He seems like a really nice guy. He seems like he'd give his all to someone BUT he seems like he wants to soon. I'm not sure if I want that. I mean, I do but I don't want to feel rushed. Although, I wanted to rush with FL so I don't know what the hell is wrong with me!

I'll give it another go just to see if I feel something for him but eh....

I'm slow to get to know someone. And unless there were crazy fireworks, I'll take baby steps. I like him but there weren't crazy fireworks like there was with "someone else". (I won't say who because you all will pound me)

I hesitated when he asked me about whether or not I wanted to continue to get to know him because of the whole "I want your full attention". I told him I wasn't dating like crazy but I will be super picky about anybody I get into an exclusive relationship so I don't see myself rushing into one hence why I want to date around.

Back to the multidating, he said if I wanted to keep seeing other guys that's me, but that's not him. Then he later said if we were to decide to only focus on each other, and I was still dating other guys, than he's not the man for me. :huh:

How can he be so sure he wants to get to know me after just talking some days and 1 date??? If I understood that, then maybe I'd be okay with it but since I take a while to know whether or not I want to continue with someone, I don't understand his logic.
He told me he likes me, he's very attracted to me, etc... so I know what he said but I don't know why. Is it just because he was attracted to me mostly?

I feel like he's trying to take me off the market asap so nobody else gets to me which in the end is what you want but all this hesitation on my part isn't settling well with me.

I've always wanted to ask that question:
When you guys talk about the "early stages" of dating, can you have had sex already? (Or you need to be exclusive for sex?)

I don't get your question? Are you asking me if I'm going to have sex with Irish guy now?

Nah, it's a generic question, for everyone. I think I don't understand too well the concept of "early stages".

And I'm asking can you still call "the early stages" "the early stages" if you had sex.
early stages = multidating + no sex
or
early stages = multidating + sex
or
early stages = mono + no sex
etc.
(I'll let you figure out all the combinations)

Is it immediately exclusive as soon as you had sex, or can you still multidate?

See, I wouldn't have sex until we talked about being exclusive..

Okay, that's what I say but it probably won't go that way judging from the situation with FL. When I get excited, it's hard to stop because of all the "chemistry" I feel. I get drunk on kisses!

I couldn't multi date if I was having sex with 1 or 2 guys plus trying to get to know 1, seriously. That's too much and it'd overwhelm me!

If I chose to have sex with someone, then I'm not too serious about anybody else because if I were really invested in 1 guy, I wouldn't want to be physical with someone else. On the other hand, either the physical stuff is for relief or because I'm really into him (FL) meaning I'm not interested in anybody else. Confusing, I know.

I got physical with the guy from Saturday night. :blushing: I mean, he was cute and sexy but I knew I didn't want to see him again, probably. I totally did the black widow with him.

Then I met Irish guy Sunday night and he wants to hold my hand and for me to stop dating other guys. Can you imagine him being cool with me talking to FL? Probably not.

This is why I think I'm not too crazy about getting serious right away with him.

I really should stop blabbing about my dates!!! :blushing: It's just so fun!

Okay well I have another date tonight. This one is a blind date through a set up through a friend. :bigsmile: He looks cute from what I can tell... another latin lover. He's 6ft, military. He just called and confirmed. We're going to go watch the basketball championship and have dinner/ drinks.