delaney056

Well I TOLD her I was going to start giving her money to help out more and it's settled at $100 a month. I didn't give her a choice this time. lol. It's not much, but it's 1/4 of my monthly income. She refused when I mentioned it this morning.

Did you read the part where I said I've offered to help her more and she has refused my offers or did you just comment without reading anything?

In reference to one of your earlier posts randomtai, I am certain there's a LOT more wrong with society than a 19 year old full time college student who works part time and gave $100 to a lady to help her. Do not patronize me. To say that my actions are what is wrong with society (another reference to your earlier post) is…

awwww thanks!

Thanks for your insight. That may very well be how she feels.

Thanks! I'll talk to her.

Both are being factored in. My mom receives social security, which is income but doesn't count as income on their eyes.

She is. That's what part of the money I gave her was for; gas so she could drive to turn in her applications. All of my college is being paid for through a scholarship based on GPA and a grant due to my low income. However, during the summer I don't get the income grant because I go full time during the fall and spring. So…

That's terrible. I hate to see other people suffer as well. I helped her because I know she needs it and I'm not going to let someone else go hungry if I can do anything about it. That's just the type of person I am. I feel so lucky to have the things that I have and I am eternally grateful to my parents for raising me to…

My parents are still married and my dad has a stable job and makes great money. My mother is disabled and gets social security. If there are money issues, I'm not aware of them. I think it's the latter of what you said. She didn't start doing this until I turned 19. My 20th birthday is next Saturday. I love her to death…

That's sweet. Thank you. :smile:

Thank you for your response. I understand what you're saying. But when I tell her I want to give her money for car insurance or anything else, she turns it down.

Earlier today, I asked her if there were any particular bills or anything she wants me to help pay. She told me not to worry about it, which she always tells me and then gets angry because I don't help her out. I offer to help her and she turns it down and then does that. I really don't know what to do to make her happy.

I understand. I just wanted to get some opinions. My mom is disabled and I drive her to doctor's appointments sometimes, I've paid for her prescriptions numerous times, I buy things for the house frequently and bring home dinner from work sometimes so she doesn't have to cook. It's hard to contribute a lot more than I do…

Right. Of course I would help more if she asked, but that conversation hasn't come up yet.

I get the HOPE scholarship for my grades and a grant for income. That pays for everything.

I help out whenever I can. I make $400 a month and the majority of my income goes to gas for my car to get back and forth to school and work. I save a chunk of it and I'll help her out with bills and groceries and such.

I don't drive her car. I have my own.

I suggested counseling and it started an argument. I feel like I can't offer any advice because it backfires. I currently have a job, but I only work 3 days a week because of college, so my income is poor (around $400/month). I have money saved up that I can live on for awhile but I don't make enough money to really…

Thank you. I feel like nothing I say helps and that anything I say will make the situation worse. My dad said that he would never tell me he's proud of me again and all kinds of hurtful things after I said that I wasn't going to take sides or be put in the middle and suggested counseling. I've been putting up with this for…

I just hate that it has come to this and I don't like the thought of being separated from my family, but I have to do what is best for me.

Thank you all for your advice. One of my co-workers is looking for a roomie and my friend who moved out of state's mom will probably let me stay with her for awhile. I have a few other options as well.

No, my car is in my name. I'll be 20 in October.

Part of me would prefer to stay around here...and I don't want to have to quit school but that would be my only option if I were to move out of state.

One thing I'm considering (even though I don't want to) is moving in with my friend who recently moved out of state, getting a job and settling in there so I can continue saving, and then getting back in school. My credits will transfer...idk what to do at this point really.

I pretty much said that but in nice terms and it made things worse.

No, I was planning on staying at the school I'm at now.

They do, but I might have to take out a loan just to be able to afford campus housing.

I'm currently enrolled in college and I've already registered for the next semester, so I'd like to stay somewhere around here. My job is here too. My best friend recently moved to Virginia and I'd like to move there but I can't do that immediately. None of my relatives live around here.

They all live in Michigan or Florida. No other family here locally.