BABIES
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motivatedsister wrote: »Dtd....do the deed? Lol trying to keep up with all the acronyms.
@motivatedsister yup, my Google history is full of searches for what the acronyms mean!
@puffbrat I'm glad you're feeling better
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motivatedsister wrote: »Dtd....do the deed? Lol trying to keep up with all the acronyms.
Exactly, haha! I have been a lurker for a long time on baby boards, so I have picked them up. TTC=trying to conceive, DTD=do the deed, BD=baby dance (sex), CM=cervical mucous, POAS=pee on a stick (preggo test), OPK=ovulation predictor kit. I could go on, but we haven't really used a ton of them here yet, and i haven't really used them myself yet-we are going to start TTC in October, so just waiting. I'll think of more!
@Puffbrat, sorry to hear you aren't pregnant and that it was just a nasty sickness. My hubby and I took turns being sick the past 2 weeks, and I finally think it has left us. I showed him my lot of 50 preggo tests, and he was so unimpressed. The turd...he didnt even act excited that in 3 months we are going to start trying. This is why I come here you ladies get me. 2 -
@Kirstie155 I am really excited that you are going to start TTC in 3 months and that you have 50 sticks you will get to pee on! =D (Kinda hoping you don't have to use all of them though but if you do plan to pee on them every 4 hours like you said, it's a good thing you got the 50 haha)Kirstie155 wrote: »I showed him my lot of 50 preggo tests, and he was so unimpressed. The turd...he didnt even act excited that in 3 months we are going to start trying. This is why I come here you ladies get me.
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WifiresGettingFit wrote: »I am really excited that you are going to start TTC in 3 months and that you have 50 sticks you will get to pee on! =D (Kinda hoping you don't have to use all of them though but if you do plan to pee on them every 4 hours like you said, it's a good thing you got the 50 haha) Thanks @WifiresGettingFit ! It is exciting!! I hope I don't have to use them all either, but for $10.99...why not, lol! "Hm, I wasnt pregnant at lunchtime, but lets do another quick check here before dinner is served!" Haha 1
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Ah you ladies are awesome. Who else could we talk to about our crazy baby fever!?
It was funny when my husband saw that I had this online group for the first time lol. His eyebrows went UP! He was like "wow, since January? We should have a kid soon then haha"1 -
@Kirstie155 You're welcome! Not a bad price at all, in fact maybe you should order more! Bahahaha
@VeryKatie I agree, this group of ladies is awesome!! Did I mention I'm so excited that you're trying? haha. Hopefully you'll be making your own pregnancy announcement to us soon and we can all live through you and @teegan84 until we get to start. haha1 -
Thanks ladies! It is nice to at least feel better.
@Kirstie155 I'm sorry your husband wasn't excited to see all your pregnancy tests. I totally get that. My husband is baffled by all this stuff and just wants to know what he has to do and when. I agree that is why I love this group; so I can be baby crazy with similar ladies.
This weekend I told my husband how getting sick with something seeming to resemble morning sickness made me realize how much I want a baby. At first he asked me if that meant we should start trying sooner than planned (yay!). Later he had flip-flopped to being worried about how well we would handle a baby. To be fair to him, I have sometimes wondered the same thing. Getting the puppy has been a more dramatic and stressful change than either of us expected, and we both grew up with dogs! We realize having a baby is a whole different level than a puppy plus we would of course still have the puppy (and the 3 cats)
He asked me what I thought the potential issues for us having a baby would be and I said: 1) we both get really grumpy when tired, 2) agreeing on rules, 3) settling into a new division of chores/tasks/responsibilities. He agreed with me on all of those, so I think we are at a good point of opening up the conversation to head off at least some future disagreements and points of contention. In the end we decided that our lives have been overly chaotic the last 1/1.5 years and we should have a period of relative calm to resettle our lives before TTC.
