LOVE SUCKSSSSSS! :(

so sorry that the person you like doesnt like you back. but you cant exactly control who you are attracted to. that should help to know that it really is nothing personal. all about hormones and such. and does this person know how you feel about them?

Yeah.. I just started dating in, like, the last 9 months, since I've lost 60 or so lbs after joining MFP. Hadn't gotten asked out in years before that. It's all very new to me and I'm still getting used to it. Right now I've been regularly seeing 2 guys, and part of me feels guilty or something. though I'm not committed to either. One I am rather creeped out by.. he's waay too aggressive physically, sexually, and I've distanced myself from him. The other one I really dig/click with as a person, but he's the opposite: very very square, mild-mannered, very unsexual, and I'm not really physically attracted to him. There's just no chemistry.
I met someone by chance a month ago and I haven't been able to get him out of my head. I never got his name or anything.. he just helped me with my computer at uni, and I just didn't want to leave his office. I've seen him around on campus a few times since, and I definitely noticed him looking at me.. I think he may be interested to, but there's no way in hell I'd make any kind of a move unless I knew he wasn't taken, and I don't know how to approach him in a friendly way unless I needed IT help or something. All the other guys I've dated I met at my job when they were customers, and one guy approached me in a parking lot.. totally random.
I didn't go on a date or have any kind of experience with a guy until I was 20, and then I really didn't date after that for the last 5 years.. I can only attribute that to the weight gain.
I feel like I was SO alone and so desperate just to be asked out for so many years, but now that it's happening it's so depressing that I don't feel an attraction or connection with any of the men that are interested in me. I have these old feelings of guilt/worthlessness that I should pursue it just because I should be grateful that anyone's even interested in me, but I know that's horrible and not true. It's really hard to hold out though.

Take away love, and our earth is a tomb.

It's what we were meant for. Just focus on your goals: health, intellectual, professional, educational, financial, recreational and social, and guess what? Like attracts like.

You'll meet the right guy and sit side by side in the morning light and looked out at your future together. :bigsmile:

Yeah.. I just started dating in, like, the last 9 months, since I've lost 60 or so lbs after joining MFP. Hadn't gotten asked out in years before that. It's all very new to me and I'm still getting used to it. Right now I've been regularly seeing 2 guys, and part of me feels guilty or something. though I'm not committed to either. One I am rather creeped out by.. he's waay too aggressive physically, sexually, and I've distanced myself from him. The other one I really dig/click with as a person, but he's the opposite: very very square, mild-mannered, very unsexual, and I'm not really physically attracted to him. There's just no chemistry.
I met someone by chance a month ago and I haven't been able to get him out of my head. I never got his name or anything.. he just helped me with my computer at uni, and I just didn't want to leave his office. I've seen him around on campus a few times since, and I definitely noticed him looking at me.. I think he may be interested to, but there's no way in hell I'd make any kind of a move unless I knew he wasn't taken, and I don't know how to approach him in a friendly way unless I needed IT help or something. All the other guys I've dated I met at my job when they were customers, and one guy approached me in a parking lot.. totally random.
I didn't go on a date or have any kind of experience with a guy until I was 20, and then I really didn't date after that for the last 5 years.. I can only attribute that to the weight gain.
I feel like I was SO alone and so desperate just to be asked out for so many years, but now that it's happening it's so depressing that I don't feel an attraction or connection with any of the men that are interested in me. I have these old feelings of guilt/worthlessness that I should pursue it just because I should be grateful that anyone's even interested in me, but I know that's horrible and not true. It's really hard to hold out though.

and again you are adorable, be proud of the work you have done so far and how great you look! rock it girlfriend, you got this! tell yourself every day how fabulous you are, hell I have trouble not telling myself that every hour now! lol I got this! and so do you!

V day just sucks. If you feel that way about your friend though just go for it. You'll seriously regret it for the rest of your life if you don't..

I'm in this exact situation at the moment and I've just sorted it. We were always friends, we begun "seeing" each other which obviously progressed my feelings for her, she just wasn't on the same page and didn't want anything more. Now we've talked about it and ironed it out last night, I feel so much better about it, much more positive in general AND I've still got an amazing friend that I now feel closer to than I ever have. We've stopped all the fun we were having but I wouldn't have swapped any of it for the world and I never ever will want to. If you get hurt a little it's worth it just to know..otherwise you'll always wonder what if Good luck anyway and message me if you do it!

Aw good luck sweet. I hope it turns out for the best. I felt a bit meh myself yesterday. Seeing everyone get love and attention and just happy little silly stuff. I felt neglected and worthless and abandoned. I know how stupid and embarrassing that sounds - believe me. We all just want to feel loved deep down I think. But isn't it typical, the ones we like never like us and the ones that like us as much as we try or wish we did we don't feel the same. *sigh* oh life.

@Anna Well I feel like he kinda likes me. He doesn't have a girlfriend We hang out nearly every single day and even stay up all night talking to each other sometimes. He makes flirty comments to me when we joke around and compliments me too. But I'm not sure if its just cause were so good of friends or if its something more. & I didn't even really realize I liked him till recently when a girl flirted with him and I instantly got extremely jealous and then it was just like "Hey I really like this guy." I just wish he would say something, its killing me.

Boys suck, and they're really bad about taking hints...sometimes they need to just be beaten over the head. And Yeah...waiting for HIM to say something...worst kind of torture...

hm, maybe you need to get all dressed up and hot **** looking and hang out with the rest of the group and get the nads up to hit on a nother guy while you are out with him. that will wake him up. just ask him if not! he is totally into you sweetie. he is scared also. hell if I wouldnt have asked my husband twenty yrs ago if he was every gonna kiss me on our first date i would still be single lol

And Kelsey... in a totally straight way - you're HOTTTTT

Can't hurt to explore the chemistry!

Are you high? He is into you... just shy. Jesus, tell him how you feel and you can be improving his reception by the weekend... if you know what I mean.

What crap. It's a non-problem... he wants you, and has no idea what to do about it.