i go to the bar at the casino on Saturday nights because they have sports bar, live band, and of course people. i got asked by two women last weekend why i was there by myself...i really didn't have a quick answer.

is it odd for a man to just go out to be around people but not to have to be on a mission?? does a man have to be looking for sex just to go out? would MrsRight be at a bar or just MrsRightNow? its possible to meet the right person out, doesn't always have to be about sex.

if the relationship started out on the booty call side, well then it isn't the best foundation for establishing a great relationship.

I don't understand anything OP is posting or anything about her story...

So she is having casual sex/FWB thing with one man but then she loves another one, but doesn't like the other one that much so takes the one she wants to fvck to dinner and the other one removes her from Facebook because he wants to be a FWB too, but then she thinks she wants to have a FWB thing with the guy from Facebook so calls him again? :noway:

I'm getting wet already, you're my kind of girl! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

PS: I've got a slight idea of the kind of man you're going to attract, but I'm going to let you discover it by yourself! Don't want to be a party pooper!

i dont like that he is a smoker though that can change

So you met the guy two nights ago and you're already hoping a major aspect of his behavior will change? I know people who have tried to quit smoking for over 25 years without success. I'd seriously consider how much his smoking means to you because I wouldn't count on it changing any time soon.

If there is ANY aspect of someone's personality or behavior that you WANT TO CHANGE in the beginning, that's a BIG RED FLAG. If you are expecting someone to change or think they can change, you actually need to RUN. Not walk. RUN away. You cannot change someone... and you shouldn't want to.

go with the one who is wanting to spend time with you and wants to get to know you. The one who asks the most questions about you instead of trying to unzip your pants is the one you should go with.

They both sound terrible. Bar guy more than mall guy. Mall guy sounds dull. Bar guy is just looking to get lucky. Don't blame him. Sex is fun. But you both need to be on the same page. Doesn't seem like you are.

I agree!