Damn girl. That sucks. Sorry, I have no tips.

You're going to have to lay down the law yourself and say no to the junk food when its in front of you. Buy healthier foods for yourself to eat or give him a list if he does the shopping. Do you cook? I bet it'd be easy to find healthy, delicious recipes you could both agree on. It's not a change that will happen overnight but I do believe you can do it. My biggest issue is restaurants because my boyfriend and I go out to eat ALL THE TIME. You learn to adapt and make healthier choices, swap a bag of chips for a banana, choose iced tea over coke, etc. Otherwise it can be very overwhelming and you're likely to crave the junk food more and more!

Also, it really is ok to treat yourself to a little debbie (the other woman lmao!) cake once in awhile, but it is soooo beneficial and fantastic when you start to lose taste for them....which happens by eliminating them out of your diet more often than not. I hope this helps!

"I would lay down the law with him and tell him it's ok to eat **** once in awhile, but even if he is in shape and works out doesn't give him an all expense pass to treat his body like a garbage disposal. "

Please tell me you are kidding. Is he an adult? Are you his keeper? What the hell gives you the right to "lay down the law" and tell him how to eat?
I honestly don't understand why so many women feel it is okay to boss their husband/significant other around. Tell him you are concerned - fine. Tell him if he is interested you will help him learn a healthy lifestyle. But it is his choice and you either have to deal with it or move on to someone who behaves the way you want him to.

See, the problem in our house is opposite lol. Although I meal plan, and try to ensure we only have healthy options at our house, I'm the one who wants to splurge occasionally and get a soft serve ice cream (preferably dipped in chocolate) I say everything in moderation, but if having it in the house is causing a problem, why not explain to him what you're going thru and ask if he can keep snacks like that at work instead of in the house. Hopefully he'll be ready to listen and try to understand your position on this subject. Also, maybe you can look to plan a "cheat" meal? Maybe once a week, cook something appealing to the 5-year-old pallet you know he has??

Just some idea

-Katie

I totally get where you're coming from. My man has no will power in these things, so when what I need to hear when I suggest biscuits etc is 'Stick to your diet', what I get is told to go to the shop and buy some.

My best suggestion if you have the space is having separate cupboards, or at least shelves, for each of your foods - that way when you're hungry you go to your area and aren't tempted to eat things from his.

Also, explaining to him might be a good idea. And you say that it's getting harder for him with age - perhaps you should point it out now when it would be easier for him to fix than let him continue to gain a little bit of weight each year?

I'm in the opposite situation. I am the filler of the house with junk foods. I really enjoy baking so I keep chocolates on hand and tend to make cookies/ cakes/ etc. I do eat some of it, but generally my bf eats the majority of it and he resents me for the weight he has gained. It's something I'm working on curbing. When we sit down and talk about it, the bottom line is I want him to be happy and the thought of him hurting from his weight gain and resenting me for it bothers me enough to change my habits, or at least make the effort. I do fall off the wagon and make something fairly unhealthy and in way too big amounts, but I'm human. Usually if we sit down and talk, I can get back on the wagon of not filling the house with deliciousness.

You also might try baking some healthy versions of 'junk food' so that he can fulfill his cravings and you can stay closer to your diet. I find if healthy things are accesible, I'll eat them unless if we are going out. If i go out for food, games off and i'll order the large ice cream.

This is a very tough situation. I was very much the same before my boyfriend moved in. I lived with a female roommate and we always shopped together only buying healthy, organic produce, lean meat and whole grains. We were always making salads and other healthy meals together, and never bought junk. Then she moved out, he moved in and with him came all the crap. First off, I would not suggest that you "lay down the law." I can pretty much guarantee he will not react positively. Forcing someone to do something they don't want is never going to work. You have to make it about you, not about him. Tell him how unfortunately, when you eat that doughnut, you have to spend 3 hours on the treadmill to work it off. It helped to explain to my boyfriend how guilty I feel when I eat those things, especially when I've been working so hard in the gym. Also, you can ask him to help keep YOU in check (see again, it's gotta be about YOU). Ask that when he is having a treat, he tells you no. Part of my issue was that every time my BF reached for an ice cream bar, I would grab one too. Now he knows to tell me "no" and I just have one bite of his. That is plenty to satisfy my craving. Sometimes I feel a little butt hurt at first when he tells me "no," but then I remind myself that I gave him permission to. He is doing what I asked and it does help.

Also like another poster suggested, it helps if he can hide his stuff. My BF loooves to buy boxes of candy bars when they are on sale. I asked him to hide them for ME, not for him, he can eat when he likes. Again I made it about me, so he was more willing to comply.

When he first moved in I tried the "lay down the law" approach, and it didn't work. I told him to stop buying junk, but that didn't work. I realized he is an adult and can make his own food decisions. The best thing you can do is set a good example and hopefully he will start to follow. I do most of the cooking so that helps. It's OK if he adds a tortilla every now and then, at least you are still making sure most of his meal is healthy. One of the other women mentioned that the less you have sweets and junk, you lose a taste for them. She is absolutely right. The less you have, the less you will want. Hopefully by you having less, he will eventually cut down too. I love to eat and it's been hard for me to accept the fact I can never eat the way my man does and still look good. I know it's just because I'm smaller than him, and because I'm a woman I will always have to work harder. That's kind of a cool thing about being a girl though- we usually have to work harder for what we want, so when you get it, you've really earned it!! Stay strong. If you look healthy and good that's the best motivation for your man to do the same!

My husband took a while to come around. (We've been married ten months.) While he doesn't bring much junk home, it concerns me what he eats outside the house. He's a fast food manager. I made it clear to him how important his own health is to our relationship, since we both want to live as long as possible together. Flash forward a few months of clean(er) eating later, and I catch him checking nutrition facts while grocery shopping and consequently making healthier choices. I'm not sure the best way to reach your own husband, but if he doesn't care about his health at all, you have to make it clear how important it really is.

I have a very similar problem- my boyfriend is 6'6" and skinny as a rail, and loves buying junk food and fast food. He's also convinced that my motivation to eat healthy is driven by a need to lose weight, and he doesn't think I need to lose any more weight, so sometimes he even encourages me to splurge and eat crap with him, which can be frustrating.
So, what to do? Get creative!
I encourage him to buy junk food that I don't personally like, and the junk food I do like is put on the very top shelf of our very tall pantry. Him being hugely tall, it's easily accessible, but for me the top shelf might as well not exist. Since I can't easily see it or reach it, I forget about it and don't eat it.
Also, I'm glad to see you haven't resorted to ordering him around as if you were his mother. I dare you to find one healthy, happy relationship in which this happens regularly.

And as a last resort, if you're craving his junk food and a little resentful of his ability to eat crap all day, just think about how much better you feel after you eat well, and how terrible you feel when you eat crap. The memory of that awful bloated heavy feeling after a particularly appalling meal is sometimes enough to keep me on the straight and narrow.

Good luck!