Is Texting an Overused Medium?
DMZ_1
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I certainly feel that way.
I really am not a fan of text messaging. I think it is an inefficient means of communication. There are times where texting makes sense (like you need to locate someone in a noisy environment like a bar, club, stadium). Going back and forth in 160 bits of character does not make a whole lot of sense to me. I tend to express myself in longer bits of information. I like a focus on meaningful and quality, not quantity. Also, screens on cell phones are smaller than laptops or desktops and it is not good for eyesight to text a lot.
The written word has less meaning than the spoken word or the spoken word with body language. That is Communication 101 right there. In the early days, there needs to be more context.
I hope I'm not coming off as a grumpy old man, fuddy duddy. :laugh:
I really am not a fan of text messaging. I think it is an inefficient means of communication. There are times where texting makes sense (like you need to locate someone in a noisy environment like a bar, club, stadium). Going back and forth in 160 bits of character does not make a whole lot of sense to me. I tend to express myself in longer bits of information. I like a focus on meaningful and quality, not quantity. Also, screens on cell phones are smaller than laptops or desktops and it is not good for eyesight to text a lot.
The written word has less meaning than the spoken word or the spoken word with body language. That is Communication 101 right there. In the early days, there needs to be more context.
I hope I'm not coming off as a grumpy old man, fuddy duddy. :laugh:
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I completely agree with you, and, frankly, it is a relief to me to see a man expressing this opinion of texting. I find that most men, and I use that word loosely in this context, prefer texting because it's "easier" than picking up the phone and actually calling a woman.
I think texting is fine when you have something brief to communicate or have something to say that doesn't require a response. But I hate when men try to have a conversation with me via text message, and I generally just don't respond. Asking me out on a date with a text message is an absolute dealbreaker. But I am pretty old-fashioned in that regard. I still write actual letters to family and friends I don't get to see regularly. For some reason, I have this idea that people you truly care about are worth the effort.0 -
Yes it is,without a doubt as was email to a phone call which was to only person to person.
It is 2012 and part of our culture good or bad.
I think all means of communication can be used but nothing in the long run can substitute for actually talking to someone in person.
Only then can you see the uncontrollable little smile,the genuine blush,the sound of true love in a voice.
Sooner or later it has to get to that or it won`t work.0 -
I definitely agree- I just hate the phone in general. No texting, no phone calls. I'd rather talk in person!
I do text when it's right but overall I would rather see the person.0 -
I am a texter. I absolulty hate talking on the phone. I have always hated it. I am in my mid 30s but since I was 20 I have always communitcated more by email, IM or texting then I have by using the actual phone to talk. Even when doing business I would rather meet up with someone in person then talking on the phone.0
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I am a huge texter .. emailer..facebooker..lol. i find it so much easier to say what i mean or feel when i text it. But sometimes it makes it harder to then finally talk in person or on the phone because i have such a huge comfort level texting. I dont like when people dont text...lol0
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nope i rather text you than talk to you unless we are in a relationship or I'm just in the mood to hear your voice other than that I'll text you and if you don't like it then you got my number so use it ... that's how I feel and besides i rather text my guy friends since it just saves time and less confusion most times.
facetime seems to becoming an overused medium for me with some people hell i just rather text you and next thing I know i gotta not only do I have to listen to you but now I have to focus and look at my phone or computer while i talk instead of the tv :laugh:0 -
Nammer! Bad bad! lol0
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I absolutely hate talking on the phone. If you love me, don't call me. I would much rather text any day. It's faster, more simple, and hell, if I don't want to respond right away, I don't have to.0
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I absolutely hate talking on the phone. If you love me, don't call me. I would much rather text any day. It's faster, more simple, and hell, if I don't want to respond right away, I don't have to.
I can talk faster than I can type on a phone. I can type on a more traditional keyboard much faster.0 -
I can talk faster than I can type on a phone. I can type on a more traditional keyboard much faster.
I've had far too much experience texting, I suppose. I used to work in a call center where I absolutely couldn't get away from the phone, so I like to be able to control the pace of the conversation. Sometimes I put my phone down and walk away, knowing that in about two minutes I'll have completely forgotten where I put it and won't find it for a day. :laugh:0 -
Nope....texting is the easiest way to communicate while doing multiple things. Its quick, easy, gets your message across with out a lot of small talk! Thank goodness for unlimited texting plans!0
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I absolutely hate talking on the phone. If you love me, don't call me. I would much rather text any day. It's faster, more simple, and hell, if I don't want to respond right away, I don't have to.
That explains a lot....0 -
Texting can be overused. I do text a lot but I rather talk sometimes.
FL and I talk on the phone for hours. I love it. There's nothing like those late night phone calls that last hours. Not all the time, but every now and then it's nice.
