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WifiresGettingFit

It's been pretty quiet here lately, how is everyone doing?

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motivatedsister

Just got back from vacation! Prior to leaving for vacation (maybe 2 weeks) we had a little incident with a condom so I took Plan B to be safe. While we were away my boobs were sore and that's typically not a PMS symptom I have; the only time I've experienced that was when I was pregnant earlier this year. According to CDC our vacation spot has some Zika cases...so I was freaking out!

Taking a pregnancy test was the first thing I did when I got back home....and whew not pregnant. I'm relieved for now...the idea of being pregnant while potentially being exposed to Zika would have driven me crazy! My cycle has been a little unpredictable since the miscarriage and on top of that Plan B messes up my cycle, so even though based on my normal cycle length I am late it's a little hard to know for sure given the circumstances...so I'll be completely relieved once my cycle starts.

It's at least 2 months before my doctor said it would be safe to try if we wanted, but I really want to reach my goal weight before we start trying so we'll have to see how it goes. Will hop on the scale tomorrow to see the damage, but ready to get back to losing weight.

WifiresGettingFit

@motivatedsister Hope you were able to enjoy your vacation! I hope your cycle starts soon! (that isn't something I get to say often. haha) I understand about wanting to be your goal weight, I have about a year before that is even a possibility. Hope the damage isn't to bad!

NatashaLP2014

Oh man, it's been full of crazy emotions in our household this last week.

We've been pursuing a medical malpractice case in regards to our daughter and we finally got the verdict back from the judge that we won our case! We had our trial at the end of last year, so it's been a long six month wait, plus we started the entire thing shortly after she was born. So four years ago!

We still have to wait through the appeals period and it is driving me nearly up the wall swinging between elation and frustration. Having this court case finished is a big step in the direction of having another child. It's a huge burden of stress that I don't want while pregnant. But if they decide to appeal the decision then it'll be another year until we go to trial again, then another 6-12 months waiting for that judge to make a ruling.

I turned 31 last Tuesday and we got the news on Wednesday, so best belated birthday gift ever!

And even though my period started today(and I've had a lot of cake) I've managed to stay under 200lbs!

@motivatedsister I totally get where you're coming from with the freak out though. I'm on some medication for my skin which can cause serious birth defects and every time I'm even a day later then I should be, I start having mini panics. Despite being on the pill and using condoms.

Glad you're ready to get back to it though! I'm always lazy about it after time away, takes me a bit to get back in the groove.

WifiresGettingFit

@NatashaLP2014 How long is the appeal period? That was a very long wait. Hopefully it isn't appealed - that would be another long wait. I hope things work out for you! Also, Happy Belated Birthday!!

Way to go on staying under 200!

I should be starting my period later this week and I have days where I'm an endless pit which I never really noticed before until I started counting calories. haha

Kirstie155

@natashalp2014 That is great news-congratulations!

I have been MIA for the last month, and the scale has shown it. Weighed in at 194.8 this morning, after a low of 183 earlier this year. I'm really irritated with myself about it, but ready to take control back. Back to basics: count calories, drink more water, move more.

We have been doing more take out and celebratory foods lately, and I have not worked out in months. I got a promotion at work that has upped my hours and stress level for now, and I'm letting it take over my eating and exercising.
Lots of dinners out to celebrate...Yay, promotion coming. Yay, promotion official. Yay, new business cards. Yay, bump in paycheck showed up. It. Must. End. My clothes are too tight and I feel so terrible!

The promotion also changed my thinking quite a bit regarding starting a family. Before my hours were not flexible at all, and it was just a job to tide me over. I was planning on quitting after baby, no doubt about it. I was going to be a stay at home mom...that's why we haven't started a family before now.
However....now I see my job as a career, with flexible hours (after I'm more established) potential to work from home once a week, better pay, better benefits package. I'm not sure that I want to quit after baby, and I'm not ready to work a new job (with lots of responsibilities) with a baby at home (or while pregnant.) I have a long commute and am way from the house for about 55 hours a week with commuting times. More if there are special occasions, or issues that come up. 55 hours is just my 8 hours a day, plus lunch and commute times.

I am really surprised at my newfound attitude-my husband is stunned. I have wanted to be a stay at home mom for years... and now maybe I don't? And I might be the one to delay starting a family? I know the job is still new and I might just change my mind again soon, but I am very surprised at this 180 I have done.

I'm probably the only one here with this mentality right now...tell me all your baby planning stories and bring me back to your side, lol!