So long story short, I don't know at this point if we will start TTC in September, but I am happy that we are openly, honestly, and respectfully communicating our desires and concerns with each other regarding children (and getting a second dog).0 -
@Puffbrat I totally relate with you. Hubby and I has a similar conversation yesterday.
Me: "Are you sure you want to have a baby? You know babies are essentially loud, bossy people who make a mess and don't help with dishes or the laundry- they make MORE, and we hardly keep on top of that as it is. And they projectile vomit, and will probably pee in our bed. They yell a lot, but in a language we don't understand...we're gonna cry, they're gonna cry. If I don't get enough sleep, I'm gonna be evil."
Him: "Ya, I really don't want anyone to pee in our bed."
Me: "We are too lazy to even walk the dog regularly."
Him: " Ya, watching tv and being lazy after work rules."
Me: "I'm gonna have to cook for them. Make balanced meals...ugh. This seams like a lot of work..."
Lol. We are early 30s, double income, no kids, enjoy sleeping in on the weekend, letting the house be messy for longer than we should, occasionally eating oreos for dinner and not being judged by our children (also, no sharing!)
End decision: We're gonna be parents, hahah! As if you thought this conversation would change anything. We are just gonna enjoy being lazy bad influences while there are no impressionable children watching...and before we have to grow up ourselves!
Puffbrat, having an open convo with your hubby is a really good thing! Get those worries out now, before baby is on the way. No one said being a parent is easy, I'm definitely worried about the division of chores. Right now I do the grocery shopping, cooking, dishes, cleaning, laundry. Oh yea, and have a full time job that I commute 2 hours a day for. I also do our gardening and lawn care, manage our social calendar. I have told Hubby that if he wants me to continue working after baby, we are getting a maid, and he will do 50% of the care for our child, including dropping off at daycare, diapers, up in the middle of the night, doctors appointments, AND helping with things like laundry and dishes. He agrees this is fair, and we both still want a baby, but I will admit, it is really daunting sometimes to think of all the responsibility.
So much responsibility!
Honestly though, I can't wait to be parents! It's going to be awesome
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Thank you so much @Kirstie155 for your response!! It is sooo nice and reassuring to hear that other people share these concerns! I truly believe we both really want children and will be parents. It is just these fears coming to the front. But at other times we both think about how much fun we would have with children. We are also late 20s/early 30s, double income, love sleeping in on the weekends (when the cat permits us to), and enjoy occasionally eating ice cream for dinner My husband is also worried about pee in the bed, on the couch, and on the floor.
I will say my husband is really good at sharing the chores with me, but we constantly have to readjust those as our lives change and sometimes the balance swings unfairly in one direction or the other, so there would still be growing pains in that area with kids. He has already informed me that during family walks, he wants to have the dog, not carry the baby. Guess who will probably be better behaved during those walks though?
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Anytime @puffbrat I think that anyone who says they don't have doubts about having children is kidding themselves. We also discussed fiances as well, its 401k open enrollment and its amazing to see how over 30 years your money can grow...or you can save for college for baby. Hm..they are really expensive aren't they!?
My Hubby will do the dishes and laundry and whatnot, it's just not on the same schedule that I want them done. He likes to wait until we have no clean clothes, or no clean plates, where I like to stay on top of things....so I do them before it gets to the point that he would step in!
Stroller for family walks! 0 -
We had a lot of concerns before having Becca too and of course, we've ended up with a lot more responsibility than we planned for. (We had two incomes, a small condo with minimal mortgage payments, spent our evenings gaming or doing whatever.) Sometimes I miss the life we had before and I won't say I haven't had dark moments when I regret that we decided to have a child. But those moments are extremely few and far between, one smile or laugh from her or a few minutes watching her sleep dispels that and makes everything feel worth it.
When we brought Rebecca home, my husband really stepped up to the plate, he worked full time and did nearly all of the household chores while I cared for Becca. It's more equal now that Rebecca sleeps more regularly but I know I can depend on him when things get rough.
