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Love this. Good for you. I was a fine arts major and haven't worked 8 or 9 years. Someday.... : )

This, exactly.

This one time, at band camp..... I "approached" a really hot girl, and she wasn't interested. Later, I found out her cool older boyfriend had a car, so it wasn't me at all. It was the tier system. My personality deficits have nothing to do with why girls ignore me.

Putting people into dating tiers is completely subjective. So, according to me, the definition of a top tier man involves emotional health, financial stability, and looks. So, by definition a top tier man who is 45 is not dating a 25 year old because of the first thing on the list. I think saying "at the clubs that I go to…

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It seems like all of this speculation about hot girls and above mid tier women is just totally speculation? That's how it appears. I'd also add that the men that I know who have their act together emotionally, financially, and that look good (top tier men) are NOT under 35. They will also not date women under 30 because…

I agree, demographic thinking sort of rules the world, sometimes.

I'm really sorry.

Oh my : )

You know, I think the thing is that even though relatively savvy people do expect the people they're dating (especially online) to be dating others initially, there are just so many variables that it's sort of futile to even think about it. Personal example: I was definitely guilty of blowing off people for reasons…

I just had the "do you want to be a real man or a punk" conversation with a kid at school- I think this sort of aligns. Do you want to hassle girls about the size of their boobs, their acne, or their intelligence to make yourself feel like you're worth something, or do you want to be an awesome human being (ie a real man)…

Wow, I had a similar non-traditional path. Went from being bussed to G/T programs to absolute school refusal during middle school. Refused to attend high school after 8th grade, got a GED, and took college classes by interest only for a lot of years before I decided I might want to do something with it.

Lol. One of my sisters followed a similar teach English in Asia path, and my tidbit of related info is that her name (Mara) means d*ck in Japanese slang. She did not know this initially, so also awkward : ( So, I post in here when I'm bored or procrastinating and I appreciate how diverse this group is. I'm procrastinating…

I think this was mentioned up thread, but the bigger issue for me wasalways just feeling comfortable and relaxed enough with the routine of sleeping with a new person to actually fall asleep. I've only ever been at that place of comfort with a few people, and it took a realllllly long time. The snoring and the unreal body…

I had an excellent date on Friday, then flaked on Sat plans that had I been a male, could possibly have been an awesome wet dream (my friend used to strip at an up-market strip club, and Sat involved drinking, games, decoupage, and more drinking with 5 of her girl friends from the club) and I absolutely could not imagine…

One of my worst dates ever (because I was terrified) involved driving to the country and shooting a large gun that made me fall down. I was actually worried about a murder and bury me in the ground situation, but 15 yrs later I'm still alive Phew : )

Lol- I think dave and busters might give him a stroke, but I appreciate the idea : ) (He's like an 800 yr old 41 yr old) Edit: I've never been there, but hear there's skee ball? This lady's skee ball tickets garnered 8 plastic ninjas at a birthday party last weekend. I might have to investigate sans prematurely old man.

I am having a weekend panic right now because apparently, the guy I'm going out with tonight has handed over all date plans to me, and I have NOTHING. I need to turn this into a shared duty and not a trade off if this is going to last...

In theory forcing liquidation of assets might be a strategy, but I can imagine there being a little uproar about the government forcing people out of their belongings? Jennifer- good for you! The first few times away from your kids is over and done- that's awesome! I remember feeling like I was literally going to die the…

I saw it the week it came out, and appreciated that despite the prosthetics, a lot of those guys remained really nice to look at : ) I hated that there were a million kids under 10 in the theatre, though. Seriously, not a movie for little kids, people! My 7 yr old would have perseverated on some of those scenes for months.

Both dominant and submissive men are super scary to me. I dated someone who appeared to be a submissive type, but he wasn't at all. He just wasn't invested in things other people thought were important, and the disengagement looked like submission. Extremes just aren't healthy, and mental/emotional prostration is probably…

There is so much thyroid conspiracy theory out there, ugh. I just added synthetic T3 to the synthroid I've been taking for over 10 years. Almost immediately felt better, hoping it's not a placebo effect situation. I asked my dr for armour, and he said he's had more success with just adding the synthetic T3, but if I didn't…

I confess that I am hiding some dumbness from my closest friend, and I feel like a 16 yr old. I think my hairdresser might narc me out : ( Panic.

This feels like sooooo long ago, but I was pretty underweight at one point, and despite that I still had some padding on my hips and upper thighs. It's just how I'm shaped. Strength training might have changed some things, but overall body shape is genetics.

Working with middle schoolers, this is why I HATE move around the room activities. I did an observation of a kid a few months ago who was written up because he wouldn't participate in a group activity that involved walking across the room : (

I tend to think this is more about insecurity than dominance. You can have either a dominant or submissive personality type regardless of your education. If someone isn’t comfortable with another person’s achievements- I see that as insecurity, not dominance. I have two graduate degrees. I will never make any money, have…

Vomit. That sucks sorry you're in the position to have to make that decision. If it were me I think my mom might be the person I'd want to hear it from but my mom isn't crazy so not sure. I came to this thread to confess that I am sort of drunk which is rare and am having an enormous self pity crisis but the sick pregnant…

I don't know... Probably the best dating site date I went on was with someone who didn't have a picture. He sent me an incredibly smart and funny message, so I read his profile and we messaged back and forth a little. I asked him out and prefaced that I didn't really care what he looked like because his profile compared…

I googled as much as I had about two guys I went out with over the summer because they were both intimidating (professionally) and I wanted to feel prepared- criminal past didn't occur to me. Accidentally friendzoned both of them, so it didn't matter anyway. The only con I'm coming up with is the possibility of mentioning…

Jen, I am 100% with you here. I was married, WE had a child TOGETHER, and now because of multiple variables that did not exist when we were married- I am a full time single mother. It effing sucks, and I definitely have the right to feel that. Single slut mom as societal scapegoat is a pretty cliched idea. I'd find a…