When I have a new date, I always ask them to call me before to say hi in "person". It just makes me feel less nervous.0 -
I absolutely hate talking on the phone. If you love me, don't call me. I would much rather text any day. It's faster, more simple, and hell, if I don't want to respond right away, I don't have to.
That explains a lot....
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I have a friend that refuses to talk on the phone. She'll text you for hours. But if you call her after a few texts because it'll be quicker, she'll ignore the call and continue texting to you.
I'll always take in person first though. I hate the phone, but it is far better than texts for anything besides quick messages like "I'll be 30 minutes late" etc.0 -
I hate texting! My phone's screen doesn't work. I haven't replace it. It's an awesome excuse to avoid texting people! It's hard to communicate sarcasm and express emotion in a text.0
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Texting is great because it is easy, quick and a silent/private way to communicate, but I totally get your point.0
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I hate having conversations over texts. Short messages like setting meetup times or simple questions, sure thats fine. But if a session lasts more than 2 replies, I'd much rather talk.0
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I hate having conversations over texts. Short messages like setting meetup times or simple questions, sure thats fine. But if a session lasts more than 2 replies, I'd much rather talk.
Exactly my perspective on it!0 -
I hope I'm not coming off as a grumpy old man, fuddy duddy. :laugh:
By the way, this made me chuckle. :laugh:0 -
Well texting wouldn't be my first choice of communication although I do text and don't mind it... But it's definitely not my main preference of communication. Communication should go beyond that especially with certain people IMO0
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I'm a texter lol. I'm often carring on 4 different conversations while making dinner and helping my children with homework. Texting is easier I dont have to worry about the noise level in my house either. I talk on the phone as well but not nearly as much as I text. My sister compared it to living with a 16 yr old lol:blushing:0
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Funny I was just thinking about this this morning. It seems like guys are totally into texting rather than picking up the phone, and I hate that texting has become the main tool of communication...especially if someone is asking me out. Pick up the phone and call--don't text and ask me out.
Now I think little notes back and forth are fine for texting...like: "thinking of you", or "have a great day". But, I don't want to hold a conversation via text.0 -
Sometimes talking is better, but texting is so convenient. Flirting by text is such fun - seriously if you've never tried it you should give it a go before writing off texting as chore0
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Funny I was just thinking about this this morning. It seems like guys are totally into texting rather than picking up the phone, and I hate that texting has become the main tool of communication...especially if someone is asking me out. Pick up the phone and call--don't text and ask me out.
Now I think little notes back and forth are fine for texting...like: "thinking of you", or "have a great day". But, I don't want to hold a conversation via text.
I don't think it is just guys who are totally into texting. I've seen enough women are into the texting runaround. I would say that there's a direct relationship with age. A 25 year old is more likely to be a texting maniac than a 40 year old, but there are plenty of 40 year olds who are big time texters. Life stage also plays a role in texting as well. I think a 40 year old who has been married for 15 years and has a set social life is not going to be as big of a texter as a 40 year old who is single and maybe also in the process of developing new friendships as well as dating.
Holding a conversation via text message is a major annoyance to me. If I have to hold a text based conversation, I would rather do that in email or on a website like Facebook, etc.
So many means of communication, so many choices, and yet the way we communicate with one another is probably weaker than it was 20 years ago.0 -
Starting to think that I should put in my POF profile that I am a texter and hate to talk on the phone.0
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I was thinking about this some more today and I was thinking that when you text/write you have time to think of what to say, you can ignore something that is said if you want. It's not really realistic. You have to know how to think on your feet, and texting doesn't allow that. Just a thought! I'm awkward so I like texting sometimes because I can think about what I'm going to say, but it doesn't work in real life!0
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I love texting. I love emailing. I love talking on the phone. And I love f2f contact. ANY form of communication is good to me.
One of my girlfriends and I have entire conversations for hours by text :laugh: I dont even know why, cos we talk for England when we meet too! It's just one of those things. Ive only ever met one man that loved texting/sexting as much as me though, mostly men I've met prefer phone or f2f.
The downside is that text (or the written word) CAN be misconstrued and can get you in trouble. So I do draw the line when discussing a controversial topic or having a disagreement. At those times, I'd rather talk on phone or meet f2f. And I dont like the dump by text or hiding behind a text rubbish. That is just cowardice.
But in general, I think it's improved comms between couples (so nice to get a text saying 'I want you' or something to indicate someone is thinking about you), it keeps friends in touch and its a fab invention!! But you can't beat f2f if you have the time :bigsmile:0 -
I like texting/email as a relationship sustainer, but when I'm getting to know someone I want to talk on the phone and/or meet in person as soon as possible to see if there's even enough chemistry to make it worth continuing getting to know him.0
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I learnt this the hard way! :sad: But yeah, I can only agree.The downside is that text (or the written word) CAN be misconstrued and can get you in trouble. So I do draw the line when discussing a controversial topic or having a disagreement. At those times, I'd rather talk on phone or meet f2f.0