@verykatie TTC yet?

WifiresGettingFit

@Kirstie155 I had to go back to basics quite a few times and I have to say when I keep things basic/simple, I do better so I've just kept to the basics since the last time and though I still have bad days they haven't been near as bad as before.
Congratulations on your promotion! That is super exciting!
There are a lot of people who manage to work crazy hours and still have/raise families. I don't think it's an either or type of deal (though it can be for some people). I have quite a lot of family members who have done it and their kids are happy and healthy. I know that for me being a stay at home mom isn't an option. I think once you get used to your new job and schedule and things settle down, you'll be back on the I want a baby bandwagon. haha
Also just to let you know, Katie is on vacation - I don't believe she'll be checking in while she's away.

Kirstie155

@Wifiresgettingfit Thanks! I'm pretty excited about the promotion as well. It's a small company, and I'm now the first female manager here. Feels good to be on the top floor, where I can really make a difference.

About the baby, I still want one (of course!) but never considered being a working mom. I was going to stay at home, baby wear, breastfeed, home school, ect. We have worked to pay down debt and save money and WAITED to start a family specifically because this is what we wanted (me to stay home, single income family.)

Hubby has always said if I went back to work after baby, we can start trying whenever. We waited specifically to be financially ready for me to quit my job. So the kicker is...if I decided to keep working....we could TTC now. And I think I might want to delay it another 6 months or a year past our original TTC date (October 2016.)

This is what I am mostly surprised about. I know people change their minds about staying home with baby all the time after they have the baby...but before they even TTC?

My goals are still the same, get healthy for pregnancy-it just might be a little farther off than I thought!

NatashaLP2014

@WifiresGettingFit The appeals period is thankfully only 30 calendar days. We've got 24 more days to go. (The countdown gets mentioned several times a day in our household!) There is still a little bit of flexibility left in the money, so it is very likely they will use the threat of appeal as a leveraging tool to bring the amount down. I've learned a lot when it comes to this process, more than I ever wanted to know!

@Kirstie155 My husband is ready to go anytime, I'm the one having us wait until next year around May! We already have names picked out. In July we are shifting the spare bed that my MiL uses when she visits to the bedroom downstairs which frees up the third bedroom as a nursery. (We have a renter in the suite at the moment who is moving out.) My daughter should be out of the toddler bed by the end of the year and we can convert it back to a crib. I need to go speak with my doctor soon about what weight I should be aiming for to reduce my risk of pre-eclamsia as much as possible, though it will still be a high risk pregnancy. I'm even thinking about what colour to paint the room! We do plan on building a new home but not for several years yet.

I'm not sure I'm doing such a great job containing the crazy sometimes!

WifiresGettingFit

@Kirstie155 haha oh, I think I read it wrong or just misunderstood. If I were in your situation, I would probably do the same thing. I can't take a lot of change at one time so I would wait to get used to the job and schedule and would probably start trying when I felt more settled.
I think your life took an unexpected turn and you're getting used to it. Who knows what you will want in a year or even a month from now? I think giving yourself time to get used to the new job is a good idea and seems to be what you want to do. Things can change with a drop of a hat, give yourself time.

@NatashaLP2014 I hope the 24 days fly by with no appeal! I hope they don't bring the amount down and if they do, I hope it isn't by much.

puffbrat

It sounds like it has been a crazy time for everyone!

I am finally getting help for my depression and anxiety that has been creeping up on me the last year and half and been out of control all this year. I finally feel almost like myself again!!

The dog had another medical problem affecting his eye that neither my husband nor I had ever heard of before. Thankfully he is finally feeling better and his eye is starting to look better.

My friend and her family visited two weekends ago which was awesome! It was so much fun spending a whole weekend with them, and our dog did really well with their little boys. It was fun to read several of my favorite children's books to the 4-year old and snuggle with the 2-year old.

I understand what everyone is saying about wanting to be at goal weight before getting pregnant. I have getting off track the last couple months, stalling my weight loss. So we will have to see where I am at and how I feel when September comes around. In the meantime, my husband has been making a lot more comments about when I am pregnant... and when we have kids.... So I think he is reaching a point of being ready.

My period should start late this week and I hope to hold off the cravings, but it has been getting heavier and more unpleasant leading to more emotional eating.

@motivatedsister I would be freaking out in that same situation. I hope your period returns to a more normal state soon.

@NatashaP2014 I am so glad the decision went in your favor and I hope the next 24 days pass with no appeal!

