jegg0425

It was either a tie between compassion and my New Year's Resolution. Lol

I have begun making the lifestyle change over the last month. Still pretty early on so I am trying to steer clear of designated cheat days. I just figure that there are times when I will be out with friends or a special event where eating healthy is a struggle. For example I helped a friend move this past weekend and she…

True Love Wins. :-).

I've got my own stuff to worry about. That's just my approach. I've actually made a point this week to severely limit my contact with her to not at all. I need to give it a couple weeks and then see if the door is open.

I got dumped for waaaaaaaaaay less. See Topic: Relationship Disaster.

He needs you as a friend right now. Not a fiance. Get counseling together.

And that may be the case. It's her loss if it is. Either way, I will use it as motivation and know that i gave it everything I had. If it doesn't work out then I have no regrets.

I think in the long run we'll be fine. It's a bumpy road, but I'm ok with that. If not then I can walk away knowing that I put forth all of the effort I could in making it work and also being forever grateful for her coming along and lighting a fire in me to be healthy.

So are you guys together now?

I lost 12 pounds my first week, but assume that will level off a little bit. If I can keep in the 3-4 pound a week range for a bit I would be happy. I ate ultra low calories to kind of shock my body but I have started to bump that up a bit.

Due to my 14-15 hour work days, I used to basically "live" off of fast food. Now I've basically switch to protein shakes with water or skim milk for meal replacements when I am on the road for work. I also make my own beef jerky for when I travel.

We had a good talk tonight. It's not all lost. Just need to focus on ourselves for a bit. We both need to drop about 100 pounds.

All great advice, thank you all. I'm way better this week than I was last week about things. Time can heal, but I'm also just going to move forward. I'm not concerned about "getting back out there" right now as I have alot of things going on. Rather just make my life about getting healthier for the next several months.

That was really good advice and that's kind of going to be my approach for the next month or so. Get a new lifestyle adopted, get my thesis done and create a little distance. Maybe check in with her towards the end of April or something. But first do it as a friend. If I've made the lifestyle change and shown committment…

I agree that she has her own insecurities. She admitted that she does often have a facade up. If it's meant to be it's meant to be. I told her I'd rather be on bumpy dirt road with her than the 8 lane freeway with anyone else.

I agree. I should have had the courage to say something. I have had bad relationships too so I naturally had my share of walls up. In the last 2-3 months I'd really begun to lower many of those walls for her. This is just one that hadn't come down yet.

Thanks Again All

If after a month or so we decide that it just isn't going to work, I do want to find a way to say out of love that I want her to be happy and have the best and that I hope she continues to find ways to prepare her heart for when "the best" comes along. Can't say, "you are crazy and need counseling" but it would be nice if…

We've sort of texted a little every day for the last week and a half, but I think this week I am going to make a point of just stepping back a little. I am in DC for work so it works out that way. My mind will be elsewhere anyway. Thanks for the advice.

It's happened but I don't agree with making it an objective.

She was very very quick to lump this in with what her ex-husband did. Her break-up message to me was "for the second time in my life I've allowed myself to fall in love and plan a life with someone only to have it shattered with deceit. I believe you are a good man who will have alot of success in life; however I will no…

Idk. However when it's an overwhelming majority the picture gets a little clearer. Still going to give it a little time and try to see if she can build her trust back up. But before we proceed with anything then I think we need to sit down and have a few discussions about what love really means to both of us. If it means…

No one has said she was completely in the right. :-/

I appreciate all the insight. I believe that there is a small window of time for us to focus on ourselves. We are actually both in our last semesters of grad school so that thesis due in 6 weeks is hanging over both of us as well. We've said to take this time and focus on our health and school. I think the break stretches…

She said that she does still love me more than ever; however she was worried that if I wasn't being that serious when she was, then it could hinder her new healthy choices. I know I appeared as a roadblock to her in that endeavor. She's said multiple times in the last week that she still see's an us, but that it is a…

Hit the first 10 pounds this morning.

I've been having difficulty sleeping. I sleep about every other night. Part of that is a very demanding job and also trying to write a graduate thesis. But when I try to relax my mind is racing and I give up on sleep after about 2 hours. Any suggestions?

This is generally out of my comfort zone but something HAS to be different this time.

While I will never claim Ohio as HOME, I currently reside in Sandusky

Technically I have to lose about 175-180 to meet the ideal weight for me. However I'm just working on the first 100 pounds.