I'm neither not that heavy nor that skinny, and I have a good friend who seems to behave like I'm going to waste away if I get within a healthy weight range. I'm pretty sure she'll start trying to force feed me if I opt to try to get further into the healthy range instead of the absolute top of where I'd be to have a healthy BMI. (this is still a bizarre feeling as I'm normally 'the fat one')

Healthy weight is the new anorexia, people... *facepalm* I'm not accepting being a little dumpy because "compared to other people my age" I'm a runway model. I get the same BS- "Please, you're skinny already", "Why are you on a diet?" (I'm at the very upper range of "normal" BMI for my height, but for my bone structure it's too much!). Here's my thought on the increasing acceptability of being overweight - It's your life, do what you want to do! Shovel in that Big Mac! If you wish choose congestive heart failure and diabetes, be my guest.

On a side note, I applaud anyone who comes on this website and makes an effort to better themselves and their health. They shouldn't be called derogatory names...

Agreed!

I really agree with this thread. I am 5'2" and 110 pounds, which sounds ideal, but I am very pear shaped, which I get from my mum. Everything I eat sticks to my bum and legs, and my stomach remains flat. When I decline sweet things, or go to the gym, I am met with the attitude that I am silly for wanting to lose weight.

I have not, and have never had an eating disorder, but I know my own body, and I know when I am comfortable with my weight and when I am not. The truth of the matter is, I'm not really bothered what it says on the scales because my aim is not necessarily to lose weight. I want to tone up and look healthy and athletic, but just because I am not 'technically overweight', I am "stupid" for wanting to change myself.

People work on themselves all the time, whether it be a new haircut, a new qualification, a change in attitude or opinion, it's ALL THE SAME! I don't understand why there is this poor attitude to girls who just want to lose a few pounds and tone up when they are not fat! We can do, or change, whatever we want! Be concerned with your own issues, not other peoples!

Nothing bothers me more than when people say to me "Oh, you're sooo skinny" or "You don't need to watch what you eat or exercise. You're lucky you're naturally skinny".

I'm thinking to myself, 'How the heck do you think I got this way?' I work damn hard to keep maintain a healthy weight and look the way that I do. It's not easy, and it certainly doesn't come naturally. I come from a long line of curvy/overweight women.

Nothing bothers me more than when people say to me "Oh, you're sooo skinny" or "You don't need to watch what you eat or exercise. You're lucky you're naturally skinny".

I'm thinking to myself, 'How the heck do you think I got this way?' I work damn hard to keep maintain a healthy weight and look the way that I do. It's not easy, and it certainly doesn't come naturally. I come from a long line of curvy/overweight women.

Exactly!! I don't look this way by eating Krispy Kreme and french fries all the time, I work really damn hard too! There is such a fine line I walk to maintain my body, and yes those three brownies will ruin me for the week!

Thanks for for starting this thread, I really think it's part of a bigger issue which is that most Americans now accept fat as normal. What most people today consider as "skinny" is really normal, and what most people consider as "normal" is actually overweight. That's why even though all of us are probably in the "healthy/normal" range, they think we're unhealthy because their view is so warped!

And I agree with the others, no use defending your food choices, easier just to say "no thanks, I just ate." Otherwise people start asking questions that they usually don't want to know the answers to. I think it's a jealousy thing, they just wish they could be as disciplined but because they aren't, they are trying to pull you down. They don't want to see you look any better, because they will just keep looking even fatter sitting next to you. Sometimes it's just ignorance and lack of knowledge about nutrition in general. Some people who have never dieted before don't understand that one meal or snack can really send your spiraling, or they can't wrap their heads around the fact that a restaurant salad could have as many calories as I should be eating the entire day.

This is my body and yes I may look "fine" according to some standards, but if I want to look better, that's my prerogative. To me it's more like a competition against myself to see how fit I can be. I wish I could be more social about my eating and dieting, but unfortunately I must keep it to myself unless I want to hear constant nagging.

Oh, and one more thing, I don't think you're rude for calling people "fatties." If you are fat, you need to accept it and change it and getting butt-hurt over the word. It's only offensive to be called fat when you are not indeed fat, otherwise, it's just a fact. I'm so sick of how sensitive everyone is these days.

I think that when people say these things or pressure you to eat junk, it is 100% about them and not you. I notice the same thing about my hair. My hair is extremely long and I take very good care of it. People are constantly trying to pressure me to flat iron it or cut it short and I feel like it's because the dedication and patience it takes to grow very long hair - or to be very fit and thin - is difficult for them and seeing it in you highlights their inability to see it through themselves. Many people I think also feel like, if we ALL eat cake TOGETHER then ALL of our collective butts will get fatter equally so we'd technically still be the same in relation to one another. But if you refuse, you are messing up the group dynamic. Which is not fair but there you go.

Next time this topic comes up I will use this analogy.

"So, your vehicle runs well doesn't it?" (typical answer would be yes).
"Well is there any thing you could do to make run better?" (typical answer would be yes).

"My body works well now, but I'd like to make it work better."

Thank you!! I'm 5'7" and weigh 150 which is only 13 pounds less than when I was at my FULL TERM pregnancy weight. I've been super skinny my whole life until my late 20's when I finally got to a healthy weight of about 135. I know that I'm not "fat" but I am gaining weight and seeing unpleasant changes in the fitness and tone of my body. It's a struggle because, although I was always pretty active, I've never had to watch what I eat or exercise to keep thin and I was never taught anything about nutrition or healthy eating choices growing up. Now I try to watch what I eat and maintain a fitness routine as an example to my own kids and I really want to lose these 10 pounds. NO ONE is very supportive except for my husband who says that I'm beautiful and don't need to lose weight but he supports me wanting to feel comfortable and stay fit. I always get dirty looks or snide comments when I mention that I'm trying to watch what I eat etc. My philosophy on this is that you don't wake up one day a hundred pounds overweight. It starts with 5, 10, 15 pounds that you let go because you aren't 'fat'. I'm not willing to let this ten pounds go and definitely not willing to tack on ten more. So I'm glad that I've found a community and group where I can finally get some understanding and support!! :happy: