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Hey ladies!
I got my BFP today!! We are so excited. I thought we were out this month but when my period was 8 days late we took another test and it is a strong positive. We are over the moon excited for this journey with baby #14 -
@Alioth That sounds really rough, I'm so sorry. I hope things work out so that that doesn't happen with the restaurant. This is definitely just a crappy situation all around.
@Bekah7482 Congratulations, I'm so excited for you!0 -
It's been extremely stressful here. On top of things falling through with Andrew's new job, on Saturday we got a tornado warning (not typical here) and not even five minutes later all hail broke lose, literally. Both cars had significant damage and so does our house. There was about a 2-3 minute stretch where we couldn't even see anything outside it was coming down so hard. I hope to never experience anything like that again.
As far as exercise and everything during the stay at home order, I've really gotten away from intentional exercise. I have just been focusing on meeting/exceeding my step goal. (which is pretty low) My weight has gone in the wrong direction because I've been eating from stress/boredom and to procrastinate so I mean it isn't entirely unexpected.
I have a lot of options though as far as working out from home and actually prefer to do so so really just need to make it a habit again. my goals really haven't changed much, I just continue to not meet them.
I've just gotten to a point where I'm doing what I can do when I can do it, which sometimes isn't a whole lot.
I hope everyone is well, I'm glad for the check ins.
This group is so quiet, I sometimes forget to check it so feel free to tag me or message if you need a listening ear.
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So glad to hear your check ins @Alioth and @WifiresGettingFit I’m sorry for all you’ve been going through. The world is such a crazy place at the moment. I work in healthcare so am still at work but it’s changing everyday.
Congratulations @Bekah7482 🥳👶🎉 Can I ask how long you had been trying for?0 -
Congratulations @Bekah7482!
@WifiresGettingFit I’m really sorry to hear things are so tough right now! That hail storm sounds awful.
Alioth, I hope things pick up soon!
I’m ok. Working from full time right now which is fine but I also miss my coworkers. We started potty training Leo this week which has been exhausting and frustrating. But I’m grateful that both of our jobs are stable. This is cycle 9 of TTC for us which is also stressful and exhausting.0 -
@sarawilliams5889 It really is! I hope you're staying safe and taking care.
Andrew's car is being fixed now, we should get it back by the end of next week. Pretty much once they are done, he's going to have an entirely new body on that car. It's about 6,500 (or thereabouts - I can't remember the exact amount) worth of damage. My car's damage was worth more than the car itself so they stopped at 3,200. We have my car now and are just going to keep it since my car is still safe to drive, had low mileage and is paid off, it just looks like it got beat up, repeatedly. It's all cosmetic which I really don't care about, I just need it to get me from one point to another. haha.
I'm sorry things are so stressful and exhausting @puffbrat. I hope things get easier soon!1 -
@Bekah7482 Yaaaay! Congratuations!!!!
@WifiresGettingFit Oh no. Sorry to hear about the hail damage. That happens here from time to time. My car is full of dents because I didn't have the money to fix it last time it happened several years back. I mean, they gave me a small amount of money, but I needed it to pay off other bills. So I did the same thing you're doing. haha. Aaaand, I have yet to do my 1st indoor workout.
@sarawilliams5889 Be careful out there. Glad you are still working though.
@puffbrat Lemme know if you have any potty training tips. Bruce is about ready to start. But he's somewhat terrified of the potty so we're going slow.
So, in other news, our friend didn't make it after all. They even tried two new wonder drug treatments on him, but they didn't work. I wasn't allowed to go to the funeral due to restrictions. My whole family is pissed off and hurting right now. If one more customer comes through my restaurant doors for takeout and complains about this virus being a big hoax, I'm afraid I'm gonna snap and give them a thorough tongue lashing. We're seriously considering locking the doors and only serving out the drive-thru window due to some customers not protecting their health (or ours).
