I understand that it's not helpful to be hopeful BUT.. I've been in both situations.

Everybody in here knows my stories haha... so repeating them is probably nervewrecking but they're the best examples because it proves, you just never know.

1) I met a guy on dating site. He was moving over here from another state. We "hit" it off great over message/ phone. One of our phone conversations was 8 hours long!!!! He even commented on how he's never talked that long with anybody ever before. He seemed surprised at how much we got along. He moves to my city. I'm soooo excited and nervous to meet him in person. I feel hopeful because like him, I knew we had sooo much in common. We go out several times. I sleep with him after our 3rd date... 3 days later we have THE talk. He friend zones me. I said I didn't want a relationship. We become friends whom I do everything with. I still had feelings for him all along. He's now moved BACK to his original state.

2) I met a guy on same dating site. We message back and forth. We don't have that much in common yet he's just my type. His interests are different than mine but his intrigue me. Same with my interests to him. After about a week of messages, calls and texts, he asks me out (I didn't think he was interested!). I am SO SO SO excited before our 1st date. I even came on here to say how nervous I was.. everybody calmed me down. I liked him already w/o meeting him in person. I knew that if he rejected me, it'd SUCK big time.
So we go on our first date. It was magical. I've never felt chemistry that fast with someone before. He couldn't stop smiling and was just as giddy. (we talk about that night all the time ) He asked me out during our 1st date for the following night. About a week later we are official and I'm just as giddy about him as that first time.



So being hopeful is scary because if you're rejected, it SUCKS. But what if you're not? The hopefulness, nerves, excitement, pukey feeling are all the fun part of meeting someone new because you just never know. I would had never guessed that the 2nd guy was going to be my boyfriend. I honestly thought he'd probably not like me since I liked him.. just seems to happen that way. But the stars were aligned just right that night because we both felt exactly the same.

I understand that it's not helpful to be hopeful BUT.. I've been in both situations.

Everybody in here knows my stories haha... so repeating them is probably nervewrecking but they're the best examples because it proves, you just never know.

1) I met a guy on dating site. He was moving over here from another state. We "hit" it off great over message/ phone. One of our phone conversations was 8 hours long!!!! He even commented on how he's never talked that long with anybody ever before. He seemed surprised at how much we got along. He moves to my city. I'm soooo excited and nervous to meet him in person. I feel hopeful because like him, I knew we had sooo much in common. We go out several times. I sleep with him after our 3rd date... 3 days later we have THE talk. He friend zones me. I said I didn't want a relationship. We become friends whom I do everything with. I still had feelings for him all along. He's now moved BACK to his original state.

2) I met a guy on same dating site. We message back and forth. We don't have that much in common yet he's just my type. His interests are different than mine but his intrigue me. Same with my interests to him. After about a week of messages, calls and texts, he asks me out (I didn't think he was interested!). I am SO SO SO excited before our 1st date. I even came on here to say how nervous I was.. everybody calmed me down. I liked him already w/o meeting him in person. I knew that if he rejected me, it'd SUCK big time.
So we go on our first date. It was magical. I've never felt chemistry that fast with someone before. He couldn't stop smiling and was just as giddy. (we talk about that night all the time ) He asked me out during our 1st date for the following night. About a week later we are official and I'm just as giddy about him as that first time.



So being hopeful is scary because if you're rejected, it SUCKS. But what if you're not? The hopefulness, nerves, excitement, pukey feeling are all the fun part of meeting someone new because you just never know. I would had never guessed that the 2nd guy was going to be my boyfriend. I honestly thought he'd probably not like me since I liked him.. just seems to happen that way. But the stars were aligned just right that night because we both felt exactly the same.

It's quite funny at times how your life revolves around these two. Good and bad.

Well hellloooo. I haven't dated before this. I was married for 10 years. Besides all the other dates I went on.. these are the 2 that stick out because one I liked soooo much and the other is my bf now. Now suck it.

You have a bf now? This is the first we've heard of this

I hate getting hopeful, then getting rejected or finding out something about the person I'm interested that just kills it.

Anyone have any stories?

I wear perfume on third/fourth/fifth dates so that the stench of hopefulness is well-masked.

I wear perfume on third/fourth/fifth dates so that the stench of hopefulness is well-masked.

I have a story, a sad one actually...

I was out with a female friend. We run into one of her high school friends who just knocked my socks off. We connect instantly, spending the next six hours talking. Fortunately, my friend found someone to occupy her, because we weren't about to leave.

I had sent out my resume the week before we met and after our second date, I tell her that I'm flying to San Diego for a job interview. The look on her face just crushed my heart. She started crying. I calmed her down, but it was obvious that I had a tough decision to make. I chose her. I canceled the interview.

Two months later, we signed a lease together for an awesome apartment in Round Rock. The week before we moved in, she broke up with me for no other reason that "its me, not you."

For the longest time, I avoided "getting hopeful."

So for the ones that don't let yourself get hopeful...

Do you not get hopeful about other things like when interviewing for a job?

I find it very pessimistic to not be hopeful. Sometimes I'd be TOO hopeful and though it sucked to get disappointed, it was all part of the package for me.

I agree! Does it just apply to relationships or is it everything?
I tend to get my hopes up over everything, and usually I'm not too disappointed if it doesn't work out.

This thread is depressing me! :sad:

It's a wonder relationships EVER work out!! :laugh: