steampunk_pilot

WAIT - STOP - I wanna talk about me again!! I have no point in quoting this other than to announce to everyone that although im in that first group of women that might leave their husband for engaging in unhealthy behavior he can control, but wont - I still wouldnt leave him! SO AM BETTER THAN THE OTHER PEOPLE IN THE…

this happens, sadly, far more often than i can convey. some people have a lot of respect for themselves, their children and the potential in their lives that they would not stay in a relationship that revolves around one person's unhealthy selfish agenda. whether it is food or alcohol.

or suddenly you're married to a food addict, who spent rent on fast food and hides the evidence in the kids toybox, jeopardizes his health and the bank to keep it under wraps and lies more often than not and has no care at all as to how this would affect your children - and not just the financial strain - but the attitude…

I really love how there is one group of women saying that If their man became unattractive (physically or personality/behavior wise) to them, through circumstances within his control (like over eating, laziness and a bad attitude) and he had no intention of correcting these behaviors - they might leave him. They assume it…

You cant control your breasts getting smaller [/b]except by controlling them by maintaining a higher body fat percentage or getting implants[/b] so it is JUST as uncontrollable as a life-threatening disease, and therefore the same thing. cancer = weight loss. ? i cant. that is just stubborn insistence on derailing a thread.

Same here. Because getting fat is definitely not a shallow physical change. it is a change that begins in the mind and slowly extends outward and permeates the rest of their lives, including their physical appearance and sometimes eventually their job. If my significant other and I had been together for quite some time, in…

"If you loved me, you'd ____________" is the most manipulative selfish sentence ever invented by a woman, and I apologize on behalf of my gender.

BECAUSE HELPFUL.

that's why i was beating my head against a wall. cause everything has to be so black and white. It cant be simply that every couple is different and should communicate. Its that it's all or nothing, love or not, attracted or not, no grey area allowed. that's neither fair nor reasonable in an emotion-based discussion. the…

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the same as it has been from the start. they'll figure it out TOGETHER.

^ this was not referring to cancer. obviously This is referring to someone who purposefully ignores what their SO loves and brashly destroys it without a care for his opinion. The OP doesnt want to do that and was asking for advice. My advice is to go for gold and discuss the boobs/no boobs with her husband. How that is…

If he loves her, no it wont matter. Sometimes breast enhancement IS covered. I also said that if it was important, they would figure something out together. but if it really hurts HER and her self esteem, then plastic surgery COULD BE an option that might help. As far as I know, anyone who leaves their wife because cancer…

but you just said it was one or the other. Maybe committed couples who fall in love and fully feel that emotion, make a decision together to nurture that emotion and evolve together so they will have a successful relationship. I feel like love is an emotion and relationships are a decision. So for the OP, her man loves her…

It's not a mystery, I was chopper pilot - i admit it when anyone asks - im back cause i signed up for a spartan.

cant it be both, or is that beneath yall?

Im not a noob, but thanks for thinking that people who are new cant participate as well as others. I remade my account cause I used to be here and didnt use this place and now im doing a race with a bunch of my bf's friends on here this summer, so im back. I said that you wouldnt chop off your hair just because you felt…

OMG IF HE DOESNT THINK YOU ARE PERFECT, THEN YOU SHOULD DIVORCE HIM FOR BEING SHALLOW. CAUSE EVERYONE KNOWS THAT ONCE YOU GET MARRIED, YOU ARENT SUPPOSED TO CARE ABOUT HOW YOU LOOK OR ANYTHING ANYMORE.

only because you have a raging hard talent for reading an entire post - finding the one part of the message that doesnt apply when taken out of context, and derailing the thread to lecture the person who was trying to further the discussion about HOW it didnt fit. OP is worried about low self esteem and approval from her…

because im better than all you shallow people who care how you look and whether your husband is hot for you. FIFY

lolololol "everyone" now refers specifically to RML_16. noted!

good point. considering they never said that you said any of that. Love seeing people ready to fight about anything. Ohh yippee skippy! so exciting!!! I get to be offended! -does dance- On the topic at hand, I am also adult enough to admit there are some physical attributes that are deal breakers for me. Inactive…

You are always so harsh on the forums. It's as though, if someone doesnt give the advice that you would give, you deem them irrelevant. It portrays close-mindedness. I think that what he had to say was excellent and right on topic. If the OP works really hard and reaches a level of fitness that makes her very very happy,…