But other than that, our sales seem to be stabilized a little bit, so we are able to make it. The weather's been beautiful so we've been going outside to play a whole lot with baby Bruce. My weight is stable, neither going up nor down. I'm putting a lot of free time into my vegetable garden. And that's not cardio-enough for me. But it is very relaxing at least.0 -
@Alioth Thankfully ours would have been covered by insurance so it wouldn't have cost anything out of pocket but my car is older and well not worth that much. haha. Didn't make sense to have it be a total loss since it's still a perfectly safe (and running) car.
Well there is still plenty of time in the month to start getting some indoor workouts in, it's a trying time so don't be too hard on yourself.0 -
Hi ladies, I hope you are all doing well. I fell pregnant last cycle but lost the pregnancy at 8 weeks. Just recovering and thinking where to from here. The doc says to wait until another full cycle has happened. Maybe I’ll be ready by then I don’t know. Take care.1
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@sarawilliams5889 I'm very sorry for your loss! Lots of hugs sent your way!
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Thanks so much @WifiresGettingFit hope you’re well 😊0
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Hi ladies! I hope everyone is doing well.
@sarawilliams5889 I’m so sorry to hear that!
@Alioth I don’t have much advice for potty training. I think we are now on week 8 and he is starting to improve. This week was his first time having 2 days in a row without accidents. Compared to my Facebook bumper group, I think he is picking it up much more slowly than many other toddlers, but in line with others. One woman in that group compared potty training to sleep - some will be great at it right away, others will take forever, but they will all get there eventually. My only advice is to make it fun and be willing to try different treats to figure what is motivating.
Like many others, I have been eating my way through quarantine. At week 2 or 3 I had finally gotten down into the 180s, but now I’m back up to 195.0 -
@puffbrat we started potty training on March 14 too. We are using the oh crap method and its going OK. K seems to be having a few regressions so I'm back to making him go every 2 hours instead of being able to trust he he will go on his own. And he refuses to poop in the potty and keep saving it for nap or bedtime (we are atill diapering for sleep). I'm giving him till he is 3.5 before taking away diapers and just dealing with the aftermath/night time wakeups.
We also recently started feeding therapy with an occupational therapist with K. We've been at it about a week and he did take one bite of egg (the first food we are working on) so thats promising. I'm very nervous for how things will go when I go back to work. Its making me want to quit honestly. I'm quite stressed about it.
Meanwhile B is starting to try to walk on her own (16 months old) so thats exciting.
I also weaned B a few weeks ago and have been slowly getting off my meds. Now that I'm at a fairly low dose, I'm experiencing withdrawal induced anxiety and insomnia so that sucks. I hope the symptoms go away soon.
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@puffbrat we started potty training on March 14 too. We are using the oh crap method and its going OK. K seems to be having a few regressions so I'm back to making him go every 2 hours instead of being able to trust he he will go on his own. And he refuses to poop in the potty and keep saving it for nap or bedtime (we are atill diapering for sleep). I'm giving him till he is 3.5 before taking away diapers and just dealing with the aftermath/night time wakeups.
We also recently started feeding therapy with an occupational therapist with K. We've been at it about a week and he did take one bite of egg (the first food we are working on) so thats promising. I'm very nervous for how things will go when I go back to work. Its making me want to quit honestly. I'm quite stressed about it.
Meanwhile B is starting to try to walk on her own (16 months old) so thats exciting.
I also weaned B a few weeks ago and have been slowly getting off my meds. Now that I'm at a fairly low dose, I'm experiencing withdrawal induced anxiety and insomnia so that sucks. I hope the symptoms go away soon.
I'm kinda ready for this year to be done tbh.
@VeryKatie that’s a lot going on!
We are on week 8 or something of the 3 day method
It actually worked well and went perfectly the first day and a half. But then Leo got fed up with washing his hands and us pushing fluids. Since then, he just been really inconsistent with both great and terrible days. He isn’t very good about telling us he needs to go so we just have to pay attention to how long it’s been or other signs he gives. He wears pull-ups to sleep but actually seems to be night time training himself since the pull up is usually dry and uses the potty when he wakes up.
I’m so sorry you are having the food struggle! I’m glad you’re getting help. Leo was super picky for a while and I considered therapy but then quarantine happened, and now he is back to eating lots of stuff. I’m sure K will get there, but I wish it didn’t have to be so hard for you.
Yay for walking!! I hope your anxiety and insomnia resolve soon.
When do you go back to work? It seemed like it was causing you tremendous stress before. Do you need to return? Can you wait longer?0 -
@puffbrat I'm supposed to start work on July 20. That will have been the 18 month leave. My work is laying off 700 people so if I ask to extend it I'm sure I will be met with "no" and possibly getting let go... thkugh at least the decision wouldn't be mine to make hahahah.
We can (under normal circumstances) afford for me to stay home till B starts school but things are more uncertain now so that makes me nervous too. But I also dont want the kids going to daycare right now when there isn't enough research on how this all affects kids and the research I've seen so far is scary. But, Chris is being called back to work July 2 so I kind of HAVE to use daycare. I still wish they would consider letting me come back part time...though that wouldn't make much financial sense. If I go back full time, about 1/3rd of my pay goes to childcare. If I go back part time say half, then almost all of it goes to childcare.... so whats the point. Unless we can get parttime care.0 -
@VeryKatie that’s a really tough spot!0
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Hello everyone!
It has been a while but it's nice to see that people are still about. I jumped back onto MFP when lockdown/stress/boredom eating was sending my weight up in leaps and bounds, haha.
Tommy is two and adorable but full of stubbornness. We've had some delays with walking which have been mostly resolved with PT. Now we are also working with speech therapy because he doesn't talk, not even mama, dada. (He babbles a lot still and gets his point across for what he wants like handing you his empty cup when he wants more water but doesn't attach words to anything.) We've been referred to a pediatrician (IDP is starting to suspect mild autism) but I'm not sure when we'll get there with the pandemic.
At the very end of last year we finished building our dream home and moved in! A five bedroom house on four and a half acres backing onto hiking trails and a 15 minute walk to Tommy's future school. I love cooking and baking in my new kitchen, probably a little too much! And one of the bedrooms is my sewing room which I love to do when I can get away for an hour. Pretty much Tommy's entire wardrobe is made by me and I'm adding more clothing to my own. I'm making myself some crop leggings from athletic knit at the moment. My husband is picky but he likes the button down shirt I made him recently and home made boxers.
Anyway I'm back, trying to lose weight but more slowly this time. I've learned some lessons about past mistakes and trying to use the slower pace of things right now to create better habits.2 -
Hey guys, happy 4th of July!
So we finally got our BFP yesterday. I had mostly given up, thinking I was getting too old to have good fertility. Now I need to be serious about getting into shape though. I'm 10 lbs heavier than I was last time, and last time the extra weight wrecked my feet. So I need to not gain a lot of weight this time if I'm going to survive.
I don't have an OBGYN, just a GP. And my income keeps changing so I might get kicked off my health insurance. And I don't have anyone to cover for me at work if I need to miss. last time morning sickness made it hard for me to come in sometimes. We lost 1/2 our emps during Covid shutdowns. Anyway, we're gonna try our best!
Potty training is hit or miss...literally. haha.
Glad everyone's hanging in there. Even if it's hard sometimes. I took a break from the internet for a while. And the gyms were shut down. Things feel like they're looking up though. We can do this! I just need to drag myself to the gym...
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@Alioth congrats on the BFP! When is your due date? Pregnancy was really hard on my feet too and I only gained 25 lbs. They still hurt every morning when I stand up. I guess I’m still heavier than my feet want me to be haha.
