Thoughts and Feelings
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Ms_Gemini89 wrote: »So these past couple of days I've been lacking energy (women problems lol). How do I make myself get up...and not eat everything I crave? Ugh.
Oh gotta love those women problems right? lol. I would suggest keeping yourself occupied. Maybe go out as much as you can, shop, run errands, go for a walk, etc. Anything that keeps your mind and self busy to keep you away from like you said, "eating everything you crave." Make sure you are drinking lots of water, try having some herbal tea which also helps with some monthly symptoms... Or what I like to do, is take the time to make an amazing healthy meal. Like everything from scratch. When I make my low-carb bolognese sauce, it takes the whole day on the stove and I put a lot of love and care into making it. I find that I'm less likely to overeat when I've taken the time to cook something amazing that isn't going to break my calorie goal for the day. Hope you feel better soon!2 -
When I make my low-carb bolognese sauce, it takes the whole day on the stove and I put a lot of love and care into making it. I find that I'm less likely to overeat when I've taken the time to cook something amazing that isn't going to break my calorie goal for the day. Hope you feel better soon!
Uhm, I am coming to your house. Just saying :-)
As far as the lady problems, I can not stand that time of the month. Those are the days that I really do go to the gym, hit the treadmill and watch a show or two on my phone. I then go straight to the store and grab some fresh fruit and veggies that I like (something crunchy, soft, chewy etc...) and then go home and veg out - literally :-)1 -
I'm feeling frustrated because I've responded to a stressful week with EATING EVERYTHING. I have gained 3 pounds since my low weight last week. For instance, when my car wouldn't start in the grocery store parking lot, I ate all of the crackers and brie I had just bought. Yikes.
I'm trying to be kind to myself because this is still the beginning of a new lifestyle so I know, intellectually, that slip-ups are inevitable, but I'm having a hard time forgiving myself and moving on. Yesterday and today have been better but I'm still upset about this temporary setback.
EDIT: Also, I feel grateful for this group in general and this thread in particular.3 -
I like this group a lot too, there is another one that I'm sure is fine but I seem to jive better here so far. I'm new to this too, just wrapping up my 3rd week this weekend. We can all say everything you know already, you can't change it and your awareness of what you did is still positive, etc, and we'll mean every word. But you have to forgive yourself, that can't come from the outside. I would ask, what good will it do to stay negative and in the past versus what harm will it do? Isn't it funny how we wouldn't want others to 'self-talk' so negative but we do it to ourselves all the time. You deserve forgiveness from yourself. I hope you feel better soon...5
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Most people who know me consider me a little bit of a control freak...at least moderately anal-retentive. So why is my life so out of control? It's like I can only concentrate on ONE thing at a time. Right now, diet and exercise. My work is suffering. I'm very much behind and I find myself here, on MFP, a good portion of the day. My house is a disaster...not Horders bad...but bad. I have a dozen LARGE unfinished projects, painting, home repairs, etc. My husband is JUST LIKE ME. So we're both sitting on our posteriors when we aren't at work, or we're eating, or we're going to the Y or something. What we're not doing is taking care of the rest of our lives.
It's not that we were great at that before we started worrying about our weight. But before that I had a son at home causing me untold grief. He's moved out and that worry has turned to a low-level background hum. He doesn't take up my entire thought process anymore. Now it's losing weight. Before my kid, I wonder what it was? I honestly don't even recall because the last 5 years focused on him.
I HAVE to get myself - and hubby too - to the point where we can handle more than one thing at a time! Our lives are not well-rounded. It's becoming really uncomfortable...this constant frustration. I don't want to have to let go of my health and weight loss goals or push them to the background, to focus on something else!0 -
OMG. Yes. Me, too. I get crazy passionate about ONE THING AT A TIME.LadyLilion wrote: »It's like I can only concentrate on ONE thing at a time. Right now, diet and exercise.
Definitely weight loss and running right now, but I'm afraid when something else sparks my interest I'm going to lose track.
Specifically I'm going to be getting a new pet in a couple months, and I know myself. I will want to read every book, blog, and message board in existence about them. I will want to be the BEST POSSIBLE and MOST KNOWLEDGEABLE pet owner. Will I stop watching what I eat? Will I fall off my running plan?
I worry about it. Hopefully I'm setting good habits so I can focus on other things and still keep getting healthier.0 -
Those of you who are my MFP friends might have seen me post about this, but I seriously overate at lunch today. I brought my lunch to work like always, but the company brought pizza to reward my team.
Pizza is my #1 binge food and I couldn't control myself.
I was going to get one piece as a treat for myself and it turned into three, which I ate immediately. After eating the lunch I brought. I feel miserable, both physically and emotionally.
I still have a long way to go before I have a healthy relationship with food. Sometimes I get swept up by how much weight I've lost and fool myself into thinking I've finally got it all together. Not true, not in the least.