@Kirstie155 It's nice to have you back. It's funny how changes in our careers can change our desires about working or staying home as moms. I would say to take some time to adjust to your new position, and see how you feel when the time comes.

WifiresGettingFit

@puffbrat I'm glad you're starting to feel like yourself again! and that your dog is all right! and that you had a good time with your friend and her family! I was actually wondering about that but kept forgetting to ask.
I know exactly what you mean because I also stalled my weight loss for the last couple of months and I am also going to be starting my period later this week (which I think I mentioned above) and I was a bottomless pit yesterday and sometimes it seems so hard to control but I think and that is a big I think I'm getting better at it. haha I'm glad your husband seems to be coming around to the idea more and more, that's great!

puffbrat

Thanks @WifiresGettingFit! It's so nice to have things getting back to a healthy normal, and I was sooo relieved that our friends' visit went well. She and I were just texting and laughing a little while ago because her boys went home (to another state) with a couple of our drink coasters and left a couple of their things at our house.

I had to control the bottomless pit feeling yesterday and still did some snacking that was unplanned including two desserts when I had only planned for one. Hopefully we can both reign it in

WifiresGettingFit

You're welcome @puffbrat! haha that's funny. Guess you guys will have to exchange things on their next visit! :P
I did lots of snacking yesterday - none of it planned! haha Yes, I hope we can both reign it in!

motivatedsister

Thanks @WifiresGettingFit!

@NatashaP2014 sounds like an awesome birthday present to have some sort of resolution. Hopefully everything will continue to go in your favor!

@Kirstie155 congrats on the promotion! I definitely get how your career can cause you to put things you want on the back burner. I feel like I absolutely did this...I wanted to finish grad school, I wanted to complete my certification process, etc. I had such a one track mind in terms of my career, I even pretty much put my relationship on the back burner...and looking back on that I regret that. If I would have had more balance, no doubt in my mind we would have been married and had kids already. But you make the decisions that you think are the best at the time. Lucky for you though since you guys have been planning on you being a stay-at-home mom, financially you guys are good if you decide you still want to get pregnant when you originally planned to. Either way you'll guys will be set for whenever you both are ready.

@puffbrat glad to hear you're getting to feel like yourself again.

WifiresGettingFit

You're welcome @motivatedsister!
I don't know if you saw but our June challenge starts tomorrow if you would like to join!

wantoldme

I'm 123-124 pounds today. My goal is 105 by September 21; hopefully after then we will TTC.

WifiresGettingFit

@wantoldme Hi! Thanks for checking in! In case you haven't noticed we are currently running a June Challenge if you're interested you're more than welcome to join! You'll just need to sign up in the spreadsheet (Mays is in there as well so make sure you're on the right tab) and weigh in!

VeryKatie

@Kirstie155 congratulations on your promotion! It sounds amazing! And it's definitely ok for thing to change. That's what life is.

@puffbrat - I'm really glad you're feeling better! I can't imagine how hard it is.. but it must feel good to feel good

@NatashaLP2014 I'm super happy to hear that ordeal is almost done with!!! How stressful! But congratulations!!!

We actually started TTC in Nice, France on a whim on our vacation hahaha. The test was negative (pretty sure we missed the fertile window so we weren't really expecting a positive). So we will try again next month, which is what we originally planned! Going to try to drop 2 to 5 lbs while we're trying but not too aggressively. Just get the vacation (and pre-vacation) weight off.

Thanks everyone for sticking with it while I was away. I feel so happy to have such a strong group

WifiresGettingFit

@VeryKatie Glad to have you back, we missed you while you were gone!

CharliWhitman

@verykatie Hey, I think I joined in your absence. Nice to meet you!

NatashaLP2014

@VeryKatie Welcome back! I hope you had a great trip. So exciting that you're trying and keeping up with your goals.

I'm having a tough time with food at the moment so I've decided to switch my calories to maintenance but concentrate on my exercise goals. I know being more consistent with exercise will help me feel less stressed and keep my mind off everything that is going on. (9 more days, arggghhhh)

On a happier note we've decided to take a short vacation to the West Edmonton Mall this October. Rebecca will adore the water park and it'll be nice to test out how she does on a plane (how her medical equipment is dealt with, her seating and everything else) on a shorter trip before we make any plans for longer trips to visit my family. Ideally I'd like to lose a few more pounds before then as well but I'm trying not to concentrate on that at the moment.

VeryKatie

CharliWhitman wrote: »

@verykatie Hey, I think I joined in your absence. Nice to meet you!