I too am pregnant again! We were planning on a 3 year age gap but thought it would likely take a year again. It did not, so we will have a 2 year age gap. That’s fine with me though. I’m due 2/19. There’s no way I’m stepping foot inside a gym so working out has been tough with the heat out there. And the only thing I could stand eating for lunch today was a strawberry milkshake. Sorry for my random check-ins. I pop in every now and then and read updates but get too overwhelmed to reply and run away again. I hope everyone is doing well!0 -
@Alioth and @pezhed
Congratulations to you both on your pregnancies!! I'm very excited for you both
how are you both feeling?
I have to look back on previous posts from everyone here... maybe at least to a reasonable date. It is so hard to catch up, I neglected MFP for a LONG time, over a year and now im only using it once in a while.
After my second kiddo was born I was so done with having more children. But now that she is older and my picky eater really isn't so picky any more (we got feeding therapy for him and he has improved a lot which is a huge stress relief - still picky, but I can usually get him to try a couple of bites). Apparently now I cannot stop thinking about a 3rd baby. It is frustration though because I am not sure if we should go for it but it is CONSTANTLY on my mind.
The debate goes like this:
- it feels like someone is missing and more seems better in the future
- But the pregnancies and 1st 15 months are so darn hard it might break me this time
- But i can't let go, I can't stop thinking about it. I can't close this chapter
- how about enjoy what you have?
- And i have no self confidence left that I will be a "good mother" - I feel I have succumbed to mom shame thinking, 99% me to myself. The amount of TV, how bad a cook I am, how bad I am at keeping house
- chris's hours at work make it hard for a good chunk of the year
- breastfeeding again uuugghhh
- but my children are the and my husband are the first things I've really ever had passion for...
- But how amazing would that person be?
- but am I being environmentally irresponsible, or am I creating children in a world that will explode before they are old?
So basicaly I just stew about it all the time. And I can't freaking decide. And I dont know the right answer. And I. am. going. Insane.
So... basically the actual settling point I personally am at right now is we will ttc in november and february only. And if that doesn't happen then I will give up. My husband says he doesnt see us only trying 2 specific months. He thinks if we try we will just keep trying from nov TO March or so. But then he also won't confirm that he will take parental leave if baby comes when work is too busy.
So. Yup. I've gone nuts.
Gonna try to get that last bit of baby weight off from B (born 20 months ago) just in case. But honestly not sure where we will land.
But i still love this group and I still want to keep up with you all even if i barely come on. I like reading the past posts.1 -
Ok. Update. We half heartedly tried this month... as in we missed the timing but tried anyway. And I went through a short phase of "i still don't know" but then these past few days find myself hoping for a positive on the test. So now I feel more sure we do want another kiddo. I think we will try officially starting in November since I have some medication I am finishing up around then thats probably safe but technically hasn't been around long enough to have the data (its topical on a small area so pretty low risk). Plus Chris is potentially hearing about a new job this month/next month so waiting till November will give us time to see that out too.
Also Chris and I have an agreement. Since I decided to stay home with the kids... he can take a paid parental leave. So in exchange for 8 months of pregnancy from me I get 8 months of help from him! Seems fair to me hahah.0 -
I'm feeling a bit better about the decision now. I think it makes sense to have another kiddo. I keep worrying I won't be able to spend enough time with my other two... but I had that worry when I was pregnant with my second... and when I was at work after my first was born. So thats a pretty normal thought. And when I think back on my childhood... its playing with my siblings I remember the most.1
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@VeryKatie I hope things are going well!0
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Hallo gang. I wanted fill y'all in on how things went with my pregnancy in case anyone else still checks in. @VeryKatie Did you ever make a decision? I'm sort of in the same place right now where I'm debating whether or not I want more kids. It's a dread weight I'm dragging around every month not sure if I can do it again or if it'll be too hard to continue.
