive from me. Being that far away, not a whole lot of sense in starting anything. But we're good friends!