sounds like he is sensitive about it. Do you live together? You can set an example for him and your kids by fixing healthy meals, and making healthier swaps for his favorite foods. I would just tell him that you want him around for a long time and would hate to see his health suffer because diabtes and heart disease are not pleasant.
If his job keeps him active, he could probably lose weight with some small changes, guys seem to be lucky like that! My dad just stops eating chocolate and loses weight. Maybe if he just ate low-carb two days per week he could see changes.
Good luck!

I know exactly how you feel! My husband is also hispanic, and he will not drink anything that is not sugary with his meal. He also has to put sauce on everything, and eat it with either bread or tortilla, which adds a bunch of extra unnecessary calories. He keeps telling me that it's just his culture and that's how his family does things, that he's not going to change. It doesn't matter that I point out that his mother was diagnosed with diabetes at only ten years older than he is now, or that his entire family is obese. When I make a healthy meal, he just adds a bunch of un-healthy to it to suit his tastes. We don't have kids yet, but are discussing it, and I have mentioned to him that I will want to encourage them to eat healthy 99.9% of the time, but I don't think it will make a difference. Yesterday he said that he would rather give up sex than sugar (either he's an addict, or I need to step my game up).

My main concern is that I plan on growing old with him, but I don't know how old he'll make it to on his current path, or how healthy he'll be when we are older. I don't plan on spending my retirement years sitting next to him in a hospital bed, that's for sure. I wish I had some advice for you, but I can't figure it out myself. Good luck!

My boyfriend has the same stats. He is 5'6 and bounces a few pounds around 200. He hasn't always been this way. We started dating a year ago and he was probably 30 pounds lighter. A month before we started dating he had been riding his bike 10 miles a day to and from work for a long time because his car had died. That extra exercise every day allowed him to eat whatever he wanted. When he was in his teens his metabolism allowed him to eat a diet of primarily pizza.

I find him so attractive and honestly don't care if he gained another 50 pounds but it's not healthy. He constantly hints at his weight problem and complains that he is "fat". However he doesn't want to change anything. He worked in a warehouse and is on his feet all day and trying to drag him with me to the gym is like pulling teeth. We've bickered a lot because he complains he is gaining weight yet won't do anything about it or allow me to help him.

We live together but when we go shopping he always buys ice cream and other unhealthy treats. Even when we eat healthy dinner he eats such a large amount that it ends up being unhealthy. He refuses to change his eating habits and gets so upset when I bring it up. He thinks that I am bringing it up because I'm not attracted to him anymore.

It's so frustrating.

@theglencoegirl - how long has he been in recovery? Sounds to me like that should be his focus and the food next (speaking as one who is also in recovery and knows which path will kill him quicker).
Also sounds like you could use Alanon - how about focusing on your own recovery for a while instead of (however kindly, subtly or well intentioned you are) trying to fix him?

No offense to any of you but I remember what my coach said to her husband, her and her kids btw were all very active. She said either you start taking better care of yourself and workout or I will take out a $1 MILLION life insurance on you. I love you and I want to grow old with you but if you choose not to change, I will choose to have my family well taken care of without you. After that you saw him busting a sweat at the gym everyday. haha.