1st Date Nerves.
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My gut feeling tells me he is bad news.
Anything can happen and maybe he is just nervous but if that is his reaction to it then will be a problem down the road.
Betting he had a previous offer he made come through at the last minute.
Play it by ear and be cautious.0 -
He just called me and talked. It was SO much better over a phone call and he explained himself thoroughly. I appreciated him calling and easing my mind. He says he really wants to meet me and so we will probably go out tomorrow.
I believed him. We talked for about 20 minutes and he said he'd text me later on after he slept some.0 -
After all that, I hope it is an absolutely fantastic date!0
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He just called me and talked. It was SO much better over a phone call and he explained himself thoroughly. I appreciated him calling and easing my mind. He says he really wants to meet me and so we will probably go out tomorrow.
I believed him. We talked for about 20 minutes and he said he'd text me later on after he slept some.
See what I said about texting? Too much of a chance for miscommunication. Maybe something was different than initially assumed.0 -
That is a LOT of drama before the date even happens, yikes!0
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Yes, and I told him... he totally took my "it seems odd" text out of context and I definately couldn't grasp the tone he was writing me in. For all I know he was out having a jolly good time texting poor me at home saying he's sick to his stomach.
Glad he called. I told him he just saved himself by calling beause I was about to blow him off.0 -
That is a LOT of drama before the date even happens, yikes!
He's a fighting irish man and I'm a hot blooded latina. I warned him about this....0 -
Mmmm hot blooded Latinas.... I have a weakness for hot blooded Latinas....for some reason you girls make me lose any sense of good judgement, I love it!0
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I think the guy is sick.. There are certain symptoms one can have that you just don't risk on a date. . .And the intensity with which he's fighting to keep you is also encouraging. . Why blow you off just to fight for you?
It's possible he double-booked and isn't sick at all, and while double booking isn't the worst offense, making up some bs lie about being sick is!
Sooo. . I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. .What's the worst that can happen?
On the bright side, now you probably won't be so nervous!0 -
I think the guy is sick.. There are certain symptoms one can have that you just don't risk on a date. . .And the intensity with which he's fighting to keep you is also encouraging. . Why blow you off just to fight for you?
It's possible he double-booked and isn't sick at all, and while double booking isn't the worst offense, making up some bs lie about being sick is!
Sooo. . I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. .What's the worst that can happen?
On the bright side, now you probably won't be so nervous!
^^^ this!! Good luck tomorrow, can't wait to hear if there were sparks
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so I had been chatting with this other guy. he's cute and assertive, which i like. well i gave him my number earlier and he just called so we're going out for a drink in a bit.
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I think the guy is sick.. There are certain symptoms one can have that you just don't risk on a date. . .And the intensity with which he's fighting to keep you is also encouraging. . Why blow you off just to fight for you?
It's possible he double-booked and isn't sick at all, and while double booking isn't the worst offense, making up some bs lie about being sick is!
Sooo. . I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. .What's the worst that can happen?
On the bright side, now you probably won't be so nervous!
^^^ this!! Good luck tomorrow, can't wait to hear if there were sparks
he excites me for some reason.. i am really attracted to his pictures and he seems to be expressive and open which i like. i hope all goes well tomorrow too.0 -
so I had been chatting with this other guy. he's cute and assertive, which i like. well i gave him my number earlier and he just called so we're going out for a drink in a bit.
:flowerforyou:
good luck let us know how it goes.0 -
Um it went very well. Won't be seeing him again (eh) but it was fun! :drinker:0
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Um it went very well. Won't be seeing him again (eh) but it was fun! :drinker:
OK as a guy....if it went very well, why won't you see him again?0 -
Not interested in him for long term.. but he was fun!0
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Not interested in him for long term.. but he was fun!
