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The one piece of advice I ever give on these forums is the only advice that has really worked for me: outsmart yourself. Figure out where you want to be, and identify all the barriers that will keep you from getting there. Be honest. If you (like me) are not going to be a 5-am-crossfit-person or a…
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I recently bought a jacket in size small after wearing petite XL for years, and every time I see the tag when I'm putting it on, I wonder briefly and completely irrationally if somebody sewed it on as a joke.
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It's windy in Portland. Power has been flickering. It's a good day for tea and reading, but not quite the weather drama I was expecting...
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I'm 40 and ride for transportation regularly. (I live in Portland, so its pretty easy to do that.) I was obese when I started riding again in my mid-20s, and I will never forget the way it felt to be back on a bike, like flying even with my unwieldy bulky body. I still feel that way sometimes when I swoop down the driveway…
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Our roof sprang a leak in heavy rain last night, so we have a ladder set up awkwardly in the stairs to the basement, allowing access to the trapdoor that leads to the attic. Going up and down the basement stairs (for example, to mop the leaks in the basement...) requires squeezing past the ladder. Actually, last time we…
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I'd like to be vice president. Is the position available?
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Fitnessblender, Jessica Smith, Popsugar for me. (And whatever else pops up that I like! I like variety.) I do 30 or more minutes a day, usually. Sometimes I add in a short video or two from Blogilates, but I prefer all-in-one videos that include a warm-up and cool down. I have some dumbbells, a physio ball, and a yoga mat,…
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You look amazing. I'm the same height and weight, but dramatically flabbier, and you've just given me a goal. Thanks!
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I feel like this sometimes. I haven't been able to change it, but I have been successful in getting past it, especially when I pretend I'm somebody else. I've dealt with so many people who think they're just fantastic and barge ahead on that assumption (and usually get what they want...), so I just try to imagine in my…
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I look at the photos people post here, and I'm always warmed and amazed by the beauty I see. So much variety and richness and loveliness, and so much hope and determination. Also, OP, your coworker needs to chat with somebody in human resources, if that's an option where you work. Nothing about what he said is okay for a…
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The only thing that works for me is being brutally honest with myself about what's going to keep me from achieving my goals, and deliberately and proactively figuring workarounds for each obstacle. Hate washing lettuce? Go ahead and buy the expensive prewashed stuff and five big tupperwares to pack work salads in on…
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Add me. I love status updates and the conversations they spark. And as an ambivert struggling daily with generalized anxiety, not to mention having a husband and a daughter with social anxiety, I think I am highly qualified to be your internet friend...
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If you feel bad, drink some water and get some sleep. This has turned out to be enormously useful advice for a wide variety of feeling-bad situations, and I'm sorry for all the times adolescent me rolled her eyes.
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Some people have crummy teeth and some people are dentally lucky. I had a bunch of cavities in the last few years, in spite of pretty good oral hygiene habits (brush twice a day, floss every night) and pretty good (dentally speaking) food habits - minimal sticky candy/soda/juice/dried fruit. I have now switched to an…
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For me, cutting out sugar and cutting back carbs was pretty hard-core. I knew I wasn't going to keep doing it for very long, because I love sugar and carbs, but doing it for two weeks made me realize that I CAN go without them, and helped me identify a few places in my life where I didn't miss them.(And I did notice that…
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Dargrohm: I'm glad you're starting therapy and getting back to medication. I bet that will be a huge help (especially once you find the right tools for you). Your post resonates for me because of the way you describe the loneliness, self-loathing, and self-sabotage, so even though I'm not struggling with quite the same…
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Oh, I definitely have subcutaneous fat. Today while doing pushups and wearing a baggy shirt, I made the mistake of looking down my shirt, and seeing the sack of fat hanging off my abdomen. I actually gasped in horror. However, I imagine there's still a visceral fat issue under that. (Like a fat variety pack! Yay!) I think…
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YES. This 100%. Some part of me is still three years old, and throws an oppositional tantrum upon hearing "no, you can't eat this pint of ice cream". She's much less rebellious when told "sure, you can have it later." And then she's gotten distracted by something else when later rolls around.
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Dang, you all are amazing. I carry a lot of weight in my belly, which is why I clicked on this thread, and then I just couldn't stop reading it. I just love the way everybody here is talking about and sharing pictures and experiences in such an honest and generous way.
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I find cereal to be a useless breakfast. An hour later I'm inevitably ravenous. I seem to need some fat and protein in my breakfast to keep me going. My small victory today was that I opened the cabinets and fridge a bunch of times and chose every time to walk away. I tend to eat when I feel emotionally uncomfortable, and…
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Today I had to close my fists while doing jumping jacks, in order to prevent my wedding ring from flying off.
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Thank you for making me actually laugh out loud.
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I totally hear what you're saying. Being seen can make you feel very vulnerable. I find that I simultaneously want to be seen and to be invisible. And I also agree with the very wise previous poster that it would be potentially really helpful to talk to a therapist. Please feel free to add me as a friend - I appreciate…
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I struggle with wanting to eat as a distraction from whatever I'm doing right now. (Which suggests that maybe I should be working on mindfulness, too!) My three big food challenges that I identified when I assessed my weight loss barriers at the end of 2015 are 1) portion size, 2) too many carbs in general (food choice),…
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I'm open. Any of you, please feel free to add me. I have 30-40 pounds to go, try to eat 1400-1600 calories/day. Struggling with protein...
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YouTube videos. Try Jessicasmithtv - lots of variety and range of difficulty, and great for small spaces. Also, hey, it's free! And you don't have to leave the house!
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Half an ounce of cheese before bed.
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Always choose the "high-waisted compression" option! I have the old navy ones for the exact same reason, and they are serving me well. They also keep my stomach from jiggling painfully...
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Yeah, you're not disgusting. You're just doing what your body is hardwired to do, which is to eat things that taste good when they're available. You (and I) would be super-successful in an environment where food is erratically unavailable. Yay for our ancestors who pounced on food and ate it ALL when it was available, and…
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I'm not very far along in this, so I can't say that what works for me will continue to work, but here it is. 1) Yes, keep it out of the house. I apparently can't do moderation when it comes to sweets, so I can't even have it in the house. I have to treat myself like a toddler when it comes to sugar. 2) Eat some fat. (The…