There are much.. much worse things than pee. For example, my daughter, because of her new tone medication, has been constipated for a week, the last 3 days she's been vomiting pretty much everything since she's so backed up. Well I took her to the doctor today, he gave us a plan after determining it wasn't anything more concerning.
When I saw that poop, I literally threw my hands in the air and yelled "Yes, poop!" Did I have to clean up a lot of smelly, runny poop? Yes. Am I still smiling? Yes, from ear to ear.
I do highly recommend a house cleaner though. We have someone who comes in once a week for 2 hours, washes/vacuums all the floors, cleans the bathrooms, the kitchen and dusts. Not having to worry about those chores makes life much better and I haven't scrubbed a toilet in 3 years. Well worth the $40 a week.
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Thank you so much for sharing @NatashaLP2014! I'm so glad Becca's smiles make the hard times worth it. My assumption is that we tremendous love we would undeniably feel for our children would make the struggles worth getting through and generally brighten our lives. I'm glad Becca has gotten through that constipation!
This is why I love this group so much and what keeps me coming back to it. We can honestly share our thoughts (the good, the hopeful, the bad, the scary, the ugly, the funny) and find support. I feel comforted and less anxious knowing that my husband and I aren't alone with these fears and it can all be worked through. Thank you ladies 0 -
Ooh, @NatashaLP2014 my niece had issues with constipation and my sister has had to basically physically pry rock hard nuggets out of her help her go to the bathroom before. I haven't had to deal with it myself obviously, but my heart goes out to you on that one. I'm glad that Becca is feeling better
I think that anyone who has been blessed with a child wouldn't have it any other way, through the good times and the bad. Those smiles work magic on the heart!
Also, I talked to a friend of mine with a 10 month old yesterday-she is saying "Momma", "uh- oh" and "quack, quack!" I also received new baby photos and heard she is blowing kisses and waving at people. Heart melted, and ready to make a baby! All fears dashed by the adorableness that is a sweet, weinie little baby girl
I love this group as well @puffbrat . You ladies rock!0 -
I agreed that those conversations are 100% necessary! We've had them too. I still have no idea if I'm ready for life as I know it to be completely different. And harder. And I can't even seem to handle it as hard as it is now (which let's face it, I don't have much to complain about, but I'm not good at dealing with stress). I'm actually still nervous about if my husband will do enough around the house. But I have noticed him taking initiative lately, and I need to change my mindset and let that sink in haha.
I remember once my sister saying that when her first son was born, she had to "fall in love" with her own baby. It didn't happen automatically. Which sounds normal to me since it's an incredibly stressful time. But you never hear people say that... not out loud anyway. They all say they loved the baby the day they felt the first kick or something.
I also read a blog post once that was the ugly truths of having a baby... and there were definitely dark thoughts about it. The stuff no one talks about. The situations where you HAVE to walk away from your baby or it'll just get worse kind of stuff. But that's part of what being a parent (and human) is. Walking away when you need to. Obviously, it's only a problem if you can't walk away or if the dark thoughts are the only ones you have.
@NatashaLP2014 I'm glad Rebecca was finally able to do her business!0 -
I had a thought. My 1st anniversary is on Monday... and it should be about 5 days before my next cycle might start. I have one of those early pregnancy tests and am considering taking it and then if it's positive, wrap it in a box for my husband haha. It's a bit risky since the test doesn't have a great probability of being right that early, plus I might have ovulated later than I expected. But do you think it's a good idea? It was one of the more expensive tests, and I would have to order more from Amazon after using it.
First anniversary is paper. The test sticks are kind of made out of paper...0 -
I don't see why you can't do that.2
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@VeryKatie Well only you can decide if it's worth it. Personally I probably wouldn't do it just because of the sad factor.0
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I think that is a really cute idea, but you have to decide how you would feel if it was negative.