About my last pregnancy, I had hyperemesis again, to the point where I couldn't look at my computer, which is why I disappeared off the internet. I was on anti-nausea meds the whole time, which I had to fight my docs for. I had multiple doctors in two cities but had trouble finding one willing to deliver the baby because they discovered ovarian cysts, including one the size of a small grapefruit. I'd never had them before. They were possibly cancerous and maybe life-threatening if they burst. So I felt like a bomb was strapped to my belly. To add insult to injury, I looked huge way earlier in the pregnancy than I was supposed to, which people loved to comment on! LOL. The docs pressured me to have surgery in 2nd trimester, but I resisted because I didn't want to risk harming baby. At this time, I was grateful for my friends and family praying for me to keep my peace of mind in Jesus just to get through every day. Poor Josh was extremely patient and supportive.
I also fretted about catching Covid in my state. I couldn't miss work; and I couldn't locate a vaccine. In 3rd trimester, I got Covid anyway. It was rough, but I recovered. Days later, in February the baby came a month early. Labor lasted 1 full hour. Nobody was prepared, least of all the hospital when I arrived. The delivery was traumatic. They took the baby away thinking there was something wrong with her (there wasn't). Placenta was stuck (like last time). I hemorrhaged. Lots of unpleasantness but...After that, I recovered nicely. Baby Grace was sweet as she could be and wonderfully healthy. Dealing with the hospital and their people, not so much, but anyway...
The day after we got out from the hospital, we got a contract on a house! We sold ours and moved in with my parents for a few months while our new house's seller put in a new septic, fixed stuff, for the sale. In July, I got my surgery to remove the cysts. Surprise! They discovered not cancer, but endometriosis, which explains some of the cycle problems I've had, anemia, and irritable bowel. It's not curable, but they removed a lot of adhesions and endometrial tissue while they were in there. It's quite possible I'll get pregnant easily as a result now. (Though terrified now to do so.)
In August, we finally got into our new house: a sprawling ranch style on 6 acres outside of town. We absolutely love it! It's a fixer-upper, so with the new baby we've been painting, cleaning, shuffling boxes around, and trying to repair the property. We also got a dog and some chickens now to look after. I'm having a great deal of fun. Grace is 9 months old now, such a delight and gorgeous! Bruce was pitiful for a while when he stopped being an only child, but he recovered from that too and loves his baby sis now. (He will still not poop on the potty.) 2020 was an exciting year, sad in some ways (friends lost to Covid), but otherwise altogether satisfying. I hope it's been good to everyone else here as well! Can't wait to see what the new season brings! Who knows, maybe I'll break out of the 170s and down through thee 160s again? Good luck everybody!0 -
@Alioth yes we made a decision to go for it and I'm due in about 2-3 weeks with another baby girl (3rd child, my other two are so excited). I am enjoying this pregnancy so oddly I'm not in a huge rush to get baby out. Out of my 3 pregnancies this one has been the most comfortable. Though also a bit more nerve wracking with a subchorionic hemmorage earlier on and me falling on my belly a couple of weeks ago. But everything else has been good.
Wow your second pregnancy and birth experience does not sound like a good time at all, I'm glad you and Grace came out of the ordeal well though! And I'm glad you were able to sell your house and get a new one!
My oldest really resisted pooping on the potty too, after he was trained he held off on poops for 4-5 months. My second had no issues at first but then regressed and started using her diaper for a few months almost 6 months after she was trained. Toddlers are weird lol.
9 months is such a fun age. It's when baby really starts doing the fun stuff.
Covid has been the list for sure. Luckily no friends lost here and all our family vaccinated (though indid it while pregnant znd was worried I'd be judged for it)... but my husband's whole family still got covid. We luckily didn't catch it! We are keeping our bubble small at this point to prevent any illness for right before baby is coming.
Our furnace broke again this morning so we have some technicians in today to fix it... and I'm nesting like crazy, I can't stop cleaning! It's so weird, it was never like this with the other two.
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Little update! Baby Amber was born on December 14! It was an interesting labour. Early labour/pre-labour was lots of starts and stops probably because Amber was face up. She eventually flipped face down and once she did FRICK we barely made it to the birth centre in time (my husband decided to take me there because he didn't think we would make it to the hospital). She arrived 10 mins after getting there.