But I'm still under my calorie goal (under all of my goals, actually, even fat and sodium), so the day can still be a win if I'm careful at dinner. And I'm still going running after work!3 -
Making more good choices than bad are what it's all about. Sounds like you have a solid plan to stay on track, notwithstanding your 3 slice binge.2
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Oh yeah, I'll make it through the day fine. This was definitely not a binge, just some less than stellar choices.
You're right. More good choices than bad. That's a good way of looking at it.1 -
and don't forget - 1 binge isn't going to instantly destroy all your efforts, but degrading yourself and negative self-speak will defeat you very quickly. It's okay! take a deep breath, forgive yourself, and move on to the next day's battle. You've learned a little about yourself, and perhaps this experience will give you some new insight that will help you win the next battle.
I know how that feels, though, and I hope you aren't like me - I have the really bad tendency to beat myself up miserably whenever I fail to achieve a goal I have set for myself or when I slip up - even when those goals are really impossible. So perhaps we can learn to be more forgiving of ourselves together!
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Ahaha. Yes. That's me, too.bmeadows380 wrote: »I have the really bad tendency to beat myself up miserably whenever I fail to achieve a goal I have set for myself or when I slip up - even when those goals are really impossible.
I'm much better at being kind to myself than I used to be, but I definitely get down when I don't live up to my expectations.
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If you stay in your calorie range for the day that is a HUGE win. If you can eat 3 pieces of pizza and still make it work, that is success to me. If this is long term, it probably won't be the last time you eat 3 pieces if pizza. It takes some of the power of it away when you can say, even if I make not as healthy food choices...I am still in control and on the right track.
We want to as healthy as possible, but really cico is the real win.3 -
thewindandthework wrote: »Oh yeah, I'll make it through the day fine. This was definitely not a binge, just some less than stellar choices.
You're right. More good choices than bad. That's a good way of looking at it.
Yea, I'm finding my new blow outs aren't all that noteworthy compared to the old days. I was caught by surprise with a work lunch as well today. I had a full plate but no seconds and minimal treat, I enjoyed it and just logged a wild swag at the calories.
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We've all been there and done that. The important thing is tomorrow is a new start and one day isn't going to set you back. Today should be positive. You stayed under. That is a big win.1
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thewindandthework wrote: »
OMG. Yes. Me, too. I get crazy passionate about ONE THING AT A TIME...LadyLilion wrote: »It's like I can only concentrate on ONE thing at a time. Right now, diet and exercise.
Specifically I'm going to be getting a new pet in a couple months, ... Hopefully I'm setting good habits so I can focus on other things and still keep getting healthier.
What kind of pet? I hope you can exercise with it.
You can always run with a dog, or do yoga with a reptile, cats love stretching and need play. You can make part of your workout keeping your pet healthy too.
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...Although the mental image of me taking my snake for a walk on a little leash is funny, I'm not sure it's terribly practical.
Maybe she can join me in a little gentle tai chi.
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So, I felt a little guilty for a while today. My husband brought subs home for dinner. I appreciate him picking up dinner, but these subs (Wegmans) are a weakness of mine and I have a hard time stopping at just a portion. Well I decided to enjoy it and try to make up for it in the next couple days. I ate 1/2 (and it was really good). But I was now 200 calories over my daily limit and my carbs were over also. Then, as I was getting ready to finish my logging for the day, I noticed that I put 2 bagels on my diary for lunch instead of 1... that's an extra 320 calories and lots of carbs that I really didn't eat. Yippee - I was able to have a little treat while I watched my Pittsburgh Penguins beat the Capitals. Ended up being a good day overall. Just wanted to share.6
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Don't you love finding errors that lead you to erase food off your diary? lol I went to a potluck dinner last night, cut a piece of cheesecake in half. Later realized I'd logged a whole piece. Gained back 150 calories and got me under my goal when I fixed it.
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It's been eye opening how we can eat normal food and hit deficit goals, just by controlling portion size.3
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So. I participated in a 5k race on Saturday. I had a goal to walk a 5k by 04 Jul 2017. So I met that goal, good for me, I'm proud of my progress, I did much much better than I would have a few months ago.
Until the results came out, I was feeling great! I knew I was at the back of the pack but I was fine with that! I finished my race! I met my goal!
And then the results came. I placed 369 out of 405. My time was 52:03.92, pace 16:47/M.
Okay. I know I will never be a high-velocity runner. It's not even something I particularly desire! I'm more interested in being able to run long distances, and endurance and speed are very different goals.
But y'all, I am positively down in the dumps about my time in this dang race. It's silly, because I even did it faster than I was planning to, because I incorporated my running intervals into the race, which I was originally going to just walk.
I haven't been able to unpack all my feelings about this yet, but I'm pretty sure it stems from always wanting to be great at things, even when I'm brand new. I try not to have impossible expectations, and I'm good at setting realistic goals, but meeting realistic goals just doesn't have the thrill of exceeding expectations.1 -
I commented on your status, but I'll comment on it here, too.