By the way, my 2nd anniversary is Monday! My husband and I are going to celebrate tomorrow. He is planning the day and I don't have a single clue what he is scheming.1 -
I think that is a really cute idea, but you have to decide how you would feel if it was negative.
By the way, my 2nd anniversary is Monday! My husband and I are going to celebrate tomorrow. He is planning the day and I don't have a single clue what he is scheming.
Wait so we have the same anniversary? Slurpee Day 7/11 lol! That's funny!
I don't think I would feel too sad.. I'd probably convince myself it was likely incorrect LOL. Since it's one of the early tests, I could get away with it.
I am feeling a little bit of pressure (that I'm doing to myself) to get pregnant now. It turns out I will be heading up north for with for 1 week a month starting soon, and I'm nervous that it'll be the fertile weeks in a pattern. So life would be simpler if I was knocked up now. That being said, the baby fund should fill up a lot quicker since there's 1) nowhere to spend money while I'm up there and 2) overtime pay. So I didn't want to turn it down (and it's my own fault for mentioning that I wanted to go up north again for work.. meaning like twice a year, not every month lol. I was not specific enough).0 -
@VeryKatie I think that is a really cute idea...think if it is positive ! what an awesome way to break the news to hubby!
If it isn't positive, you cant be sad! It was your first month trying and you might have missed your window because you started early! Each month you only have 30% chance of getting pregnant anyway, even if you do all the timing right. No being sad, this is an amazing time in your life, and in your marriage! Enjoy the journey and try not to get carried away with the destination, you will get there. Remember-baby making is supposed to be fun (I totally take that back for anyone who has been trying for while and cant conceive, I know that must be heart breaking and I am so afraid that will happen to me!) But it's way early in the game for you, so stay positive and SO EXCITED!
Happy anniversary to both @verykatie and @puffbrat
7/11 is sad in my family, my FIL passed away on that day. I'm glad to know it is a happy occasion for you both!0 -
I decided not to take the test. I looked up online what the rate of a successful test would be a week after ovulation and it's only 30%. So I'd rather not waste the test. I'll take it in a bit.
For now, it's back on tack for me!0 -
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Thanks @Kirstie155 and WifiresGettingFit! My husband and I enjoyed celebrating it on Saturday. We had fun relaxing and seriously overindulged (the day started with huge chocolate croissants, fresh strawberries, whipped cream, and mimosas for breakfast). I gained 1.4lbs that day, but most of it is probably water weight and it was so worth enjoying the day and not worrying about calories, so I'm not too worried.
Happy Anniversary @VeryKatie!
Kirstie, I'm so sorry to hear that today is the anniversary of your FIL's passing. Those days of remembering loved ones we have lost can be so sad but also filled with great memories. <<HUGS>>0 -
@Kirstie155 I'm sorry today isn't a happy day for you
I hope there are some nice things you can recall about your FIL today that can make you smile a little.
@WifiresGettingFit thanks for the anniversary wishes!
@puffbrat happy anniversary to you too! What year did you get married?0 -
@VeryKatie we got married in 2014. It would have been awesome if we had gotten married in 2013 because then our anniversary (7/11/13) would have been a "sexy prime".
Instead of a guest book we had people sign the large matting around a framed picture of one of our engagement pics. This weekend we finally actually hung it up. We also hung a cool picture my maid-of-honor and her husband gave us as a wedding gift with our last name and wedding date.
I think it's partly because of our anniversary getting me thinking of my husband's and my time together so far and our future, but I dreamed about getting pregnant and having a baby twice this weekend. That dream baby was adorable!!1 -
@puffbrat 2014 is still a good year to get married! In that case, you have been married one year longer than me.
I felt bad today... my oldest brother's birthday is on July 10, and I completely forgot to wish him a happy birthday since I've been wrapped up in my thoughts so much (re: anniversary and babies).
Your guest frame sounds adorable! We had a standard guest book. I think a frame is a really cool idea since you actually can decorate with it. It's also wonderful that you're already dreaming about having a baby LOL.0
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