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...I thought this was going to be a thread about being arrested. I'm rather disappointed to find yet another frivolous, silly thread about silly information. I know talking about going to jail is a major downer, but it's very cathartic to find others who have experienced something similar. Just my $.02.

Bahahaha it's really hard not to take this thread header literally. Forgive my morbid sense of humor, but, come on, I know I'm not the only one...

Cut.them.out.of.your.life.now. You are settling into the role of victim time and time again.. they've manipulated you so much to the point where you feel you have to play this "role" or they won't like you/love you anymore. They are abusers. People want to keep you "down" beneath them on the so called hierarchy, and now…

I am so, so sorry about that. I had to respond to your post after reading that.. my mother told me she lost her virginity to rape at 13. She told me she was raped several times, and molested by an uncle. I was raised hyperreligious by her, completely different from my brother (I'm the only girl), and she put a lot of…

Something eerie about this.. feels like some cosmic force picked to put this on the front page for me to read. My mother is definitely bipolar, never diagnosed and in complete denial about her emotional issues, of course. I was diagnosed with Bipolar II, and she loves to mock me and tell me how "crazy" I am, how I need a…

I wish I had solutions for you. I am in the exact same spot, except I don't think I naturally suffer from insomnia. I quit drinking completely last June, and since then I am unable to sleep until 6 or 7 am, EVERY day, and I can't even sleep at all without a combined 1-2 Unisom and 4-6 melatonin. Although alcohol does help…

I get a little testy when people of non-mixed ancestry (one race) refer to themselves as "mutts" or reply to these threads.. sure, you have got a lot of countries in there, but they're all Anglo/European! How's about let us mixies have some shine.. js. My mom is from California and is Scottish, Irish, German, Welsh,…

This is exactly what I believe I have, even at only 26, having lost about 100 lbs twice in my life, the first time very rapidly through an eating disorder. My abdomen up to my belly button juts out and makes me look like I have a mini-"beer gut." I have lost a whopping 7 inches off my waist since I began MFP, but the…

Thank you!! That made me smile. Have a great day and good luck on this never-ending journey we call MFP!

Yeah.. I just started dating in, like, the last 9 months, since I've lost 60 or so lbs after joining MFP. Hadn't gotten asked out in years before that. It's all very new to me and I'm still getting used to it. Right now I've been regularly seeing 2 guys, and part of me feels guilty or something. though I'm not committed to…

Whenever I am losing again I start to break out. Read up and learned when you're losing weight your body is literally expelling fat (adipose tissue) from its surface, along with other toxins. Since my early 20s my skin has been relatively very clear, and it sounds mad but I actually sort of look forward to the random break…

Working on the binging, still. That has been the hardest. Tend to eat 3/4ths of my cals at night, as I have a severe sleep dysfunction. Makes things twice as hard

Quit drinking and (diet) soda.

Reading this thread is eerie.. how almost exactly the same many of the women's current weights and goal weights are to mine. I am 5'11" and am at 160, but have been stuck here for many months, and recently got a new scale, which has got me pretty depressed, as my older one had me stuck in the mid-50s. My vanity goal weight…

OOPS. Please delete I meant for this to be a blog!! This is the 2nd time I've done this. Embarassing. Oh, well.

I just bought a Taylor on Sunday, with BF and Water percentages, user profiles, etc. How do you know the BF% is off by a precise number? I'm assuming you compared it to an actual skinfold BF measurement with those tong-like things? I only had that done once in my life, in junior high PE, forcibly *shudders.* He said it in…

I prefer cheese.. for the last month or so I have perfected my "Mac and Cheese" Oatmeal. I eat it almost every day.. so good. You just make it exactly like mac and cheese.

Oh, I do like myself. But I am painfully aware of the fact that this world is superficial, and a lot about finding love has to do with appearance/physical attraction. I know this because I was obese most of my life up until about 2 years ago, and I was treated so horrendously by guys. I didn't get asked out, I would…

Wow... I'm 26 and have been single my whole life, save for a period of maybe about 5 months at ages 19 and 22, respectively, but I don't consider those "relationships," nor were they even boyfriends. I always end up getting dumped/abandoned, anyway. Just happened this last week after dating someone I was really really…

I can understand your frustrations. We as tall women should definitely not be comparing ourselves to the average woman/short chicks, because our builds are way different. There are both pluses and negatives to losing weight at 5'11" (my height). I do think genetics play a big part.. how and where your body stores fat. I…

Totally! I dunno.. dude sounds like he's drinking the corporate Kool-Aid to me. I personally would think an individual with well-done/unique/brilliant ink work to potentially make for a great executive! Innovative, progressive, open-minded, different outlook.. as opposed to the 'Mad Men'-esque monoculture I often tend to…

I would be more concerned about the subject matter of your tattoo than any other factor, honestly. I don't want to offend you, but other people have addressed this - if it's something that specifically relates to him/references him, I would strongly reconsider. With the exception of, say, your parents, your siblings,…

Yeah, that was a good article. It was never really a conscious thing for me.. I can't see myself NOT logging for the rest of my life! I was never taught how to count calories or control my portion, how to lose weight, and I was overweight just about all my life.. from about 8 years old until 25, on and off, so this is it…

Suze Orman, since last year, has been my Saturday night ritual, and, sadly now, highlight. I love her and listen carefully to her advice.. though I'm perennially broke and don't have an emergency fund or any kind of savings :p

Would rather be with the rest of my family but I plan on sitting on a cliff near the ocean again this year. Only place I feel free, safe. Beats having another Christmas with an extremely volatile/abusive mother who is constantly stoned/buzzed all the time, making her even more vindictive and just mean. I won't be opening a…

I was thinking about it.. not only is this question completely rude/tactless/presumptive/etc, I just find it inherently offensive from a womanist/gender standpoint. It's one thing for a woman to look heavy/overweight, but to think she is pregnant is another thing entirely. The person, above all, has to ASSUME you're a)…

WHAaat?? Nooo! What song? "Barely Blooming 18"?? hahaha

THIS is brilliance.

Oh, god. I was Jolly Green Giant on and off. Then, in junior high, once I started getting fat, this obnoxious boy singled me out and christened me 'Cherdan Grand Canyon.' (My last name is Grant-Johnson... too easy, right?) Then, as the fatness progressed, it apparently superceded my height, and I just became known as…

I HATE how not only pounds, but how dress size is, almost solely, relied upon as an indicator of girth. At my heaviest in high school, I was about a size 20 jeans, and those were uber stretchy waistbands, mind you. (Always HATED zippers/buttons!! Only began wearing them after my recent loss.) I'm at the low end of my…