@CharliWhitman Nice to meet you too!

Welcome to the group. How are you finding it so far? Let me know if you have any suggestions for the spreadsheet or the challenge.

@NatashaLP2014 Aaaaah I want to go to West Ed! I haven't been in ages... my husband keeps going without me haha. I met some people on my trip who live just outside Edmonton so one day we will have to visit them... and the water park lol.

CharliWhitman

@verykatie Yeah it's been good thanks

Nice to have a group of people on here, not joined one before

puffbrat

Welcome back @VeryKatie! I hope you had an awesome time on vacation! That's really exciting you two started TTC in Nice. @WifiresGettingFit did a great job of keeping us going while you were gone

WifiresGettingFit

Thank you!

@puffbrat

VeryKatie

I am feeling tempted to do 5:2 again. 5 days of maintenance and 2 days of partial fasting. But it's a bad idea, right?

I am really struggling to get back on track and don't know why. I'm trying to remember that since we're trying, my health and eating habits matter more. I want to make sure I have proper nutrition.

I'm considering not worrying about losing weight any more so that I can eat more food... I guess I'm feeling like if I get pregnant, then these few pounds I'm struggling with now don't matter so much. But the problem is, I am about 6 pounds over goal, and 5 lbs over where I was just a month or so before I went on vacation.

Unfortunately, this makes me want to lose about 4 lbs really quickly. Oh how my brain works! Ugh. What I want to do and what I should do are completely contradictory right now!

Anyone else having any struggles?

NatashaLP2014

If you're having a hard time with control it isn't a terrible idea, but remember it won't necessarily lead to 4 pounds of weight loss rapidly. My maintenance is about 2000 calories while sedentary, so 5 days of 2000 and 2 days of 500 only leaves me with a weekly deficit of 3000, less then a pound.

As long as you are not getting dizzy or extremely hangry on those 500 calorie days it won't hurt you. 5:2 worked well for me while Becca was not sleeping properly and I had no control (my doctor was the one to suggest trying that eating plan). Buckling down for 2 days a week I could manage. Once I started exercising more and added more activity I found those 500 calorie days hard to sustain and felt better with the smaller daily deficit.

Lately I've been completely out of control, though I know it's from the stress of this appeals period. My sleep has been terrible, I can't concentrate on anything else but today is the last day and then we can finally start moving forward, I'm thinking of doing a weekly, rather than daily total, cycling through planned lower and higher days.

WifiresGettingFit

@VeryKatie
How did you handle the fasting before? I kinda feel like it could go either way. If you are having trouble staying within your goal now, lowing it on any given day probably isn't going to work out and may lead to a binge. You know yourself the best and what you're able to handle but the fact that you said "but it's a bad idea, right?" kinda gives me the inclination that you already know that it isn't the answer.
I suggest doing maintenance for a while and keep the focus on the nutrition for you and your future child because I really don't think 6 extra pounds is going to matter in the grand scheme of things - be proud of what you have accomplished thus far and give yourself a break and maybe let the last 6 pounds hang around for a bit longer and weight can fluctuate so much anyway you may be chasing cars with the last few pounds you know? I would just give yourself a goal range instead of a deadset goal weight because it's unlikely that you will stay at that weight on each and every weigh in anyway because of water weight, tom, sodium intake, etc. Basically I feel like your driving yourself crazy and being hard on yourself for nothing.

@NatashaLP2014 Today is the last day? That's good news! I hope things go well and you start feeling better and getting your sleep! *HUGS*

NatashaLP2014

WifiresGettingFit wrote: »

@NatashaLP2014 Today is the last day? That's good news! I hope things go well and you start feeling better and getting your sleep! *HUGS*

Sadly, nope. On the very last day they appealed the decision. Apparently it is a very common stalling tactic, because from their point of view, why not? They get to make 100's of thousands more in interest on that money which more then pays for the extra legal costs.

So now we are stuck for another 1-2 years while we wait for everything to go through the Appeals court and up to a year after that for the Appeals court to make their judgement. And I've been questioning very seriously whether we should have any more children or if we can financially get to the point where we need to before it is too risky. (While still providing what Rebecca needs.)

I cannot describe the utter frustration I am feeling.

WifiresGettingFit

@NatashaLP2014 I'm so sorry that that happened and that it's adding so much time.

It's a very *kitten* tactic. *HUGS*

I know there really isn't anyway to make it easier or better but just know we are here for you!