Totally clueless...Unless its a very obvious double take or" hey would you like to get a coffee/drink"
I think my clueless-ness leads me to feel I'm invisible..I search for some sign..OR I am invisible and no one is interested. I prefer to think I'm clueless...that means someone out there is interested and I just need them to be less subtle.

Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!

What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:

Maybe it's called "something else" in England.... :laugh: here ya go...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture)

Ladies & Gents both... when interested but in doubt... hold up "the shocker"!

What does this mean Joshua?? :laugh:

Maybe it's called "something else" in England.... :laugh: here ya go...

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shocker_(hand_gesture)

Nope, the only gesture I've seen like that was shown to me by a couple of lesbian friends I know. But they made use of the thumb too!!!

I have to be honest,if it was something obvious my first thought would still be that it was maybe a practical joke or she was really making fun of me. :ohwell:

I used to think everyone who was nice to me was actually hitting on me (I know, I know, lol!). Then I overheard some coworkers making fun of me behind my back and realized that most were either just being nice/friendly guys, or just trying to win a dare from their buddies. That was a couple years ago.

So then I flipped sides and believed that no one could possibly be interested romantically. Maybe my ex was right- I was fat and ugly and no one wanted me. So when guys were making chit-chat I didn't realize they were trying to gauge interest and, with my silence unknowingly shut them down.

I'm getting better at learning the signals now (smiling at you a lot, open stance, touching your arm if he's close by, doing stuff he normally doesn't do for others, behaving differently when you come around, stuff like that), but I still have to the fight the feeling that that they aren't serious about liking me (I’m so thankful for the ones who come straight out and ask for my number). That it's just a joke to laugh with their buddies later. Or just a way to pass the time. Or just a "lonely moment."

I was thinking about this thread today when the guy sitting next to me in our conference kept trying to talk to me about dumb stuff. I'm not very smiley at work. Or chit-chatty. I'm glad I realized what was going on eventually and actually smiled at him. His whole demeanor opened up and he got my chair, drink, etc during lunch. I probably won't see him again, but the rest of the day was much more fun once I realized that he was, indeed, flirting.

I tend to have no clue. I don't even notice when guys stare at my chest, so I pretty much have to be hit over the head with it.

Totally clueless...Unless its a very obvious double take or" hey would you like to get a coffee/drink"
I think my clueless-ness leads me to feel I'm invisible..I search for some sign..OR I am invisible and no one is interested. I prefer to think I'm clueless...that means someone out there is interested and I just need them to be less subtle.

Definitely clueless! You're beautiful!

People probably think I'm fishing for complements I'm totally not! But thanks (you're sweet!)! I hope I become less clueless soon!

Natx83 normally tells me after it happens :laugh:

Nope. I am completely oblivious. I don't notice men trying to catch my eye, looking at me, or flirting with me. I'm usually so in my own head while walking around I can walk past a person I know and not even realize it. My boss had to physically put her arm out and stop me because I was walking right on by at the grocery store.

I wish I wasn't so oblivious,. I think it'd make things easier.

I usually just assume that everyone is, because well - why wouldn't they! :bigsmile:

In all honesty, I think I'm pretty good with picking up on this. Unfortunately, it's rarely anyone I'm mutually interested in flirting with. Grrr I have GOT to stop wearing headphones at the gym :grumble:

Unless a guy actually says "would you like to go for a drink? or 'here's my number, call me" etc, then I just think men are as friendly as I am :bigsmile:

Mind you, sometimes I kinda think there is a different eye contact/smile and a waft of chemistry............:bigsmile: But that's a fleeting feeling that might be coming from me? If it isnt followed up by him, I just think I must have got it wrong :ohwell:

I interviewed a guy once for an hour/half and my boss came and interrupted. He said that I was needed out back. I thought he was really rude and took exception as I was getting on really well with the guy. My boss took over the interview. It wasnt till the guy left that my boss told me he was chatting me up!!

So yeah, without the guy stating the obvious I think most women are clueless/modest/unassuming...........:huh:

This is me...I am pretty intelligent - At least I think I am - but when it comes to guys I am so dense!! He could give me EVERY hint there is known to man/woman and I would have absolutely no clue unless one of my friends pointed it out and then I would still think they were wrong....It sucks!!!

ETA: This is bad but sometimes I have had guys straight tell me they liked me or found me attractive and I would think they were joking or just trying to make me feel good...Lol...Pathetic huh???

Seems that with all of these females being clueless that we are being "hit on", you guys need to be more direct :drinker:

That's what I said! I don't have time to go to Starbucks 3 times a day to see a crush in hopes that one of those times she will just fall in to my lap or something. *kitten* or get off the pot, people!

I have to say I've gotten better at seeing it though... Mostly cause my sister or BF will hit me over the head until I start to recognize the signs.. And like 1 lady said if their staring at my boobs all night I'm pretty sure they are interested

Totally unaware, to the extent that when the man of my dreams asked me if I was going (home) with him at the end of an evening out with friends, I assumed he meant would I like to share a cab.... which I told him didn't make any sense as we were going opposite directions (why isn't there a facepalm icon on this thing?). He's now engaged to the girl he had recently broken up with when we first met, and I've regretted missing the signals since about five minutes later when I was in my own taxi, and had the proverbial 'lightbulb' moment. Doesn't make me any better at spotting them now, though. Like Anna, I assume men are being friendly, rather than showing an interest in the specific.

That sucks but wouldn't you rather have a relationship with him
and not just a hookup? That's the way I see it at least.

I would say I am clueless but that would be overstating my ability.

Heh, me too!