I think you did amazing. You signed up, committed yourself, RAN some of it, and finished. Every runner starts somewhere, and that's not in first place. I wonder what time you would have done if you had attempted it fresh on day 1 on your journey? And now you have a time to beat next time!
I'm also wanting to do endurance running, and I am SO close to the weight I want to be to buy my running clothes, and I hope I can be brave enough to do a 5k to challenge myself before I know for sure I can run one! Did you have fun?1 -
I had a blast!! Before, during, and after! It wasn't until the next day when the results were published that I started feeling down about it. I don't regret doing it, and I know the next one I do will go much better!
My next major goal is to do a 5k and run the whole way by 02 Feb 2018, which will be the first anniversary of my weight loss/fitness journey.
I'm going to the gym after work today to continue my running program. I'm not letting some distracting feelings stop me from meeting my goals!
EDIT: Speaking of unrealistic expectations, I put my weight progress into a trend calculator and it told me I'd hit my honest to God final goal weight by the end of 2017.
I know I can't expect that because weight loss gets harder as you get closer to goal. My target is an average of 1 pound a week, long term. That would put me at goal weight in May 2019. Most likely I'll hit goal sometime before that.
But holy crow, goal weight by December??? The thought that it might even be a possibility is WILD.3 -
I think you did awesome!!!!1
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@thewindandthework , you beat your goal and it was your first race. Take your victory and be proud, then set a time goal for your next 5k. Comparing yourself to regular runners/competitors and feeling bad is unfair to yourself and how far you've come on your journey0
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Man was I down in the dumps yesterday! Thanks for your support everyone! I'm good today--proud of my accomplishments and excited to keep going!2
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@thewindandthework - You had 36 people watching your back! I think that's great. You know, even if you'd have been dead last, that would be impressive to me. I can't even imagine a 5K yet. Congratulations!1
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So this last weekend was Mother's Day and my birthday...I never realized how people assume rewarding or treating me with food (as a gift) is the best way to show their love or appreciation to me. I knew extra food would be on the menu for the weekend so I had planned for it, but in a way I'm sad. Over the next year I know I will change even more than I have, but FOOD will still be the reward of choice my friends and family will give. Not because they don't care to see the changes but perhaps food is easy? I'm not really ranting. I enjoyed my weekend and the food was good...I don't really like the way I felt this morning in the aftermath...but I'll go to the gym to today and all will be well. I need a better choice than food for celebrations. Ideas that won't break the bank?1
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I understand your problem! Food does seem to be the gift of choice for adults. And its made worse when those gifting you don't try to understand your request. I often get "one day won't hurt you" as a response to my diet needs. *sigh*
Do you like flowers? Maybe ask them to buy you a rose bush with the money they would have spent on food? then you'd have a tangible item to remind you of your success! Or even a tree or a bush or something.
if they insist on food, perhaps you could talk them into a cookout or a dinner at home, and provide them with a recipe that would fit within your diet budget? Ask for a healthy dessert? There are all kinds of ideas online from blackbean cakes to greek yogurt cheesecakes.
Maybe you could get them to agree to a day in a local park and a small picnic instead - which would give you a nice place to walk afterwards?
In any case, I wish you the best of luck, because I know it can be difficult! And one weekend really won't sidetrack you if you don't let it - and it sounds like you accommodated for it nicely and are getting right back on track. So congratulations for that! 0 -
coolvstar650 wrote: »So this last weekend was Mother's Day and my birthday...I never realized how people assume rewarding or treating me with food (as a gift) is the best way to show their love or appreciation to me. I knew extra food would be on the menu for the weekend so I had planned for it, but in a way I'm sad. Over the next year I know I will change even more than I have, but FOOD will still be the reward of choice my friends and family will give. Not because they don't care to see the changes but perhaps food is easy? I'm not really ranting. I enjoyed my weekend and the food was good...I don't really like the way I felt this morning in the aftermath...but I'll go to the gym to today and all will be well. I need a better choice than food for celebrations. Ideas that won't break the bank?
Good insights there. Perhaps given time you can train your family to go away from high calorie foods as gifts. Can you think of any other delicacies you appreciate?0 -
I've had a pretty good last few days, which have been sorely needed - I've been pretty down for a bit. It didn't help at all, either, when I took a selfie, intending to see if I had an older picture to compare to for the other thread, and I cringed when I saw pictures of myself. I hate looking at pictures of me - I'm not photogenic at all! But I don't have an older pic, anyway - just one from 45 lbs and now those from 55 lbs. I'll hold onto to them for when I get the 75 lb mark. Maybe there will be an improvement, but then again, no amount of weight loss or cosmetics can change homely! lol
But today I'm feeling a little better emotionally. It's beautiful outside today and cooler and less humid, and I finally measured my waist and ahve seen a good improvement. And I had a decent weight loss this week - and I'm even down today from my recording day. I need these little perks and upbeat days - I tend toward melancholy and depression a lot - I think too much, I think, and I spend too much time alone. I really hoping that this job change and move home will help with that, as well as future success in weight loss.
Anyway, that's the thoughts on my mind today!1
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