She's a sweet little sleepy thing, which is nice for recovery. We are investigating why she isn't able to nurse but pumping and bottle feeding is going decently well.
She looks just like my oldest kiddo. They handed her to me after she was born and I instantly said "holy smokes she looks like Keith". A few people haven't been able to tell them apart when looking at their 2 day old photos.1 -
Hi everyone. I have been gone the last couple years since COVID, work, and personal stuff including infertility had me at my mental limit. We stopped TTC after my infertility diagnosis in May 2020. I just found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant with #2. It was a shock to say the least since I thought this was the anticipated early menopause.
Unfortunately, I ate and sat my way through COVID, regaining ~20 lbs. I had just started getting into a habit of losing 0.5lb/week since the beginning of the year. Now of course I'm working to maintain and then slowly gain for pregnancy. I'm thoroughly annoyed at how big I am for the start of this pregnancy and it has me worried about how that will affect my overall pregnancy including risk for gestational diabetes and hypertension.
Today is first day back in the office on a regular schedule. I am coming in 2 days a week. I couldn't find any pants that fit and most of my dresses are too small since I got rid of all my bigger clothes at the same time I got rid of my maternity stuff. I'm trying to be gentle with myself but also not gain 60lbs. like I did last pregnancy.
I have missed a lot in this group, so I didn't read back more than one page. Congratulations @VeryKatie and @Alioth. I still probably won't be good at checking in here regularly, but this group has a special place for me.1 -
@Puffbrat oh congratulations on being pregnant! Wishing you a smooth pregnancy! When are you due? So nice to hear from you. And from anyone who pops in once in a while.
I'm 3.5m pp and struggling not just to lose the weight but to not gain. I've just lost all desire to actually get it done because I'm quite sick of losing weight. My eating habits are awful and I can barely make myself cook, which I think is one of the main contributing factors. I don't really want to wait till I wean this time around since I was hoping to nurse a couple months longer since I didn't get to nurse my baby for 2m. Turned out I was right and it was a tongue tie. Took 6 weeks to get anyone to believe me. Nursing like a champ now.0 -
I enjoyed catching up on all the post I missed. I kind of can't believe I haven't posted in here since November 2020. I knew it had been a while, but I definitely didn't realize it had been that long. There's just something about this group. It is probably one of the very few reasons that I still have MFP even though I have been awful about keeping in touch and checking in.
Are there any new updates from anyone? How is everyone doing?
My life is basically cat care (between ours, the two strays someone dumped outside that we are trying to get help with, and our one foster), looking for a job that I don't think I'll be miserable at (ha!), and trying to get my life together as far as housework, self care, and not being recluse.0 -
Hi Kayla @WifiresGettingFit! Glad to hear from you! I agree this group calls to me still, too, even though I am totally done having kids! It was really fun during my active times. Sounds like a lot of cat care for you! Do you want one more? Haha, I'm kidding, mostly, but my cat is kind of a nightmare. She's 17 and it shows. I swear she's the entire reason we bought a new house last summer.
I don't remember what was going on with me the last time I posted. I was a SAHM for the first 2.5 years of my first kid's life. Last August I got a remote job at a pharma company in my field and it's been good! The corporation is starting to call people back to in-person, and it's based in another state, so we'll see what happens to me then. No plans to relocate to NJ. I have two sons now, Atlas (March 2019) and Bennett (February 2021).
I've just recently started trying to get on track and lose some weight. Over the years my setpoint has increased by 10 pounds and I'm really struggling to get back below that. Really would like to maintain a lower. I was trying intermittent fasting (just 16 hours fast with 8 hours eating) alone and it wasn't working. I have no problem cramming 2000 calories into 8 hours. So now I'm tracking again and intermittent fasting. Trying not to obsess but that seems to be my personality.0