Ermm, Why?? Didnt you fancy him?? Were his pics different?? Did he walk with a hunch?? :laugh:
Details woman!!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Okay, we're going to have to come up with a system to keep up with all of your guys. I've got gym guy and FL, now there's the Irish puker and what are we calling this fun but no thank you guy?0
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We can call this guy latin lover. lol
He was attractive. 29 but the whole time we messaged and even in person was just a fun tone.. not the fun like FL and I but just "light". I wouldn't date him long term (not sure why). We had a good time. :bigsmile:
Irish puker?? He texted me several times last night still sick LOL.0 -
Dinner tonight with Irish puker. Woop.
I'm actually looking forward to this date. He seems to be really excited to meet me too which makes me nervous. Hopefully it'll go well.0 -
good luck!0
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It went well.
First of all, he was still feeling ill. He wasn't himself 100% but he said he knew if he didn't come I would had blown him off. Ha. Not sure about how I feel regarding that, flattered he made the effort but jeez, I don't want you feeling too sick during our date.
He complimented me a lot. He was very expressive. He seems to be very attracted to me.
He wants to see me again... BUT............ he is looking for something serious.. which I am of course too but he brought up how he wants to get to know me and only me. He can't do multi dating and get to know me at the same time so he said he would want me to give him my attention as well if I wanted to.
I'm not sure how I feel about that. I told him I wanted to get to know him more and then we'll see. He wasn't asking me to be exclusive or anything but he says he just doesn't think 2 people can really explore each other if there's others involved. I agree to a point I guess....
I am very attracted to him. He's bald, blue eyes, tattooed, 6ft... but his style is very rocker. I can tell he is a fighting Irish man.
Anywho, I'm going to see him again.0 -
It went well.
First of all, he was still feeling ill. He wasn't himself 100% but he said he knew if he didn't come I would had blown him off. Ha. Not sure about how I feel regarding that, flattered he made the effort but jeez, I don't want you feeling too sick during our date.
He complimented me a lot. He was very expressive. He seems to be very attracted to me.
He wants to see me again... BUT............ he is looking for something serious.. which I am of course too but he brought up how he wants to get to know me and only me. He can't do multi dating and get to know me at the same time so he said he would want me to give him my attention as well if I wanted to.
I'm not sure how I feel about that. I told him I wanted to get to know him more and then we'll see. He wasn't asking me to be exclusive or anything but he says he just doesn't think 2 people can really explore each other if there's others involved. I agree to a point I guess....
I am very attracted to him. He's bald, blue eyes, tattooed, 6ft... but his style is very rocker. I can tell he is a fighting Irish man.
Anywho, I'm going to see him again.
Yay!! Aren't you glad you didn't blow him off?0 -
Glad to hear it went well! Good call on not blowing him off.
I do agree it seems a little weird the discussion about not multi dating while you get to know each other. That threw me for a little bit of a loop.0 -
he just doesn't think 2 people can really explore each other if there's others involved. I agree to a point I guess....
Isn't that the same as exclusive?0 -
Yeah, that's not usually a conversation I have until it starts getting close to sheet time.0
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he just doesn't think 2 people can really explore each other if there's others involved. I agree to a point I guess....
Isn't that the same as exclusive?
Im not sure but I don't think I'm going to stop dating other guys. That's way too quick for me. I did tell him this and he said he couldn't tell me what to do but eventually he'd want my full attention.0 -
Yeah, that's not usually a conversation I have until it starts getting close to sheet time.
So is this weird?? He seemed very happy to be with me but he doesn't know me yet... and in his eyes, that's why he wants to focus on just me.
Blah!0 -
Yeah, that's not usually a conversation I have until it starts getting close to sheet time.
So is this weird?? He seemed very happy to be with me but he doesn't know me yet... and in his eyes, that's why he wants to focus on just me.
Blah!
Not necessarily weird. I get his point. I would not have said that as early as he did.
Good enough for at least another date, and you'll see where it stands.0 -
Yeah, that's not usually a conversation I have until it starts getting close to sheet time.
So is this weird?? He seemed very happy to be with me but he doesn't know me yet... and in his eyes, that's why he wants to focus on just me.
Blah!
Not weird, but a definite flag of someone who is controlling. But I'm only taking this from a message board, I wasn't there. So, take it for what it's worth.0
