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It happens - don't beat yourself up, just note your habits. What's causing you to reach for comfort? Is there something else you could reward or comfort yourself with?

Where I am is that while the raw materials for cooking "real food" may be cheaper, the time cost isn't. Yeh, I could buy rice and beans, but the beans are going to take a day to soak before I can cook them, the rice will take at least 20 minutes to cook if I'm buying "real" rice, and the beans will take about 2x that time.…

I so relate to this. I've had a history of disordered eating, so when I find myself in a "secret eating" mental place, I have to stop and think about what's going on in my life. Like, I'll be painfully full, and still eating! For me, it's usually that there is something in my life that I feel like I'm unable to control or…

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I've been eating mostly Whole30-style for a bit, but low-carb is not part of it. Why not incorporate more carb-based veggies? I like roasted carrots and turnips, sweet potatoes, buternut squash, beets, and other good roots veggies to get my carbs in. Added bonus is they are bulky and tend to help me feel like I've got…

I do the 21-day sugar detox periodically, and I both love and hate it. But I do a pretty strict version - it helps make me more conscious of the sheer volume of sugar I put into my body on the whole, and for that reason, I think it's really helpful. When I do it, I'm pulling all refined and "pretend" sugars, as well as…

I got married because it was the best way to protect my partner in times of legal need, and in the event of my death. I've seen too many wills be contested to have much confidence in that, and were something to happen to me, I am not confident my family would take care of him, regardless of my wishes. If something happens…

The worst gift? An IOU for something that never materialised.

I love yoga. And I'd take this opportunity to mention something no one else has: the "yoga look" that you are thinking of? Those are models. Just like in the ads you see for protein powder and ab machines. I've had yoga teachers who are long and lean - like you're probably thinking of - and teachers who are short and…

Because culturally, there's the idea that thin is better. And the "obvious" way to get thin is by eating fewer calories. There's not a lot of thought that goes into it beyond that - but there's a LOT of info out there about 1200 being the "magic" number. For me, at 5'9" and 165 (my start weight), that's what MFP set for…

I'm astonished at how many of these aren't about breaches of etiquette on the part of the bride, but actually rude and ungrateful guests. You're not at the wedding to be feted to your standards; you're there to celebrate a union between two people.

I've used it for all of the above - including as deoderant (along with a dusting of baking soda - it does work pretty well, but it's NOT an antipersperant). Conditioner for hair and skin. Lube. Make-up remover. Deoderant. Cooking. Baking. As a sunscreen. Truly: I use it all the time.

I'd focus on your diet before anything else - in my experience, about 80% of it is what and how much I eat. There are actually studies that demonstrate that exercise is not correlative to weight loss, and that's it's almost inpossible to outtrain a poor diet. You can't outrun your fork as a sustainable way to keep weight…

I'm 5'8", and am generally now between 145-150#. In most brands, I am currently wearing a 4 or 6 in misses sizes - which blew my mind and confirmed vanity sizing, as I had been a size ten for the last 25 years (no lie), which included times I weighed around 120-125. Ignore the size. Just wear what fits and focus on your…

I've been struggling too - looks like lots of us have been! I chalk it up to the time of year - it's just wretched. I am trying to get myself back into the swing of things by just committing to a WEENSY change at a time. That really helped when I was getting started - if I tried to do it all, I'd get overwhelmed. So I'm…

Hi, I'm Pave, and I, too, am a sugar addict. And scientifically speaking, it's the truth - the human brain responds to sugar just like it does to narcotics. I have a goal of a quarterly sugar detox this year. I've found that, like junkies with drugs, when I indulge, I can have a handle on it for a while... and then it…

Having to get rid of my favourite pants - I bought them at my previously low weight, then got too large to wear them. A few months ago, they were falling off me. I had to get them out of the house ASAP, for fear I'd sabotage myself so I could still wear them.Having to have my rings re-sizedBeing in a size I never, ever…

At 5'8" and 115, I did not have a thigh gap. I think it's safe to say I was quite thin, then (college - always on the go, and as a technical theatre major, also always LITERALLY running up and down stairs/ backstage/ across campus). I think it is also safe to say I figured I was thigh-gap-deficient: it was clearly not in…

Isn't that the worst?! I gotta say though: that's a TINY fluctuation to stress about, so try to let it go (it's HARD, I know!). In the year I've been on this journey, I've come to realise that my weight fluctuations can be between 2 and 5 POUNDS in a day - and that's when I'm dead on top of my diet. Drink lots of water,…

I alphabetise everything too - but first, they are broken into categories. Our DVDs are split into box sets, music, comedy, and general films. CDs, I have broken into compilations, classical, soundtracks, genre. Books are not alphabetical, but the are by genre and series order - and they all have to be the same TYPE;…

What foods DO you like? Start there. Work on small bits at a time. See if your community offers therapy to residents - no one likes to think about the phyical responses to mental illness, but our brains run everything. When the brain is on a path, it's hard to get anything else in line. But without any diary entries, it's…

I use fiddle-dee-dee, foo schnickens, riggim friggim, sweet fancy Moses, blast, great googly moogly, dad blast it, dag nabbit, and so many more. It really depends what comes out of my mouth when I'm in the moment, but those are some of my go-tos. I swear a LOT, so I have a LOT of alternatives :) (I love the idea of saying…

My husband is the same about the dishwasher - I load like wiht like (little spoons with little spoons, big forks with big forks), but he has to have them in a specific order. And he *will* reload if I don't get them right *laugh* I always shower top to bottom too - it seems silly to wash my dirty feet and then my face!

Another thrift shopper here - I go to the mall to try things on to get a feel for my size, and then hit the thrift shops to actually buy. Some towns and cities also have "last chance" thrifts or days, where you can buy as much will fit in a bag or by the pound, which is where I really rack up - I scored a vintage couture…

It always cracks me up when straight women speak to what guys think is sexy, in a thread opened by a guy respecting a woman who lifts. If you're not inclined to tap it, I'm not entirely sure why your opinion matters.

We all have 'em - I wish I knew where they come from! I go through periods of just feeling like it's insurmountable, this business of paying attention for the rest of my life, and it's all too much. I've started builing in periods of "being on a break" - there's been some research that suggests it's pretty common to take a…

Depends on which science you're looking at, really. There's a significant amount of evidence that suggests those foods are bad for the human body. And I find I function more effectively, feel better, and have better health screens when I omit them, despite having no known "allergies." I do know when I eat wheat or…

Technically, I'm "primal" because I'm not dairy free. It works for me. I avoid grains, beans (soy and peanuts were my biggest toughies), and [most of the time] refined sugars. I'm not SUPER FREAKOUT OMG about it - I don't ferment, I don't do fish oil, or whatever. I just avoid grains and beans for the most part, but I…

This.

i think the Beyonce and Penelope Cruz images are the most interesting and telling. bey's got a roll - but we can never see that in an image of her, which is disappointing, because it's REAL. Penelope Cruz's before picture makes it clear her ribs are wider than her bust - but the after shot makes her into an hourglass that…